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One of my really good friends has been really really depressed ever sence her and her bf broke up. A few days ago she started to cut herself.I am really worried about her. Only me and a few of her friends know that she is doing it. I really want her to stop it because I am scared that she is going to do something she will regret. It hurts me a lot to see her like this. I am in practically the same situation that she is in. I want to help her and we always talk about it. ButI feel like there is not much I can do for her right now but try and always be there for her. What should I do?

this is a very delicate situation... i have gone through having to help friends during suicide attempts so i know how it feels. You need to talk to her serioulsy... and tell ehr exactly what you told us. If worst comes to worst tell your school conselour that you would like to set up a meeting with her. Talk to her about it and ask her if she could talk to your friend. it might seem like a betryal of trust but eventualy she will see that you did something great for her.

-beccers_boo

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15/f
I no some people might think I am gross for say this but I am afraid I am a lesbian... but I am not sure. I like this one guy (from the inside out) but then I see a girl and think she is hot. I sometimes even have dreams about me making out with a girl. If I am one, I am afraid my close friends know by the way I act and maybe even my mom. Please help me to find out if I am one, and I don’t think it is an identity crises. and maybe give me a website to do some research. Thanks

holy curd i know so many peopel who haeve had this problem. I dont htink it is gross at all. You might be bi... where you like girls and guys... and there is nothing wrong with that. I thkn some girls are pretty... but not in that way. but i am not a lesbian. I tell all my friends pretty i mean it is a confidence booster. Just becuasr you think someone is pretty doesnt mean you have feelings for them. you really nned to ask your self woul dyou feel comfortable dating a girl kissing one? also i recamed
by the way i was NEVER a lesbo OR a bi. http://www.tiscali.co.uk/lifestyle/agonyaunt/
question1006.html

-beccers_boo

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My friend moved out to Colorado a year ago. I'm 15/f and he was my best friend. Yesterday he told me he had sex for the first time. Which is totally different from when he lived here. He never would have done it. I understand that he changed because of the different people. I get that. But, its just the fact that sometimes, when I talk to him online, he's drunk. And alone. When he's sad, he tells me he WANTS to be drunk. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my best friend.
What should I do? Just get over it?

You need to talk to him... in person i think. He seems to need a friend becuase ovbiously he is goign through changes and hard times. Just be there for him and comfort him try to not let him get drunk.

-beccers_boo

also i would say AA meetings

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Does anyone know of any good blush that stays on all day without having to reapply it all the time? Or does anyone know how to get regular blush to stay on all day? Like putting lotion on ur face first or something?

Heres what i do i uese clinique blush. I apply alot of it. I smile a closed lipped smile and go from the crases of the smile to the ears. i covere everything from the creases to the ears in blush darker by the creases getting lighter as you go to the outside of the face. once you stop smiling rub your hands over it to give it a natural look and feel. it stays on all day for me and looks adorable i think.

-beccers_boo

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Hey I have natrually thick wavy hair a few inches past my shoulders..and I try and scrunch it all the time...but I always have a few problems. I have a lot of hair products ( Scrunch spray, curl revial spray, moose, scrunching gell, regular gell..a lot more ) and I don't know which one is the best to use. Also it's really poofy when I scrunch it..any tips? Thanks so muchhh!

I would suggest try a different one each time you want ot do it and find the best resuts... also look for any kind of hints on the bottel such as " easy to use " etc.

-beccers_boo

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I'm and 18 year old female,not a newbie to having sex, about 3 diff partners including my current boyfriend... thing is, whenever I have sex, no matter who it is or what position (guy or girl-I'm bi) I just get nothing from it. Not even the beginnings of an orgasm. I do okay on my own, I'm satisfied anyway, but when it comes to sex I have to fake it since I just can't get there. It feels good, and I enjoy the act just no climax ya?

Anything I can do about this?

Well if there is no satisfaction why to do proceed doign it. If you dont get anything then all you are doing is risking getting pregnet.I advise you to stop have sex!

-beccers_boo

oh yea and you anwer your question in my feedback book yes i am 13.

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Ok, me and my boyfriend had sex only twice this month, both times we used a condom and I'm not on the pill or anything. The condoms didnt break, rip or tear. But however, my period tomorrow will be a week late. I don't know if I'm just over reacting because we did have sex and I haven't gotten it yet. But theres no way poissible right if the condom didnt break for me to be pregnant is there? What should I do just siot around and wait for my period to come?
Thank you all sooo much

Even if the condom DIDN'T break there is still a possibility that you could be pregent. I would advise talking to your boyfriend about the possibility and gogin to see the doctor together.

-beccers_boo

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Today I was sitting in class and I just picked up this needle thing and started running it up and down my arm. I don't know why but then I started scratching myself with it really badly so that I had marks all over my arm. After school, my boyfriend saw but he made a joke of it. I think I did it because I want attention because my parents don't really give me any. I was really upset that my boyfriend didn't care, does it show that he doesn't care about me? Everybody that saw what I had done just ignored me.

Well it could mean he didnt car ebut things like this scare people... it frightens them to know that your hurtuing yourself. They nmight try to make a joke out of it becuase they want it o be a joke... they dont want to belivev it is true.

=beccers_boo

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Hi. My names Kylie and this is my situation. I live with my older sister because my dad left and my mom died when I was born. I'm 13 and she’s 29. Anyways when I was 4 one of her friends was watching me while she went out and he was touching me sexually. I didn’t tell her and the next time he babysat me he did it again. He did it 4 different times that I can remember. Anyways I never told my sister about it. And they’re still really good friends today. He comes all the time so I see him a lot. And I feel really awkward around him. What I'm wondering is should I tell my sister about it? I don’t know if shed believe me and if she did I don’t know if shed do anything about it. I know its sexual abuse but can he actually get in trouble for it? Like since it happened a long time ago?

Please reply. I really don’t know what to do here.
Please email me if you think you can help.
hollisterhunni0628@yahoo.com

- Kylie

If something like this happeend to your sister would you want her to tell you. Would YOU do something abotu it. I think so. You should definitly tell her. The only problem is how. i would say when the 2 of you ar eon really good terms... you just need to comfront her. Tell her your sob story... and how confused you were and tell her everything. Hopefully she will do something baout this disgusting friend of hers.

beccers_boo

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there is this girl i like that doesnt know i like her...ive only told 1 person that i like her and thats my best friend...how do i tell her i like her besides getting sum1 else 2 tell her...wut im tryin 2 say is im 2 shy around her and stuff and each time i try 2 talk 2 her i get choked up...got ne advice?

Well alot of guys are like this around girls... but you know girls are lke this around guys as well. You dont nesicaraly have to ask her to her face... you could do it rhgouh a sweet note that you pass to her in the hall... or like find out when ehr birthday is and give it to her in a card... something klike that. When yo uare around her you just need to relax and act normal... trust me once you get it over with it is worth it knowing if she likes you or not.

-beccers_boo

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