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Q: I think I might be depressed... Im not sure though. It's like, I'm dreading the future and I don't see a point in life. I haven't had an recent family deaths or anything, I just really don't see a point. I mean, I can't help but think, 'so what?' if I'm not here. All I have to look forward to is more and more stress. It never ends, and it just gets worse. I have friends, but recently my two best friends stopped talking to me randomly so I feel like I don't have anyone I can talk to. I always feel like I'm not good at anything, or there is always someone better. There are so many things I want to change about myself, such as my soccer ability, my weight, my grades, etc., but I don't have the will to work for it! How do I get motivated? The one thing I always loved to do and was actually good at was writing, but now I don't even feel like doing that anymore. I know I have to work to make my dreams come true, but I'm too lazy! Or I just don't have the will, but I hate that I just waste away my days. I just feel so invisible, though. No one notices me because I'm always around someone better. I'm 15...
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Well you don't have to have anything traumatic happen to you to be depressed. It's a normal thing for teenagers to go through, you need to find activities that make you happy, or ask your parents to bring you to a therapist. Therapy can do a lot of good, there maybe underlying issues that making you depressed, or it maybe merely chemical and medicine may help. Just keep pushing yourself to do the things you love, and don't try to get so down on yourself. The more you focus on the bad things, the more it's going to effect you.
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Q: I went out with some friends not long ago. There were lots of guys who came to talk and flirt with me. And, even though it was a huge confidence boost, I didn't want them to. Which is what I don't get. I wanted to have a one night stand but, when I had LOTS of chances, I didn't take them. And now I regret it but, deep down, I know that if I was there again I'd probably do the same thing. What's wrong with me?
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There is nothing wrong with you. Why would you want to have a one night stand? Do you really want a one night stand? Or would you benefit from a stable long term relationship. Figure out what you want first, if guys keep flirting with you, flirt back have fun, but figure out what you really really want first. One night stands can be risky, (STD's, pregnancy, emotional problems...etc.) just make sure you know what your getting into. There is a reason you didn't go for it in the first place. Just think about this before you do anything.
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Q: Hi. Okay, I've been going out with this friend of mine who i like SO much for about 2 months now. I know that he likes me a lot too, but the thing is we're both shy. Now, his previous gf who was horrible for him said after their first and only kiss that he's an "okay" kisser. I want to shoot her. why? because now after we have had our first kiss, we talked and he said he wasnt ready. she sayin that lowered his confidence lol. I was able to tell, so i never really pressured him to kiss me after God knows how long i've waited. ive told him that i really couldnt give a crap about what she says b/c he really is a good kisser!! and also, i thought i should just kiss him, but im also too shy, and because i dont want him to think that im pressuring him. thats the last thing i want to do. but i dont want us to be in a relationship together where we only had one kiss. im not saying i want a daily makeout session, but just that he feels comfortable to kiss me when he wants to. so what i want to know is what the hell should we do? what should i do? i know i should just suck it up and make the move but i cant! what advice would you give me for that too? any help is good. thanks!
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Just tell him how he makes you feel when he kisses you, since this other girl lowered his confidence, you can help him by boosting his confidence by telling him how kissing you makes you feel. Or maybe start by just kissing him on the cheek, and when you feel comfortable, kiss him on the lips. If he's not completely comfortable with it yet, again don't push him, but keep assuring him that's a great guy and that your happy with him.
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Q: me and my ex (Paul) went out for like 2 months. but we hit a rought patch when my ex (who i have stayed on exellent terms with despite all the issues he has caused) asked me to go to his prom with him. and when i told Paul he thought that i was breaking up with him, but i wasnt. so things spiraled out of control and he ended up lying about talkin to my ex and saying that my ex said all these things and then even lied to my mother about it!! things got so terrible that we broke up and we soo bitter with each other we both stopped hanging with our friends (since we share 85% of our friends). at the beginning of the summer he apologized for being a doofus to me. and i apologized for going to prom with my ex (i had a terrible time). we made up and became friends again, we go to the mall together and film stupid videos . but the more i hang with him the more i realized why i fell for him in the first place. he has a girlfriend but i want him so badly. what should i do?
