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I'm Jaz. I'm 17. I love photography and writing. and I've gone through a lot with self-injury, depression, and guys. I hope I can help you ask much as possible. I will give the most honest answer.
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my boyfriend acts like a jerk when hes with his friends.. he was just over with his friend today and he didnt even give me a hug ! he was being a total fruitcake .. then my friend screamed for them to come back when they rode their bikes away for him to give me a hug, and he didnt ! i dont know what i should do.. help.
Break up with him. He's not worth it. If he can't act the same way around his friends with you as he does without his friends with you, he's not the right guy and will only cause you grief.
ok, this is weird...and i've never told neone before, and your the first to know. i...kinda have sex w/ myself. i know, ew. but, the problem is, i don't know how to stop! i just get these feelings like i want to do it, but then like i don't want to but i feel like it. and whenever i think about sex, i'm like gross. but i don't think that when i'm doing it to myself. an also i've never had a b/f. i'm really scared, but it feels good to do it. HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That's called "masturbation". There's nothing bad about it. It's natrual and healthy.
I have the urge to have sex a lot and yet im only 13/m wut should i do?
Well, truthfully, you should masturbate, it might help the urges. Or, just ignore them and instead of thinking about sex, do something else like watch tv or go outside.
hey i saw your colum and you look like you give amazing advice so yeah.. i like this guy and hes a year younger and everybody thought he liked me but then i find out he likes one of my good friends and it sucks and i still like him but at the same time i dont and im really confused.. so any suggestions? thanks =]
if you really like him, go for him. he probably isn't worth it though. just do what you feel is right.
and most of all, just flirt and have fun.
doesnt it hurt the first time you have sex? cause you have to have your cherry popped?
I wouldn't personally know, but I've heard from my friends that yes it does hurt. And yes it is because of your cherry being popped but also because the skin stretching done there.
I have a masturbation problem and in 13/m what should i do?
there is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation. it's healthy and it relieves stress. and it's perfectly normal for guys to masturbate.
the only negative thing is that it's addictive.
ha.
so you're fine. don't worry about it.
Hey, I was reading a few questions and I saw the cutting one recently asked. And I saw how you got through that all, and I think that your amazing for geting over all those things you explained on your info. Your answers are very good, and your doing a amazing job. Keep up the good work. =)
thankyou so much. :)
i was in love with a guy who was in love with me. we ended up going our separate ways, but it sucks because we both still have feelings for each other. heres the catch: he has a girlfriend. he tells me he "knows shes not the right one for him" but i am confused as to if i shuold let myself fall for him again or back off. ppleaseee help
I think you should back off a little bit. I went out with a guy for 6 months and we never did much except talk, when we broke up, probably about 6 months later I was on the phone talking to him (he had a girlfriend at the time) and he was saying how he's going to break up with his girlfriend and maybe go out with me. I was thrilled, but 3 days later, I found out he was going to stay with his girlfriend a little longer and that he didn't like me anymore.
It's hard when someone is with someone else. I really think you just let him go for a while, if he comes back then that's what will happen, but it's not worth getting hurt over if you fall for him again.
Maybe he will realize that you're the one he should be with if you back off a little. Just give it time.
Good luck!
You know the "Brat Pack" in the 80s? Who were the original members? I know a few of them like Demi Moore, Ralph Macchio, and Rob Lowe, but who were all of them and why were they even called the "Brat Pack"? I know this is an extremely random question, by I just wanted to know. Thanks :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brat_Pack
http://www.thebratpacksite.com/
hope that helps! :)
i think i have anger problems... yesterday, i got mad at my parents and i dug my nails into the palm of my left hand until it bled. now there is a huge chunk of skin out of my left hand. I am a cutter. I cut when i get depressed. any idea of what to do when i get mad other than drawing blood? i dont want to go see a doctor... because my parents dont think i have problems.
I suggest exercising. When you exercise, it releases the same chemicals (endorphins) in your brain as self-injury does. It will help you a lot, trust me. I finally stopped cutting and when I run and/or exercise, I feel great and relieved of stress.
good luck!
if you need anymore info on self-injury and/or alternatives to self-injury, please let me know.
What is it when someone is prude?
dictionary definition: modest to the point it annoys people.
my definnition: when you are afraid and not very open about touching the one you are dating, such as holding hands, hugs, kisses.
some people's definition is when someone won't have sex (my ex-boyfriend's definition), and this is not true.
i find "prude" to be an insult.
say you have dis friend ok....n he tells you that he likes you....you guys talk! would you say you guys r 2gethr if you n him held hands jus 1 tym? even if you guys were jus frienz.....
if you are just holding hands one time, I wouldn't really say that you're together. But talk to him about it, if you like him, maybe you two should be together. And if you don't like him, just tell him, holding hands meant nothing because you don't like him that way, you like him as just friends.
hope that helps!
