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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]

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my fingernails are pretty long...but VERY thin! everytime i go to do something they either break or bend easy! i want hard findernails and not for them to bend as easy anymore...does anyone know how i can do this?

this means you have bad calcium, start drinking more milk and dairy products.. you can also buy caplets for this.

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i like to wear my hair up in a bun or pony tail but my mom is soooo annoying about it. she says that i hav beautiful hair and i should wear it down. i keep telling her wen i wear my hair down i get really hot (like today i got out of the shower and i felt sick i was so hot). any suggetions?

please help. i rate!

have you ever tried doing a half up half down thing, where the top half is up, but you still have hair down on your shoulders in the back and sides. You don't get AS hot because believe me, I know what that's like. I have really long hair and I hate wearing it down because I feel so suffocated.. There really isn't anything you can do except keep telling her, and saying that it really isn't her choice and that if she wants to wear her hair down then she can. It really isn't her buisness how you wear your hair.

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Hey well none of my parents are home and I have like really bad swollen glands, and I was wondering if like I could take an ibprofin or whatever they are called? (sorry I can't spell) Because they hurt and I can bearly move my neck and head.

try CALLING YOUR PARENTS.. the telephone does exist!

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is it just me?...or is it just the way my friend acts?...or are others like this also?..

there is this girl Angie...ive known her for about 4 years already..theres time where were close, like best friends. but lately shes been so annoying!..i get so irritated by her!..juss things she does!..shes so fake! and just doesnt know how to be herself! and she'll be so loud just to get attention!!...

anyone else hate this about someone?!

well, I knew this was probably happening to other people but yea.. I feel the same way about a few. Just know that the person is probably feeling conflicted about who they really are. I'd give it time, and she'll figure it out.. she can't act like that forever.

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My mom waon't let me have a b/f or watch some R movies. It seems like she is Overprotecting me from the outside world. What should i do? HELP!

Feelings from the inside out,

Jess P.S- I rate HIGH!

ok first.. this completely depends on how old you are.. and treasure your innocents, because you only have it once in your life. When your older you'll be wishing your younger, hold dear these times that life is carefree without worrying about paying for a place to sleep or how you are going to be able to pay for food that day.

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Okay, i like alot of guys, but i'm told there is someone
out there for me. I wan't things to happen so fast, but that's not right.My question is how do you know when
the right guy for you is possibly the one right in front of you. sincerely, Lacey.

When you can write at least regular noteboook sized page about them.. you might have something more serious.. but too little of us realize that what we are only attracted to is the person's face or look. You know you are in deep when you love someone for their personality.

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I have to do a speech and presentation in English on Tuesday. I am really nervous and hate looking at people, and if I look at my friends I just laugh. However, I can't get anything higher than a B if I don't have 'audience awareness' and I have to get all A's. So does anyone have any tips on how to be less nervous or how I can have more 'audience awareness' or even how to stop myself laughing at the funny parts of my presentation?
Thanks!!

I have to get all A's -- woah there.. an A means excellent, and a b means good.. but I'm not going to preech you on that because I'm sure people probably tell you to chill out over your grades all the time.. there is more to life, seriously.

two, how to deal with being able to focus is simple with a few simple rules.

1. wear something comfortable for your speech and presentation, and something that you are comfortable with people seeing you in.
2. be sure to make I contact with people, but try and stay away from your friends at all cost, maybe you should tell them you want to be serious during your presentation and ask them to not make you life.. if they do it anyway, well then there you've got a more serious problem but I'm not going to go into that either.
3. talk at a normal pace, don't go too slow, or too fast because you want people to be able to understand you.. it really doesn't help the teacher or the students if you are facing your presentation board and just reading off of it because then one they can't hear you, and two, they can't see what you are talking about.
4. Try and improvise a little bit, add a little humor? it breaks the ice a bit and settles you down as well, it's ok to laugh with them.. believe me, makes your grade go up everytime, because you'll look over at the teacher and she'll laugh a little and mark something on the paper. hehe..

good luck to you with your presentation, and if you need any more advice I'm always around.