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As long as he has a girlfriend, there is nothing you can do about it. If you want to continue being friends with him, feel free to do so, but don't interfere with his relationship. If he decides he still has feelings for you, it's up to him to break up with his girlfriend and tell you. But you never know if that'll happen, continue being friends, and see what happens.
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Q: SO I moved to TX with my girlfriend whom I'm deeply ion love with. I gave up a lot of my hopes and dreams to be with her. Yet she acts like none of that matters. I can't move back now cause its too late. What should i do
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Talk to her, tell her you feel like she's not appreciating what you did for her and you wish that she would show some appreciation. That's about all you can do is talk to her. Good luck!
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Q: Ever since I been losing weight for type 2 diabetes, I started dating my boyfriend. Now, since we have been dating for 6 months now, I have been getting attention from boys lately. The first time a boy has been giving me their home & cell phone numbers was at a party my friend invited me to. There were only about 10 boys there and only 8 of them gave me their numbers. The other two were friends of mine at school. To be honest, I only like two of the boys that were there. But, summer was coming and the same 2 boys wanted to take me out on a date. But, during those two separate dates, They ended up kissing and touching me. One dude, we ended up in his house making out and doing other stuff. But, we didn't have sex though. Then, the number of boys that wanted me increased and increased. I really love my boyfriend so much and I want to stay with forever. But, 4 sum reason, I falling in luv with the boys I've been messing around with. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Break up with your boyfriend. It is not fair to him that you are willing to let yourself make out with any guy who gives you two compliments and a dinner because it makes you feel good. You aren't in love with anyone, you just like the attention now and want to show off. It's wrong that you're hurting him like this.
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Q: Im just making sure about these two things i wanna ask cause i heard from my friend...that if you have sex in water aka, hot tub, pool, ocean etc...you cant get pregnant? and the other if you give a guy head and you swallow his sperm can u get pregnant that way? not like i would ever do that but just wondering.
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If you aren't using protection (condom, pill, etc) and you have sex then you can get pregnant anywhere. Even in water. However if you jack off a guy in a hot tub or a pool, the chemicals in the water will kill the sperm so it wont be able to swim up inside you or anything.
You cannot get pregnant from oral sex
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Q: Hi! I like this guy and I'd like to date him, but I really don't know what to do. I've never been on a date before (I know, that's pretty sad when you're 18) so I have no idea how to ask. I asked my friends but they said they wouldn't help cos they don't like that he's 17. I've known him for some time but we have different groups of friends. I'd like to ask him to hang out as friends first but, I don't know if it is because I know I like him, I keep thinking that he's gonna know right away if I ask. Do you have any advice for me? Thanks!
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Why do your friends have a problem that he's 17? That's only a year younger than you, big deal. Just ask him to hang out, get to know a bit better, than ask him out on a date. It's going to take some courage, but you'll never know if you don't try, or you could wait around for him to ask you but not really know if he actually likes you. Just invite him a long to a group activity, he's not going to think that's weird. Just find some courage to ask him to hang out!
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Q: lately, i have been cutting my arm.. because i get really drepressed and, my boyfriend found out. he told me to stop but i cant.. its the only thing that releaves me.
what should i do?
(and im not emo)
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I've had the same problem once
when i was in 9th grade up until 2005.
I've went to counseling and everything. Than after that i've realized that cutting doesn't solve anything. maybe... you should talk to your boyfriend or a friend or even a family member about your problems instead of harming yourself, cause it's not worth it
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Q:
what do you do when you fall in ove with your best friend
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You weight the benefits of a relationship with the risks of damaging the friendship. Fact is I say go for it UNLESS you feel like if your friend says no you couldn't move on quickly. It's clinging like that which will damage the relationship over anything else.
