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Hello,
Does anyone know of any good free photo editors that can edit big, high quality photos? Something like photoshop. I've tried a few & I can't seem to find one that works well.
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Free editor GIMP (version 2.8.16)? GIMP has long had a reputation as probably the best free editor around. Kind of like Photoshop circa V7 (before the CS versions 1,2....currently 6) from what I've heard. How about investing a little cash in the latest Adobe Photoshop Elements? There's an awful lot of stuff in the full Photoshop (I have CS5 ext.) which may well be exciting to designers and illustrators (3D image functionality etc...etc) but of very little interest to the photographer! In addition, quite a few of the photographic features only really apply if you're handing-off work to a commercial printer/publishing house. Elements is paired-down for the photographer. The image editing functions it does have (and it's all the 'important' ones in practice, 99% of the time) are identical to the full version in terms of image quality and degree of control/functionality. Worth a look? Don't know if you've tried the 'retro-photoshop' GIMP? Quite honestly, a large portion of later Photoshop functionality is not incredibly different from Photoshop 7. Some stuff is more intelligent, and has dedicated dialogues. But in many cases we could replicate them using time and just the basic control and adjustment layers and selections. GIMP I believe has the required stuff.
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How do smartphones work? Is there any chance how they will advance in technology in the future? How is one simple device used as a computer? I need advice! (link)
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Mobile phones were of course communications devices originally. Functionality was added and added, really to keep the market alive and growing. After all, how many house phones do most people buy? One when the old one breaks usually! It's best to think of smartphones not as phones with added functionality, but as physically small computers with comms functions. They have, and will continue to develop alongside side microprocessor technology. Spec, hence performance, always increasing, and costs effectively falling. The photographic side, likewise. More and more megapixels, enhanced image processing onboard. Screen resolutions and characteristics likewise mirror what is currently the state-of-the-art. In many cases the phones actually drive the state of the art, with the developments then being transferred to what we more traditionally consider a 'computer'. Like a laptop. One area most phone manufacturers work had on is keeping power consumption as low as possible and developing batteries which hold the maximum charge possible, with the most desirable discharge characteristics. Expect constant improvement here. Each maker would love a really high-performance smartphone that went for very long periods between charges. This would give that particular make a huge market advantage, because that's exactly what we would all (as customers) like. All the R&D they put into this field will surely produce a some big advances.
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Ever since I had started middle school years ago, I had been obsessed with the way my appearance was viewed by others. Not in the way where I found myself breathtakingly beautiful, but in the way I found myself as the ugliest person alive. I believe it was because everyone around me only cared about the outside beauty. No one in middle or high school gave a rat's ash about inner beauty. So it led me to being obsessed with "looking good." Plus, the bullying over how ugly I am didn't help the situation.
Now, I'm ALWAYS told I'm the sweetest thing ever, that I'm a total sweetheart with a heart full of optimism and gold. But the flashbacks from middle and high school are still killing me. I feel oh-so-very shallow focusing on "looking good" all the time. I can't stop looking in the mirror, because I'm hoping one of these days I'll see myself as beautiful... but I never do.
May anyone send some advice and positivity my way? Desperately, I need advice on how to only focus on my inner beauty instead of how badly I appear on the outside. I'd appreciate it more than words could ever convey!!
Thank you!! :D (link)
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I think you are partly acknowledging the problem yourself by referencing those 'flashbacks'. In middle and high school years we are all very receptive to and aware of comments. Both from those we can term 'authority figures' and our own peer group. Maybe especially our peer group. It's a hostile environment. And the unusually attractive girl, who is quite entitled to perhaps display it if she wishes, can easily find herself branded a slut/bimbo, show-off etc etc. In short, everything is amplified to much more than its true value during these years. There may be next to no truth at all in much of the hostility. It's just searching for a comment that's guaranteed ho hit home and hurt you. The truth doesn't come into it! I somehow doubt you are truly hideous and a terrible sight to behold. Or that you need your 'but I'm beautiful on the inside' consolation prize! So, identify your best physical attributes and capitalise on them. Negate the elements you do not think quite as good as much as possible. Develop your own look and style that plays to your strengths and neatly glosses over any weaknesses. I've never met a woman yet who didn't have at least one part of her anatomy she thought was letting the side down, so to speak. Even when nobody else would agree with her! I think the idea of focusing entirely on this 'inner beauty' concept (and hang how I look) is a bit of a cop-out mate? And it's stemming from a little lack of confidence and self-esteem? Which itself stems from a part of your life that is now in the dust of the past? OK. Let's get the outside matching the inside. I mean, we only know something's gold if it shines, don't we. Go on, shine a bit mate. Sparkle, even!!
