You simply say no. If you don't want to try it then that's perfectly acceptable. All of my friends were always accepting of me when I said I didn't feel like trying something they offered me. If your friend does judge you because you don't want to do it, then she isn't that great of
a person and definitely not a respectful friend. I know how hard it seems to say no to a friend, but in the end all you can do is respect
yourself enough to expect your friend to understand.

Having trouble with your parents is a very hard trial to go through and I'm sure he could really use your support. I don't think he is moving in with this best friend to hurt you or your relationship, this is his best friend so of course he would turn to him at this time. Talk to him about the distance since it bothers you so much. If he is resolved about moving in with this friend and you don't feel that you want to have a long distance relationship at least until the two of you could move in together then it might be best to end it. I would definitely advise you to try and work it out because if the two of you do want to move in with each other this move is really temporary and it would be a shame to give up a good relationship because of a temporary distance.

There is no really definite answer for this one, I have no idea what he is thinking and what he is feeling. The only way that will be able to be known is if/when he decides to communicate all that to you. Until then you need to try and get him to talk to you for both of you guys' sake.
He could be getting tired of being in a relationship and kinda passively looking around while still having you for a sure thing. I know i have done that before. But it also depends on how long you have been together. Just try to communicate with him and hopefully he will be
honest with you, just tell him that is the base for a strong relationship is honesty and communication.

I suggest that you go straight to your doctors, and get checked out. The fact that some pregnancy might be wrong. The fact that you've bleeded lightly and vomited once, is a symptom that you may be pregnant. but make sure you go to ur doctors.

Whenever part of a body is pierced, there's a risk of infection, prolonged bleeding, scaring, tetanus, and sometimes even nerve damage. These risks are especially high if the piercing is done using amateur equipment or if the person performing the piercing doesn't know what he or she is doing. People who are licensed to do piercing know how to keep everything clean, what kind of needle to use and they also know what kind of jewelry to insert and what kind of instruction to keep the piercing healthy and clean.

It's tempting, but popping or squeezing a pimple won't necessarily get rid of the problems. Squeezing can actually push bacteria and pus deeper into the skin, which can cause more swelling
and redness. Squeezing can also leave scabs and may leave you with permanent pits or scars. Because popping isn't the way to go, patience is the key. Use cream or benzoyl peroxide gel once or Twice a day. If you're concerned about acne, talk to your doctor or dermatologist.

People Self-Mutilates because they are suffering from depression, when someone Self-Mutilate they are self-injuring themselves, by cutting, biting, bruising, burning themselves. When someone Self-Mutilate they want to take control of their own pain. The kind of warning signs that someone Self-Mutilate is blood or burn stains on inside of clothings, locking themselves up in the bathroom for a long period of time, wearing long sleeves or pants on a hot day, becoming very defensive when questioned about wounds or scars. If a friend tries to Self-Mutilate be empathetic, compassionate, kind and caring to them. Put aside your own feelings or revulsion, disgust or fears. Whatever you do Don't ignore them, Don't take it personally, Don't say insensitive things like - why would you want to do something like that. If you Self-Mutilate try to get ur feelings out by throwing ice at a brick wall, breaking sticks, go jogging, hit or punch a bag or pillow.

I'm pretty sure that you're good enough for her, maybe she just needs her space and her time to herself. i'm sure that she loves you alot and that she would do whatever it takes to show how much she loves you. maybe talk to her and tell her how much you care or your feelings towards her, maybe she will spend time with you more often.

You are right in saying your friend is engaging in dangerous behavior. For one thing, she is putting herself at risk for sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, and perhaps even sexual violence. The best thing you can do is talk to her privately, and start by telling her these things very bluntly. Let her how much you care about her and that you're worried she might get hurt.
But it sounds like your friend is already hurt — if not physically, then emotionally. Using sex to get attention from boys is not good for the body, and it's not good for the soul. It changes sex from something loving and intimate into something empty and meaningless. Offer to go with her to your local Planned Parenthood, or to another teen clinic or outreach center, so she can talk to someone there. And if there is a trusted adult in her life, or yours, encourage her to confide in this person. It sounds like your friend may be suffering from some pretty serious problems to cause her to act this way, and will need counseling and close, understanding friends to help her deal — and heal.

