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My friend is pregnant
So, my friend of nineteen was impregnated, maybe about four months ago I've heard. She didn't tell me because she knows I'm pretty much against the teen pregnancy thing, but I did find out from the rest of our friends.
I was pretty ticked, especially since the baby's father cheated and went to live with his new girlfriend, leaving my friend behind. Here's the issue:
My friend is very clingy. She clung onto her boyfriend for at least a year and a half, talking about marriage and everything. Well, she found out he was cheating on her for about three months and I know for a fact that he's the father because my friend hasn't had sex with anyone else; she was seriously obssessed and painfully loyal to this guy. Well, before she found out, she was excited about the baby coming. She was cooing about it and everything- that is, until she found out he was cheating. Now she's hoping for a miscarriage and talking about how she hopes it dies. I was horrified. I've always known she was a bit selfish, but this is unbelievable because she flat out told a friend of mine in a note that I was given: "I don't want the damn thing because it hogs all the attention from me".
I don't know what to do because she has no job, she won't be graduating with us this year, she smokes at least a pack a day, she's already slobbering all over this other guy who we don't even know, and she's acting like it's all normal. Should I even do anything since this is our last year? Should I leave her to it? I mean, her parents know, but she won't take any help from them. In fact, she shrieked at her mother that if she mentioned the baby one more time, she'd take a knife to her stomach and I seriously think she needs help- she just won't accept any.
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This is not really ur problem but go and talk to her and if she keeps it up stop being friends w/ her
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You should tell your friend that she's killing her child. The baby didn't do anything to her and it's both the fathers and her own fault. At least tell her to put the baby in adoption because if she harms that baby it's going to stay with her the rest of her life and she's going to regret it. I know you can't make her but at least you can say you tried
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I think you have a moral obligation to protect the child. Smoking a pack a day is not good for the baby. And by you not saying anything, you are contributing to the situation. I know she might not seem like she's your friend right now because she's not listening to you, but you need to realize that she is scared and different people deal with their emotions very differently. I know you are probably upset at the fact that she didn't tell you but regardless, you have to help her. She needs to be given help, even if its against her will. That baby does not deserve to be given a life full of health problems to the point where it might die because of someone's lack of speaking up for it. I'm not trying to guilt trip you, but you were put in this situation for a reason. This might be your last year to deal with your 'friend', but it's not her last year to deal with the life that is ahead of her.
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Is she your friend? Really? Or is she just someone you happen to share a home town with?
The drama is interesting and very unfortunate, but you are not in a position to help her and your help has not been requested.
If you feel that the school might step in and get her some support, you might talk to a teacher/counselor/principal about her threats to self harm and your concerns. But that is really as far as your responsibilities lie at this point.
But seriously - if she isn't your friend, if you have no interest in being 'friends' after you graduate - then just be civil, consider her a crazy co-worker who you'll never see again after you leave your job as a high school student.
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