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ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do? (link)
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I'm glad to hear that you have been making progress. I think that maybe in his mind, he wanted to "try something different" as in a new relationship. It is possible that it is a rebound, but you can not be sure. No matter what you may feel, you WILL eventually get over it, but that is only if you allow yourself to. I think you should keep on doing what you are now, keep working on yourself and getting over him. Seeing him in school will be hard, but you just have to try and be strong about it and as time goes on, it will be easier to deal with. As far as him calling to apologize, it depends on what kind of guy he is. If he is stubborn, then most likely he wont. Only you know how he really is and you can be the judge of that. If you don't want to talk to him until he breaks up with her, then you will not know when you will get the answers you are looking for. I think in order for you to completely get over this, you should ask him for answers now and not have this as a black cloud hanging over your head. Take things slowly, and when/if you get to talk to him, try to keep a calm, collective tone so things don't get out of hand, and you don't push him so far away that he won't give you the information you are looking for. If you need to talk more about this, or have more questions, feel free to contact me.
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Okay, so the last time i had sex was about 2 months ago. (He did not ejaculate at all, the sex did not last more than 10 minutes) I got my period last month, and the month before, but right now, my period starting about between a week and 2 weeks 2, i feel bloated, and it feels like gas bubbles are in my stomache a lot lately for the past 3 days. I've checked sites to see the symptoms, and I have none of the symptoms, but I am just worried. Should I worry? Or do you think it's just my period, or something else? (link)
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In my own opinion I dont think you should worry too much. Of course people will say, "you can never be sure" so if you want, get it checked out. But I personally dont think you should worry too much about it. Your body could just be acting funny and it could have to do with you losing weight.
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what are the bases like 1st base,2nd base,3rd base and home. i'm sure i know what home is but if you could tell me what they are i would be happy (link)
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I'm not really sure what the "bases" are. Yes, we all know what home is. If I had to guess, i'd say first is like kissing, second a little more than that perhaps with touching, third i would assume to be very close but not yet "home". Sorry if I didn't help too much, but I never really heard of that being explained. Could just go my someones own opinion (such as mine) lol.
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my boyfriend fingers me and i was wondering if i should shave down ther of if i should leave it the way it is. i don't think he really minds it. but i would like to know should i shave down the re or just leave it like it is?
thanks for your help! (link)
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If HE doesnt mind, then its up to you. Do you feel comfortable the way it is now? If not then you can shave. I dont really think u should worry too much about it. If you want to, then go ahead.
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Hey Courtney! I am 18f and in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and I can't see my life without him. Recently he's been talking about us getting married and i think that's great. I would love to marry him but the thing is that i am not ready to do that NOW and im scared that he will propose to me and i dont want to tell him no.
How do i tell him that i would like to marry him but not now? I think we are young and should wait a few years. I know you have a good relationship to and i'd like to know how do you feel about this?
Thanks in advance...ps: I think you're really pretty! (link)
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I understand where you are coming from. I think what you need to do is tell him exactly what you told me. From what it seems, he will understand. It would be bad if you didn't bring this up, and he asked you and you say no. It's better to talk about it in advance so that you both know where you are coming from.
Yes, I am in a very good relationship also. I feel the same way that you do about it. I think maybe waiting until you are a bit older is the better choice. (18 is kinda young for all that stuff) If you are in love, then it shouldn't matter to wait a bit, we are all so young! lol
PS: Thanks for the compliment!! :)
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what is the different between different types of slides for guitar? glass, chrome, etc.? what is the sound difference? (link)
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Glass slides have a mellow sound, but they are more fragile and can break. Metal slides are sturdy and produce a sharper sound. I would avoid chrome slides because they give you a thinner, colder sound. Try on a slide and test it on a guitar in the store before purchasing it to make sure it fits and you like the sound.
Also watch the diameter of the slide, it should be tight enough not to roll about, but wide enough for you to be able to brace your finger against the inside of it, to have more control over the pressure you put on the strings.