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I'm a 14 year old girl, 5'6" and about 100 lbs. Normally I don't count calories, but when I do it's less than 1,200. If I eat more than that, I tend to feel sick and sometimes get diarrhea. I rarely ever get hungry, only when I haven't eaten for a long time (like more than 12 hours). I think I'm very healthy though.. I exercise at least an hour a day and never eat highly processed food. So why is this happening? Is there something wrong with my digestion? Should I see a doctor? (link)
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You sound very healthy by your own description. You eat what we might term 'proper' food and take exercise. You would not have the energy available to exercise if you were under-nourished. There's a big difference between malnutrition and 'feeling hungry'. The feeling of hunger is all down to the release of neurotransmitters, stimulated by the workings of the digestive system. Think of it as your body sending messages to your mind. Like the fuel gauge going bleep in a car when it needs more fuel. Although food and dining are enjoyable and social activities a lot of the time, in essence, food is just fuel for the body. So if you aren't feeling hunger, you are presumably getting enough fuel? Over-eating will indeed make us feel sick. It's another one of those 'message' mechanisms. We can wolf down a lot of food, too quickly for he 'tank full' message to respond and make us stop, the result is feeling bloated, sluggish and very sick. How much is too much varies from person to person. Obviously a larger stomach will take more to fill, hence the 'gastric band' surgery to help obese people shed weight. The diarrhoea reference is somewhat troubling.It's not simply a 'looseness' in bowel movements (sorry if it sounds a bit gross) but is correctly used when the movements are much more frequent than usual. You will keep having to 'go' until you are empty and any further food will similarly go 'straight through you' as it were. If this describes your symptoms then it's a good idea to make a visit to the doctor. A single, larger, possibly quite loose bowel movement 8 to 12 hours or so after eating more than your usual intake is not actually diarrhoea. There's actually no point in taking in more calories than you burn up. The body merely stores the energy as fat, and the energy thus stored is much harder for the body to access than the instantly available fuel it can call on from carbs and sugars. Hope there's something in my reply that helps. If you are worried make that appointment with the doc.
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My alcoholic mother neglected my education from age 5 by "unschooling" me (it's code for lazy parents who are too prideful to admit their failure in homeschooling) I'm going to be 18 next year and I've never been so depressed and hopeless.
I tried to motivate myself to catch up academically years ago, but it just made me too upset to even open a text book.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have no future. (link)
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It's fair to say that decently-paid opportunities in the current job market for unskilled workers are rare, and a lack of any academic achievement is going to be a real barrier. At 18 in the UK one would (if they had followed the path) be just about to start a university education. So is 18 'too old to learn'? Quite the opposite. Your brain is at a stage where it will soak up knowlegde like a sponge mate! I'd suggest you make a real effort to obtain some formal qualifications. Don't let one failure upset you. What was the quote? "Ever tried? Ever failed? No matter. Try again. Fail again. But fail better." Adult education is the proverbial 'different ballgame'. And you can do it part-time. Take any job to get some cash and fund it. OK, it might be a crap job. But you won't be doing it for ever, will you? It's just a stepping stone. This will build your self-esteem and confidence. The job will give you some life skills too. There's no reason why you can't become a great prospect in a relatively short time. The employer will see self-motivation and a pro-active attitude. They love these in a candidate. An alternative might be self-employment. Do you have a skill or talent? One that has no requirement of academic achievement? Is it marketable? If you are your own boss nobody checks your credentials. Do you have a friend who might help you make a business plan and help you with operational and financial aspects at first? The practical 'block' to this may be the capital outlay you need to get started. Not all businesses need premises and/or vast outlay on plant and equipment or even materials to get up and running. Is there a realistic gateway to YOUR plan? If there is you could give it a try. I think the main thing to keep in mind is that at 18 it's far too early to be talking about missed opportunities, no future, wasted life, failure etc. You've only just started to nibble at what life has got to offer mate! Come on. Get motivated. The first step is the hardest. In everything. Take that first shaky step and build from there. They might seem frustratingly small steps at first. But steps they are and steps forward. Formal school systems aren't guranteed to turn out big achievers. Many get a lousy experience from 'the system'. And you missing out need not be a mill-stone round your neck by any means. You can do it.
