I'm a third year psychology student and i love giving advice to those who are in need of it but if you ask me a stupid question you should expect a stupid answer i love hanging out with friends and socialising i can be really conceited at times and if you get on my bad side you might wanna sleep with an eye open!
Altogether I would say that I am still finding myself and my place in this huge world, searching for the great amor and visiting beautiful places
so guys feel free to ask me anything that's on your mind and I will try to give you the most helpful advice
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I have a pimple like thing on my labia. It showed up the morning after having sex. STD's are not a concern with my partner or I. How could I get rid of this pimple like thing? It hurts very badly, even to sit, where underwear, jeans, wipe, etc.
all suggestions are welcome as long as you don't try to diagnose me with some STD, just options and oppinions of what to do. please and thank you. (link)
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well it's really possible that it's just a cyst or an ingrown hair from shaving, theses blisters are normal just leave it alone and keep your area clean wash daily and use clean underwear if it doesn't go away or decrease size in a week you should really see a doctor
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I'm a highschool female. I have a thing with this guy at my school. Well, I might have ruined my chances. Everything was going great until I ended up going to a party with my friend last weekend. I was having a lot of fun, and that certain guy wasn't there. I was chillin with another guy in his grade, and something happened and the next thing I know, we were making out! We both decided the next day that it was just pure fun, but then the guy I have a thing with found out. Here's where I'm confused.. he said he wasn't even mad! He said "well it's not like we're dating..." I apologized anyways, and the next day he seemed fine. But now he's just straight up ignoring me! I'm not stupid, I'm pretty sure he is mad but still... haha it's probably not even a big deal but I REALLYY like him sooo any advice?! :) Thanks! (link)
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well it's really good that he knows that he should'nt be angry because the two of you aren't dating but i'm sure if you've given him signals that you like him before you went to this party then that probably hurt him abit he thinks well she probably knows that i like her and she still kisses a guy anyways, he's gnoring you because he's dissapointed and thinks that you don't feel the same way towards him the only way to fix this situation is by telling him that you really like him and letting him know that you're not that kinda girl that just loses it and does anything with a guy i'm sure if he really likes you then the two of you can work it out
best of luck
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Its driving me nuts! I know lots of guys at school like me-alot. But no one has ever asked me out! My bestfriend gets all these "oohs" and "ahhs" whenever she talks about me and shows them a pic, but ive never been asked out. WHen i was little everyone made fun of me, so i dont really have any guy friends, but now im one of the hottest girls in school. Still no boyfriend. My bffs tell me i should ask myself, but im too nervous to do that. My biggest guess is that all the guys are afraid im too good for them. Im pretty sure of that. But if they knew me, theyed c how happy go lucky i am! How can i get a boyfriend??? Guys, ur welcome to give me some answers too bcause this question relates to u. so plz! HELP! (link)
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well these guys probably think that they're abit out of your league and you'll probably shoot them down if they even try talking to you so you should go up and talk to them, make friends and show them that you are really outgoing and if theres a cute guy that you like then go up and flirt with him he'll get the hint and once you start talking to a few guys then they'll spread the word to the rest that you are a really cool girl so i'm sure if you do this by the end of next month you will have a boyfriend
best of luck
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i was fingered when i was 12- year old and worrying if am still a virgin or if am pregnant. (link)
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you're still a virgin and you can only break your virginity if you've had sexual intercourse and you can't become pregnant by getting fingered
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image you trust your friends to let the know about your boyfriend but all you girl freind is going to look to do is to be with your bf (link)
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well if you're absolutely certain that she's out to get your boyfriend then this girl is obviously not your friend at the end of the day you can't trust anybody but yourself so you should either speak to her her about it if it's worth solving or just simply stay away from her
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Okay well. I recently made up with a guy friend of mine and it's been great :) but when one of my friends, lets call her "Lisa", talks to him I get jealous. (We used to like eachother).
"Lisa" always starts the conversations and today it seemed like she purposefully went and stood next to him.
I don't know why I feel like this, and I really wanna stop!
What can I do?
Extra Info:
He said he liked me a few weeks ago, but he says he doesnt THINK he likes me anymore. What does he man by "think"?
