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Waiting till marriage?
My boyfriend and I started to become sexual, and we have done everything short of actualy having sexual intercourse. We are both virgins. I wouldnt mind if we had sex, and when I attempted to approach the subject, I found out that he wants to wait until marriage. I didnt think much of it at the time, except that it was a bit odd. Now, though, my mind has run away with itself, and I'm thinking things like: Obviously sex is very meaningful to him, but everything else is not? I am the first girl he has done absolutly anything with, and we did stuff after about a month. If he is waiting for sex until marriage, but has no problem doing everything else, does everything else (hands, oral) have absolutly no meaning to him? Which is just completly different than how I am on oral, because for me, atleast,oral takes alot of trust, on my part. I'm not quite sure what to think on this one. Any advice would be appreciated.
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i think you have a wonderful guy in ur hands . and mayeb you jsut dont see it fully why he says thats but i just think its wonderful that he has said that .. and you shoudl be very thankful for it too..and i think you should agree with him and wait too.. cause the more you wait the more wonderful it will be on your wedding day .. cuase it will jsut feel amazing that you waited jsut for that moment and it was wtith him who was faithful and etc.. good luck
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I think that your boyfriend is handling it very responsibly. He obviously knows how to control his hormones. Also he might not want to even risk a pregnancy until marrige. It might not be that it doesnt mean anything to him just that he doesnt want to make a mistake that could majorly affect either of your lives but you should talk to him about it.
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First I want to clarify that you are still a virgin until you have had penetrative sex. Oral etc does not count.
What is your boyfriends reason for wanting to wait until marriage? Is it religion based? If so his refusal to have penetrative sex is most probably simply obedience.
Any form of sex is important and involves trust on both parties. The fact that he doesn't want to have penetrative sex shouldn't diminish the importance of other intimacy.
It would probably be a good idea to talk to your boyfriend about all this and explain how it makes you feel.
I hope that helped.
*Girlwithamansname
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Sex is a very meaningful thing. and waiting for marriage isnt a bad thing nd no its not the wrong thing or the right thing .. but it obviously means a lot. sex is a very big step in a relationship. its a very emotional and attaching thing .. and everything you else probably does mean a lot to him nd all of that was a pretty big thing to him but sex is even bigger. you shouldnt pressure him into anything.
`~`i hope i helped`~`
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why dont you ask him that question ... and you should probably bring up the fact that oral is a form of sex so if you where to ask a doctor if you are a virgin and had oral he would say your not a virgin .
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