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if anyone has heard of 3gforfree.com, then please help :] its the wesbite you can go to on your phone and get free ringtones or games. anyways, i cant do that with my new phone company, so if you know what that is..is there any other sites i can go to that would have all free stuff? i have verizon by the way. thank you!

I know what 3gforfree.com is, and I think it stinks. The songs are free, yes, but most of them are old ringtones that no one wants. I know not of any other similar ringtone sites. Most of them say they're free and make you pay. Sorry.
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i've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, but he lives far away. recently, i discoverd that there is another boy that likes me and i sort of like him too. he kissed me the other day and now i'm really confused. any suggestions?

When you are in a relationship with someone who lives further away, it is common to get bored. I am guessing you are young. If this is the case, I encourage you to play the fields and date this other guy.
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I've been reading up on lip irecings, I've wanted one since 6th grade, and I'm now in 9th. (14/f) alright, well my grandmother won't take me to a professional due to one being so far, and she really doesn't want me to have one. My mother, well, she'll go all crazy on me if I get it done, but I don't live with her, so yeah, after the swelling/redness goes down, I can tell her its my fake one. Ok so the main point, I'm thinking of getting a piercing kit and letting my best friend do it. Please don't yell at me & tell me to do it professionally, as I said, I've been reading. I absolutely refuse to do it myself. I've read all the risks, but nowhere actually tells you the chances of these risks...Does anyone know? And if you pierced yourself, how'd it go ?

I have had my lip pierced twice, both times professionally. I did, on the other hand, have a friend pierce my nose. Most people would say not to do that, but I have pierced someone's lip for them before. It really is quite simple. Just be sure to keep it clean and don't play with it too much. Germs on your hands can cause an infection.

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what do i get my boyfriend for christmas... i have no clue. please help!!!

p.s. he;s 15

I know first hand that a boyfriend is the hardest person to shop for. You want it to be just right. For my boyfriend's birthday, I bought him a couple of shirts from a store he frequently shops at and some very nice cologne. If you are still not sure, a gift card works nicely. Also, a cute gift that you made yourself would probably mean a lot. If you gave him a framed picture of the two of you and baked him some cookies, I think that make warm his heart (and fill his tummy!).
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how old do you have to be to get birth control without your parent's consent?

I really don't think you need parental consent to get birth control. However, I do encourage you to talk to your mom or dad. If you call your local health department, they will be able to answer your questions about the age requirements.
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I have a Logitech Webcam, it's a circle shape, and it's blue and white.


Well, when I got on webcam, my boyfriend could put me on Fullscreen? and I don't know how to do it on my computer, or on the Logitech window, it doesn't say anything. Not even when I'm on it, it doesn't say I can? Just Small and Large view, and it's on the Large, and it's not even big, or fullscreen.

How can I put it on fullscreen? Or even can I? Or just my friends?

I have a Logitech webcam, and my program does not go full-screen. All of that depends on the software you have. Logitech must not offer that feature.
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well im 13 years old and i have a boyfriend who is 4 years older than me...i really like him but i just cant trust him..he tells me he loves me constantly and u can tell he means it but I’m scared.....like a month ago i met this guy who is 5 years older than me .he is hella cool and we always talk. we are friends wit benefits.....I'm falling for him fast and hard .im planning on having sex wit him .but I feel kinda wrong …..what should I do im stuck i love both of them…….

If you're in this situation that you can't choose between the two, you are not in love with either of them. Being in love with someone is an emotion that has no questions. I advise you not to have sex at such a young age. Being so young impairs your thinking. Having fun and making good decisions don't always come hand-in-hand. Also, I know this is hard to hear, but chances are that a boy so much older is just looking for someone to sleep with. Please give it some more thought.
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What are some ways that you REALLY know your in love? From your personal point of veiw.. what are some ways you just know your in love?

