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you are so pretty what do you do to your hair to make it so shiny and straight?!
ThAnKs!! I use biosilk and put it in my hair while its wet but not near the roots otherwise it will look oily and I use a Chi Straightener!
you look awesome in your pictures, where did you get your halter and skirt?! its so cute!
tHAnKs!! i got my halter at TARGET!! for like 6 bucks, what a great deal! then i got my skirt at palais royal for a pretty good deal toO! im a cheap shopper but i do love AMERICAN EAGLE!! its kinda expensive tho...
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My mom and dad are jewish. my parents want me to be like them and do what they do. my best friend is christian and she took me to church with her once and i recieved Jesus into my life. i really want to be like my friend and be christian but my parents wont accept it! what do i say to them? i am my own person right?
My grandma is just like that. I used to be Cathloic when I was little but as I got older I realized I didnt want to be Catholic, I wanted to be a non-denominational Christian. I talked to my mom and dad and they completely understood! They let me go to church with friends and they even did! Just talk to them and explain that you can be Christian if thats what you want and I know Jesus wants it too!! Good luck, youre in my prayers..
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im a 16/m and i have never really done anything with a girl besides making out idk if i should shave or not i have a few times be4 but im the only 1 that even saw anything so it was pointless its just a pain in the ass and i dont wanna have 2 do it all the time but wut if im not shaved and a girl goes down on me will they be grossed out and not do anything im really worried this will happen or they might start spreading rumors that i dont shave and no1 will ever go down on me again.
Most guys dont shave down there. Sometimes hair is kinda gross but it is up to you not anyone else! Before you let a girl go "down on you", make sure its a girlfriend and ask her what she wants you to do. Dont shave if you dont want to! Good luck!
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Should i shave my pubes? Does it hurt or leave bad razor burn? Does it look funy?
Most people shave so it doesnt show in bikinis and just for the feel of not having hair down there. It usually leaves razor burn and if you dont use shaving cream, it will hurt! It's only up to you to shave! Good luck!!
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This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me, my best friend that I've known since I was 2, died. She was in a car with her boyfriend and two other friends when a drunk driver crashed into them, killing everyone. I was supposed to go with Kelsie, my best friend, but I'm not allowed to go to parties that she was coming home from. I feel guilty and so depressed shes gone. What do I do to get over my best friends death?! Thank you
I am so sorry that your best friend died! At least you know shes living more peacefully and better in Heaven! I bet no one can replace Kelsie, but maybe you should meet new people or even see a phycatrist! They love helping you with such a major problem like this one! Youre in my prayers.. Good luck!
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my bff loves to wear pants then a skirt over. its so weird and ugly but she loves it and wont listen when i tell her she shouldnt do that...do you have another option instead of wearing that tacky stuff?
Your best friend has her own sense of style! She's probably pretty unique in her own way and you shouldn't stop her from being herself!! Maybe you should take her shopping and show her some things that might spark her intrest, otherwise just let her be her!! Good luck!
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i bite my nails all the time. somtimes i bet them some much or so hard, they bleed. it really hurts but i cant stop especially when im nervous. what do i do to stop??
You shouldn't bite your nails so much they bleed because it can get infected or hurt the growth of your nails. The best option is to use a special nail polish that tastes TERRIBLE! It will definitly keep you from picking at your nails. You can buy it at Sally Beauty! Good luck!!
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I found out last weekend my parents want to get a divorce. My boyfriends parents are divorced too and he hates it! He is always going to both their houses and meeting their new girlfriends and boyfriends! I cant deal with that!! Is there ANYTHING I can do to make them stay together or make the best of the situation? I need advice from kids with divorced parents. Thank you SO much!
You need to sit down with your mom and dad and tell them that you wouldnt be comfortable living in two different places and meeting their new boyfriends/girlfriends. If they are really serious about it, then maybe they can try their hardest to not have other boyfriends and girlfriends and make it work out! I am really sorry this happened to you, I'll pray for you! Good luck!
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I am so in love with this boy named Jake. He was EVERYTHING I have ever wanted in a guy. He was so fine and sexy and every girl wanted him. Well, last Friday we went to his house and were making out on his bed when he asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said no, but he wasnt going to take no for an answer. He ripped off my clothes and fucked me and hit me a few times. I guess you can say, I was raped. I need to tell my mom but she will tell me to stay away from Jake and I'm too in love to lose him! Do I tell my mom? How can I stay with Jake forever?
Oh My Goodness! I am SO sorry you got raped! First off, don't stay with Jake! If he loved you in return, he wouldnt have ever raped you or forced you have sex!!
Secondly, tell your mom and the police! Jake can be arrested for something like that! Especially if you got the bruises to prove it, he's a criminal! This is a very big deal and you shouldnt want to stay with that boy!! Good luck!!
