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what does it mean after a couple of times a guy kisses you on the lips and says right after you pull back "get the picture". does it mean that he likes me?im 14 and i'm a girl

Yes it means that he likes you. Usually when someone says "get the picture" they mean that they want you to open your eyes and see what is in front of you; or in his case, that he likes you.
Best of luck.
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so if Im pregnant and having sex is that bad?
is something going to happen to my baby
please help!

That is a myth, that you can't have sex when you are pregnant. And as the baby grows you will not want to be on your stomach, but at the beginning to about 2 months or so when the baby has just begun developing isn't bad if you lay on your stomach. It is actually good for you if you have sex because your hormones are so strong during pregnancy.
Best of luck.
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Okay I made it official with this guy june 18th 2009, last year which in fact was the eptimone of my naiveness, and I was blind to everything as a girl I was easily manipulated etc.. I said yes I'll be your gf on that day, and ever since then weve been really tight like best friends and talk to eachother about pretty much anything including what's considered cheating in a relationship and what guys want from girls .


He says that every guy just want to have sex as first intention and then theyll get to know you
I disagree example: someone hit me up that I knew in elementry on fb I said how are you doing etc .. MY BOYFRIEND GETS MAD saying theres no reason to write to him unless you really want to see how he is.. the guy prob. thinks he can get you etc....
another example: my ex hits me up on fb and this is an old old ex and says whats going on and i write whats up with you . Boyfriend says: why are you writing back to him theres no reason to write back to him, etc.. * BUT this was strictly mutual I will never cheat on my boyfriend ever, I love him to much and its morally wrong a huge downfall .

I just don't think I can take him thinking that I will cheat on him , idk if its because he's envious or overprotective but it need's to stop
also Ever since Ive been with my boyfriend my whole personality changed as in im not naive anymore i demand more as a woman etc.. maybe he still thinks Im the girl he first asked out ?

idk:/ its killing me I dont want us to breakup over absolutely NOTHING . over what I might do , or what might happen .

I say you should talk to him, ask him why you can't talk to other guys and tell him that it hurts you because he thinks that you might cheat on him. That should resolve the issues, open communication is key.
I think your boyfriend has a point, trust issues and he is insecure. Your boyfriend has a small point, I mean some guys are like that, some guys just miss you and then there are some guys that just want to be your friend again. He may have a few trust issues, he may have had a girlfriend cheat on him in the past and that is what is making him so jumpy about you talking to other guys. Then there is his insecurity. He thinks you may be talking to some of these other guys because you are getting tired of him, which brings us back to the trust issues.
So just talk with him, tell him that you are aloud to talk to other guys, that they are just people, and that you would never cheat on him because you love him so much.
I wish you the best of luck.
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I hate high school. I'm 18, I'm more mature then people in my school, and I'm in all these boring advanced classes that are jokes. I'm not learning anything, and I hate my friends! They are annoying and we've grown apart. I want to try to graduate early or take my English class online or at a community college. I'm wondering, from people who have done this.. (basically taking an online class) is it easy, is it hard, is it a lot of work, anything you want to tell me about it would be great:)

I actually did some online classes my first year of high school. It is really easy and you can work at your own pace! Of course there would be a lot of work involved but as long as you stay on task it shouldn't be bad at all.
Good luck.
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i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?

Yes, there are still people out there that are older and are virgins. I know people that are still virgins at 23, because they wait until marriage. Just don't let your friends' talk discourage you and never feel like your being pressured into something.
You are not alone.
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Last time i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend of 2 years. It was great and we used condoms (i'm not on the pill yet) and it didn't rip. It hurt at first and then it was okay...but i feel so weird now. I feel like i'm pregnant and i'm stressing over it. I'm so scared. Is there any way to find out NOW? Its only been a day

Yes there are some birth tests that you can have a test 24 hours after you have had sex. You are probably just stressing out because your fear is that you will get pregnant. You can't really tell if your pregnant a day after you've had sex, it usually takes a days.
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ok so the thing is i'm 14yrs old and i still have not gotten my period. yes i do get white stuff in my under wear i have since grade 7 and i'm in grade 9 . and i do get cramps sometimes. but yesterday at around 7 oclock i though i was just really hungrey so i ate alot but nothing this had a tummy ache and a head ache. then my older sister told me i was probly getting my perod. she said she sespected ot cuz of my mood swings.so i went to bed with a pad on and woke up with the same problem. but still noo blood. them my mom gave me a pill the calm my tummy down. but what i happening to me?? is it my period?? or am i sick or what??