THANKYOU! (link)
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well you say that you two USED to like each other so whats the need to feel jealous? maybe your friend lisa likes him, if he says he doesn't "think" he likes you anymore then it shows that this guy is really confused and can't make up his mind he's toying with you and probably wants to keep you waiting, so my advice to you is to just tell him that you prefer being friends since he can't make up his mind just move on honey he clearly isn't the one for you
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20 female.
So every one tells me that i still look really pretty without make-up. I won't lie i will go out in public without make-up and it doesn't bother me. I do usually wear make-up when I go outbut I'm not like some girls where they have to always have make-up on. Usually when I'm around guys, and its night time or something I'll take a shower and so I'll have no make-up on and my hair will be all gross haha (my hair is kind of wavy, but not cute when i leave it naturally) My best friend that i'm always with freaks out whenever a guy might have to see her without make-up and I don't see it as a big deal. Sometimes I feel less pretty around her because I won't have any make-up after a shower and she will be all done up still though.
For instance. Last weekend we were at a hotel and four of our guys friends stayed with us in the same room. I just had to take a shower because I always do at night so I don't feel gross. So i had no make-up on and my hair not done. I guess I didn't really care. But my friend got in the shower and just washed her body off and didn't get her hair wet and didn't take her make-up off.
I guess my question is, do guys really care if a girl doesn't ALWAYS have her make-up on? I asked one of my guy friends that night at the hotel if i looked different without make-up because people tell me i don't look that different and he said "no, but that's a good thing!" i don't want to be walking around sometimes without make-up with me thinking it's not a big deal and guys are thinking "oh gross, whats she doing"
Any comments are welcomed thanks! (link)
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most guys like natural girls, if he sees that you're with all that make-up he'd wonder what you look like without it and probably get freaked out. So you say that you look nice without it then i guess that guys will always know the real you and thats way better, shows that you are comfortable with yourself and that's what they like
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is there a way to get rid of starch marks? (link)
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try bio-oil or cocoa butter and i heard that lemon juice works too
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22/f.
I graduated from college yesterday, and my boyfriend came with his family. I never received a card or a gift from any of them. I couldn't help being disappointed that I didn't even receive a card or some flowers. Do I have a right to be mad?
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not really, i guess that they thought by just being there was going to be enough i guess you really should be happy that they were there to support you because not many people do that
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im really shy around my bf what to do (link)
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if it's a new relationship then it's pretty normal for you to be shy around him but if that's just the way you are then you should tell him about this that way he'd be aware of it and try to make you feel more comfortable you'll see eventually you'll start warming up to him
best of luck!
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I recently met this guy 2 weeks ago, I barely know him and he recently had a bad previous relationship. He sometimes talks about his ex, and he says that he doesnt want her to get hurt and all that stuff and about her bf. Then he told me that I should learn how to kiss and be a grown women and im only 16 and he's 23..I know!
but then again, he says that I'm really important to him and that he really likes me. and I'm falling in love with him really badly (link)
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well by telling you that you should learn how to kiss and be a grown woman he just wants you to be more like his ex girlfriend so i'm guessing that he's still pretty hung up on her, you really should confront him about this tell him that you like him a lot and if he wants things to work out between you two he needs to forget about his ex i'm sure that he'll understand considering his 23 and quite mature to differentiate between right and wrong
best of luck hun!
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20/F
I met this guy, Sean, at a party around October of last year. We have a lot of mutual friends and one day, ended up sitting by each other at a basketball game. It was a lot of fun and we talked and danced the whole time. All of our friends kept saying we looked cute together and that we should date. Of course, I hardly knew the kid so I just rolled my eyes. We didn't talk much again, only when we saw each other at basketball games we would say hello.
Randomly this semester, I ran into him at another party. He was really drunk and I had been drinking as well, so we talked and I flirted with him--a lot. The next weekend, I saw him again and we figured out we had a class together so we decided to sit next to each other. At this point, I hardly talked to Sean, but at this party, he left with another girl, and I, having had some drinks in me, was devastated. However, everything was fine and I ended up sitting with him in class and it was honestly the most fun I ever had in a class whilst paying attention, lol.
