Hey, Im 13/f and I weigh about 110 lbs. I want to loose weight, what is the easiest way how to do this? I dont look fat but most of my friends are my size and they weigh 85 or 90 pounds. So what is the easiest way?
losing weight is a process. first start by eating healthier so it's easier for you to exercise off that fat. and try to work out for at least 10 minutes each day.
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My teeth are getting more crooked as I grow up and I wanted to ask you what my options are for teeth straightening? DO I have to get braces or are there other ways to straighten your teeth beside braces? thank you!
You could do invisalign.
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Got a question..I just got my braces off like a week ago and my teeth has shifted and i can really tell the differnce. The problem is i gotta wait on my retainor which will be a month away until my appointment. Did it take anybody that long and what am i suppose to do about my teeth shifting? I am not happy at all..
I have had braces and I am.. well should be wearing my retainer. Anyway, there is NO way you should be waiting a month. Because the braces just came off, your teeth will shift night after night. The longest most people have had the braces off/ retainer on appointment is probably a week in the middle. Please try to get an earlier appointment because the retainer might either not fit or your teeth will go through serious hell trying to adjust.
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I am a 17 year old girl, about to graduate high school and I need to choose a university. I live in a crazy and beautiful city and I've lived here my whole life so all of my family is here. They all are expecting me to stay close to the city. The only thing is that I don't feel safe in this city. There are so many threats, partly because there are so many creepy people in this city. being a girl, I take all precautions that I can (hiding my hair and covering myself up) I have never been in a serious situation but have been very close to many. With that, I hate this city. I never feel safe in this place because my life is always in danger. I have experienced too many situations where my life could have ended, but I'm smart and that is how Ive survived this long.
With graduation closely approaching, I figure that it might be my chance to get away from this crazy beautiful city. I have found this one place with low crime rates, small, and safe, on the other end of the country. That may seem like quite a stretch, I know; but I have fallen in love with this place, and I figure that it may be my chance to start an adventure. I thought that I could go to university there for a few years.
But of course my family is all here, and I wont be able to see them as much, and of course they may not be completely supportive of me leaving right after high school, or going across the country.
I'm simply looking for another opinion, if anyone could possibly help me out.
Sincerely,
-Not a City Girl
In any city you go to, there is danger. You are not likely to be present in danger if you don't put yourself in that position to be in danger. I'm not saying that it will never happen to you but what I'm saying is that with everything that has happened to you, I can understand why you will be scared. But think about it, who will help you out if you are in a city where there is no one there to help you? No family... no one. I do admire your position on wanting to try an adventure and be somewhere else and be your own person. Honestly when it comes down to it, I don't think you should fly across the country for the sake of safety. Fly across the country because its where you want to be and it holds the best opportunity for you in life. I think you should probably talk to someone about how you feel about this situation, maybe your parents.
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Ok so my boyfriend is wanting to finger me... and I have a few questions about him "poping my cherry" 1. How many times can it be poped? 2. Where is the " cherry thing" located? 3. Dose it hurt when it gets poped? 4. What should I do to prepare? 4. What should I do when it gets poped? And last but not least,how much blood comes out? Thanks, oh and also he is 15 and I'm 14
Your hymen can only be broken once. It might not break entirely the first time he fingers you, but you will feel discomfort in the area the first and maybe second or third time around. It doesn't actually "pop" and you won't really feel something breaking. You will just feel lots of pressure as he is trying to get his fingers up there. You might bleed a little or a lot, it differs for people or you might not bleed at all. I never really bled when it was my first time. When he does this, lie over a towel just incase and you should be fine.
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18/f
My boyfriend fingered me today and I experienced a little pain. I'm also bleeding a bit but I don't think he broke my hymen. What else could it be?
You probably puncutured your hymen but that doesn't necessarily mean you broke it. Either that or maybe he could have torn your tissue on the inside, accidentally. The pain goes away and it will eventually heal. If you want him to continue fingering you, wait for a while until the pain and bleeding stops and then you can continue.