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I'm sick and tired of being so calm all the time, because people often become bored of me. I can be VERY enthusiastic in text messaging/email, but when it comes to talking aloud... I can't be enthusiastic.
Now I'm not trying to change who I am. I'm actually trying to make myself happier, because being enthusiastic makes me infinitely happier than being so calm does.
So, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on "faking it until you make it" on being enthusiastic, optimistic and happy.
Thank you for your time!!! :D (link)
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Strangely, I just used the same expression in a reply before I saw your question. Basically, it's like this. If you view your happiness and contentment as 'something that will happen in the future' then that's where it will always stay. In the future. Start giving out the vibes you want to feel NOW. Ajust your presence and persona to reflect this. It's a sound strategy. Sometimes we see for instance, somebody in the workplace who just seems 'destined for higher things' or 'going to the top' to coin some phrases. Why? It may have nothing to do with their academic qualifications. Or background. And we may be yet to see anything concrete to actually prove, or even indicate this mysterious 'potential'. You're looking at someone who has mastered the art of faking it til they make it. Surprising how often it comes to pass too! Think about how you're going to feel when you've grabbed some of life's rich cherries. Confident, self-assured. In control. OK, start projecting those feelings now. One practical tip. Try not to let ethusiasm bubble over int over-exuberent gabbling-on too fast. Self-assurance means knowing people will listen to what you have to say. Not that you have to cram all your views in when you're given a (short) opportunity. Frame your words, deliver them in a slower, measured and not-too-loud way. You might have noticed how the people with authority tend to do this? You want to look 'on-board'. Not like you've fallen over-board! Give plenty of complements too. True authority means not being afraid to praise where it's due and the confidence to delegate responsibilties. Never confuse 'calm' with 'boring' either. Hope there's a tip or two you might work with in my reply? All the best!
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Hi, I was wondering if you can finger yourself before you get yo ur FIRST period ever? Thanks (link)
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You certainly can. It's not unusual to find very young girls have discovered that they get very pleasurable sensations by touching or pressing against their sexual parts. Long before they associate the pleasure with being sexual at all. It just 'feels nice' and that's all there is to it. No harm in that at all. Of course, around puberty things change and a girl WILL realise that it's a sexual thing. But that's nothing to worry about either mate. Just part of growing up. I think I can guess what you're thinking? That you're going to grow up with some sort of 'sex addiction' because you seem to be enjoying it rather too early? Absolutely wrong! It signifies nothing. In fact at least some of your friends will be in the same place you are. They probably won't have told you. But I doubt you have told them either? Relax. You're fine.
