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Q: about for how long do henna tattoo's stay on for ? anything besides not taking a shower that mite make them stay on longer ? thnx mucho

lemon juice helps to keep it on.

Q: Is it true that layers of hair actually grow faster than the regular hair,because they must catch up? please help,i sort of need hair-experts..or researched information,i cant seem to find this to be a fact or not

no hair is hair no matter how you cut it it will grown normal . hair grows 1/2 and inch a month .

Q: hi, i remarried 10 years ago.i had 3 children when we met.he's been a great father and husband.about 2-3 years ago my(our) eldest son (15) and my husband tarted to argue all the time.i suggested that we all og to councelling,my husband said he didn't have a problem.it was all my sons fault.about a month ago he moved out.we didn't have a problem when he moved out ,then all the sudden he 's acting like he hates me. he says it's all my fault for not doing anything about my son.he says he'll move back ion when my son is out of the house.could be 1-4-6 months,or longer.he's blaming me for all of it.he wanted me to kick him out or put him in foster carte.now were on the verge of a divorce. i love him very much but i can't go on like this much longer.help please.

your husband is acting selfing he married you and acepted the role of a parent he is also responcible for the fighting ... your son is getting older and the hormones he may be acting out which isnt right but your husband must understand that , councelling is a good idea you must explain to your husband that there is a problem because your son and him are constantly fighting . if your husband cant try to resolve the problem with your son and refuces to seek counselling there is a big problem ... your husband is making you choose between him and your child ... thats not right . you said that everying was fine when he left and maybe thats the only way things can be fine . if the issue is not resolved then you should ask your husband to leave ... you cant throw your child who is a minor out . where will your son go ? be homeless or in foster care they will have a field day with him ... they take kids for the money and he would be abused there because most people who do take kids in are just looking for a quick buck . please got to counselling and resolve the problems or ask your husband to leave because things arent working out ... ask your self whats going to happen when your other children get older and become moody will you kick them out just so he can stay ... he also may not be ready for a teen he may need to take parenting classes . if divorce is what needs to happen then let it . the worst that can happen is that he leaves and you have peace and your children . maybe kids arent or him ... please ,make the right decision .

Q: I just got my hair cut and i REALLY hate it,[[long story short im not a good "hair" expert and i didnt no the difference between angles and layers..]] Is there any Shampoo or ways to make it grow faster? [[im lucky this happend on summer vacation,and not in school!!]] Also,what is the avrage rate of hair growth with in 2 months? [[when school starts]] I have fine,soft,not-so thick hair if it even helps at all. Please Help!!

go to a diffrent hair cut place get your hair cut1/2 of an inch off the right way and no one will notice the length difference .

Q: I was the person who asked the modeling question and it is a modeling agency thats prestigous but my friends are calling me ugly and i dont think i should do it because i dont have a face for modeling as they say. What should i do??

if you dont want to do it dont ... they may want you for certain things like if you have a nice body they will have you for clothes or if they want a certain face to do makeup or they way want someone who as you say has a average face to do a comercial for everyday things like music or a face wash or something like that . what every you decide to do is up to you ... dont let your friends influence you .

Q: do yall know who sings the song that goes

where is your boy tonight i hope he is a gentalman
maybe he wont find out what i know
you were that last good thing about this part of town

thanks!

fall out boy

Q: my hair has been falling out like crazy but its not normal falling out i mean its a lot of hair but i dont know why and i dont know if i should tell my mom

16/f

thanks

tell your mom ! go to a dematologist who can give you medicine for that ... it can be because lot of antibiotics , being really sick , stress , a problem with your thyroid and it may just be from hormones. the doctor will ask you questions about these things he will take a look and if it isnt growing give you a shampoo ... he'll tell you to come back in a month to check it if there is no improvment then they do blood work to check thyroid and a maybe a chemical inbalance.

Q: i've just gotten a modeling audition for a prestigious program. I'm average looking with brown hair,brown eyes,and skin. I'm 13 and i'm 5'1. Should I do the program or should I turn it down?

turn it down if you got it in the mail and its not from a modeling agency like from ford models or a scout turn it down because they'll make you sign a contract , own you for life if you dont produce any buisness if you do get busy they will really work you and take a lot of the money ... some agencys just want money and they say hand over 300 dollars and well call you and never do . if you really want to do it and get a contract get a good lawyer to read it over before you sign.

Q: Is it possible for your cherry to be popped while a guy is fingering you?...thx

yes .. when a guy is fingering you he most likely did pop your cherry .

Q: I am a 13/f and never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

flirting , trying to be near you or if he's imature sometimes is always makeing fun of you because he cant stop talking about you and doesnt know how to express himself , he may do favors for you ... its hard to figure out if he likes you because i dont really know what he is like ... him staring and helping you may have been a sigm that he like you but it may also mean that he just helped you out to be nice .

Q: so i dont know if i was raped or not but there was this guy and like he was behind me and my friend was standin next to me but like... she didnt see it...so like this guy who was like a lot older then me was like feeling my bra and like feeling my back and shit! and i dont know wat to do its kinda embarassin and all!
plz help! i dont know wat to do
I RATE HIGH!
*confused*

you werent raped you were sexually harassed the guy is a perv ... to be raped you must have unwanted sex or sexual acts this is not one of them . you werent molested either a molestation would have been like if the guy told you to touch him in private places and made you do it ... if it ever happens again file a report with the cops .

