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Facts About Me :)>> Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY but now residing in Pennsylvania
>> 22 years of age and in college. Graduated with an Associate's Degree in Medical Administration, now working with a laboratory as a jack of all trades customer service rep, hoping to pursue a higher degree in the healthcare field.
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When I saw the dropdown for the category, I had to sit and think about it for a minute. I ended up classifying my problem as a love life problem. But, as my subject suggests, there really isn't a love life. I'm a junior. I play varsity soccer. I'm sixteen. I'm popular. I get all A's. Girls like me, but I have this problem. I can't feel anything real for girls any more. I have been led on too many times, I think. I know this sounds like I'm bitching. I'm not. I fell in love with this girl about a year ago. I just got over her, and I never had a chance with her. I'm not good-looking, and she was absolutely gorgeous. But now, I can't even think of her as a friend anymore. I can't feel anything for any of my old friends. All of my friends are leaving for college. They were seniors last year. I didn't know what I would do when this girl, Sarah, left. Now I don't even care. My question, I guess, is how do I feel something for girls again?
Hi there :]
Well like you, I have also lost feeling for friends. I'm not that interested in talking to them and if I do then okay, if I don't then oh well whatever. I just graduated high school and I think that this all has to do with the amount of things you have to keep you busy. You have athletics, school work, and you have lots of things going for you. I doubt there is a way to just suddenly poof back feelings, they just happen. Sounds corny, but when the right girl (or maybe wrong, hopefully not) comes along, you'll feel something, a spark that can develop into more and you'll notice. You're sixteen, and as teens, we change our minds quite often, or can't make up our minds. We have choices, we have time, you know. Enjoy it while you can lol, and don't rush, everything has it's own time.
Uneek :]
last night, we were up late together in person.
we started a small argument about wanting and not wanting to do sexual things with each other. then he began to cry (which he rarely does) and said that he was sorry for forcing me to do something i didn't want to. i told him it was alright, but he didn't believe me.
so today, he didn't answer my text for about 20 minutes and i was like, alright that's fine. then he texted me - "baby, i'm so sorry i didn't text you back quicker. i'm such an asshole, i should have paid more attention." i was like, what? o.O because i didn't care that he didn't reply ASAP. i can live without him texting me within 20 minutes.
it's just pretty recent.. and i don't know why he's suddenly so clingy to me. sometimes he jokes around like, "ohh you can't get out of the car until you kiss me :)".
i love him to death and i like my space. any ideas why its so sudden?
Hi :]
I think it's just that he's a nice guy. Yes, sometimes when guys see that they need to change, they become more nice and sensitive and attention giving/wanting because the stereotypical idea of a female is she wants romance, attention, lovey dovey, etc. If you don't like it, ask him whats up with the sudden change? I doubt anything fishy is going on, considering a lot of guys go through the clingy phase lol. good luck!
Uniq
I just had surgery and they gave me vicodin for the pain.
But I'm applying for a job and they require a drug test. Im pretty sure its just a mouth swab but I was wondering would it show up?
Because if it does I feel it will just complicate things and might compromise my shot at the job.
Hi there :]
Well I know that if it's a drug test and they take your urine, it will show up, and if anything just let them know BEFORE that you've just had surgery and you were taking vicodin. Show them the hospital papers, and I'm sure everything will work out. Good luck!!
Uniq :]
So I've Known Guy Since Kindergarten And We Started Dating In 6th grade and we have been very off and on and now here we are about to start high school and im dating a differnt Guy and i really really like him but the long time friend is never far from the front of my mind and i hate that. i dont know what to do, leave him behind or keep him as a friend, but i still have really strong feelings for him.
Hi there,
So you're beginning high school, which you're going to meet a ton of new people if you're very social! If you have feelings for the guy, and now you're dating someone else, then it's okay, as long as you don't act on it. Stay faithful, and make sure that you and your boyfriend are honest with each other. If your feelings for the past guy is so strong, talk it out with him, see what he says, and sometimes that helps with getting over someone, just by getting it off your chest. I honestly think you might not last with this current boyfriend seeing that life brings so many people, and being young is only once lol. But all the luck to you guys :] If after you two talk anything tries to happen, I think it would be best if you two stay as friends but keep it distant.
