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Trying to get over a guy
So I am really really into my next door neighbor, he's my age and we're friends. We hang out a lot . But i thought at the beginning of the summer that he might be into me and i've liked him for the past few months. My friend just told me though, that he told her he doesn't like me, his exact words were ... noo, that would just be wierd... I really feel the need to get over him because i would much rather be friends then nothing, and liking him and not being liked back will get in the way of a friendship. I have no idea how to get over him though!! whenever i see him i like him again, and i always see him, he lives next to me!! but he is on vacation for 3 weeks, now is the time to get over him, but how do i do it? I like him so much, i can't even explain it.......
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well hun i can for sure relate. i would have to say the best way to get over him is to try and meet a new guy. but first u might want to text or call him telling him that u like him in the first place. just to make sure.
good luck though :]
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I know you never dated him, but I think this will help: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
From there:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Hi :]
Well, to be completely honest, there is no way to get over someone. It just naturally happens. Whether it's because someone new came along, or because you never saw them again, getting over someone is all about time. My suggestion would be to keep yourself entertained, go out with friends, meet new people, center yourself with FUN!!! Time heals everything, so for the meantime, keep yourself entertained. As far as the guy in question: when he comes back, try to avoid him. I know it sounds wrong and mean, but seeing him will only get you used to feeling the way you do... If you think you can put your feelings aside and not let it get in the way, not let it show, then feel free to hang out but not so often and IM'ing/Talking on the phone as well. Good luck, and I hope your prince shows up.
Uniq :]
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