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I am 16 years old and I have excellent grades and I'm doing every sport type I can possibly do. I am not a trouble make and not irresponsible. But I can never go out with my friends . All I do is learn and train every day of my life . Now there's this boy I have fallen in love with and I don't know how to tell my dad because he made it clear that boys are just trouble that I should avoid. What can I do ? :(
Sometimes you have to take life into your own hands and do what's best for you. Good luck with the sports though. I had good grades in school, never tried sports. You're really well-rounded, im impressed. Take the boy as a new challenge and see if you can handle him too. ;) haha
Hope things work out for you though, dear!
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i stood up my boyfriend and i feel really bad, I don't believe he knows yet that he was stood up. He asked me to see his play this weekend at his school. I got ready and drove by the school. As I neared the school, I began feeling anxious so I kept driving and I pulled into a gas station where I waited ten minutes until I decided not to go. This is our third date but we've been friends before we started dating. I canceled on him last week when he asked to hangout. I haven't seen him since he asked me to be his girlfriend. I didn't want to do this but I felt so strongly about not going. I don't know what to do.
Aww why are you so nervous to be with your boyfriend? You should tell him how you feel because that way he can comfort you about it. It should help you feel better! :)
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I'm so sorry for the length. I just really need help.
Hello! So, I have a problem with my body. I'm a girl but it has nothing to do with puberty.
Ok, you see... I've had this treatment 2 times now. It didn't hurt a lot during the first time, but it hurt worse the 2nd time. But then, I had a surgery on it.
I have to do the treatment(not the surgery) again, and i'm afraid it'll hurt worse.
What do I do? I'm scared and I don't want to do this! I told my parents I don't want to, but they said "This is your last visit. You HAVE to do this. You are almost done." But they don't know how much it hurts! Well, my mom had this treatment before...
Please help! This stuff is happening very soon!;(
Hun, what kind of treatment are we talking about here? And, well if this is your last one, I'm sure one more time worth of the pain is better than no more times, especially if this treatment will turn your life around for the better. Your mom has had the treatment, so she knows what you will be going through. And if it is is your Last, take your treatment with pride knowing that this will make you better once and for all.
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Ok so I recently broke up with my boyfriend and he kind of flirts with my best friend, it bugs me but I dont really seem to mind much. He talked to me today and gave me a hug and said he loves me and started begging to get back together with him, he said that he cant move on, I said no because I dont want a relationship right now and he walked away upset and almost started crying, instead, I started crying. =( Btw, we were going to kiss today for no real reason but didnt because we kinda fought instead.
He sent me a message on facebook saying that he wants to kiss me tomorrow and everyday until he moves on and I said no because I dont want him to feel "the spark" if we kiss repeadidly and not ever get over me. I want to kiss him once but only once, should I?
If you know you're not ready for a relationship right now then you should probably hold off on the kiss before you do it and confuse your mind.
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I have no idea how to kissl n i was wondering if you can give me as much advice as possible like how do you move ur lips n how do you use ur tounge Oh n i am 15 n my bf is 17 n he has alot more experience than me
trust me, i was nervous too.. but it all comes natural when it happens.. :)
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I don't plan to lose my virginity in a long time but I've been dating this guy for a long time and i've never let him get anywhere below the jeans. He's voiced about how he's wanted to finger me many times but I don't know if he'll like what he sees? I mean people have sex all the time so do guys care that hair just grows down there? Or does it hav to be shaved/waxed, completely hairless? Girls please help me out! Or what condition it was in when it happened the first time.
You shouldn't try to look any certain way for a guy, do what you feel comfortable with. I honestly like being shaved all the time because I am personally happy with it, it makes me feel cleaner. Im not saying to keep it that way all the time. It doesn't have to be anything but honestly, which ever makes you and the guy happy is what matters and it is whichever you prefer.