Uniq :]
Uniq
so i am going to start applying to colleges this fall and i have a few in mind. one is across the country. i live on the east coast and want to go to the west coast. i'm really nervous to do it though. i really want to be in the entertainment business and i feel that being closer to L.A. while i go to college would help me out.
do you think i should do it? im worried that i wont make friends because i havent made a new friend since middle school. please advise me lol
Hi :D
Yeah, going to college in an area totally unknown to you and away from family is hard. I wouldn't know from experience but I have a couple friends who have done it. Don't worry about not making friends, follow your dreams! If going to L.A is REALLY what you want, then don't let anything stop you. OF COURSE, study hard and make sure that your money isn't going to waste. Take up sports, clubs, anything and I guarantee you will meet new people, new friends, etc. Good luck, :D
Uniq
So, I'm 17 year old female and I lost my virginity about a week ago, to a friend that I've known for 2 years. Now, I find myself getting so angry at him so easily, over the silliest things. We have kind of been in an argument for the past 3 days, and I really do keep insuing it. Could this be a sub-concious kind of anger, like that I'm mentally angry at him for taking my virginity? Is that possible? I've already had my period so I know it's not those hormones. I'm just trying to figure out why Im so mad.
Hi :}
Well, I think most females feel a sort of anger when their virginity is taken by a male. Whether it was consensual or not. I believe that the anger is just caused by the fact that they have invaded your personal space. It's even stronger when it literally was the first time someone has ever seen you without clothes, or has touched you in a sexual manner. Your anger is probably because you're worried of what they thought, scared that they might go around talking about it, or maybe mad because you werent his first so there was nothing really special to it (???)... And as far as your sub-conscious goes, i definitely think it plays a major role in this situation. I lost my virginity at a young age and I felt so vulnerable, so robbed, and it just made me angry that I even let it go. It's sacred, and when someone takes it from you, you might not feel the effects until after the deed is done and you've had some time to think. If it's any consolation, don't be mad at your friend, especially if he didnt force it on you or anything. Dont be mad if hes not spreading rumors, or just being big mouthed or a braggart in general. Instead, push it to the side (trust me time will) and continue on your quest to find the man who will love you for the rest of your life (if that's what you';re trying to pursue:D). Good luck!!
Uniq
So I am really really into my next door neighbor, he's my age and we're friends. We hang out a lot . But i thought at the beginning of the summer that he might be into me and i've liked him for the past few months. My friend just told me though, that he told her he doesn't like me, his exact words were ... noo, that would just be wierd... I really feel the need to get over him because i would much rather be friends then nothing, and liking him and not being liked back will get in the way of a friendship. I have no idea how to get over him though!! whenever i see him i like him again, and i always see him, he lives next to me!! but he is on vacation for 3 weeks, now is the time to get over him, but how do i do it? I like him so much, i can't even explain it.......
Hi :]
Well, to be completely honest, there is no way to get over someone. It just naturally happens. Whether it's because someone new came along, or because you never saw them again, getting over someone is all about time. My suggestion would be to keep yourself entertained, go out with friends, meet new people, center yourself with FUN!!! Time heals everything, so for the meantime, keep yourself entertained. As far as the guy in question: when he comes back, try to avoid him. I know it sounds wrong and mean, but seeing him will only get you used to feeling the way you do... If you think you can put your feelings aside and not let it get in the way, not let it show, then feel free to hang out but not so often and IM'ing/Talking on the phone as well. Good luck, and I hope your prince shows up.
Uniq :]
difference between miss, ms, and mz?
They're all the same, just different spelling, and mz is more of a slang way of spelling it.
Ms usually is single young lady or woman
Mrs. Is married
:] Uniq
i'm fifteen and i really need money. unfortunately, my dad told me we can't even pay our mortgage let alone give me an allowance for doing chores each week. on top of that, i'm almost positive my mother is cheating. things just aren't right, we yell and my family is falling apart. i don't even know what i'm asking for but i need some advice someway.
