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I like this guy and he says he really likes me, too. Unfortunately, he doesn't want to go out with me because some of his friends like me, too. I explained to him that I am not into his friends that way, but he's worried that if we go out everyone will be mad at him. People are constantly asking us if we're a couple, because we're always talking and hanging out together. I'm not sure if he is telling me the truth about why he doesn't want to go out with me, or if he's just playing with me and keeping me hanging just in case it doesn't work out with someone else. How can I tell?
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This sounds like a really loyal guy to us, and nothing in your description of him makes it sound like he's a player juggling a bunch of girls. Is it possible that he's stringing you along? Sure, but you'd know it if that was the case — you'd see him flirting with other girls nonstop or hear about him hooking up with them. And is it also possible he's just saying he likes you to let you down easy, rather than say "I'm only into you as a friend"? Again, sure, but if you're always together and people are asking if you're a couple, it sounds like he is making a lot of time for you. Regrettably, his being a good and loyal guy who does not want to hurt his friends is getting in the way of your dating each other. It's hard to fault him for that, though. If you were in the same position, you might do the same thing! That doesn't mean your situation is hopeless, though. You already let him know that a) you like him, and b) you don't like his other friends. Good for you for being upfront and letting him know your feelings. You can keep spending time with him, because it sounds like you both enjoy each other's company. Over time his friends may get more used to seeing you two together and there won't be any weirdness, or maybe your crush will be more willing to take a risk and go out with you and deal with the consequences. If it just isn't happening, though, and you feel like you're missing out, you can still appreciate his friendship (and his honorable behavior!) and maybe start seeing what other available guys are out there.
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