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hey im a 15 year old girl from greece.Im kind of worried that i will never find a boyfriend..i mean yes im just 15 too young but when u see your friends having boys and stuff u worrying.I liked some boys..2 of them ver very much but nothing..and i dont thing that im likeable for boys..and im a girl who does not want to be in a relationship just to say it or something so its more difficult because i want to like a lot the boy im going to be in a relationship and never boys im in love or at least i like , likes me back.. (link)
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It's actually a good thing not to want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship and a very good thing to wait until you feel a very special attraction/connection to one particular boy before you do. The fact that two you had your eye on did not seem to return the attraction certainly does not mean you're unattractive to boys. Make no mistake about that. It's two-way thing. The guys could have had any number of reasons why they did not seem to notice you. Maybe they just didn't want a relationship? Maybe they just wanted something more casual, and you aren't really up for that anyway, are you? Just keep on keeping on, as they say. Don't get to worrying. If you want to be with a guy who likes you for being who and what you are, you have to BE who and what you are. Don't you agree? And that doesn't only apply at 15. It's a life-long thing. You don't NEED a boyfriend to make you somehow 'complete'. And any old boyfriend will do! I think you're doing a whole lot better than YOU think you are. You show a mature and excellent outlook. Your doubts are just 'peer group pressure' (feeling you have to do what your friends do). You're an individual. Possibly you have realised that a little earlier than your friends? Be the girl who gets what she wants, not one who who just takes what she can get!
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I have made wrong choices and now I am no longer interested in remaining alive. I don't need advice how not to commit suicide. I need help to commit suicide. Please don't tell me that there is still anything worth remaining alive for on this planet. Don't kid yourself and don't try and kid me!! All I want is someone to assist me so that there is zero chance of failure. If you aren't prepared to do that then please don't bother making any comment. I am in the U.K. so you will also need to be in the U.K. Thanks very much. (link)
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I'm gonna reply, but I'm not going to kid you. We're the sum of all the choices we've ever made at any given moment. We make crap life-choices. They put us in a crap place sometimes. That's life mate. That works in your favour too, though. Start making better choices now and you'll wind up in a better place further down the line. You're not defined by your past. Nobody is. Move forward. Head high. Fake it til you make it, like the rest of us!! You don't want to top yourself. That's the mother of all crap choices, and there's no way back. How about posting question that we might work with? Start finding some solutions?
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When do most girls begin to finger their vagina hoe. Im 10 and started to at 8. Is that normal (link)
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Quite agree with adviceman49. Your vagina and the whole area around it is capable of giving very pleasant sensations. By touching, or simply pressing or squeezing against objects. There's no age where it's right or wrong for a girl to discover these sensations. And once discovered, then enjoyed. I should say the most recent/current young generation (ie.you) are a lot more clued-in about stuff, there's more information out there. So in short, girls have always done it, but would rarely have identified it as, or called it 'masturbating'in the past. So, there's nothing at all here for you to worrry about.
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Hello, I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. I'm completely out of money and overdrafted by -$10 in my account.
I'm a college student who just moved off to college less than a month ago and found a new job three weeks ago. It turned out though that in the first two weeks my job didn't give me very many hours as I was training so I only wound up with about $110 for the first week and haven't been paid yet for this last week and won't be paid for this week until next Thursday or later.
My issue is that I have a car payment and car insurance which totals about $425 together and my car insurance was taken out this morning, which is what overdrafted me.
I even sold a watch that I loved to make money ($80) but I sold it online and now I won't get paid for it until the buyer gets it and accepts it, but who knows when that will be when I just shipped it today.
My car payment ($316) is due on the 26th and though I have a grace period I have no idea how I'm going to be able to make this!!!
Fortunately, because I am a college student I at least have a meal plan so I can depend on that for food during the week. However, I have no money for food on the weekends or anything else I might need. I'm also 100 miles behind on an oil change in my car so I don't even feel safe driving it and it needs a synthetic change which is $60! I don't know what to do, I feel like everything is a giant disaster right now!
I can't ask my mom or dad for money because they don't have any to spare and I'm stuck on campus without any friends since I'm new here.
Please help me with some ideas!