Flash forward to now. We talk everyday. Literally, every day. He texted me almost everyday I was gone on spring break. He IMs me as soon as I'm online. Once in a while he'll drunk dial me just to talk. As far as I know, he has not hooked up with any other girls since that one day I mentioned above. EVERYONE asks me about "us", including some of his best friends. I feel weird when we don't talk. Basically, I'm falling for him...hard.
Here's where I'm confused: last night we were IMing each other on facebook, and randomly he told me he was upset so I asked him to tell me about it. And from what I gathered, he was just thinking about his ex-girlfriend that broke up with him months ago, and it really bothered me. He told me he was over her but he's mad because she's not making an effort to be friends with him and purposely ignores him...already I can tell that he's so hung up on her. He also told me he thinks if they tried to communicate more through the long distance (skype calls, visits, etc), that he would still be dating her.
Now I'm all confused because I was SURE he liked me and then he drops this bomb...I've not told him I liked him yet but I'm not the type of girl with the confidence to do that. PLUS, I'm not ready for rejection right now...Any ideas? I'm just lost...we never talk about boys or girls in front of each other, we always made it point to not talk about cute guys or girls or exes to each other....it's just weird. (link)
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well from what you say it's quite obvious that he likes you too but he probably thinks that you don't like him and just see him as a friend this is why he told you this, if you want anything to happen with this guy you should tell him that you like him and don't be afraid of rejection because it's pretty clear that he likes you don't wait until it's too late and he finds someone else because this could really hurt you and you just end up blaming yourself, so try telling him that he should move on from his ex and try that by starting with you, just remind yourself that he does like you this will build up your confidence to do it
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So I have had 6 different sex partners. No need to judge I'm a freshmen in college, but anyways I thought that after awhile sex would stop being so painful for me but it hasn't at all. When I'm on bottom it probably hurts the most and it feels like I'm going to pee. Sex just never feels good for me but I still enjoy it for some reason. I want to stop having painful sex. My recent sex partner and I always have to stop because it hurts so much and than keep going, slow down or change positions. It's just so frustrating because I just want to have pleasurable sex. And I popped my cherry over a year ago so I know that's not the problem.. Any suggestions? (link)
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there could be many causes i'll name a few but still think you should visit a doctor
first:vaginal infections they're often present without noticable symptoms but during intercourse the rubbing of the penis against the vagina and genetalia sometimes causes burning and stinging
vaginal dryness:normal vaginal lubrication is given for most woman however the vagina may be dry at certain times making vaginal penetration painful
there could be pills and creams taken visit the drug store you can get some over the counter stuff hope this helped
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So last thursday 3/17/11; me and this guy darryl walked home and we ended up in a small field..and had sex plain and simple,
i got home really REALLY late(4:15)..of course im not going to tell my mom..
but she took away everything until i told 'the truth'..should i tell the truth if not...i really good excuse??
15/f
16/m
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i don't think that you should tell her the truth just yet as you are still young and this would really dissapoint her, so tell her that you got into a fight and were too ashamed to tell her or that you had detention for not doing your homework something like that but at a later stage when things cool off you should tell her
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So here's my question... im a girl and im 16, but for some reason i am very nervous about doing things with this guy i like in school. We always talk about doing stuff and having sex. I asked this question before and i got an answer saying watch some porn videos... well i did and im still nervous because they are pro. How do I boost my seflesteem so i can actually do what i say i want to do? And im not looking for an answer that says do what's conftorable or if youre not ready dont do it. Im not looking for those answers. I want to do stuff with him but im scared, how do i become unscared? (link)
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well it'll help a lot if you tell this guy about it that way he's aware and he'll make you feel a lot more comfortable and he'll really appreciate it but if you don't want to do that when the time comes you'll see that it just comes naturally and you are comfortable with your partner but whatever you do don't try too hard this could mess things up you could also try speaking to one of your girlfriends who did this before and are experienced i'm sure they'll help
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how can you tell if a guy likes you? (link)
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well when you speak to him then he looks into your eyes, you catch him staring at you at odd times or he just finds simple ways to touch you
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Okay so there is this boy I like and we are friends and I talk to him in school allll the time but he found out I like him and he doesn't talk to me as much he said he didn't mind me liking him but it's obvious he does. I don't know shat to do about him (link)
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well i'm sure that he just saw you as a friend and he liked it that way and probably feels that if the two of you start dating it would completely ruin your friendship so he doesn't like you in that way but you should definately confront him about it but tell him that by him finding out that you like him doesn't mean that it should affect your friendship because you like speaking to him, but you should'nt bring it up that you like him again because this could ruin things but just be strong:)
best of luck
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Just wanted to see if anyone knew of a way to clean silver earrings. Mine was pure white, but now it's like gray and I really want to clean it. Thanks. (link)
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you can try using surgical spirits or wash it with salt water
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Hello,
I very rarely contribute to this site, although find it to be very beneficial and I'm glad it's around. I've had some questions answered through other posters, so I often lurk, I just very rarely contribute.