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Q: My boyfriend's parents are getting a divorce and I can tell that it's hurting him when he talks about it. I told him that if he needs to talk about anything, he can come to me. Is there anything else that I can do to help him get through this?
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Not really. This is a situation where its best to just let him know you're willing to listen, which you already did, and let things go. You really have no power in this whole deal, which may be painful to admit, but its necessary. Just be a friend, thats all you can do. Still, its a lot.
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Q: What is anal sex. What is anal intercourse. What's the difference between intercourse and sex. What's oral sex? I would ask my mom but she died and my dad won't tell me and I need to know cuz my friends talk about it and i don't have a fuckin clue bout what they talkin bout and i hate to b excluded
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Anal is derived from the word anus, which means butt. Anal sex is butt sex while regular sex is through the vagina.
Intercourse is sex. Less people call it intercourse because that has a negative connotation just like fornication, and adultery for affair.
Oral sex is the stimulation of the sex organs through the mouth. Blow jobs and cunningulus are oral sex.
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Q: Ive been with this guy for a year and i really do love him. But for the past couple weeks there has been another guy I have been crushing on. I wasn't so bad until a party i went to where this guy n I ended up cuddling up and falling asleep next to each other, ever since then I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I know I would never cheat on my boyfriend and I know this guy is not interested just by how he acts around me. I really want to stop feeling this way about him cause its driving me crazy, what should I do?
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I think you need a reality check. Its been a year, the honeymoon period is quite over. Now you're relationship isn't some new and exciting development. Thinking a guy is cute isn't a huge deal, its not. However, you gotta tell yourself you have a boyfriend and it isn't right for you to do anything with this other guy (guess what? cuddling is included). He's not even interested in you, so you gotta handle this like getting over any crush, you do stuff so you're not thinkin about him. Go out on a few nice dates with your guy, hang out in places where this guy isn't.
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Q: ok, i've been dating this guy for over a year. during that time we have been intamate. but when ever we are, he wants me to do anal on him. now when he was younger, something happened to him involving another guy. now what i'm wondering is, should i confront him and ask if he is bisexual? or should i just ignore it and just keep doing things how they are?
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Guys can enjoy anal without being bi, or gay. It usually hits their prostrate which is quite enjoyable for them. If your comfortable doing it, keep doing it. If it bothers you, talk to him about it. But it doesn't necessarily mean he's bisexual or gay. Was what happened to him consensual? Take that into consideration. Just talk to him about it if your uncomfortable with it.
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Q: 0kay so ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years but this year hes qoinq away to colleqe .. not like away away but he`ll be an hour & a half away & hes qonna live in the dorms there i quess but im still qonna be here in hiqh school and i know we wont really see eachother that often =/ & its qonna be such a biq chanqe & he'll be really busy & so will I..does anybodyy think it`ll still work or we should break up or whatt? =/
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well..
it all depends if your relationship
is worth it or not.
i mean like, you both will be really
busy to spend time together, there is always
weekends to spend together or holidays or even
school breaks, if you really love each other
than stay together, if you think that it's not
gonna work out than you should break up.
honestly think of what you really want.
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Q: well, lately i've been thinking alot, and i hate myself. i dont show it towards anyone at all, but really, i want to die, i hate how i look, i hate my body, i hate everything about me. ive thought about suicide before, but i decided not to. i am trying to stop being bulimic, but thats hard too. i dont know what to do with my life. and im only a sophmore in highschool.
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Okay. DEEP BREATH.
it's alright to hate urself sometimes.
but suicide isn't the answer to anything.
it's not right to think it or joke around
with it at all. it's alright to hate how
you look, to be honest, i hate how i look
sometimes but you have to have faith.
I will admit i use to be bulimic, and it
was hard to stop at some points, but i believed
in myself and told myself that i can stop this.
the only way i've stop was to go out and have fun
and take my mind off things. alot of people don't
know what they wanna do in life. but think about
what you really like to do and see what you can
do with it during the future.
but all i can say is, believe in yourself, and
have faith, don't let no 1 drag you down or
tell you that you can't do things.
your beautiful inside and out.