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I'm a bit unsure as to how to answer since I live in the UK. Education is expensive and most take out student loans to cover the costs. Repayable later when your income exceeds a certain figure. Is there a similar service available in the US? Could you investigate? Secondly, although overdrafts and loans etc are a legal agreement, banks live with defaults every day. Arrange an interview soon as possible to discuss your situation and find a workable solution. Of course, it will ultimately cost you more than staying 'in the black' with your bank but banks are, like we said, very used to things 'going wrong' with their customers and they are human. It's not a hanging offence to be overdrawn! Hopefully you'll get some breathing space, then it's a case of prioritising. The bank will probably help you here at the interview. One short term priority decison might help. Car oil changes are specified to keep the engine in top condition in the long-term. They are not safety-related. Service intervals are specified as, say 12,000 or 20,000 miles or six-month/twelve-month. If 12,000 becomes say, 13,500 or six months becomes seven it is of no significance and won't damage the car or risk your safety. It's 'about 12,000 miles' (etc) in effect. You could delay this expense. Definitely DO NOT approach an independent lender (aka Loan Shark) under any circumstances. The interest rates are ridiculous and they'll employ any means to claim posessions if you default. Banks have a great deal more integrity, the interest rates are fairer. No loan sharks, you're buying into a world of pain. Companies rarely advance salaries to employees I'm afraid. Unlikely to find a result here. There are probably some conflicts here, due to our different nationalities but I hope something might be some help. I know UK banks are always 'kind' (as it were) to students since they are presumed to enter the job market at a higher level and likely to become good customers in the future, re. mortgage arrangements etc. So they like to keep students on-side. Best of luck.
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I'm 14 years old, and I got my first phone when I was 12. I had secretly been going on a chatroom every night on my phone without my mom knowing. On there, I met a man who was 22 at the time and we chatted a bit- nothing sexual or romantic- but then we started talking every single night and we'd talk until the wee hours of the morning. I realized I had developed a crush on him and he said he kind of liked me like that too. By then we had been talking for a few months. So then he said he felt wrong and creepy about it and didn't want to talk anymore because he was afraid he was going to become a pedophile, but I loved talking to him, so I talked him into staying. That happened a few more times until I became 14 and I think he felt a little better about it. But now, I am realizing I'm just dragging him down. We never do anything sexual or inappropriate but we do like each other romantically and nothing can ever come of it. I would never meet with a stranger I met online so even when I'm grown up, nothing could happen. He's a great friend and I feel like I could tell him anything, but I don't know if I should stop talking to him. Is it wrong that we're talking? Is it unnatural and disgusting? He's one of my best feiends, so I want to do what's best for him and me. (link)
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I don't want to jump on the 'paedophile' bandwagon. And since nothing that you find disturbing or 'feels wrong' has taken place in two years I doubt he is a threat. I believe the internet 'grooming' characters look for quicker results and easier victims? I should imagine he is probably a rather lonely man. Possibly one who is not very skilled or confident socially? I would however suggest you either break it off completely. or at least not get involved in any more long exchanges with him. Since it is not doing him any favours or really helping him in the long term. You may aleady have helped him when he confessed his fears of becoming a paedophile? You possibly led him to confront this and (presumably?) not act on it. I appreciate that having an older person, who is neither a parent/family member/teacher etc who you feel you can 'tell anything' is an attractive opportunity in your teens. Which can be pretty turbulent and stressful times, eh? That's what sites like this are about really, isn't it? It is a lot more controlled however. Personal communications may have much more sinister motives and outcomes. I think 'disgusting and unnatural' are a bit strong and almost certainly misplaced in your particular case, so don't get hung-up about having done something basically 'wrong'. Probably fair to say, although he's years your senior, you're about 'outgrowing' HIM emotionally already. Like you said. Nothing can really come of this and you don't actually want it to anyway. OK, you wouldn't tell your mom about any of this. But I can honestly say you've done nothing wrong. You so clealry (from your post) discern the difference between on-line and real world relationships. Not all girls of 14 are anywhere near that mature and savvy.
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How would you feel if your significant other said that your approval means the world to me ?
For example:
your significant other asks your opinion on something
Then you give your honest opinion and say you approve of it
And then your significant other says "thank, your approval means the world to me"
What does it mean when someone says that ? And how would you feel if someone said it to you ? (link)
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If they say this, and their subsequent decisions and actions confirm the sincerity of it, then you have every right to feel very good indeed. Seeking the approval of another is in effect asking the permission of someone whose permission you do not actually need. Permission entails power and authority. Aprroval is the hallmark of equality and mutual respect. I would feel highly valued indeed.