That being said, I'm seeking some advice.. I'm good friends this this girl from a town nearby. She attends public school, while I'm homeschooled. This limits us from seeing one another very often, although we talk very often online and fairly often on the telephone. Currently, we're not seeing each other in person, but every few months. This will change if this relationship ever develops into something more.
The girl is currently dating a guy and their relationship appears to be fairly decent. I've gotten some vibes from her that seem to imply she has an interest in me. She tells me she loves me (which is something I am hesitant in saying in return, as the young age of 15, I feel love is a hard thing to understand) and she's also sent me some photos of herself that her boyfriend would probably not appreciate. Now why that generally would indicate she's a wee bit on the skanky side, that's not the case, she's just a girl that trusts me, as we've been real close friends for a long time.
That said, I really want to see our relationship move on, but is it worth it? I suppose my real question is, what to do? Part of me wants to pursue this further, since she's implied she likes me, but another part of me makes me hesitant, as if she is in a relationship now and liking another guy, I could very well end up being cheated one if I were to pursue this.
I'm a real selective guy (I know that sounds contradictory, a hormonal teenager being selective), but I have standards and she is really a wonderful girl. I just think she's maybe a little confused, I certainly don't want to think that she is interested in me and wants to have me around on the side, along with her boyfriend.
Thanks in Advance,
Chase, 15/M (link)
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well have you ever asked her why she is sending you these signals and why she tells you that she loves you if she has a boyfriend? you should ask her that and if she really wanted to be with you she would have left her boyfriend she's just toying with you, because you're homeschooled she has an advantage and thinks that she can play with you and other boys at her school because you wont be there to watch her constantly this girl sounds like trouble and she obviously has no respect for herself so forget her sweety or remain friends with her but don't take it any further than that because you'll just end up getting hurt
best of luck
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I am fifteen. Last summer, I made the biggest mistake of my life. I had sex with an ex. It completely erased my mind, really, until in January. My parents found out. They were absolutely ashamed. I could understand why, because I have always been a good child. But then they started treating me like I was a slut. My mom bought me all these old tight shirts that didn't show my body or cleavage, and I went to counseling and the doctor. I was punished, confined in my house with no communication to the outside world.
Two months later. I have my phone back but I am not allowed back on Facebook yet. My parents and I are good, and I am repaired. The most hurt of all this is my stepdad. He didn't talk to me up until March. We have been friendly and like nothing ever happened, laughing and having fun, staying up late together and just spending so much time together. A week ago my mom said he was still upset over me having sex. He said I should apologize. Sure, it was a mistake but I don't think I should apologize...do you?
I want to have his forgiveness. I know there's a pang of hurt when we lock eyes. I don't regret anything, I just wish the situation turned out better. I feel so bad for not being what my parents wanted, but I know they weren't perfect, either, as teens. Should I apologize? And if so, how? I choke every time I want to speak and it can't seem to come out without any tears. (link)
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this sounds exactly like my situation three years ago and i understand how you feel, try writing a letter to them first this way you can say whatever you want to say and you'll find its really effective in expressing your feelings, but i think the best way is to speak to them and it's really good if you start crying it will show them how sorry you are and you might not even have to say anything, remember they were just dissapointed because they want the best for you and they love you alot and are just looking out for your best interests. just see this as a lesson and be glad that now you don't have to hide anything from them
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