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Ok so im 15 and my boyfriend tried to finger me last night and it was just embarrassing because he couldn't even get his finger in really! I have orgasmed before by just rubbing myself and have tried fingering myself but i cant even do it. I am mentally ready to have a sexual relationship and im not nervous but i just dont know what to do! He has eaten me out becasue he tried to get it more wet down there but that still didnt help. I know there is a layering you have to break but people have told me that some sports will make you break it with out sexual activity such as cyclying or horse riding. Well iv been riding horses since i was 4 and i guess that didnt work ahah; so please just some advice would help. And please dont give any advice on my emotional ready-ness because there is really no point.
Sorry for the grammar issues in this i typed fast aha
It takes time and a little pain. He has to use a little force if he's meant to get anywhere and it needs to be done often. Not everyday, but once the pain goes away. If he has big fingers, it might take some time, tell him to be gentle, use lubricant and do expect pain, but eventually as your vagina muscles get used to being strectched out a little, the pain will go away.
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when i was younger, i cant remember exactly how old but i think about 7 when it started, i had sex with my second cousin. We did it on a few occasions and i'm scared of people finding out. we stopped when we were about 9 i think and haven't spoke about it since, when we talk we just act like it never happened. i've never been alone with her since so don't know whether she would bring it up or not. has anyone ever been in a similar situation ? any advice? thanks.
Well, if you think what you had was sex, then it probably was. Who knows? I think you need to get it off your chest. You should talk to your cousin and tell her that it's been bothering you recently and you want to put it behind you but you cannot do it alone. You need her opinion about it and if she can be mature about it, it would really help.
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11/f
Can you have a baby if you did masturbation once? Like, will u get preggo? Please help! I think i accidentliy did it in my sleep!:( im scared!!
No dear. You can masturabate all you want and you won't get pregnant. You will only get pregnant if you have intercourse with a boy and you are too young for that.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year and a half. and his dad doesn't seem to like me. because he has told me that his dad said "she just wants to take you for a ride" and last weekend he sorta said that i should go to our lady of peace (a psychiatric hospital). i've asked him why he doesn't stand up for me and he says he just wants to keep the peace. my opinion there's a difference between keeping the peace and not standing up or defending your girlfriend while someone who talks badly about them. should i just give up?
Your boyfriend should honestly try to stand up for you more. But I really do feel that your boyfriend is truly just trying to keep the peace like he says. His dad is very protective of his son. And your boyfriend seems to be family oriented. If you are truly a decent/faithful girlfriend then I don't think you should leave your boyfriend for his lack of standing up to his father over you. You are dating him and not his father. I think the father just needs to be given a little more time to accept reality that he cannot change, assuming you stay with him.
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I’m finding myself becoming crazy about this guy who can do way better than me. I'm in a major where the environment has a lot more gay guys and girls than straight guys. I've never had a boyfriend. I'm about 20 lbs. overweight, very top heavy and I hate it. I guess I could be pretty if I lost some of that weight (plan on doing so this summer.)
The thing is, finding a boyfriend just for the sake of having one is not really a big priority. Lately, though I realize I’ve been deprived of any kind of intimacy my whole life. Now that I actually like this guy, I can't stop thinking about him. It takes a lot for me to like someone. I'm very inexperienced and shy with boys. And no, I really don't care that much about looks. I've only had true feelings for a few guys in my life, but it's always been the same situation. I always fall for the guy who is semi-handsome (never a hottie), REALLY nice, really friendly, and really funny. He's always a friend, sort of in the same circle but I've never been ridiculously close with any of them.
I fall into the trap of thinking that he likes me because he's nice and flirts with me. The problem is that said guy does this with everyone, not just me, and then I have delusions of grandeur about us being together one day.
It's really hard for me to meet straight guys. No one ever even approaches me. It's not even that I want someone so bad, it's that now I'm really falling for this particular person. This sounds really petty, but I know that if we had a "thing" it would be the talk of the town and I’d get so much positive attention. I just wish I could be in one of those situations, the center of a scandal, but in a good way. It would look so good for me to be with him. Everyone would be so entranced and want to know details. I could be like my other friends who are thin and beautiful and have scandalous flings. Ughh the chances of that ever happening.