Most dads become as macho as The Rock when anyone causes their baby pain. So I'm dying to know...what happened the first time? The way you deal with Dad depends on that. Did you and your guy have the normal, yet painful, problems all couples have? Did he let you down? Did he flip out when you got close? Then tell your father that you've thought about the risks, but you've decided to give this boy another chance and he should, too. On the other hand, if you split in round one because he was mean, pushed you sexually, or contributed to the delinquency of a minor - namely you - then your dad has a good point. You might want to (yes, I'm going to say it) listen to your dad's opinion, so that if you proceed , you do so with caution.

First of all, ask your doctor why you might be snoring, since people snore for a bunch of different reasons, such as allergies, respiratory problems, sleeping problems, or nasal abnormalities, just to name a few. Once you figure out why you're snoring, you can see about treatments to eliminate or reduce it. One simple thing you might want to try are those nose strips that are sold at most pharmacies. They go over the bridge of your nose and, for some people, lessen snoring. Okay, now onto the whole humiliation front. If it turns out that you are stuck with your snoring, so be it. Lots of people snore, it's not a big deal (in fact, you're probably far from being the only girl you know who snores! You just haven't spent a night in the same room with her yet). Try to be up-front, off-handed, and/or joke about your snoring, whichever best suits your personal style. If you show your self-confidence and comfort, others will accept you. Sad to say, there will probably always be one mean girl who'll want to point it out just to embarrass you — but if she thinks you're too amused or over it to care, she might back off. Anyway, you'll probably all be so exhausted every night of your trip that you won't be able to keep people up by blasting music, let alone with some gentle zzzzs.

You're in a tough situation. It's totally understandable that you don't want to get into a situation where you pit one parent against the other, especially if you'll suffer the consequences. But if your dad does drugs or drinks alcohol and then gets into a car to drive you somewhere, or gets high when you visit and then is unable to ensure your safety, then it's really important to tell someone about it — if not your mom, then another trusted adult. Your dad's job is to care for you when you're with him. He is responsible for your well-being, and his drug use may impair his ability to care for you properly. You need to let someone know about the situation. The other person you should to talk to is your dad. Let him know how his drug use makes you feel. Tell him you love him but are concerned about his health and safety, as well as your own when you are with him. Offer to attend a few counseling sessions with him. A lot of people who seek help for drugs or alcohol go with a family member who encouraged them. But don't feel like it's your responsibility to make sure he stops using drugs. He's an adult who must make this decision for himself.
But to have your love and support would be a great deal of help to him during the process.

Your situation is really tough, and it's understandable that you are upset. Your friend knew that you were crushed by the breakup and that it took you time, and a lot of effort, to get past things and move on. Good for you, by the way, for having the strength and inner confidence to do just that! Now that she's going out with him, it's only natural to have all those feelings brought back up. It's not surprising that you feel betrayed. If we were to give your friend the benefit of the doubt, we'd say she was a bit clueless and that she should have come to you first before doing anything with your ex. Or, maybe on some level she's a bit competitive with you and this is her way of trying to build up her own ego? You sound like a smart, together, caring and cool girl, so there's plenty there to envy. But that doesn't make it right. Either way, what she did was not okay. Your ex probably feels weird about what is going on and not sure how to handle it, but from the sound of your e-mail, you're more hurt by your friend's actions than by his, which makes sense. You and he were over, but you and she weren't — you were still close and you didn't expect her to do something to you that would cause you distress. Now what? Well, maybe you can try talking to her. Just tell her what you said here, that you are over your ex but that you had a history with him and it hurt your feelings that she started dating him, particularly without talking to you first. Be aware that she may behave as if it's no big deal, or she might accuse you of overreacting, but that is not your concern. It's your right to express your feelings to her, ideally in a calm and respectful way. You'll feel better getting that off your chest, even if she doesn't understand where you're coming from (or pretends not to because she knows she pulled something uncool). Hopefully, with time, seeing them together at church won't be as painful. You'll make other friends and meet new guys, and it will just hurt less and less, we promise. Hang in there, and know that you have every right to feel bad right now.

