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I'm 15 in 10th grade and My girlfriend says that she doesn't wanna go out right we should wait a while, she wants to be single, she's not ready for a boy friend, ect. does ths mean she doesnt like me or what i just want kwon because i love her i wanna be with her and i just dont understand could some one pleas help me.

sweet heart don't worry. she does like you but right now she prefers to not be tied down. but she does like you. so i hope it works out for you =)

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15/m

alright yesterday a girl pantsed me, right in front of the class when i was sharpening my pencil as i walked past her. i took it lightly and pulled my pants up and joked about it for a while, then a half hour later she got up, and i pantsed her back..as a little revenge/joke thing, only she was wearing a thong and well, yah enough said.

i got sent to the principle's office and got suspended for 3 days...it just snowed here so today doesnt count, but still im going to miss monday, tuesday, and wedsnday, for pantsing a girl that pantsed me, (also, the girl went to the principle's office and stuck up for me saying that she had it comming)
yeah uhm what should i do???

p.s. the girl is not suspended.

well you probably shouldn't of pants her back wether it was funny or not. but can't change that now. so what you need to do is have your parents or yourself go to the principle. because how were you supposed to know she was wearing a thong on. and i mean you could of had one on too (haha) so it's not fair because there would be no way of you knowing that. and it's not like you did it just to see some a*s. she did it to you first, it's playful fun. if not go to the superintendent or the school board. fight the power =P

good luck x3

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id like opinions on this... just what does this say to you, like whats it about? --


head spinning and i go numb
you used to be the only place i could turn
everything that once was, brought down by a lie
inside, a burning feeling like my heart has bled and died

i could feel it every touch, every smile, every kiss
perfect memories now feel like false bliss
its still what i want and i want nothing more
see the light, dry my tears, and pick me off this floor

my breath is frozen in me as my heart turns cold
locked in this feeling forever while the world grows old
if i could see it in your eyes would it make it more clear?
was this for real or just the happening reality of my fears?

how could something so perfect just be ripped from my hands?
you beg me to believe but i question how i can
my perfected dream turned into a chilling nightmare
now watch as my heart breaks open and tears freefall in the air

ive lost sense of direction and i dont know where to go
was she right and is this just false hope?
well now its my turn to beg
i want to live again and i want to fly high
so save me please and dont let this die.




yeah sounds very broken hearted and wants someone back. it's really good i like it =)

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13/f
This girl that I know was really nice to me on the first day of school -i was new- so i thought she was my friend, but then she calls me wierd and stupid and a loser...and she's not joking. And a few days ago she signed on as my best guy friend -on AIM- and started saying I'm not your friend, I think you suck, and stuff like that...so blocked her. i really want to be friends with her beczuse we have to be friends-cathioc school-or we get detention. Everytime I say STOP or sumthing she says I'm only joking. then the next day she makes fun of what I said the other day. I guess I'm asking if anyone has a friend or ex friend like this...and whether that person is still your friend or not...or whether I shouldn't be this girl's friend
Sincerly,
Flaggal

P.S. I blocked her from AIM

this girl is deffinatley not your friend and you shouldn't talk to her or try to be friends with her because if she's just gonna make fun of you there's really no point. good luck

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Ok I need some advice on what to do.
There is this one person who her and i used to be Best Friends.
We did almost everything together.
We were together as much as we could
Well then durring the Carnival by my house she started to hang with someone else
I didnt really like that other person that much
I think she can be really freaking annoying
The girl who was my friend we still talked
But then she started to hang out with the other girl more
I would hang out with them but i would be the third wheel
I would try to join them but it was just so akward
Well that girl who was my friend her and i hardly ever talked
We would hang out occasionly but the other girl would be there
so i would just be so left out
I tryed telling my friend that
she said she would try and stop
well she didnt it just got worse
now we hardly ever talk
So i wrote her a letter a few weeks ago because i finally had enough of it and told her how i felt
Well she said that it made her feel bad and that she wanted to hang out some more because she was getting the same treatment from that one girl
that girl was hanging out with someone else and was leaving her out
well she hasnt talked to me since she said that
i sent her a text saying "What happened to us? we used to be so close. I lost another best friend. They either ditch me or move away."
and she never replied
I dont know what to do
This girl is just so close to my heart and i dont want to lose her
Please help me and tell me what i should do,
If i should just forget about her and see if she comes back then
or If i should try and talk to her again?
Please I really need the advice.
Ok
Thanks

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this is for my freind so if its confusing its because shes a little M.R.

alright well. it sounds to me like this girl isn't a good friend. if she ditches you for the next best thing that comes around it means she isn't reliable. it's happened to me. and i decided to just let it go and make a new best friend. it hurts but it's something that you just gotta do. but if it'll make you feel better just try to talk to her one more time, after that it seems a bit pointless.