I truly do have feelings for him. He’s adorable and hilarious and talented and we get along so well. Right now, I really couldn’t even see myself with anyone else, not that I have a chance with anyone else anyway. I don’t have any other straight guy friends. I try to make them but I don’t even know many straight guys and the ones that I do know I never seem to become friends with. Him and I are friends but I wish we could be closer. He’s older than me, so that makes it even less realistic for me. He’s very personable and friendly but shy with girl stuff.
Like I said, I’m chubby and he’s a little chubby too but the environment we’re in is much easier for guys, so just sucks for me. He’s also really tall and has beautiful hair. He's not beautiful but to me he's out of this world beautiful because I just love everything about him. I’m just smitten by him and I hate it. I know there’s almost no chance he likes me back. I’ll have to do the work because of how shy he is. I’m so shy too though! And I would hate to ruin our friendship,my reputation, and my self-esteem by making things awkward when/if he doesn’t reciprocate.
He’ll do things like randomly hug me and hold my hand and I’ll feel so warm and fuzzy but he does that to every girl (gay sounding I know, but he’s very straight) and even a couple of guys. All of the guys in my circle whether straight or gay have some femininity in them because of being surrounded by gays and women all the time. He had a girlfriend his freshman year who’s kind of weird and not the prettiest. He had a thing with this other girl who is very pretty so I know he can do better than me. His social status has also changed a lot since his freshman year.
I don’t even know the first thing about seducing a guy or initiating romance. It’s so frustrating. Him and I would be perfect together, in my opinion. I finally like someone, but I just don’t see this ever working. I’m desperate for intimacy physically and emotionally and I just want it to be with him. Advice? Thoughts? Personal Experiences?
You know, I love the way you think so forget what those people told you. I know it must be hard since you're the one who feels as if you have to take the first step. You seem to make your weight an issue for you to be rejected but honestly, I feel that if you don't even make it an issue then it shouldn't be one. If weight is a personal issue for you then you should try to work on it, but if you are fine with how you look, then be happy about it and love yourself for who you are, as long as you are healthy. Also, wanting a boyfriend for being the talk of the town, even if it's for a positive thing should not be one of the reasons why you choose to date a guy. Wanting to be 'in' might not bring you the happiness you think you will get. So try to remember that. I know you would love the attention, I mean, which girl wouldn't, and I know he's not the hottie type, but as you described it, people will talk. But trust me, from experience, as I know, that relationships last longer when it's seriously only between the words of the two people that are actually in the relationship. I know you want your turn to shine. You write with much confidence and I feel that you have a challenge that you are faced with. I really feel like you should tell him how you feel. I honestly feel that it is better to have an answer than to not know at all. And I know you are afraid of rejection and hurting your self-esteem, but maybe the odds are already in your favor and he is just waiting for that moment. He has been through relationships before and since he's single now, maybe he has lost his self-esteem in relationships. Self-esteem in relationships and self-esteem around the opposite gender are two different things. I've had two boyfriends before, and though I am more comfortable at talking to other guys now, I am even more terrified of becoming serious with someone else now. The thought of having to go through another breakup is honestly very emotionally demanding. Coming from someone who is clean in that realm, you probably have more confidence than he does. Don't let someone's social status determines your relationship between them. As I mentioned before, your personal relationship is between you and one other person, not you, him and the rest of the environment. And please, keep in mind that just because you are thin does not make you beautiful. The guy already talks to you and he is already your friend. You have such a great advantage already and he already accepts you. Even if he rejects you, which he probably won't, you need to move on knowing that even with how you feel about yourself and your atmosphere, you were able to speak up on your behalf for something you wanted. You have given your opinion, now you just need to hear his. Be a little more confident in yourself and even if things don't work out with him, your confidence will take you further than you could imagine. And I know that sounds cliche, but seriously, it will.
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16/f
So many times on here I have written about being shy at college and to get advice for it. The shyness is gradually going away and I am confident enough to speak up in class.