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My boyfriend and I have made out and touched but we nevee go very far. Yesterday he told me that he can never seem to finish during sex. He sais he has had sex 10 times and only ever finiahed twice and he is concerned ans embarrassed about it... Can anyone tell me why?? (link)
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Sound like what is called 'performance-related anxiety' which is exactly what it says on the box. Obviously sex shouldn't be a competition, exactly. But failing to climax once or twice (maybe because of simply pure nerves) is horribly self-reinforcing. Each time we fail it makes us inordinately more likely to fail next time, in other words. The vicious-circle concept. Quite natural he's embarrassed about it. OK. It's not that uncommon. And the good news is that we can indeed break that vicious circle. Good experiences are just as self-reinforcing as bad ones. Each success makes us more likely to succeed. Practical advice would be don't rush into sex too soon. Last thing he needs is another failure with his new girlfriend!! How about a lower level of intimacy for now? Intimate touching and handjobs? Don't put pressure on him to perform. Definitely DO NOT let yourself appear appear in any way disappointed if he doesn't 'cum'. That will really shatter his confidence. Don't carry on too long. If he starts to get a bit anxious or frustrated, call it a wrap and just kiss and cuddle etc and let him pleasure you. When he does climax, nice encouraging feedback. Of course! Hope you're getting the picture? Fact is, like we said, it does happen and quite often. But there's plenty we can do to get over it. I'd say it's almost certainly not a physical problem. Erectile dysfunction can be and may have many physical causes and again, is exactly what it says on the box. If he's interested and you're getting him hard (as you might say) but has problems reaching climax, that's NOT erectile dysfunction. Main thing is not to let it spoil your relationship by causing arguments. Us guys can get pretty argumentative when we feel concerned and frustrated mate! I'd be preaperd to bet if you take things steady, build on the positives and not let the odd negative become a 'big issue' you'll be fine and enjoying a perfectly satisfactory sex life in no time.
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I don't know if this is the right category, but I am in university. I go to a small private university and a bunch of my classes have about 10 or so people in them.
Because of the small class size, there is a lot of professor-student interaction and questions and things.
I usually know the answer when the professor asks a question, or at least have a reasonable guess, but I never put my hand up. I hate speaking in a group of people.
Almost every time the prof calls on me, I start talking but the first few syllables are completely inaudible. I hate it, and I wish it wouldn't happen because I would like to be able to answer questions. I just end up looking stupid, especially in my French course when it is a pronunciation excercise....
It's not just in class though like any time in life when I need to talk in a situation I am not 100% comfortable in I can't get the first bit out in an audible manner.
Why? What can I do to fix it?
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What you need my friend is a little self-belief and confidence. Resolve to start doing it straight away. Take a deep breath, 'frame-up' your words in advance and deliver. Like an actor delivers his/her lines. Very soon it will stop being an act. A small and intimate class like you describe is a real plus. It's university education at it's best. Many students 'lost' in a large anonymous class would envy this intimacy. This is an opportunity. Use it. Don't worry, that confidence WILL come. It's part of what higher education brings out in people. Think about this. Your best ideas, your most challenging probing and questioning, your most pertinent theories. Your own 'new word'. None of them will ever see the light of day if you don't communicate them. Start next lecture.