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks and I LOVE doing EVERYTHING with him! We got dancing, to the movies and parties but my best friend wants to do things with me too... I just dont want to do those things with her because I have Jay! I also don't want to lose my best friend because shes GREAT to talk to! What do I do?! Thanks!!
That sounds like a problem! Maybe you and your best friend should sit down and talk and you should tell her that you still want to be best friends even if you do more with Jay. Maybe once in a while you and your friend should spend the night and stay up late talking. Dont lose your best friend to a boy, who wont ALWAYS be there like your friend! Good luck!
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okay i got this problem me and my girlfriend were like the perfect couple but then she starts cheatin on me one day she said she had to go to work and it was on a saterday and she never went to work on saterday i followed her and found her at this house and a guy answered the door in his boxers and they started to make out on the steps then went inside. then anotherday i stowed away in my car trunk cause i know she was gonna see him when she got with him i jumped out the car and kicked that guys a** and took my car and left her there.
did i justify my self for doin that?
she wants me back and she apologizes wat do i say?
WoW! I guess there's a really big problem in your relationship, trust. You didn't trust her when she said you had to work and your instinct was right but following her to find out was wrong. Her cheating on you was worse, thats one of the worst things a person can do in a relationship! I think you need to move on from her and not take her back! Good luck!!
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Everytime I shave down there or my bikini line I get these red dots a few hours afterwards...I've tried
- Shaving cream
- Shaving the way the hair grows
- Putting lotion on
Is there anything else I can do??
The red dots are called razor burn. Almost everyone gets them even I do and I use shaving cream and a sharp razor. The best thing to do is get it waxed but since you can't do that, then buy at home wax at Eckerd's or Walmart or Target! Good Luck!
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if im 13, gunna be 14 in 4 months, and i still haven't gotten my period, is that abnormal or sumthin, all of my friends have already started, and sum people i kno who are younger then me have started, my mom started when she was 11, my sister started when she was going into 7th grade, and im entering 9th, and still haven't started,is there sumthin wrong wit me??
You are sooo lucky you haven't started yet!! Enjoy not having to worry about it while you can! My best friend is going into the 10th grade and she's 16 years old and hasn't started yet! Everything is going to be fine..
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How come I dont have anything in my INBOX????
I give really good advice but i dont get any mail!!
thanx,
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Dont worry if you dont get "special requests" because I think I give great advice too but I have had only ONE message in my inbox. If you keep answering people's questions with sincerity then they'll start asking you personally! Good Luck!!
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Alright, everyone, if you kiss someone, is it supposed to feel different if you like them?
This is what happened, I kissed this guy for a first time, and it felt different from other kisses. Then when I kissed him 2 days ago, it just felt like a kiss.
So, tell me. Am I supposed to feel something when I kiss someone? (that i like, maybe?) Basically, is there supposed to be something there?
The first kiss always feels magical! But if you really like this guy, the 2nd and 3rd kisses should feel good too like all you want to do is kiss and be with that person and not worry about the rest of the world.
I think if you actually liked this guy, every kiss would have "something" there.
Hope I helped!
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my sister is blonde and dumm. she acts like ashley simpson. what should she do?
The whole blonde and being dumb theory isn't real, and if you dyed her hair brown she would still act the same. Plus, Ashlee Simpson isn't the dumb one.
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my boyfriend is leaving for a year and a half. Should i wait for him or see other people? PS im 15 1/2
holding back
Wow! A year and a half is a longg time, I think you should definitly see other people, but don't become too intimate or serious with these people. If you truly love your boyfriend with everything you have, you wouldn't want to ruin it by falling in love with another guy! You should also talk to him about it and see if he plans on seeing other girls while he's away. Good Luck!!
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Hey ok ive ben hilighting my hair for about a year and i jus wanna dye it but my mom wont lemme do u have any ideas that will make my hair blopnder or any way i can get my mom to dye my hair ? thanx!!
I want to do the same thing! Dye my hair brown because I dont want to be a blonde anymore.. my mom wont let me but she said if I save half the money to do it, then I can!
A great idea, next time youre in to get highlights ask for more than one shade of blonde and do it the chunky look, it looks great! But dont highlight too much, it REALLY ruins your hair! Good Luck!
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okay im an 12 year old male and im pretty popular in my school and im goin out with this really hot gurl one day we were walkin home from school together and she went in with me to my house my mom wasnt there so she went up to my room i just had the urge to do it with her and she felt the same way we decided we werent quite ready yet so we just made out and she showed me her boobs that was the best time of my life know im young but i cant fight the urge.
wat do i do i really want to do it with her
I'm a 15 year old female and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I think I'm even too young and I know I cant handle the concequences! And neither can a 12 year old, could you care for a baby if you didnt be too cautious?
Anyways, I would stick to making out and feeling up. Maybe sooner or later you can finger her and she can give you a hand job. I know you make it past those urges to sleep with her, I have!
Good Luck!!
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