~Sarah

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I think i might make a good lawyer because im persusive and it seems interesting. What do law schools require you to have? Do you need to be advanced in math? Im not the best in math..so im just wondering. is there anyone out there who can tell me about law school and i know its a lot of money..but would i be able to get scholorships?

The top thing colleges look for (probably more so law schools) is if you were captain of your debate team. I strongly advise you get into debate if you want to get into a good law school, because it teaches you the basic foundations of knowing your argument with research and good tactics. hope I helped.. :) if you need any more advice I'm always around.

~Sarah

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ok well i liked this kid, we'll call him fred, :P well, anyway my friend, we'll call her megan, was always up on him when i liked him. well i stopped liking him and she laid off. and the other day she told me she likes him, so i went up and told him cuz she asked me to, and hes like, yeh thats cool, but i like you again. and i was like woh ok? so i was hanging around him alot and stuff, and then today "megan" was like, i cant believe ur nosing around my guy. and i was like, WOAH OK FIRST OF ALL, and i told her what she'd been doing, and she was like, well atleast he liked me! and i was like, ok no he didnt, and he likes me. and she was like, yeah right i doubt it, so i went up to him and askedh im and he said yeh and now shes all pissed at me, and its not my fault.

how old are you? o_0 gebus..

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see here is the thing!i like this guy named chad but my friend taryn liked/likes him, and i know he used to like her but he told me he didn't anymore and now i like him. he even invited me to one of his baseall games and everthing should i go and continue likeing him or wat?

that is a complete best friend rule you are breaking RIGHT there.. never ever think of going out or liking the guy your friend likes.. it only leads to trouble. If she doesn't like him anymore then the playing field is all yours.. if she gets mad at you explain that she told you that she didn't like him anymore, so that gave you an opportunity.. it wouldn't be fair for her to be selfish and hold you back.

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i just got a new rabbit and i have never had one before so i know nothing about them! i know that they have to be kepy in shade but thats about it! i need to know how big the cage should be and what you need in the cage. what do they eat? i am also kinda afraid that everytime i pick it up it will bit me....i guess i think that cause my cat bits me...do rabbits even bit? i guess i pretty much need to know everything about them....so if you have the time, please tell me! thanks! i'll rate!

Rabbits bite alright.. believe me. most rabbits are pretty well tempered though.. just so you know don't back um int o a corner.. and don't try gloves.. they scare the foo out of them.. You should consider going to a pet store because they will have everything you need there. Rabbits also make good scrap eaters.. we used to give mine all the salad extras after dinner as a treat.. loved it.. *shrug* oh yes.. and you will need some sort of thing it can naw on so that it's teeth don't grow too long..

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hey sarah, must say i love your advice, i want to ask this girl out but she's a liberal democrat and i'm conservative republican all the way, she doesn't go to church and i do, i don't know what my parents will do if they find out, or even what her parents will do because my parents are very firm and trying to change their minds is like talking to a brick wall... what do i do?

I think that if you really like her, your opinions shouldn't really stop you from going out. There are plenty of other things to talk about than politics, and I am a democrat and have a lot of conservative republicans as friends.. I'm kind of forced to considering I live in a red state.. Your parents should know that people can have peace despite their differences and that they should be accepting of whomever you decide to go out with, unless they could get you into trouble of course (drugs, sex.. etc.). So my advice is simply this

-ask her out
-don't hide it from your parents, simply tell them that you two can get along despite things and that they should be able to too.
-see how things go from there, because even though people can be accepting of eachother, sometimes it is hard to relate to someone or get along with someone well if they are VERY different from you. but as an saying goes "opposites attract" all depends on the person..
You'll never know if you don't try. good luck. :) and thanks for the nice comment. If you need any further advice I'm always around.

~Sarah

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My mom is always on my case. No matter what. And you know what's really embarressing? She doesn't like to drive, so if i wanna do something w/my friends, unless their parents can drive me, then i can't do anything! they used to take me to lifetime fitness, but now they won't unless i'm carpooling w/someone so that they only have to drive one way. I can't help it that i don't like to be cooped up in the house all day! she just doesn't get it! is there some way to get rides w/out her yelling at me and me depending on my friend's parents? it's a tricky one

oh! a challenging question this one.. -_- *meditates* hmm...