Hey :]
Im sorry to hear your family life is in a rough patch. I've been through the same thing, so feel free to contact me if you need more people to talk to. For money, I'd suggest sell anything. You can get into selling products like Avon or Herbalife, or maybe you can work at a fast food restaurant like Wendy's or Burger King. Fellow advicenators are right, definately try restaurants.. I'd make sure to type up a resume just in case, and just look anywhere. When money is needed, any legal and decent job is worth it. Honestly, when it comes to your parents marriage, you shouldn't get in between.. But if you're sure that your mom might be cheating, let your dad know (if he doesn;t know) and perhaps you two can find out for good. It's better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all, you know? I hope everything gets better, and that all financial and family problems come to an end.
:] Uniq
I need to provide proof of MMR vaccines for the university. Unfortunatley, I have no access to records prior to 6 years-old, however, my previous doctor has proof of the 2nd vaccination (two-part series of vaccines) that I received when I was 18.
I read that infants are expected to receive the first MMR dose at or around the 1st birthday, and the second dose at around 4 years old. I did not receive the 2nd dose until I was 18, or perhaps received it again due to missing records.
My question is, if there is a long period of time passes between the first MMR dose and the 2nd dose (probably 17 years in my case), is that acceptable? Or would I need to show proof of immunity? Thanks
Hi there :]
I'm not sure how to answer your first question, but usually the mmr shots come together... As far as immunization, i believe they will need copies to be sure... Good luck :D
Uniq
im 14/f and theres this guy i like and i feel stupid about he cause we dont even know each other at all like weve never even said a word to each other befor i want to get to know him better but hes reallyshy and dosnt talk much to people he dosnt know what should i do??
Hey :]
I'd definately just plop beside him and just say:
" :) why are you so quiet?"
Hopefully he'll respond and from there you can make convo.. Im a shy person as well and from experience people tend to become friends with me that way lol. It's kind of like saying "Hey, I wanna get to know you (as a friend) but I mean no harm" hehe Good luck !!
Uniq
hi My names chloe and i broke up with my friend erin i dont know what to do when i we make friends she starts being nasty then when i play with her friends she hurts my feeling and takes away my friends what shall i do.
Hi hun :}
Well first of all friends aren't supposed to act nasty with you. A friend sticks by you even after the fights, and a friend understands. If she's taing away your friends on purpose, to hurt you, then she's not a friend. You need positive people on your side, not negative. Talk to her and if she's still mean to you, then no worries, as you grow older you meet more people and there are plenty people for you to be friends with and possibly grow close to! Good luck :}
Uniq
I bought a pair of stretch denim jeans online, and they are a little too big, but according to the size chart they are supposed to fit. If I wash them, will they draw up and fit me? I don't want to wash them if they won't draw up, because the store might not take them back.
Hi There :]
I'm not sure if this works, but I've heard that you can dry the pants without washing em, and they'll shrink. If you try, they won't know lol.. Good luck,
Uniq.
is lil wayne and weezy the same person?
Weezy F. Baby, please say the baby haha
Lil wayne on them..
haha yeah.. they are..
His random self. D:
I want to know in someones own words what they would say a rider is. My boyfriend says im not and i dont understand what im doing wrong. Id like to do anything i could to fix it and make him happy. What do i do?
Alrighty..
There is TWO ways to interpret this, and both are negative if he's saying you're not. You can be a rider as in his ride-or-die chick, meaning you will do whatever whenever however, always stick by his side whether it's killing someone or dressing up like a pumpkin and going out to the street in broad daylight.
The second one is rider as in a sexual term. I won't even go into this one, but just know that if he says you're not.. it means you're either not doing a good job on it or.. agh just ask lol.
Hope I helped
-Uniq :]
hey i just joined this and i wanted to know how to make my profile with colors and stuff
Hey
You have to go to your column settings, which is on the left of your computer screen. Under where it says "Welcome, ________". After you clicked column settings, scroll down to 'your column colors' and click the link which says they have ready made backgrounds. You can also customize at the bottom. Good luck :] and thanks for the inbox Q. Anything else feel free to contact me
_Uniq =]
let's start off with im 16, he's 17 (both juniors) and we live 20-25 mins away from each other so we only see each other on weekends. we've been dating for 9 months.
the first 6 months were amazing, he was the best boyfriend and always used to text me to see how i was doing and used to wake me up with those cute "good morning beautiful" texts and all that cute stuff to show that he cares and was thinking about me.
