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I come from a small town in New York called Fulton. not many people in our high school maybe 300 something. But I still love it here. I am most like any other 17 year old girl but I am not all that girly, I grew up with all guys except my best friend who I meet when I was 6. I love to dance, I also love the UFC! I am the biggest dork ever and I just dont care beucase I love it! There are very few people in this world that I love with all my heart. I still act like a little kid most of the time. I can't stand people who are fake and who casue drama. I get along with just about everyone and I tell it like it is.

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Tips on focusing on reading with out distracting with train thoughts and others

well go into a room with no one eles in there and just sit there and start reading try to think that you are the main character and try to picture what is going on in the book in your head.

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ok well is it possible for someone just to not be able to get fit and have a suuuper flat stomach b.c my family is a heavier set family and idk i was jwww is it possible?

well anyone can be fit it just all depends on how much your work out to how much calories you take you in. In my opinion girls dont all that great who are super skinny anyways its better to look healthy then anything eles. My family is a heavy set one too and I am not over weight and i do have a tummy but its not that all that big. I just work out a whoel bunch and watch what i eat. but yes it is possible to.

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when a girl likes a guy, & the girl is kinda sure he
likes her, what should the girl do to make the guy
know that she likes him back / thinks he's hot?
nothing like, tell him you like him. a list of do's/
dont's would be per- fecttt. :] thanks SO much in advance!

Well you should firlt with him alot and try to also be near him but not to clingy just mess around and smile at him alot, always laugh at his jokes, when you get the option hit him lightly, try to always touch him in someway like a pat on the arm mess with his hair, etc. If he asks you what you think about how he is dressed or what not tell him he looks great guys like it just as much as girls. be really nice to him and when you are with him dont notice other guys all that much but dont stay 100% focussed on him more about 60%.

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Listen, most of my bffls are moving this summer, and i have alot of picture books, but i dont have any money for a camera. What should I do? Should I just leave with no memory or what.

P.S. I'm really scared for my closest bffl, because we have known each other since 2nd grade. Ill miss her the most, what should I do?

well you should see if one of your parents would buy you a couple of disposable camera's that are pretty cheap. then you can go get them devloped and put the pics in your photo albums. Or if one of them have a camra have them take the pics and see if you can go print them out.

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How do you download songs off rhapsody? not just listen to them, but the actual $.99 downloads that you can play all the time because I can't figure out how it's driving me crazy!

If you want to download music for free there are many sites you can go to. ex.limewire, kazaa... etc. but if you want to buy music i suggest itunes, that should be ten times easier then rhapsody.

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I'm sorry for the innapropriate question, but after searching Advicenators.com I couldn't find an answer for my question. What are somethings my boyfriend and I can do for fun? He's fingered me, but unless he gets it just right it doesn't get me all excited and hot. I want to know somethings we can do to each other to turn each other on. (Not going all the way though, thanks)

Also, after he fingers me for a long time, it really starts to hurt. Is this okay?

yes im sure this is normal, well sometimes you ahve to do some stuff to have funn and just dont do it alot beucase then it will get boring like try some other stuff. There is always oral too. You should also try talking dirty and see what he is in too.

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i go to an all girl school and im not a lesbian. ive been fine with no boys for a while, but when i fisted my old school i realized how much i missed boys. I really want a boyfriend, and i know someguys, but they're like my family, and i just want to meet a guy so we can go out becasue im so lonely. Plus i like this guy, but hes younger than me, and my family and his family are good friends, and it would be awkward. I really need help on what to do to get a boyfriend, and how to deal with the guy i like!....

well there is always going to the local mall and looking there. or if you really want to go out with this guy and he likes you too just go for it dont worry about the age. And I had this friend who dated her best friend and they were perfect for a couple of years then they spilt thoes to arent great friends but the families are fine. So before dating the guy try going and checking out guys at the mall see if your friends that go to public school have any school dances and see if you can go with them and check out the guys there.

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Well next year I'm going to go to high school so I'm finally the right age (14 hopefully) to get a job. What kind of jobs do you think will be good as a first job? No fast foods. Something good for the community or somethign with a really good pay?

When should I apply? In the start of thsi summer? Beginning of the year when school starts?

well most people dont get jobs until they are about 16, most places wont hire beucase you are only 14 unless you have some really good conections at that place. but you still want to try you will probly start at the start of summer. and it all depends on where you live and what is around your community for jobs.

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Hey, Well, I'm 13/f and in about January, I dated someone, for about a day, if you really wanna get technical, that I had met twice before that time. He cheated on me, with his previous girlfriend, and obviously, we broke up after that. He never told me he cheated on me, I found out becuase his previous girlfriend put 'I love you ----" in her profile. So, then I found out. Yeah, but, now it seems that I still like him, more than ever actually, and I can't get over him. I haven't seen him since the one night I saw him while we were going out.

What's wrong with me?!

Nothing is wrong with you, first off. I once went through a realtionship that ended when the guy cheated on me. It sucks yes, and the main reason you cant get over him is becuase you still have thoes feelings for him and its beucase you dont understand what went wrong and if you havent seen him since, you will get over him and before you know it you will be on to someone eles it may feel like the end but remember you are only 13 and have that much more ahead of you it will take time to get over him yes, but I am sure you will. And there will be a better guy that will come along.

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I have heard that Tampax pearl leave particles inside of you and are bad for you. Is that true?

I use tampax pearl and i have never had a problem like that or heard anything like that.