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I met a guy on deviant art who was 20 (I'm 13 but I turn 14 on January 7th) and we started talking. I never had my age or name up on my profile. Or how I looked like. So he didn't know how old I was or any of that. He saw my art, though and thought I was so great. He had a fan fiction series he was writing and I suggested he made a Wattpad account for it. So he did. And we chatted on there more. One day I suggested he added a cover to his fan fiction and he said he wasn't too good at making covers so I offered to draw one for him. I finished it within a week (I think). He loved it and even told me I did so well, he kinda wanted to give me virtual kisses because of it. I was kinda shocked and didn't know how to respond at first. Then I replied- "That's cute. *virtual kisses* 😘" He did the same. Ever since, we'd been giving each other virtual kisses and I was had been so into him while we were talking as friends so I went along with it. Later on, we got pretty close and I lived it. However, one day I was just looking around at his profile and I saw it. He was 20 effing years old. I didn't know what to do because I was already so into him and thought my age could scare him off. But I ignored it for a while. Months later (and quite recently) he asked me how old I was and my hear freaking SINKED. I freaked out big time and didn't know what to say. I was thinking "Should I tell him my real age?" "What if he never talks to me again?" "What's gonna happen?" Eventually, I freaked out and told him I was 15, thinking it would freak him out a little less (again, I'm 13). His reaction wasn't really good at first but he said he'd wait for me and he thinks I'm turning 18 in 2019 but I'm really turning 18 in 2020. So instead of 3 years, he'd have to wait 5 years for me to turn 18. It's almost been a month since then and I'm in love with this guy. I know how he looks, how he sounds, and everything. He has a YouTube channel as well but anyways yeah. We've been texting on Kik for awhile now. But idk what to do, PLEASE HELP. WE'VE BEEN FLIRTING A LOT AND WE ARE SUPPOSED TO MEET EACH OTHER ONE DAY. IM SCARED HOW HE'LL REACT AND THAT HE'LL STOP TALKING TO ME!!! HELP!!!!!
I don't even CARE if he doesn't want a relationship. Just having him still talk to me will be enough. (link)
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Meeting someone we like, who shares our interests, and basically 'gets' what we are all about? A feeling of 'connection'? I think it's fair to say that all of us rate this as one of the most desriable things life can offer? And I'm sure that at approaching 14 you are aware of this very clearly. You haven't been entirely honest about our age. I'm deliberately not going to use the word 'lie' as it's a nasty word and entails nasty motives. And I hope you've gathered that I do not think your motives are the least bit nasty but very natural. However, you do need to be completely honest with this guy as soon as possible for lots of good reasons. It really isn't fair to either of you to pretend. I can see what you mean about him 'waiting' and in theory the shorter the wait the better, eh? But sooner or later you would have to be honest and it's very much the sooner the better. I'm afraid I can't give you any assurance that he won't 'freak out' as you put it. You'll just have to take the chance. There's no reason however why you should not have a guy this age among your on-line friends, especially as you share this creative bond. That's something real. Artists working together with a real result. No age restrictions here! Regarding the relationship on other levels. The timing's off right now. I think you know that. But how many times do people end up with (as they say) people who have been around in their lives in other ways for many years? Sometimes even almost forgotten, in the background, so to speak? And why couldn't that apply to you? Tell him how much you value the connection and are pleased that he values it. That it feels like something a bit rare, a bit special. That to just stay in touch and work together would be something you would value greatly. Something that doesn't really rely on flirting? Or age? Then who knows what the future might hold? You sound pretty together and very mature for your age in your question. I kind of feel myself really hoping that you two do stay in touch and maybe more, when or if the time's right. It's all about that mysterious 'connection' thing isn't it? So hard to find and impossible to force. Just happens. I hope he can see that too and doesn't cut you dead because you aren't of an age where you cold be be a sort of'ready-made girlfriend'for him. Good luck. And if he does freak out, it's his loss. You're better off without him mate!
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i tasted something not too pleasant in my mouth and i think it was semen because my breath smelled of semen.I am only 13 but i was masturbating and i think i swallowed the semen because of the weirdtaste + the smelly breath. will it kill me if it was semen i swallowed? (link)
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Swallowing semen can't do you any harm whatsoever, and certainly can't kill you. It just passes through the digestive system without affecting anything in any way. And contrary to a curious old myth that seems never to die, girls cannot become pregnant by swallowing semen either. It's a biological impossibility. Whether you swallowed some or not, you're absolutely fine, I promise you.
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My 11 y/o daughter used to eat many different types of foods, vegetables, fruit, meat, etc... even if she didn't care for a particular vegetable, she'd still manage to eat it anyways.
Since about three weeks ago, she's only wanted to eat one thing for breakfast, lunch, and dinner: Two scrambled eggs and one maple sausage. Sometimes she'll have orange juice/ a breakfast essential drink to go with it.