Good for you, realizing that you need to make the first move! So many girls just sit around waiting for their shy guy to overcome his fears. When you do finally make the first move, not only you but also your boyfriend will probably be very relieved. I, unfortunately, cannot give specifics about how to kiss (you'll just have to do what feels right!), but I can suggest picking a good time. When you know no one is going to barge in, where your friends won't start giggling in the background, etc. You can move closer to him if you're sitting near each other, or maybe grab his hand, or give him a big hug. It's even okay to ask, "Can I kiss you?" Many a romantic movie scene has started with this type of request. But whatever you do, don't be discouraged if at first he seems taken aback. He's probably nervous, too, and doesn't want to seem like he doesn't know what he is doing. He may also be so surprised that he doesn't know what to do. If his initial reaction doesn't follow the romantic script you had in your head, don't give up. Love and kisses can be awkward and feel silly. You both may have a little awkwardness, but he'll probably roll with it soon enough, and you'll be smooching away. And if for some reason he cannot deal with an assertive, confident girl, then it could be a signal that it's time to move on. But I don't think this will happen, because pretty much every single one of my girlfriends has had to plant one on a guy at some point in their lives. Happy kissing!

You shouldn't change who you are to make someone else happy, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't change to make yourself happier. Why is it that your mom feels you need to have more friends? Does she think you seem lonely? Is she worried that you might be unhappy? You might want to ask yourself why it is that you prefer to be alone. You mention depending on other people. Were you let down in a big way by someone close to you? Would you like to have more friends, but are not sure how to go about it, or are you scared of not being accepted? These are all normal concerns. Obviously, there are many ways to go about socializing more — you could join a club or a team, try to study with other people for tests or class projects, or even get involved with activities outside of school. If the prospect of doing any of this is too scary, you could look into seeing a counselor to talk over why you get nervous being around other people. School counselors and counselors at teen centers deal with this issue constantly — trouble with, or fear of, making friends is one of the most common problems teens have. Talking to someone about it could really help you — and could even help change your mind about socializing more. Now for your mom. It sounds like she's just concerned for you, but is maybe being a little too pushy about it. Let her know that you appreciate her caring about your happiness, and assure her that you are not miserable (if you aren't). Explain to her that you are not an outgoing person, if that's the case, and may never be as outgoing and friendly as she might be, or want you to be. But tell her that you'll take a look at your life and decide if you want more friends, and if you do, then you'll ask her for any help you may need in accomplishing your goals.

It's tricky when people you spend time with say things that make you feel weird. Maybe it's a gross comment or offensive joke and it leads to your feeling uncomfortable, embarrassed and kind of alone, because they are acting like it's no big deal, but you are sitting there feeling crappy. Next time they make a comment you find offensive, just say something with confidence and a bit of attitude, like, "Guys, I don't need to hear this, keep it to yourself." And anytime they do it in the future, let them know in no uncertain terms that you don't like it. Roll your eyes and tell them they're totally offensive and pathetic.
It might help to make your comment when you're hanging out one on one (or just in a smaller group). That way you can be a bit more open with them, explaining that you feel awkward when they talk about other girls in such a rude way, and ask if they could please stop. They may just be clueless and need someone to point out how lame they're behaving. Or maybe they're showing off for you. Regardless, give them a chance to change. If after all that, they keep it up or make you feel like you're the one with the problem, then it's time for you to ditch these boys, or at least cut way, way back on your time with them. They may be fun some of the time, but if they say stuff you find offensive and won't stop even if you ask, then they're not such great guys after all.

One thing you didn't say in your e-mail was whether your friend seems to be trying to compete with you. Like, if you're getting attention from someone else, does your friend try to insert herself in the middle and steal your thunder? Or, if you show up wearing a cute new outfit at school, does she run out and buy the exact same one, every single time? Sometimes, when people do things like that, it can be so subtle that's it's hard to realize at first. All you know is that you feel weird and uncomfortable, but you don't know why. If your friend is pulling stuff like that, you may want to rethink how much time you spend with her. Or, if her friendship is important to you, examine possible reasons for her behavior. Realizing that her competitive nature is due to her own insecurities may help you cope. However, we are going to assume that this is less about your friend and more about your own insecurities. You sound like you don't have the best sense of perspective about your own looks and style, otherwise you wouldn't feel so badly that you have a girlfriend who looks good. When you're around her and start to feel down on yourself, make an effort to remind yourself that you are pretty amazing, too. It might help to make a list of all the things you like about yourself, whether it's your eyes, your infectious giggle or your great athletic ability. You can't be second best at everything! Also, there's nothing wrong with admitting to your friend that you sometimes feel a bit envious of her. She may surprise you by revealing that she has her own moments of wishing she had your gorgeous smile, killer arms or amazing dance skills. Most of all, it's important to remind yourself that there's room for both of you to look good. Just because she shines doesn't mean you can't, too!