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Alright so, my hair is so out of control. It's really wavy and frizzy and poufy. Lately I've been shampooing it twice and conditioning it twice in the shower and leaving the conditioner in. I found taht if i put gel products in, my hair looks really nice, but it gives me really bad dandruff and its really embarrasing. Also, right now im using hair spray, but that also gives me dandruff.Does anyone know of a hairspray or something taht doesnt give dandruff? thanks in advance!

First of all it isnt heathly to wash your hair that much. bring it down to once a day or one the weekends when you arent doing anything dont wash it. and switch to head and shoulders or Selsun Blue or something that had dandruff control on the bottle, most of the time dandruff is caused by not enought mosture to you hair and gel and hair spray dry your hair. so just cut down on washing your hair and use shampoo and conditioner that is for dandruff and it should work.

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my best friend maria and i are in the biggest fight of our history of fights.....she even told me that she didnt want to be my friend...now i fell guilty for what i said...i said that she annoys me. all she ever talks about is her boyfriend, soccer, and how much she loves this guy seth and how much she hates these girls madison and adriane. i really want to be her friend cause she is the best friend i have ever had....i even said that i dont think her boyfriend is real and she wrote me this note saying that she dosent want to be my friend. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! I AM SO AFRAID TO TELL HER THAT I AM SORRY CAUSE I AM AFRAID THAT SHE WILL SAY THAT SHE HATES ME OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!

well you gotta just explain to her mostly how you are feeling and say you are sorry it will help alot and try and make a peace offering. but in the future when she needs to vent sometimes no matter how annoying it is if you are her true best friend you will be there to listen to her. and when you need to vent about people or anythign she will be there for you.

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im abouuuutt 5'6 and i weight like 147 i do lots of sports im nto really fat but i find myself veryy chubby haha. oh and im 13. lol okk so whats a healthy weight for me? and about how many calories a day is healthy?

a healthy weight is about 140 to 150 so its pretty much good for your height i am 5 5 and i am 130. it mostly doends on the height and age and you are 13 which you are going throught changes and you thin out once you get older too.

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i'm going to apologize now, this is long. okay well first off, my parents are divorced. second, i do not talk to my dad whatsoever. i have many reasons but above all that, i can't stand him. except he lives down the street from me. i have been living full time at my mom's house for 2 years now. and all of a sudden, she wannts to move like 6 states down south to south carolina.i told her i don't want to move because 1)my boyfriend. i'd miss him so much. 2)i hate the beach and warm weather 3) i just bought a brand new 600$ snowboard.. theres no snow there... and i have 4 new snowmobiles 4) and of COURSE all of my friends. i love my friends. they are great, and always keep me laughing. yes, i make friends easily but i don't want new ones. i love mine. i'm 13/f by the way. and my mom said that she REALLY wants to move to south carolina. so that means theres a really good chance we are moving. my mom said i have two choices if we move: i can live with my dad (hell no), or two, make new friends and move. i don't know what to doo!!!!! yes i want to move but not fricken to south carolina!!!!!!!!! i want to move to the next town over. what should i do about this situation ?

well you are only 13 and you may you love your boyfriend now but there will be boys in South carolina and if you cant stand you dad and dont want to live with him you have one option to move that is that sucks yeah but you will make new friends and you are only 13 and in life even if you dont move you dont keep the same friends, but just htink about moving like a brand new start and come on the beach is awsome tons of hottie guys with hottie boddies all works out! and you can always come back for vactions.

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I'm looking for some new books to read. I go through like a book a week, and I'm running out of books. I'm 15/F. I like fantasy/romance type books. Does anybody have any suggestion for any books/authors that are good?

i really like the uglies trilogies by scott westerfeld.

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where can i touch a girl to turn her on??

well start making out and just start feeling her up but not to much. try touching her on the stomach near the pant line or up the shirt near her boobs and then while kissing her lay down and you get on top and kiss her neck and work your way down her neck. to her boobs and then kiss them and come back up just dont go to far beucase then she will only think you are in it for the sex and you have to make her want it.

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Okay, I make out with my boyfriend every now and again..but it gets boring really fast. What can I do to keep it more..enjoyable? is that word? no..uhm. less boring. i suppose.

thanks.

well what me and this guy would do was jsut kinda joke about while kissing or make funny faces while kissing, or if you want to get more sexual start feeling eachother up. that always works too. hope i helped ya.

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im 14/f right now (almost 15) im in 9th grade. ever since i was about 10/11ish i've been liking alot of guys. in the beginning of last year (when i was 13) i fell really hard for this guy and we were pretty good friends too. i'm trying so hard not to like him (because well i asked him if he liked me and he said he didn't but all of his friends said he liked me but i dont know) anyways, i've never liked anyone else since i fell for him. and i'm even trying to like someone else to forget him but it isnt working. is this normal? what should i do? please any advice on this topic will be very appreciated :]

well Its been about two years, and well he could like you because most guys wont admit it to the girl that they like them. If all of his friends says that he does then he probly does. and yes this is very normal, your not gunna like anyone eles no matter how hard you try just beucase you have your heart set on him. and you cant change no matter how hard you want to. It kinda jsut has to run its corse almost. give it time and look at other guys. and you might just have to talk to him less even if you dont want to.

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13/f

when a guy says to you "what's up?" and you normally don't talk to him... are you supposed to say "good" or "hey"?

Like.. is the phrase "whats up" supposed to be asking the person how they are doing?? or is that phrase just saying Hi in a different way?

its more both, just say something like, "hey, not much, what about you?" and just take it from there.

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I need to find hobbies my boyfriend and I could do every week. Any ideas? :)

well there is always hanging out at one of yours house just watching a movie, that is funn. or ther is going to the movies or go outside and just play some one on one basketball, or whatever his and your fav sport is. you two can get togther with another couple and go bowling or just go with the two of you.

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