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There are these guys at school I have class with, but while they're pretty good guys who are fun to be around, sometimes I can't stand to hang out with them. They talk about very inappropriate things, such as how big someone's boobs are, or who has the biggest butt. I understand that guys will be guys, but I think it's very disrespectful for them to talk about that kind of stuff in public. How can I tell them that I feel uncomfortable with what they say without having them think I'm a complete loser?
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It's tricky when people you spend time with say things that make you feel weird. Maybe it's a gross comment or offensive joke and it leads to your feeling uncomfortable, embarrassed and kind of alone, because they are acting like it's no big deal, but you are sitting there feeling crappy. Next time they make a comment you find offensive, just say something with confidence and a bit of attitude, like, "Guys, I don't need to hear this, keep it to yourself." And anytime they do it in the future, let them know in no uncertain terms that you don't like it. Roll your eyes and tell them they're totally offensive and pathetic.
It might help to make your comment when you're hanging out one on one (or just in a smaller group). That way you can be a bit more open with them, explaining that you feel awkward when they talk about other girls in such a rude way, and ask if they could please stop. They may just be clueless and need someone to point out how lame they're behaving. Or maybe they're showing off for you. Regardless, give them a chance to change. If after all that, they keep it up or make you feel like you're the one with the problem, then it's time for you to ditch these boys, or at least cut way, way back on your time with them. They may be fun some of the time, but if they say stuff you find offensive and won't stop even if you ask, then they're not such great guys after all.
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