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Q: My girlfriend and I have been going out almost a year and lately we haven't had anything to talk about. she always thinks I am mad at her and im not. I love her more than anything, I would do anything for her. she tells me she loves me and I think she does. One reason I think we aren't getting along as well as we used to is because we only get to see each other like twice a week. I like to tell her everything about my day and if something is bothering me she is the first person, really the only person, I tell. But she doesn't ever want to tell me her feelings, she always says that if I don't ask her about his day or how she's feeling she just doesn't think to tell me. I really want some advice on what we can do to become closer to each other again. If you have any suggestions on activities we can do together I would greatly appreciate it. Oh yea, I don't really know if this really matters but we haven't had sex. Does anyone think that would bring us closer. she broke up with me twice in a 3 month period. It completely broke my heart. But I took her back twice and now I am afraid she is going to break up with me again if we don't get closer. she says she is afraid of making the wrong decision. she doesn't understand how I am so sure she is the ONE. How can I explain it to her?
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My advice to you is quite simple. Start actually talking and you'll probably have to take the initiative on everything or she won't make the effort. Personally I think she isn't doing much to try and help the relationship and just wants you to make things work. Try talking to her about whatever may be up to have her feel so distant right now and try to sort any issues. At the end of the day though - you've been together for almost a year. I'm not surprised you've run out of things to say! Sometimes it just means that you have to rely on feelings instead of fun things to stay together. If she keeps splitting up with you, maybe you'd be better off split because the feelings just aren't THAT strong for both of you. a year is a long time, maybe you should try to see some other girls. Try talking and fixing the whole distant thing though. Mainly if that doesn't work though, I don't think you should let a break up hurt you too much, it may be the best thing so you can both broaden to newer things. Hope this helps.
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Q: ok i keep hearing about girls and their boyfriends and sex life and etc. and i kinda feel left out. i mean, im still pretty young but i've never dated a guy before. i dont wanna end up the next 40 yr old virgin! Some problems are: I'm new. I'm usually a good FRIEND for a guy. Possibly because I don't dress like the other girls since I don't see the point in spending my parents money on pointless things. And i;m so...different. I'm a deep person, and that I guess scares people. And because I don't know, I've never been told I'm that pretty. But shouldn't guys have matured by now and see beyond looks? It's kinda depressing because I'm always labeled as the "sweet girl" but obviously, somethings wrong with me?
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well.. this is what i can say to you.
It can be hard to break into the dating scene, because before you do it's typical for people to really not look at you as someone "hot" or "dateable" because they haven't really seen you out and about with another person. What you really need to do is exude self confidence. Don't be egotistical, but approach people. Show them that you are a great person. People become attracted to you with time, it's not always an instant thing. Start getting to know people and let them get to know you. Maybe once they start seeing what an awesome person you are, they'll step back and realize "wow, shes really pretty!"
Also, the truth is guys never really "mature" and see past looks. If anything it gets worse as they get older. Appearance is a big part of dating whether we like it or not because people want to be with someone they are attracted to. Now, what is "beautiful" is opinion, and someone may think someone is really attractive whereas someone might not. So don't worry too much about it, just be happy and confident that someone will come along.
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Q: I love the way capris look - casual, comfortable, summery - but personally, I can wear them...they make me look really short (and make my butt look big - LOL). Id really like to wear them, though. My mom suggests trying them with heels, to make me look taller (Im above average in height already). Do you think that would work well, and do you have any other suggestions that could work?
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Adding heels may work, but better yet, make sure the "cut" is right for you. Consider the gaucho instead of capri, much more flattering.
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Q: I have an iPod shuffle and I try to turn the iPod on and the green light continually glows and doesn't turn off. What am I doing wrong? Also, no buttons work while this is occuring. Thanks for all help!
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on the back it should have a on and off switch or button. if it doesn't you should try and read the
directions that came with the ipod
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Member Since: August 1, 2007 Answers: 140 Last Update: December 24, 2008 Visitors: 2800
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