I don't really think there is any way around it. YOu can talk to your parents, have them scream at you some more.. and that won't work.. or you can depend on your friends. Of course, I'm under the influence that you are under the legal driving age. (legal.. meaning another option is you could steal the car.. xD though I don't advise it.) You can always wait until you can drive yourself.. I mean, you probably have only a few years to go right? Otherwise, your jacking rides off other people or walking your ass to lifetime.. I'm sorry, but I really don't know any other way. If you want to get out of the house more why don't you just go on a walk? Go outside, play a sport.

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Ok, I know it's gross, but i'm curious. Are there any dangers that can come with fingering yourself???

o_0 I have never done this before to myself.. so I wouldn't know.. *cough*

I think you have a right to be curious about it and everything and I don't think you can really hurt yourself unless you like.. dont cut your nails.. :/

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The advice you gave me about my two-faced friend was good. But, I've already confronted her a while back. I told her that what she did bugged me. It didn't do anything. She said, "I'm really sorry. I never meant to do that!" But, she does it all the time. Her apology means nothing to me anymore. I just can't give up a friend with all of the good times we've had and everything, you know? Is there anything else that I can do before just giving up our relationship?

hm, maybe just telling her, isn't a strong enough message that she is really bugging you. I really think, that maybe you should lay off your friendship for a while and see if she cares at all, see if she notices. You want to get her attention make her change obviously. mhm, I think you need to get a bit more dramatic if you care about your relationship which you obviously really do. :) don't ever give up on a relationship that you think is really special, best friends (if they are your real best friends) last forever.. she'll come around, don't worry.

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Thanks for your advice on running faster. I'm gonig to LIFETIME tonight and I will try those out. I really thank you for your time. I actually didn't realize that just doing those little exercises could do much. I can see it now, though. I thought that you could ONLY run to get faster. Anyways, thanks again! You're great at giving advice!

wow thank you, that means a lot to me. I've been wanting to get out there to lifetime.. I bet they have the equipment there to do stuff like that.. just a little extra advice, you should probably ask someone there about speed training. They probably have A LOT of good stuffs there.

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There are these kids at my junior high. At lunch they steal my food and taunt me and call me names. It sounds gay, but it's true. I mean, once i accidently shed a tear at school because of all the things they called me. Now, they call me a whiny baby. Also, I just read this book about how kids brought a gun to school and shot everyone and then themselves. I mean, i don't think i'll kill myself, but i'd do anything to get back at those guys. Is there anyway of solving my prooblem in a less dramatic way??

Actually, this happens to a lot of people. And I know some serious bullys, and victims myself. Number one, there is no way to "beat" a bully, unless you have people to back you up because truly bully's win battles in numbers.. it's when they are all alone that they look stupid. Don't let them get to you, no matter how mad you get, they aren't worth being sent to ISS or the councilers over and definately aren't worth dying over because.. if you did that, that would just mean they won. If you really wanted to stop um in their tracks.. go ahead and laugh at yourself, if they call you something, agree, laugh.. if they aren't bothering you, it'll bother them. And last but definately not least, there is the ignoration tactic, though I've found that not to work most of the time, because bully's know about it, and they know that your trying to ignore them.. Be strong, bully's are really weak inside, why do you think they have to beat up on other people to feel good about themselves? I hope you have better success, and knock out one of the many bullies in the world. Good luck and if you need ANY further advice, don't hesitate to ask. :)

- Sarah

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OK, well I have this one friend. She's really nice when only we two are together, like when she comes over to my house and spends the night and stuff. But, when we're around other people, she either totally ignores me, or says things that are on the border-line of being rude. I obviously question the way she acts towards me. What the hell do i do? She's so two-faced! Please help me!

Comfront your friend outright because it looks like by the way your talking so.. anxiously, it's a little serious. Quote on Quote say this to her.