First off, i appreciate anyone who can answer this. second, this is going to be somewhat long but here goes nothing:
On saturday my mom told me my boyfriend could come over. she wasn't home for 30 minutes and he came over during that time which she said she was fine with as long as we don't go upstairs to my room. But we went up there. while we were up there we had sex for the first time and while we were doing it, she came home. so we raced downstairs and acted like nothing happened. and she didn't suspect one thing at all. then the next day *sunday*, one of my friends called me and asked if i had sex with my boyfreind. i told her yes along with the story. while i was telling the story my mom picked up the other phone line and heard EVERYTHING. she knows now and is calling me a slut, and trash. now she is telling me i am not allowed to see my boyfriend ever again and if he steps foot into this house she will call the police because he's 18 i'm 16 and still a minor. so i guess she could have him arrested for him having sex with a minor.
i still want to continue to see my boyfriend but now we are going to have to sneak around. i know that isn't right but that's the only way we can see each other. any advice on what i can do to get my mom to let me see him without her freaking out and calling me a slut???
Check the consent laws in your state. It's usually 16.
ok so me and my boyfriend are planning on saving money so we can go to Florida for spring break next year, 1) how much do you think we'll need and 2) whats a good place in florida to go to, we're not big partiers and whats are some places to go to?? Thanks in advance!
I really don't know how much you'll need, but Fort Lauderdale is a great place.
im 15/f and i've got a really wierd problem. First of all, don't call me an emo or any of that nonsense or i will give you a 1, i am most definantly not.
so when my dad screams at me (about once or twice a day) he usually yells pretty bad, verbally abusing me, it hurts. so ever since i was younger instead of cry or let out my pain, because if i cried he would get even madder at me, i would pinch myself very hard or scratch myself secretly with my hands behind my back or so. i was about 7 when i started this. now this year it has gotten worse, i am getting screamed at for nothing and it has been worse then ever. i started scratching myself until i bleed. not until the skin is red, until blood is dripping. now i have 3 scars on my wrist and too many to count on my waist. i never thought i was a cutter b/c i didn't go cry and slice myself with a blade, i don't think i could ever do that. but i went bathing suit shopping with my friends and they saw the scars, and they were horrified. they had no idea what it was from, i didnt really know they were so noticable but they def. are. i am really happy all the time at school, a cheerleader vb player, a prep and every1 sees me as happy and hyper. i do cry sometimes, so im not like repressing everything. and im not emo, i don't self loath or anything. so why do i do this? make myself burn, sting, and drip blood? i don't know how to stop, i tried to rubber band and it doesn't work. i cnt seek professional help my dad will never allow it. please somebody help. I RATE 5'S FOR REAL ANSWERS
You're using self-destruction as a way to cope with your dad. I went through this. You really should talk to someone. Even if you're school counselor. Talking to someone is the best thing you can do. When I went through self-injury, I went to a counselor and now I'm here 10months clean of self-injury. Even if you go to talk about the way you're dad treats you and not mention the scratching, it may help you a lot.
Good luck.
If you need any more info on self-injury, please let me know, I will tell you anything that you need to know.
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try palmer's coco butter. i hear it works for scars. or get scar reducer stuff from your local drugstore. i haven't tried anything for my scars yet, so i don't know what really works.
hi! i'm 15 and a female. i'm plus size and i dress really nice, some guys tell me that i'm pretty but none of them seem to want to date me, why is that? how do i get atleast one of those guys to wanna date me?
flirt.
play hard to get.
I am 14/f, and i think i have a serious depression thing. I am always feeling sad, and guilty about something. most of the time that i get a guilty feeling, i dont even know what i feel guilty about. Can someone tell me what i can do to be happier? Nothing in my background is making me depressed either. I tend to wear a lot of black, which is kinda what i feel: emptyness, guilt, sadness, darkness...See what i mean? im not like goth or anything, but i do hang out with a lot of goths. But anyways, i dont want to go to a psychiatrist or doctor, cause last time i did that, he told my mother that i was 'suicidal'. and i cant talk to my councilor at my school, she is a B*tch. please help me...
i would talk to your doctor. you might have clinic depression. Talk to your parents about what's going on.
i think im emotionally disturebed because everytime my cousins come here there suuuuper annoying that u dont understand i feel like there little devils that came to earth to ruin my life and i just feel like killing them and if i cant kill them i kill myself i think i have seriouse problems!!!HELP PLZ CAUSE I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO AND I FEEL LIKE CRYING
no.
do you use maxi pads or tampons?
pads.
ok i have writen before about me not wanting to be lesbians but i just cant help it. i like boys and everything its just that when i see a girl i look at her booty, her breast, her face, and i see how big her breast and nipples are compared to what i really like. i dont mean to but it is natural i guess. anyway how can i stop being lesbian and if i cant stop how do i find a girl that is my age in my area without everybody knowing? please help me!
i rate high for good answers!!1
you're bisexual.