Q: My boyfriend and I started to become sexual, and we have done everything short of actualy having sexual intercourse. We are both virgins. I wouldnt mind if we had sex, and when I attempted to approach the subject, I found out that he wants to wait until marriage. I didnt think much of it at the time, except that it was a bit odd. Now, though, my mind has run away with itself, and I'm thinking things like: Obviously sex is very meaningful to him, but everything else is not? I am the first girl he has done absolutly anything with, and we did stuff after about a month. If he is waiting for sex until marriage, but has no problem doing everything else, does everything else (hands, oral) have absolutly no meaning to him? Which is just completly different than how I am on oral, because for me, atleast,oral takes alot of trust, on my part. I'm not quite sure what to think on this one. Any advice would be appreciated.

why dont you ask him that question ... and you should probably bring up the fact that oral is a form of sex so if you where to ask a doctor if you are a virgin and had oral he would say your not a virgin .

Q: So I have the worst stomache in the history of man. Now, thinking back to elementary school, the Nurse always recommended a saltine cracker or two. QUESTION IS: WHY was that? Was is something SPECIFIC about the CRACKER? And is there any other food the average household stocks that can beat this intense pain? I will be soo thankful of helpful answers - this pain is sooo bad it could ultimately take my life. =/ gr.

coke will help ease your stomach , rice , white bread , plain crackers , boiled chicken plain , noddles , andy thing plain really .

Q: Is it normal for sunburns to itch? I was just wondering because I got burnt on my lower back, my upper arms, and my chest, and lately they've been itchin a whole lot. Last night I had to take benadryl (sp?) just to fall asleep, also I think I burnt my thighs too because they itch like mad.

Do you think the sunburn in the reason that I'm so friggin itchy? If not, what do you think is? And either way, how can I stop the itching???? Or is benadryl (sp?) the only way.
I know this is a weird question, but the itching just won't go away. Thanks in advance.

yes , its normal the skin your itching will eventualy fall of which is no big deal ... take a cool bath or use a mosiutizer (sp) try calamine lotion .

Q: Okay I was suppose to have my period a long time ago. I got of my period and then started my other round of BC. Well I used ONE WHOLE CIRCLE THINGY UP and still wasnt on my period so i started to freak. But I called my health doctor and she said just take another round of pills. SO I started and then after about 15days to late my period came. It only lasted 3 days and the first day was VERY VERY heavy then it went lower the other 2 days til it was all gone. Im to afraid to ask my doctor if I could be pregnant. I'm going tomorrow to get more birth control. Yesterday is when I completely stopped and finished my period. Should I try the shot or something else? What should I tell my dad? My doctor lied and told my dad that I could have a infection and the birth control will help it be smaller so he believed that-but I don't like taking hte pill and the patch was kind of gay when i took it before the pills. I don't know what to take. Please help!!!

some birth control pills shorten your period or delay them if your uneasy with these pills you can get the shot or just use a condom you may want to try a diffrent brand of pills .

Q: Thanks for your honesty in your reply. But, if you don't mind another question - why would a seemingly nice guy act like that? He seemed like the type that was mature enough not be into the "head-games" thing. If he does want to get together again, should I just always have an excuse from now on?

He may be a nice guy but i think because he is in his late 30's is going to act inmature you know before he turns 40 sorta thing where you act wild and spontanious ... its him getting his last bit of fun before he has to be a real grown up . when your in you 30's you still act like a kid . the thrill that your older and married may have been the kick he wanted before he had to really mature . dont worry if he askes you to lunch or something do what you feel is right .

Q: ok well im 11 years old and i weigh 140 pounds if i dont eat at all for 2 days how much weight can i loose? please i really need help.

none dont starve your self if you starve your self you gain weight because your metabolism slows down and your body stores fat ! exersise dont diet your too young for that go run around , swim , play basketball you'll lose weight .

Q: i know this is gross but is it bad if your poop is really green? (two days in a row)

you must have eaten something with food coloring ... dont worry it will go away it just has to flush out of your system.

Q: I've been married for 20 years & never have, and never will cheat on my husband.
A single younger man where I work started flirting with me. He basically expressed his attraction towards me, which was extremely flattering. I let him know right away that I would never cheat on my husband. He seemed to accept this & we have continued to commincate throught our email at work & a couple of coffee breaks.
I have really enjoyed the flattery - I'm 48, he's 37. Once I realized that he really wasn't just trying to get me into bed & truly liked me as a person - I felt great.
He's extremely careered oriented & doesn't have time for a comitted relationship at this point.

I just don't understand why when I started flirting back with him, why he has backed off. I liked the flattery, and am hurt. He started all this.

I simply don't understand why he is reacting this way, I don't need a lecture on why this is unhealthy, I already know from the way I feel.

he backed off when you flirted with him because he got what he wanted from you which is attention ... after he gets what he wants he doesnt want it anymore ... its like playing hard to get .. once you give in they dont want it anymore because they see that they can get it when ever they want .It may have also been a thrill to flirt with a woman who is married and older that him and he has moved on and so should you .