We are so sorry to hear that you were the victim of this terrible crime. Rape, and its aftermath, is incredibly hard to deal with, and we hope you're doing okay. We don't understand why anyone would try to insist you're not a virgin. Who are these people? It doesn't sound like they are being very supportive. Regardless of who they are, they need to back off! As you know only too well, rape is not a sexual act, it is a violent crime. No one should make you feel badly about this horrible experience that was forced upon you. Besides, how is it any of their business? Losing your virginity is more than a physical act. It is an emotional and spiritual one as well. And while technically a virgin is someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse, we don't think the idea of virginity should be based on penetration alone. If, as someone who has not chosen to have sex yet, you believe you're a virgin, that makes total sense to us. We think people get too hung up on putting a label on things that are incredibly complex. Virginity is a complicated concept. For instance, if you have given or received oral sex but not had intercourse, you are sexually active but still considered a virgin. But if two women are in love and intimate with each other, are they still virgins? Labeling is stupid and really serves no good purpose. We hope you can feel good knowing that, but because rape can leave emotional scars for years to come, it might be helpful for you to talk to someone about what happened, whether it be a trusted adult or school guidance counselor. Good luck, and we hope you find someone who cares to listen, not label.

This sounds like a really loyal guy to us, and nothing in your description of him makes it sound like he's a player juggling a bunch of girls. Is it possible that he's stringing you along? Sure, but you'd know it if that was the case — you'd see him flirting with other girls nonstop or hear about him hooking up with them. And is it also possible he's just saying he likes you to let you down easy, rather than say "I'm only into you as a friend"? Again, sure, but if you're always together and people are asking if you're a couple, it sounds like he is making a lot of time for you. Regrettably, his being a good and loyal guy who does not want to hurt his friends is getting in the way of your dating each other. It's hard to fault him for that, though. If you were in the same position, you might do the same thing! That doesn't mean your situation is hopeless, though. You already let him know that a) you like him, and b) you don't like his other friends. Good for you for being upfront and letting him know your feelings. You can keep spending time with him, because it sounds like you both enjoy each other's company. Over time his friends may get more used to seeing you two together and there won't be any weirdness, or maybe your crush will be more willing to take a risk and go out with you and deal with the consequences. If it just isn't happening, though, and you feel like you're missing out, you can still appreciate his friendship (and his honorable behavior!) and maybe start seeing what other available guys are out there.

It is so frustrating to feel like you have a "habit to kick." If you could kick it, it wouldn't be a habit! People develop many kinds of nervous habits; nail biting is one of the most common. Others are hair twisting, foot tapping, and pen chewing (a personal favorite of mine when I was younger). A good friend of mine always had to turn around in a complete circle before entering a doorway; she is now a mother and has a career.
Whatever the habit, the purpose is to release tension and to feel calm. Many people grow out of nervous habits as they find other ways to cope with stress and tension. There's no reason to worry. But are you feeling particularly stressed right now? You said you feel there is something wrong with you, but perhaps there is just something difficult in your life that you are struggling with — not a problem with you, but a problem that you have to deal with. Pressures with grades, or applying to college, or maybe stressful stuff at home. If there is something on your mind, you could always talk to a counselor about it. Anxiety is one of the most common problems for young people, and it is one of the most responsive to counseling. That means it's easy to change. If you are interested in finding a counselor, you could ask your doctor for a referral, or talk to the school guidance counselor. Is there a teen center in your community? That's always a good place, too. And let your parents know you're a little stressed out; they can help you figure out what's bothering you and come up with some good ways to cope.

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