However, now I do speak up, the teacher keeps embarrasing me, saying really rude sexual jokes about me 'atracting' this other mega quiet boy in the class and 'getting it on'.
The whole class found this hilareous of course because I'm rather quiet. I had no choice but to laugh it off, but how are you supposed to deal with a sitation like this if it keep arising?
I think you need to tell your teacher in private first that you don't like the jokes. Let it be at that first and see what happens. If he doesn't stop there, then take it to someone else. I know it is hard to speak up for yourself when you are a shy person. But you have to keep in mind that only you can be in control of the situation and if you do nothing about it, then you have no one to blame but yourself as to why you ended up in that position. Do something about it, and if you do, you can tell yourself that you are one step closer to not being so shy as you thought you were. Building confidence takes times but once you realize that what you are doing is the right thing for you, then surely, things will become a lot easier for you.
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So, my friend of nineteen was impregnated, maybe about four months ago I've heard. She didn't tell me because she knows I'm pretty much against the teen pregnancy thing, but I did find out from the rest of our friends.
I was pretty ticked, especially since the baby's father cheated and went to live with his new girlfriend, leaving my friend behind. Here's the issue:
My friend is very clingy. She clung onto her boyfriend for at least a year and a half, talking about marriage and everything. Well, she found out he was cheating on her for about three months and I know for a fact that he's the father because my friend hasn't had sex with anyone else; she was seriously obssessed and painfully loyal to this guy. Well, before she found out, she was excited about the baby coming. She was cooing about it and everything- that is, until she found out he was cheating. Now she's hoping for a miscarriage and talking about how she hopes it dies. I was horrified. I've always known she was a bit selfish, but this is unbelievable because she flat out told a friend of mine in a note that I was given: "I don't want the damn thing because it hogs all the attention from me".
I don't know what to do because she has no job, she won't be graduating with us this year, she smokes at least a pack a day, she's already slobbering all over this other guy who we don't even know, and she's acting like it's all normal. Should I even do anything since this is our last year? Should I leave her to it? I mean, her parents know, but she won't take any help from them. In fact, she shrieked at her mother that if she mentioned the baby one more time, she'd take a knife to her stomach and I seriously think she needs help- she just won't accept any.
I think you have a moral obligation to protect the child. Smoking a pack a day is not good for the baby. And by you not saying anything, you are contributing to the situation. I know she might not seem like she's your friend right now because she's not listening to you, but you need to realize that she is scared and different people deal with their emotions very differently. I know you are probably upset at the fact that she didn't tell you but regardless, you have to help her. She needs to be given help, even if its against her will. That baby does not deserve to be given a life full of health problems to the point where it might die because of someone's lack of speaking up for it. I'm not trying to guilt trip you, but you were put in this situation for a reason. This might be your last year to deal with your 'friend', but it's not her last year to deal with the life that is ahead of her.
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Ok So Here I Go So I Like To Put My Fingers In My Pussy And Like To Let Water Run Down My Pussy I Want To Have Sex But I Want To Wait For The Right One To Lose It With. I'm Only 13 And A lot Of Boys Want To Have Sex With Me.They Are Always Touching My Butt And Rubbing My Pussy And Boobs In Class. What Should I Do? I Like One Of the Boys That Touches Me. And When They Don't Touch Me I Want Them To. I Try To Push My Body To There's So They Can Get Hard And Touch Me. I Need Help I Think I'm Sick? And Werd. What Does This Mean And What Should I Do About It?
Trust me hun, 13 year old boys just want sex for the feeling of sex but they don't want to have the responsibility of caring for someone else other than themselves. If you are looking for meaningful sex, then now is not the right time to do it. I get that you are feeling very sexual and aroused by the attention, but you need to consider who is giving you the attention and why. You are making yourself look like a piece of meat for guys. You should protect yourself against them taking advantage of your body that way. Please don't let them do that to you. They're not touching you because they care about you. They're touching you because they want something from you. And honestly, a boy who really cares about a girl wouldn't want anyone else touching the girl he liked.
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