"Why are you being different around other people." She'll of course reject this notion at all cost, say that you are different and that she is the one that is being normal. Ho no, we will not take this, because we know the real truth, no?

"Listen, you can disregaurd the fact that you are being different.. and I'm sure your doing it to "be cool" or something like that but.. I really hate you like this.. and I'd like you to tell me what's going on. I want to be your friend and I hate how you are acting towards me when you are around other people. Please don't just tell me that I'm wrong, and please listen to me."

*cough* and if that doesn't do the trick, come back for more advice and what happened.. though, I do believe that should get your message across loud and clear. :) hope I helped

- Sarah

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Lately, my friend has been acting weird to me at school. She ignores most of what I say and when I laugh at a joke or something she looks at me like I couldn't be stupider. See, she only acts like this at school... I'm confused on why she does this.. I wonder if It's something that I do, but I'd have to say I act pretty much the same in school as out of school. And on top of everything, I think her jerk boyfriend is only friendly to me so that he can keep going out with her and all that jazz. I'm so confused w/this I don't know what to do. Anything at all can help. Thanks for you time.

Have you tried talking to your friend? I think perhaps the reason is what the majority of the Junior high population has to deal with. Everyone wants to be "accepted" or "cool". People are so fake sometimes you can't believe it. Your friend may be a jerk now, but believe me, one of these days, they might find that their so called "new friends" aren't really her friends. And you are. As for the boyfriend it's her problem that he's a jackass and is trying to earn brownie points with her friends so that he can still go out with her. And if he's being nice, well.. let him be nice, just be suspicious, don't be sold over. Anyway.. Tell your friend that it hurts your feelings when she treats you like an idiot, when she ignores you. Maybe she has a soul, and compassion and will want to talk with you about it. I hope I helped, and if you need any more advice, my time is yours.

-Sarah

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I was the slowest runner out of all of my classmates in athletics last year. The coaches used to time us in basketball to make sure we're running fast enough. I never made it. I mean, i wasn't that far behind. I was only slow by like 3 seconds. But, it mattered. It mattered to every student, because when i didn't make it.. we had to run all over again. I absolutely love playing basketball and I think I'm pretty good. I know you arn't into basketball and all, but please answer my question, it's a deciding factor for high school. Do you have any advice or ways that I can get much faster???

hum.. hum hum.. Well, having the fact that I do play soccer.. I would know some things about speed, though there are two kinds of speed, and two kinds of ways your muscles can adjust. In your muscles are fast twitch and slow twitch reflexes. Fast twitch are more for the sprinting type of thing your talking about, where as slow twitch are more for the cross country or endurance runner. Down side to these muscles are that you can never have high levels of both, you are one way or another, or at least this is what my coach says. (who knows, he's a crazy old person.. *shrug*) For this, because soccer players need to have plenty of speed, he has a speed camp to build up the fast twitch reflexes in our muscles. There are a lot of small little things that make you have to react and move faster that we do at soccer, primarily a "speed camp" my coach holds... some examples..

( picture provided under each description )

hoops - he sets some plastic hoops out in a sort of flower pattern, you jump and change which foot is in the hoop every time and go all the way around the circle. Sometimes we do about like 3 reps one way, and then 3 the other. Since you don't have hoops, just take some chalk and make circles on the ground.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/Jadewolfen/soccerhoops.bmp

hurdles - There are small hurdles we use (he sets some wood blocks ontop of cones so that it's lower than a normal hurdle) and you do two steps in between each going as fast as you can.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/Jadewolfen/soccerhurdles.bmp

crates - You those plastic crates? the ones that you can see inside, and they are those boxes. Well, that can be an easy tool. Just set it down, opening facing the ground. Jump over the box, placing your foot on the top (the one that's closest to the box on that side) You can do this in intervals, like pyramids. 30 sec, 45 sec, 1 min.. back down. And who says you have to use a box, use your little brother if you want, anything you can jump over will do.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/Jadewolfen/soccercrates.bmp

I hope I provided plenty of ideas for you, good luck with your times and with basketball.. :)

p.s. excuse the sloppiness of my pictures, just thought that would more easily explain things..

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