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Talk about bad hair days...I suffer with at least 3-4 a week. It's not that I use cheap shampoo or don't buy stuff for my hair...it' really wild...(sorry bout this) but my hair is like hagrid's from HP. Yeah and it looks awful.

Now I know I'll never have Jessica Simpson or Jessica Alba hair, but I want to get a hair cut on Friday. Something new. Something that can work with any mood; loose; ponied; straightened; curled...anything! I'm thinkin something short(shoulder length or about 1-2 inches below), layered and neat.

Does anyone know if this will work with my rounded face...and if anyother suggestions arrise please advise me on what to do


thanks,
bad hair day's everyday!

shorter hair is way more poofier. dont do it. i would go with the layers tho. just keep the length hair that you have. maybe ask your hair dresser what you should do about your hair.
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whats a really good razor(not disposable) to use for your legs? and not too pricey. thanks

venus razors are the best.=]
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15/f. Christmas is my all time FAVORITE holiday. i just love it! now that it is coming up, i've seen christmas commercials, and i've already started making my christmas list. now that is all i can think about. i'm just so excited! what are some things that i can do to take my mind off of christmas. because i sometimes get sad thinking about it because it is almost two months away.

thanks!

its okay to be obsessed with christmas. making an early christmas list is sometimes a good thing beacuse when people ask you what you want for christmas then you know instead of saying i dont know yet. dont get TOO carried away with it tho. plan events with your friends to forget about it.
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Guys laugh at me and are really mean to me and don’t treat me well at all. It’s because I talk weird, I’m too opinionated, I have a brutal sense of humor, and I only listen to musicals and Sondheim……

For example, they always snicker whenever it’s time for PE….I’m the most not-athletic person in my whole class. I can’t even run a mile. I was telling my friend about how un-athletic I am, and this guy overheard and goes, “Yeah, you sure are.”

And when we were working in groups, and this guy whispered to the other girl in my group, “do you actually expect her to do anything?”

Lots of stuff like that every day. And more,

And I’m not being paranoid. I gave it the benefit of the doubt; but when I discovered that half of the guys blocked me on AIM, it’s pretty obvious that the guys hate me.

I know I should be strong and I shouldn’t care about what those morons think of me, but it still hurts. I bet they wish they could make fun of my body as well, but fortunately, I’m not overweight, and I don’t have any really ugly features that they could laugh at.


It really, REALLY hurts my feelings. I know I shouldn’t be so sensitive, but it makes me feel awful.


What should I do? I can’t tell a teacher, that would only decrease my reputation. And my school counselor doesn’t know squat.

well usualy when guys pick on you, they like you. ask a friend of yours thats close to the guys why they always pick on you. have her rely the information back to you. make sure you trust this girl a lot tho.
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Ok: 20 yr old guy, kinda likes 19 yr old girl. what is the best way to ask out if said guy is shy for the following reasons: 1-He has not had much luck in this area ever. 2-Unsure of how girl will react(Will she laugh, think i am dumb etc...).
This is slightly confusing, some outside opinions would be appreciated.
Thanks.

luck can change, trust me. he might miss out on the chance to ask her out if he waits forever. he cant be afraid of what she`ll say/do. he needs to just take the plunge and do it, or he`ll never know what might have happened.
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I hate my friends, i have a little group of friends and ther names are kiera,karrie,chloe and danielle. Danielle was moved into our class because we have moved up to high school and she wasn't put with anyone she liked, anyway Danielle is taking kiera away from me now because when we have to work in pairs chloe goes with carrie and keira goes with danielle so i am left out, i have to go and work with the least popular person in the school.
I am not popular at all and i am not a total reject but my question is how can i get keira to be my friend again and be best friends with me? should i even bother?

well sometimes people click better with other people. sometimes people will always be bestfriends with someone. it seems to me that kierra used you when danielle wasnt there. you cant break apart best friends. try making new friends or just explain to all of them how you feel.
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I have this really suicidal friend called jazz and she keeps cutting her wrists and trying to kill herself because she is depressed i have tryed to help her but she keeps making me feel depressed, i told her to go to the doctor she say no i say talk to school she say no so what do i do?

i would tell her parents about it if they dont already know. cutting yourself isnt heathy. she may be mad at you for telling her parents but she will thank you in the long run. you could ask her parents to keep your name private and not let her know that your the one that told.
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ok yesterday i said to my friend jess on aim "i officially have the best song on my myspace ever." i told her to go look and shes like "that song sucks." it was "but its better if you do" by panic at the disco. then shes like "dude, stop trying to be like me and katie cuz its not working. you hated them like a month ago." katie is one of our friends. she also said i get jealous over the smallest things and its really annoying. is she like way overreacting? because all me friends think she is.

and another thing..how can i not get so jealous? because i do get jealous easily.

she seems to be the jealous one to me. think about it tho, do you really try to act like her and katie? if you do then try to find some originality in yourself. you dont have to act like people to get people to like you. just be yourself.
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My boyfriend is 42 and I am 29. We have a great relationship except for the fact that he is into alot of porn and recently i looked at his computer and he was on a website called hornymatches.He put in his profie that he is looking for casual sex. i was shocked he has a lot of female friends and he feels like the sex on the net is an escape. he said he would give it up but i have set up spyware on his computer and he is still checking those sites, little does he know i have changed his profile to say that he is gay!!! ha ha i am a very attractive woman and he is older, do you think he will cheat eventually? i guess looks arent everything, he assures me he will never cheat and i am going out of my mind and doing alot of investigating and worrying. HELP

i wouldnt trust him anymore. especially after you told him to get off the site and you know that hes still using it. casual sex means that he is willing to cheat for pleasure.
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There is thie guy in some of my classes, his name is charlie.I really like him, but i don't think he really feels the same way.We barly know eachother but i really want to get to know him and hope we might have a reelationship in the futchure.but i am to nurves and shy to really talk to him, what should i do?