I say going to the doctors to see what the problem is. My sister had the same problem and she got put on birth control because it helps regulate periods. But I have also known people to get there periods around 15 and 16. You should have already gotten it because you have been around others that have had it.
Anyways, to be on the safe side you should visit the doctors.
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15 - female
Some people would say i have everything i guess... I'm great in sports, and get every award. I'm pretty and I've gott a boyfriend. I'm on the 2nd best soccer team in the Nation for an Elite league.I'm a good singer, and am pretty much good at anything. I've got a best friend who is always there for me.

But I'm not even close to happy...

Since I'm new on my soccer team, I have no friends. And no one will talk to me or hang out with me... which just gets me sad and uncomfortable whenever we travel with all them. People over rate me. Since i get alot of guys, now that i have a boyfriend all my guy friends basically go away until I'm single again. I've lost many friends since it's "cheerleading season", and since some of my friends where cheerleaders, they are all in that posse of cheerleaders for awhile(which bumps others out). I dont have that much time to hang out with friends anyways cause of soccer...

And then i think harder and realize how unhappy i am... I may be pretty but...I'm unsatisfyed with my body. It's getting more muscular looking because of all these sports..I don't want to look that way. My hair doesnt fall quiet right. My face seems chubby...My lips are too small...nose is too big.

So i don't understand why people still "over rate" me...and Sometimes i just feel depressed...I don't really know what to do.

I know i havn't exacty proposed a question to you...But i really just need some advice here.
Pleaseee

The thing you need to do first is think of all the positive things you have, instead of the negatives. People think you are pretty because that is what they see.
If you are not happy with the sports you are in, then drop out. You can't really help being muscular if you are in so many sports.
Do things that make you happy and try to hangout with some old friends. They honestly don't seem like real friends. The guys want you because you are pretty and single, the girls leave at a certain time. Find people who like you for you. And if they over rate you, it is their loss. Try showing people that you are just like anyone else.
Best of luck.
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I have problems at home and i wanna move out...my boyfriend says to move in with him...im 18 now so i would be able too...is this a good idea? or what should i do?

Well,
I'll start by saying that no one can really tell you what is wrong or what is a good idea, it just has to come from you. If you are serious with this guy, then consider it. But if you guys have just met and need some more time to get to know each other, I would say...you guys should get to know each other. I actually have a sister that has the same problem. If you have a decent job, you could get an apartment, but I also know how it feels to have too much to deal with at a young age.
I wish you best of luck.
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18/female

ok so i had a typical fan girl crush on a guy two years ago ( with the crush lasting for a year) whose in a band thats becoming huge. i had his posters on my wall etc etc. I had met him a couple of times in that year that i liked him. each of those times i got a not so expected reaction from this guy. Every other fan he came into contact with or talked to, he was smiley and bubbly. then he would get to me and just look me up and down, just staring. wouldnt say a word. then after minutes of just standing there without him even so much as smiling at me he will move onto the next girl happy as can be. Confused and annoyed i eventually gave up when every single time i met him he would do the same, even if i talked to him he wouldnt respond. just stare. so for the next year or so i slowly tore myself away from him and anything that reminded me of him. taking down his posters etc etc. Eventually over that year i matured and my fan girl days were long gone. however for that year, sucessfully over him, i would still dream about him on the odd occasion, and when i did i would deny 100% that i still somewhat had a thing for him.


So the start of this year I went to one of his concerts, and decided to completely ignore him, forget him completely and just pay attention to the other band mates whilst they were onstage playing. However, my sister was keeping an eye on me and mentioned that Andy(the guy) kept staring at me whilst he was playing. Two adults actually commented to me as i was leaving how he was focusing all his attention on me. I then was also showed videos from that concert of him just staring at me. still i chose to push all that too the side and deny that it ever meant anything. As he left that building, as i watched him leave, he just stared at me like he used to, no smile no emotion on his face.