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What do I do if my friend's boyfriend is starting to get physically abusive towards her? Like he always "play" hits her but he goes out of control and keeps "playing" even though she's saying stop. The other day she told me he hit her for real. She barely did anything and he hit her on her face and arm. I personally want to kill him. But what can I tell her? Because she really loves him. That's why she has stayed with him that long. Everytime she calls me she always has something to say about something that he did and tonight when she called me it really made me sad/mad for her. So someone please give me some tips on what to say to her or do for her... Thanks =/ (link)
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I don't think you are taking this too hard. It is obvious that you care about your friend a lot, and that is a great thing for someone to have. You should sit her down and tell her everything that you feel about her situation. But what you shouldnt do, is get mad or question her too much about why shes still with him or why she hasnt done anything. Dont do anything to condem her for it (which im sure you probably wouldnt purposely) because she will shut herself off from you and not tell you when/if he hits her again. Just be the best friend you can and try to help her see that its not right for him to be that way towards her.
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I have had unprotected sex a lot and my boyfreind had accidentaly ejaculated inside me before quite a few times and while im on my period he always does because i've never gotten pregnant.. does this mean that i'll never get pregnant? is something wrong with me?
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You are really lucky. You can never be 100% sure that you wont get pregnant if that keeps happening. My best advice is to be more careful so you wont have to worry about it. I hope everything is okay with you. If you are really worried there could be something wrong with you, go to the gyno to get checked out. You are more than likely okay, just didnt happen to get pregnant those times.
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hi..i want to know exactly how they give you brithcontrol...if i would for example go to the doctor what would i have to get done to get it...blood tests or pap smear????i heard you dont need to get a pap smear until you start having sex...i havent yet but i am planning to and i want to get birth control..
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You do not need to take a blood test. Having a pap smear is not necessary unless you've been sexually active for a long amount of time (but that could differ depending on your doctors practice). They will tell you about how it works, how to take it, and the risks of being on it. Then they will give you the pills and after you understand everything, you will be on your way!
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my boyfriend is wants to have sex, and, im cosidering it. im 15, am i old enuff? i know about being safe and all, and i dont need to be lecture about how its not right cause the bible says its rong, im not religiouse. i just dont know if im old enuff to be having sex. (link)
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Its not all about age. Its about if you think you are really ready and mature enough to handle what could come of you being sexually active. Be sure you are certain you want to make that decision before anything, because you don't want to regret it later. If you feel you are, then good luck.
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so i put a tampon in for the first time .. i got it in real easy like it didnt hurt or anything. but like when i took it out it felt so weird.. it didnt like hurt but it felt like an "ah that felt weird" kidna feeling. like i dont know if its suppose to feel that way or if the tampon is supose to just gently slide on out or if u have to pull it out with some strength (link)
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Thats normal. What probably gave you that "funny" feeling was because u were tense while taking it out. If you just relax they go in and come out easier. They will not get lost inside of you. You just need to get used to it.
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I have thought about having sex with my boyfriend!!! but then it seems like it would hurt really badly!!! so what can I do just to keep it from just being so painful!!!
Plz help me!!!
Signed Helpless!!! (link)
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Try not to worry about it too much. If you get too tense about it, then it will hurt more than usual. Of course it might hurt initially (everyones different) but if it does, it will go away quickly.Good luck!
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ok all of my friends are having sex (and there all around 15 and 16, and i am 15.) And I don't feel like people our age are ready to have sex yet...but all of my friends are telling me how much fun it is, and they kept telling me how i need to lose it. I kept telling them that i'm not ready, but they keep pressuring me to have it. How can I get it throgh there head that i'm not ready and I don't want to lose it untill i'm ready? (link)
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You really shouldnt waste so much time trying to convice them about your way of thinking. Just tell them once and tell them that you don't appreciate them pressuring you about it. If they keep on, just ignore them. You should stick to your values. Only you know when the time will be right for you. Don't worry about it. You will be glad that you waited.
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im not sure weather or not to shave below .. i know ill be doing something soon becuase im kidna getting close to this boy and everytime we see each other we make out but it never got any further. but i think hes going to be going down or something and i wanna be ready .. and i dont know if i should shave all of it off.. help please ... rating (link)
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Its really up to you. I really dont think that he will be picky about something like that. He will probably be more focused on the fact that he's getting SOMETHING. So really, its your decision. Do what you think will make you feel the best about it.
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