I am in love with my boyfriend, and I know this because I care about him more than I care about myself. Even when we fight, I miss him. I also know that he would do anything for me. Don't let anyone tell you that you're too young to be in love, because love is blind and knows no age.
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i think i might have been fingered but i'm not sure if it was just touching. how do you know?also can you get anything from fingering/bjs

Being touched and actually being "fingered" are two different things. If he actually put his fingers inside your vaginal area, then yes, you were fingered. Other than that, it was just sexual rubbing. As far as "getting anything," I am pretty sure fingering is safe. Blow-jobs are not, however. Herpes can come from oral sex.
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Is anyone a secret shopper? How does one become a secret shopper? Do you get free stuff in exchange with your feedback on the store and its customers? How does it all work?

Usually, a secret shopper is someone who looks for shoplifters in the store at which they work. If someone sees a police man, they are much less likely to steal than if they are just around a person that appears to be a customer. I am not sure how to become a secret shopper, but I am sure you could google it.
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is it weird that i like to finger myself?

Masturbation is considered healthy by most doctors and people, so no, it is not weird. However, it may be a weird conversation to bring up during dinner.
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can you get 2 different phone plans? like my mom has a cellular one contract but i want verizon. can she have both plans?

You can have two phone plans, but the more sensible thing to do would be to have just one. They have the family plans and whatnot that make it cheaper to add another line.
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My face..I don't know in my eyebrow area it's kinda like dandruff but on my face which I guess is skin falling off because it's dry.

You might tell me to moisturize my skin or put lotion on it but the thing is, my face is really oily AND really dry! =/

I do wash my face a lot but i reduced it to 3 times a day and it still isn't helping. I'm scared if I put lotion on my face it'll get even more oily.

It's really gross and distracting, some of it getting stuck on my hair and bangs, just gross.

Help please!

If you are using regular bath/body soap to wash your face, that is most likely the problem. You must use a soap that is specifically for washing your face, or it tends to make your skin flaky.
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i have a video on my myspace that i uploaded from photobucket, and my friend put the same exact one on her myspace but it's smaller...and i was wondering how i could make it smaller on my myspace..? thanks.

In the code for the video, there are places that say "width" and "height." Is you replace these numbers, it will resize your video.
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This is probably a stupid question but I'm deadly serious, is there a way that you can pick your gender of a baby?

And I'm wondering how does your stomache decide to create a boy or a girl? Is it by something inside that decides? If so, how?

There are medical ways to better chance the sex of your baby. I actually have a book that is titled How To Choose The Sex Of Your Baby. There are various ways listed in this book. Some have to do with position, stress and even time of ovulation. You may be able to Google this.
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where my part is, i have long flyway hairs that stick up. i want a product thats light and it doesn't make your hair look/feel digusting. any ideas?

In my opinion, any Aussie product is good to use. If you buy something for frizz, that should tame those hairs.
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Is there a way to put a youtube video on your myspace? If so, how?

If you go to the page of the video that you want, there are different codes beneath it. Copy the one that says "embeded," or something of that sort. You then just paste it on your MySpace in whatever area you desire.
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well i guess this isnt really sex, but it was close enough haha.
alright so recently i got fingered for the first time by my boyfriend that i realllly like a lot, but the problem is i dont see wht the big deal is. like i dont really seem to enjoy it. It feels weird, even. like it doesnt feel good, like people say it does. i dont know if its because its the first time ive ever done anything like that and i need to just get used to it, or if hes doing something wrong.

and im really like sexually attracted to him, so thats not the problem


please please help, i would really appreciate it :)

14/f


You may have been uncomfortable with the situation, or maybe he just isn't very sexually-skilled... There really is no way for anyone else to help.
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how do i put icons as my photo captions?

You need to first go to an image-hosting site. Tinypic is good for this because the URLs are usually short. Go to edit your captions, and paste where you would type your caption in. Where it says "URL of icon here," past the code from Tinypic. Make sure it is the one that starts with http:// because Tinypic gives you more than one code.
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Does anyone know a page where I can look at a bunch of DIV layouts?


Please give me sites, Thanks
I've been searching everywhere, and haven't found the right layout

If you are talking about a MySpace layout, this site has some DIVs:

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=124245569
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