So a couple of months passed and yet i was still having weird dreams and as always i tried to push them to the side, and hide my feelings. Then two weeks ago, they came and played and did a meet and greet. I went along as my friends wanted to give them there bands cd. I arrived first so i went and stood by the bar. i waited in veiw of the steps to wait for my friends. only to look over and see a security guard walk into a door in perfect sight of where i was standing. The band was warming up backstage and once again there was andy, just sitting there at the door staring at me, yet again. I was all dressed up this time cause i was going clubbing afterwards, yet still he was expressionless. This happened a further 3 or so times when the door would open up. and sometimes i wouldnt look just so he didnt think i was purposely there to see him. anyway, this time when he was on stage, he completely ignored me, he knew where i was and i figured it was like a 'test' if he looked at me then i would know that maybe in some bizzare way all those times he just looked and stared at me meant something. Anyway the band stopped playing and we lined up to meet them. My fan girl days are over so i wasnt freaking out. I talked to the other two band members like they were my best mates, wasnt nervous anything like that, in fact one of the other members was hitting on me subtly.
then i get to him, my other two friends were talking to him about something and he commented back to something they said, i added a comment in after him thinking it was funny, he looked straight at me and for the first time actually laughed. My other two friends didnt even notice or pick up what i said but he did. Then They walked off and i looked at andy....he gave me the biggest cheeziest smile i had ever seen. i was so shocked..like after 7 times of meeting him and him not even to briefly smile at me, then all of a sudden there was a massive smile on his face? when only less then an hour before that he was ignoring me or staring at me expressionless.

i couldnt forget that face of his from that smile. so anyways i kept having more and more dreams over these last two weeks about him again. Then i find out that his bands coming back to my hometown to play another gig..I just finally confronted myself and the fact that I DO have feelings for him in some way, and ever since then ive been crying and upset. i really dont understand. Im seeing him again in two days and i just dont know what to think right now.

I actually think he might have a thing for you as well. Next time you should try harder to talk to him, and if he doesn't talk back, ask him what's wrong with you, nicely though.
But maybe you just remind him of someone he used to know too, his smile probably means that he is just now realizing you are pretty cool as well.
Anyways,
best of luck.
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so, I originally just got him some $5 boxers. he then told me today that he was getting me a necklace, around $100. as guessed... I feel very cheap. -_- I was thinking about getting him something custom, like a picture of us, but I've already done that. anything else custom I can't think of him actually using. (like mugs or anything like that.) he's getting me a gift from his heart, and I want to do the same. any suggestions?

I would say get him some sort of jewelry. Like a ring maybe that means something to you or a bracelet.
Best of wishes.
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16/f

i am white. i go to a school with many many colors. i am friends with many whites, blacks, hispanics, asians, you name it.
I have this one hispanic friend that has been joking around with me, we joke a lot about anything just to pick on each other. well lately he has ben balming everything because i am white. he might say "oh its because youre white" or "you cant help you are white, its ok" stuff to tease me. for a long time i would brush it off and not let it get to me and laugh with him. Now thats all I can think about when I see him so I told him that I didnt want to sit with him at school so I wouldn't regret saying something. I still love him as my friend but it hurts.
1.) How should I approach the topic? (I tried to today by telling him just to chill and telling him that it hurt my feelings but then he responded with "oh white people get so emotional". so that didnt work)
2.) I never felt insecure abotu being white but now I do. What should I do? I know I can't change it or doing anything about it but it still hurts.
also I have this thing for hispanic guys and one has never liked me, so is could it be beacuse i am white?

Well joke around about his being hispanic. He should know how it feels when you start making fun of his color, and if he still doesn't get it flat out tell him "Okay, look, enough with the white crap. I'm white! So what? Get over it." Or something like that.
I do know how you feel actually. It hurts a lot. But don't lose your friend over it, it'll get better.
Best of luck.
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20f

How can you tell a guy you have your period. Lets say they started touching you, wanting to hook up ..how do you basically tell them no because you have your period without grossing or freaking them out even though they shouldn't be in the first place or even without making it awkward.

It all depends on how close you are. You shouldn't feel embarassed or awkward if you are very close to the guy you are planning to have intercourse with. But if the guy is just a hook up just gently push him away and say "I can't...not this week anyways.." He should get the hint then.
Best of luck.
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I was unsure about my sexuality and lately i do think im gay im 15 male and im really like guys ive been attracted to guys for some time im not really attracted to girls looking at guys turns me on and now im happy about being gay its normal to feel this way at my age isnt it?