these past few months he never texts me anymore and i talked to him about it and asked him what was up and he said he's just been busy with school work since his grades were bad. but is it THAT hard to send a simple text at any point of time in the day? and when i text him he usually doesn't even answer. so yeah we pretty much don't even talk during the week and i don't feel like i can go on like this having this gut feeling that im with someone who doesn't even care. i've talked to him about it but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other...when we're together he's so nice but i just don't know what to do..i love him with all my heart and he's my first love and i'd be absolutely lost without him, but i don't want to do this to myself...what should i do? =[
Hi :]
This guy sounds like he needs a wake up call :/
This is where an ultimatum comes in. This should be the LAST talk you should have with him about this problem. If he says yeah i know im trying, let him know that you haven't seen a difference. Tell him you understand his education comes first, but let him know that if he doesn't at least try and check up on you everyday, it's going to end because there's no affection whatsoever. Have you told him what he was doing the first six months that you loved is what he should STILL be doing? He needs to choose, whether he can be responsible and balance both his studies and you (WHICH HE CAN!) or if he has no sense of balance and just do his studies. School is generally what? from 7 or 8 to like 2 or 3? Lets assume by 7 he's home, by 9 hw is done... After that at least an hour or two of talking.. It's not hard. Or he can simply send a text saying he'll be doing work and whatnot... Guys tend to need an ultimatum sometimes lol... Don't worry, if he chooses his studies over you, and you guys choose to be friends, he shouldn't be getting another girlfriend, since he couldn't even balance you and his studies. If he does, then wow, he isn't worth your time. Good luck hun!1
-Uniq :]
okay well to make this short i want to break up with my boyfriend of 9 months because he ignores my texts and doesn't seem to care, like i'm doing all of the planning for us to hang out and he's not contributing to it and its making me upset..i'm just tired of doing this to myself...
anyways, i want to break up with him as soon as possible but i don't know what to say and his birthday is in like 2 days so i feel bad =[ but i don't wanna keep waiting .. any advice?
oh and im also hesitant about breaking up with him because i really do love him more than anything and he's my first love and i feel like i might want to go back to him and i dont wanna put myself in that situation...=/
Hi :]
Have you tried talking to him about how you feel? If you haven't, you really should before you break up with him. Simply ask him is he happy with how you treat him, what does he like, what doesn't he like, and if he asks you back, there's your chance. If he doesn't ask back, just simply use the phrase 'I've been meaning to ask and tell you something'. Ask him his feelings since the beginning of the relationship up to now. Are they stronger? The same? Ask him to be blunt. Then let him know how you feel you put most of the work into the relationship when it comes to hanging out and communicating. Maybe he doesn't feel like he's not doing anything since you don't complain. If he doesn't even consider your feelings toward this situation, doesn't change, or refuses to hear what you have to say I'd say break up with him =/ good luck hun
-Uniq :]
hey i know california is no longer allowing gay marriage what other states allow it then???
Connecticut, Vermont, Massachusetts, and Iowa.
I think thats it lol hope i helped!
-Uniq =]
18 F
When I don't talk to him (phone, text, in person), I'm sad, ready to break up with him because I'm so scared of getting hurt. It's like I'm wondering what he's doing and my mind goes crazy.
....but when I do talk to him....
I get so happy and excited and want to be with him forever.
He does certain things that are amazingly amazing.
and then he does things that make me say WTF.
I want to break up with him when I'm not communicating with him sooo badly, but when I am I just can't do it.
WHAT do I do??????
Hi :]
Agh, this is normal...I tend to feel this way sometimes. But whatever you do, do NOT break up with him just because you guys aren't talking. It depends on what he's doing that he's not talking to you. If he's hanging out with his family or something, then there's no reason to worry. If he's with friends, then why can't he text you a little? And if he's completely hiding who he is with, well that's time to give him an ultimatum, because a healthy relationship involves communication. Hun, if you have friends, they are there for a reason! Talk to em, keep your friend life and love life balanced, and if you're not so much into your friends, then just play some games, go out for a walk, surf the net, do SOMETHING! It's all about keeping yourself entertained for the good. Does your bf come see you on the daily, or at least a few times a week? Do you guys have enough time to hang out, show some affection, and make sure that you show love to one another? Make your relationship romantic, funny, and fun :] Good luck!!
-Uniq