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sex is always painful
So I have had 6 different sex partners. No need to judge I'm a freshmen in college, but anyways I thought that after awhile sex would stop being so painful for me but it hasn't at all. When I'm on bottom it probably hurts the most and it feels like I'm going to pee. Sex just never feels good for me but I still enjoy it for some reason. I want to stop having painful sex. My recent sex partner and I always have to stop because it hurts so much and than keep going, slow down or change positions. It's just so frustrating because I just want to have pleasurable sex. And I popped my cherry over a year ago so I know that's not the problem.. Any suggestions?
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and no I am not going to preach to you. Instead I hope the wisdom of my age may be useful to you. It is questions such as yours is the reason that I answer questions on this website.
First there are probably several reason for why you are having pain during intercourse. The best way to find out why is to visit your gynecologist. Don't be embarrassed to do so as you will not be the first or the last 19 year old to visit for this problem. In fact you should never be embarrassed to tell any doctor anything. In order for the doctor to properly treat you they have to know everything about the problem whether you think it is relevant or not. Okay that is about as close as I will get to preaching.
As to other reasons for pain. You could have a small or tilted pelvis. You could have a vaginal infection which left untreated could effect your reproductive ability. These require a doctor to check and advise you on.
Once you have seen a doctor and all other factors have been ruled out then that leaves just one other factor to consider. You have not properly lubricated and ready for penile penetration.
The biggest reason is 19 year old boys are not the greatest lovers; their more of a wham, bam thank you mam type lover. The other factors could be you do not feel safe in the locations you are making love in or you do are not comfortable
I have found that a women must feel safe, meaning that no one is going to walk in and discover you having sex. Your in college so if your having sex in his dorm room it is possible one of his room mates could walk in and find you naked in his bed. I'm sure this is not something you may feel good about.
Comfort: Trying to have sex in a single dorm bed while possible is not very comfortable, add to that a wham, bam, thank you mam lover and I can see see a desert being more lubricated than most women.
That brings us back to being properly stimulated. As the saying goes, show a guy a picture of a naked women and he'll screw a not hole for relief.
A women on the other hand needs stimulation, foreplay. Unfortunately us guy, were kind of thick in the head; both heads. The one in our pants and the one between our shoulder blades. You women need to teach us what you need in order to enjoy our love making. You need to show us how you like to be touched, how you like your nipples sucked, nipped, pinched or pulled. Are you vaginal or clitoral. Do you know if you are more vaginal or clitoral. During foreplay do you like having the guy put his fingers and tongue in you or do you prefer having your clit stimulated, sucked on or even nipped at. IF it is the later your more clitoral.
My suggestion: Go see a gynecologist and make sure everything is in working order. Then make sure where you make love is secure and you are comfortable. If you still are having pain during intercourse you are going to have to teach your lover how to make love to you so that you are properly stimulated and ready for him to penetrate you. Until he learns to make love and not just fuck, there is a difference, get a good lubricant.
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there could be many causes i'll name a few but still think you should visit a doctor
first:vaginal infections they're often present without noticable symptoms but during intercourse the rubbing of the penis against the vagina and genetalia sometimes causes burning and stinging
vaginal dryness:normal vaginal lubrication is given for most woman however the vagina may be dry at certain times making vaginal penetration painful
there could be pills and creams taken visit the drug store you can get some over the counter stuff hope this helped
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You might want to see a doctor about that?
You may be infected with something or there might be some issues with this.
*Hope This Helps
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^Jasmine;
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