I've tried arguing, offering special meals, but she only wants to stick with eggs and sausage. I'm worried she might eventually lack the nutrients she needs.
Is this just a phase? (link)
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Sounds much like a bit of a 'food-fad' which are quite common at such ages. I recall a phase of driving my mum (an excellent cook) mad by insisting on instant packet mashed potato instead of proper mashed potatoes. The orange juice/breakfast drink is a good sign. Natural vitamins on fresh juice, and the preparations often are enriched with others too. Check the labels, you'll see exactly which she's getting a good dose of. Egg's are great sources of protein. I believe many of the older 'too much cholesterol' arguments have been discredited lately? Eggs are good again! Obviously, too much of the same diet is not a good idea. Vegetables are good, but making a girl of 11 to 15 eat plenty of vegetables is notorioulsy difficult anyway. The anti-vegetable phase seems curiously common for a spell. Try telling her they're essential to keep her complexion clear and free of spots. Even if she doesn't like them shell probably have that fear of being spotty! Three weeks is not an awfully long time. I'd suggest you monitor it, and try to encourage her to mix things up a bit. But don't 'bully' her into things as that's a great way of setting an eleven year-old girl gainst anything! Good luck. At least she's not cramming sugary drinks, candy and junk-food down her mouth non-stop. That's a big thing here in the UK (where I live) amongst kids and teens and it's almost certainly storing up plenty of future medical problems for them.
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I get hating the terrorists but the terrorists are a very small minority. Islam is a huge religion. I am not a Muslim and I'm a lesbian too, but I don't blame all Muslims for Orlando, 9/11, Brussels, Paris, San Bernardino, etc. In fact I will never forget the time when I was younger (at the time I was 12), with my sister (who was 5) and my mother who was struggling to pay for stuff at the grocery store. While all the people in the line were looking around to see where they can buy their food quicker, a Hijabi Muslim woman not only gave us enough money afford it, but paid for the entire thing. And she went out of her way to do it too. So why do people hate all Muslims? (link)
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People do not. What people hate, primarily because they are afraid of, is Islamic Fundamentalists who inspire, incite and/or actuallt commit acts of terror. There may well be a suspicion, a feeling that all Muslims align themselves with and/or support these acts. This can only be adressed with communication and education. Muslim communities in non-Muslim countries must really work with that community and it's authorities to denounce and distance themselves from the fundamentalist/extremist factions if there is any hope of putting these suspicions to bed once and for all. This is not always done well, or even at all, unfortunately. Not everyone appreciates the difference. Most do. But not all. Among those who do not, I'm afraid you'll find fear, and fear quickly becomes hatred.
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Hi,
I don't know anything about cameras or their accessories. I recently bought a Canon Powershot SX720HS. It's a 20.3 mega pixel camera.
Does anyone know what would be a good SD card? I bought a SanDisk - Pixtor 32GB SDHC? Would this SD card work well with my camera?
Thank you! (link)
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This is an SDHC card camera, so yes it will work fine. The card in any camera has no influence on image quality. Very cheap cards do not give pictures any less sharp or colour-correct etc than the most expensive. We pay more for reliability and quality control. SanDisk are a reputable maker of all kinds of storage media so no worries. If you shoot at 20mp, that's a pretty big image file at maximum quality/zero compression (Check your menus to see what size and quality you are shooting at. Massive, top quality shots may be overkill if you're doing stuff just for small web photos on one particular shoot, for instance). 32 gigs will give you a decent number of shots even at full quality and size. Whether that is enough or not depends on your style of photography. If you find you are always running out of space on a day 'on location' as it were, (with no easy way to download them and start again with the erased, blank card) then probably another 32 gig card is the better option. They're available up to 512 gig. But the price saving (1 big versus two or three smaller cards) isn't that much. Cards can become corrupted or get damaged. They're usually very reliable, but it can happen of course. Losing, say a whole 256 gigs of carefully acquired (maybe some are not repeatble, too!) pictures will really break your heart. I use mulitple 32 gig cards (mine are CF, but it makes no difference) for that reason. Happy shooting!
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