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Q: I'm male, 17, and in high school.

Two of my friends, let's call them Enrique and Polly, went out for about nine months. Enrique is probably my best friend, and during this time, I became good friends with Polly as well. Recently (a few months ago or so), they broke up, and they've both gone through ups and downs, getting back together, breaking up again, dating other people, etc. Finally, it seems that they've really broken it off. I hang out with both of them a lot, but separately, because they feel awkward together. And I'm starting to get the impression that Polly likes me.

Now, the complicated part. I've had a purely physical (f-buddy) relationship with a girl I know, let's call her Edna, for the past month or so. We've made out many times and had sex once, and the tricky part is that we're both emotionally shy, and I'm not sure how she feels about me. She may want something more out of the relationship, and I'm confused as to whether she just wants an open thing going like we already have or if she would care if I dated someone else.

Unfortunately, long story short, Polly and I ended up making out. We got caught up in the moment and a lot of feelings came out, but now I'm in an unusual place. Polly feels that we need to tell Enrique. Enrique is going to be very upset when he hears this. As an added element, I'm worried about what Edna will think, since I'm not sure what she wants out of our relationship. I'm really confused as to what I should do here.

You definitely need to discuss this with everyone involved, but first you need to figure out what you want. But regardless of whatever you want, you need to tell Enrique & Edna about what happened.

Decide what you want with Polly & talk to her-- if you both want a relationship, is it worth potentially destroying your relationship with Enrique? Keep in mind that friendships tend to last longer than romantic relationships & if things with you & Polly don't work out, which chances are they won't, then you'll need someone to turn to-- so don't go screwing your support over if you can't handle the consequences.

If you want to be just friends with Polly, talk with her & make sure to get the point across. You still need to tell Enrique.

What do you want with Edna? If you want a relationship, you need to come clean about everything (which really, you should do anyway) & be honest with her. Overcoming the shy thing may be difficult, but worse things have happened. Apologize for making out with Polly when you had something with Edna, but point out that you weren't exclusive but you'd like to make it that way. Promise to remain faithful-- & live up to that proimse.

If you're going to be with Polly, end your friends with benefits relationship with Edna & let her know that you didn't mean to hurt her, but you weren't officially together so it's not like you cheated on her.

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My name is Kailey. I'm 17 years old & a senior at a high school in Massachusetts. I'm told that I'm mature for my age, but I'll let you be the judge of that. I love giving advice, but I'll tell you the way I see it, so you may not always like my answers. I especially like giving relationship advice. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now and I feel as though I can give good advice on the subject.