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Ive been cutting for about a year and i just got found out about a month ago. Im kinda happy to be out in the open about it and everything but i told my best friend and she didnt even care. She actually started to tell everyone shes an alcoholic when in reality shes acting drunk for the attention and now shes hurt that i dont care about her problem.. Its completly made up.. why should i care if shes doing it for attention everything she does is to start stuff and i really dont want to just ditch her cuz shes my best friend but i have no idea what to do anymore

well first off, DON'T CUT YOURSELF EVER AGAIN. trust me it will ruin your life. if your parents find out they will not trust you for a veryyyyyyyy long time. just trust me. and with your friend. just talk to her about how when you came to her about your problem she blew it off. now when she has a problem, and it's made up, your suppose to care. just tell her that you know it's made up so it's not on the most important thing to be worry about. but good luck, and stop cutting please!

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My boyfriend has been through a lot of stress this week and he said its best not to talk to no one and he doesnt answer his phone, but I have talked to him face to face he is not mad at me but life is just getting to him. What are some things I can do to make him feel better or something romantic to do?

just give him a little breathing room. and maybe leave him little notes like on his locker or something he goes to everyday. like i love you or something just to let him know your there for him

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i'm 16 years old and 5'1" and i'm about 175 lbs i know my weight is very unhealthy. i don't eat that much adn i try to eat as healthy as possible but i don't have anytime to get to the gym to work out. i'm really stressed out so that might also be a problem. i need to loose the weight according to my dr. i bowli, play softball and frisbee but no matter how active i am i can't loose any weight. is there any way to loose weight quickly but not do anything super drastic. i have a hard tim finding clothes that fit my and selfesteem is wayy low becasue of my weight. i don't look my wieght because i wear baggy clothes all the time. is there anything that i can do. i know that all the weight is not muscel weight because i have a huge stomach and my bmi is wayyyy too high to be healthy. i have no clue what to do.

alright well keep eating healthy. and if you run(not even a lot) just maybe around your block whenever you find time or just run around your house or something. and do some sit ups. i know when i was younger i would do a hundred sit ups a day and before long i had a 6 pack. but even if you do like 10 you'll make progress. and you gotta keep your self esteem high! your beautiful! and keep your stress low. just go with the flow. your young, don't worry so much =D

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I am only 6wks preg. with my 2nd child, with my 1st I was so sick, adn didn't show until 6months or so. with this one, I am already pudging in my tummy, and you can tell. Is this because I am so little, to is it normal? Its so weird I figured it would be like my 1st pregnancy. PLEASE HELP ME

don't worry so much hun. my cousin was very pudgy very soon, it's nothing to worry about. if yours still concered talk to your doctor or to your mother or something.

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I'm kind of confused about the whole eyebrow plucking thing. I've been plucking my eyebros for several years, in an arch shape.

The advice I've read about this is that you always pluck the bottom of the eyebrow and never the top...but I have lots of random hairs at the top of my eyebrows and they always look messy because of this.

So is the advice about not plucking from the top correct and if so, why should you not pluck from the top?

people say stuff but it doesn't apply to everyone. if you wanna do the tops, do the tops. it's your face and make it look how you want it to look

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I've been seeing this girl for a while now and things are getting serious. We've talked and I think soon we're going to have sex. But I have a problem. I'm really insecure about the size of my penis. I'm not stupid, I know size matters, but how much does it matter? I mean, is it possible to be good if you aren't average or bigger?

it's normal to be self concious but don't worry, everyone is. it's tottally possible to be good too. just don't worry about it so much

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Okay, if a girl is under 16 and a guy is 18, is it a legal for them to date? Someone told me that it is as long as you don't do anything with them but someone else told me that you can't date at all until the girl is 16. What's really legal?

well i'm pretty sure that it's ok as long as he doesn't have sex with you because he could get put in jail for that.

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Ok, 13/F. All my friends have had a minumum of 3 boyfriends before and I havent had any. Now, I really like this one guy and some of my friends says he likes me but I cant tell. Like Ill say simple things and theyll be like thats a good sign and Id be confused. Like, everytime I wait outside his class (cause we are in practically the same classes and all my classes are right after his so im always standing there outside the doors) hed spot me and give me this huge smile and playfully stick out his toungue and id act all shocked and he'd laugh a little. Whenever hes around us during recess we always talk and stuff privatley also we always like joke around. Hes put his arm around me a few times and defends me whenever someone calls me a flirt or a looser. We email eachother and stuff. I think were good friends but my friends say its something more is it? Im very confused!

aw thats cute. i think he may like you. a big clue is how he defends you if someone calls you a name because guys are extremely defensive when it comes to the girl that they like. i hope it works out =D

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so i have this friend, and she's been my best friend. But lately she's been acting different. And it's not like she hangs around differnt people or acting obnoxious, she just never invites me over, or includes me that much. I'm kind of uncomfortable around her now, but my school is so small that i dont really have any other friends, and the ones i do have are all leaving. Help?!

well maybe she just wants some space. i will admit i did that to one of my friends because i just wanted some breathing room for a while. but she's not me so i think you should just talk to her about it. good luck

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