Of course it is normal! :) Never be ashamed about who you like. And don't let anyone tell you different. I know a few guys who are Bisexual or gay at 15.
I am very proud of you coming out and just saying it. That takes real courage.
Best of luck.
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So my hair is a natural dark, ash blonde. I went to the salon today and picked a color (dark blonde) to fix up my roots as my color was still light from the summer. To my horror, my color came out dark brown. My hairdresser said that it should fade a little because it was not permanent, and if I wanted she could do highlights for another $25. I really do not like my hair this dark, and I do not know what to do; if I go one number lighter, it is too light and brassy and orangey. But, I'm afraid that if I do highlights it will just look bad and streaky and still do dark. Will any home dyes (ex. clairol natural instincts brass free) work without turning my hair brassy? I really don't want to pay extra to fix my hair for something that is not my fault... Please help!

No, do not home dyes because you do not know if they will work on your hair or not, it is best to ask a professional about what will work on your hair and what will not. Just go into your salon and ask them about home dyes and if they'll work on your hair.
Best of luck xx

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I want to do something new with my hair but I'm not sure what! Should I dye it darker or lighter?
Thanks!

http://tinypic.com/r/11ryk3t/7

Hello,
well i think you should maybe dye it darker, but not to dark. Just a little darker brown with some dirty blonde highlights or something. That would look really great.

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I am a 14 year old male in high school and I'm pretty sure everyone thinks that I am gay.

Around 6 months ago my male friend and I were discussing Lady GaGa and the "hermaphrodite" thing. I jokingly said that if people say she has a penis it must be true, then my friend said "Well people think you are gay, does that make it true?". I was shocked, I then said "Pfft, people don't think I'm gay" which he then said "Yeah they do. Everyone does".

In year 6 a girl asked me out who I rejected, I then went out with my previous next-door-neighbor who lived in a different state which no one believed. I then went out with some slutty chick and dumped my girlfriend for her. This chick was a huge slut and she wanted to have sex which was really weird for me at the time. So at high school I hardly ever talk to girls and just hang out with my small group of friends.

I'm a pretty shy guy, I get really quiet when I am introduced to someone who I haven't talked to much which is every girl at the school. I am pretty bad at starting conversations with people that I don't know well. I am fairly ugly but my slut ex-girlfriend said that I am "not ugly but not hot". I have really big lips which I think could contribute to the gay thing possibly.

So I don't talk to many girls, I have been asked out twice. First time I knew it was a joke because that girl was wayy to hot so I said no. Second time it was an ugly girl who my friends hated, I said no. This was all last year. This is the year where I have realized that everyone thinks I am gay. About 3 people have come up to me and asked if I was gay, and when I deny it I'm pretty sure they don't believe me. The ugly girl who I rejected told this openly gay guy to yell "Hey James, Hey James, Hey James" at me repetitively which I pretended to ignore. There is also this girl who used to like me who I never made a move on.

So what do you think I should do to prove that I am not gay? Ask out some girl? I am ugly so I don't know if I could. Please help me.

Obviously you are not ugly because girls seem to take interest in you. No, but the next time you get asked out just say yes.
The way to deal with being called gay is to just tell people you aren't, make jokes about it, and then, if they still don't believe you, ignore them. If they want to be immature just leave it at that.
Best of luck xx

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is it sinful to kiss the opposite sex.

No, not at all. In fact, it isn't sinful to kiss the same sex.
So, no, kissing the opposite sex is not bad at all.

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So my boyfriend's little brother and I go to school together. Everytime I go to his house or I see him at school he takes special interest in me and what I'm doing. He likes to play with my hair or if I'm wearing boots he plays with them and any type of jewlery I wear he takes it of and puts it back on me. I've seen him do it to several other girls but not the way he does it to me, oh yeah and he likes to touch my face a lot. The scary part is that I have more in common with him than I do with my boyfriend so I ask this...Do his feelings for me go far more then friendship and if they do, What should I do?

Yes, it seems like he does have a little crush on you. I think it would seem wrong if you broke up with your boyfriend for his little brother, but talk to his little brother about it. Tell him how things are.

Best of luck. xx

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There's this guy that I'm seeing [not exclusively in a relationship though] that goes to my college. He took a long break between high school and college and he's not a third year (I'm a first year). We've never talked about our ages or age in general. I want to say that I don't care about age, but a 9 year difference (almost 10 in January) is pretty substantial...

What are your views on this?

Hello darling,
actually I don't think age matters at all. See, I have a sister that is with a 25 year old and she just turned eighteen. As long as you two like eachother for who you are, then nothing else should matter.
Best of luck. xx

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