you dont have to talk to him in person. you can talk to him on the phone, or if your even to shy for that, then theres always aim, email, or myspace. NEVER EVER let a friend find out if he likes you or not. information can be easily mixed up.
-missadvicebitch1

HOPEFULLY, YOU SEE THIS. ANYWAYS YES IT WOULD BE KINDA RANDOM. I ASSUMED THAT YOU WOULD KNOW TO GET TO KNOW THE GUY FIRST. SORRY FOR LEAVING THAT PART OUT. =]

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i just made a question and now i get that girls can ask guys out but now how do we ask them out in a cute way i guess? specific kinda please? 13/f and ill see him again friday

there isnt really a specific way of doing it. you just simply let him know EXACTLY how you feel. just casual say would you like to go to the movies with me? you can even make it a double date with one of your friends and someone that shes interested in. guys can tell when a girl is loaded with confidence and they love it. asking a guy out is def. a sign of confidence =].
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Ok, theres this guy that I'e been talking to at school and we both talk about things that we both like and he's really nice and great to talk to. We would flirt innocently even though I have a b/f which I kept telling him after he kept making sexual remarks towards me. Then he started acting a little less like a friend and more like he was intresested in me and kept asking me when I'll dump my boyfriend. Now he's acting really immature and talks obviously trying to make me jealous by mentioning some girl that he likes to someone next to me. And he made a sexual remark to me the other day which i just anwsered by saying "Wouldnt you like to know" and he said "No...Ive moved on!" LOL I dont understand why hes so desperate to not be single and have a g/f and why he has to be immature and rude to me just beacause I wont break up with my faithful boyfriend of a year which I definitly think I see a future with. Should I stop talking to him altogether? Is there only one way he'll see me as and never as a friend? Why do we stop talking to people that we can't have? Why dont we accept what they've decided and who've they picked? Isnt it better to have someone as a friend rather than nothing at all?

i dont think that hes desperate for a girlfriend. i think that he just likes you very much! if you dont feel the same way about him - which you dont seen to, explain that to him. let him know taht you guys cant be friends if hes going to keep talking sexually to you and harassing you about breaking up with the love of your life.
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every time i make cookies they always come out crunchy whether i make it from scratch or cookie mix. How can i make my cookies less crunchy? Or at least like softer? please help! i really need to figure this out lol

read some cookbooks and try there directions. you can also ask someone for help.
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Ok, me and my boyfriend are both 17 and have been dating for almost 6 months. We have had sex without a condom twice and im not on any type of birth control. The first time was Oct. 25 and the second was Nov. 8. I was scared the first time we had sex that I was pregnant but decided i would wait for my period to get all worried about it. I seriously doubt i could have gotten pregnant from the first time cause it was only for like a minute. I got nervous and we stopped. The second time we again didnt use a condom. He pulled out before he came but maybe he didnt do it soon enough. Some of it got on my leg and I asked him if he came inside me and he said he definitely didnt and i didnt feel anything. My period is usually 4 1/2 weeks apart and my period should be coming any day now or could be a couple days late. I dont want anyone to know so thats why I havent gotten a pregnancy test yet. Is there any chance I could be pregnant? I'm so nervous and this is all i have been thinking about. My boyfriend says if i am pregnant that we are not getting an abortion but i dont know if i can handle a baby at this age. Help me please!

okay well there is always a chance that you can be pregnant if you dont use a condom. even sex with a condom isnt completly safe. there is no safe sex. anyways your boyfriend cant tell you that your not getting an abortion. hes not carrying around the baby for nine months is he?
-missadvicebitch1

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ok im 13/f
so ive was friends with this girl for maybe a year. last year we were really close. shes really nice but shes the kind of person that sucks up to everyone to be everyones friend. over the course of last year we got into some fights but not a big deal, towards the end of the year she did horrible things to me, she told this girl alll my secrets, and talked behind my back. so then after that i told her i can't trust her anymore and i still mean it. she forgave me and then i gave her a 2nd chance. it happened again and i told her that i couldnt be friends with her anymore. that summer she didn't really talk to me but i didnt care. this school year shes acting as though im her best friend and trying to tag along with me and my new friends. my friends don't care for her so much but they dont want to be mean.

i officially don't want her in my life..but she won't stop talking to me. she IMs me all the time, talks to me in school.. and i say hi back to be nice but i give her the could shoulder but she doesnt get the picture !!!

what do i say/do to her that will keep her away from meee ?!

it seems like youve made new friends and moved on with your life - without her. explain to her that you were serious when you said you didnt want to be friends with her. maybe she didnt take it seriosuly. politely tell her that your not enemies, but your not friends either.
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17 female

I asked this boy out named james and I really like him alot and every thing and when I asked him he said that he's trying to get with this other girl.I don't know who she is or anything james is a freshman he says she's in the 8th grade anyway here's the problem before i asked james out all i talked about was him i could tell my friends were getting annoyed with me but i still couldn't stop talking about him my best friend says iam obbessed with the boy but now if i just see his face i want to burst into tears i won't eat and iam normally a big eater so when i don't eat my friends know that there's something wrong with me.I didn 't even talk all that much today all i did was think and daydream about james and when i think about him i start crying my eyes out what's going on and what can i do about it please help iam sick of crying over this boy.

okay you have to move on with your life. if james doesnt like you, you can force him to. there WILL BE better guys out there for you! dont worry sweetie. keep your head up high and smile =].
-missadvicebitch1

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