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I love helping others. I may be young & to be honest I have NOT experienced everything there is to experience, but nonetheless I am a good listener. I am creative & intelligent, so I can hopefully give you some helpful advice. =]

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A senior girl in my first period's mom passed away on Friday. She wont be coming to school for the rest of the week because of the tragic situation. My teacher was to get a "sympathy card" and get my whole class to sign it saying how sorry they are and all that. I, along with a few other people in the class, don't think it'll be a good idea. WE said so in class today and our teacher just responded with, "Lauren need to know we care about her."

We don't think it's a good idea because she would be just coming back from a whole week at home with her family grieving and she doesn't need all this pity from us. When our teacher told us what happened, all you could hear around the class room was "Oh that sucks, I can't believe she's finishing her senior year without her mom, Prom is going to suck for her, etc." I know those kind of things are going to end up in the card.

At the end of class, we just decide that we weren't going to sign the card but do y'all think there's a way to stop the whole thing?

I don't think you should stop the whole thing, becasue this girl does need support at this hard time in her life. Giving her a card is not going to bring her mom back or take away any pain, but it lets her know that people are thinking about her and she's not alone at this hard time.
If however, you choose not to sign it, there is nothing wrong with that. I can understand your reasoning, so it is your choice & no one is forcing you to sign it.
Remember, this girl may not feel better or even like the card, but deep down she will recognize that people are taking the time to care.

I hope this advice was okay!

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I have to summerize 2 chapters with a total of 60 pages and we have to have details of the beginnin, middle, and end. There is 60 pages! How in the world can you summerize that many pages with vivid detail? Does anybody have any advice on how to summerize chapers? How do you know what is important, and what is not? Thanks! ♥

To help you get started, go to either www.sparknotes.com or www.pinkmonkey.com and read over the summaries they have written for your chapters. These sites will give you good examples of the important things you need to know for your summary. But remember, don't copy them...that's plagerism!
Hope this helps!

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My mum and dad have had one of those 'loveless' relationships and now they have separated but theyre still living together. From what Ive been told my mum only married my dad because she was 31 and wanted to have kids. They were together for ages before they married.
My dad didnt treat my mum that good and when it came to bringing us up he left it down to her. He would never really look after us.
Anyways my mum told me that she started seeing her 'highschool sweetheart'. I dont know if theyre actually together together. I kinda had my suspitions before.
My mum asked if I would like to meet him. I said I didnt know. I told my boyfriend about the situation and he said why did u say that for, you shouldn't see him. My brother said the same thing.
I love both my parents a lot. My mum hasnt been happy for a very long time. Now she seems alot happier and that makes me feel happy. From what Ive heard he's nice guy. But I feel that if I see him or am nice to him then im gonna be kinda betraying my dad who knows nothing about it. Im really confused.

No, you would not be betraying your dad if you met this man, but perhaps you should have a talk with your mom first. Explain to her how you feel, and maybe you two can agree to tell your dad what is going on, so that you don't feel as though you are betraying him.You can also explain to your dad you love him very much, and still spend an equal amount of time with him as well.
Whatever happens, you should not feel guilty about "betraying" anyone; that should be an issue between your mom and dad.

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I have SUPER straight hair and have been wanting to curl it! I dont want the wet look like scrunching with gels. I mean with a curling iron.. Any ideas? Thanks!

You probably won't get the wet look with a curling iron, so try scrunching gel instead. Besides, the gel takes less time, and less effort.

Here are some good products to use:
*TIGI Catwalk Frisky Scrunching Gel with Attitude
*Pantene Pro-V Curl Defining Scrunching Gel
*Garnier Fructis Curl Shaping Spray Gel (Strong)

If you must have a curling iron, some ideas are:
*Hot Tools Professional Spring Curling Iron
*HAI 3 in 1 Ceramic Curling Iron
*Ceramic Tools Professional Curling Iron

Use lots of holding spray after this!

Good luck with your hair!

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I've always been told that I am a talented actor. Lately though, I have been restricted from acting by my parents. This is due to my average and not superior grades. I've been trying for nearly 7 months to get the great grades my parents require so that I can do the thing I love most. I just can't get focused enough, I come home and just forget to do my homework after my chores. I am smart, and know that I am capable of good grades, I just can't get my brains together. I would like to go to a study group, but my parents won't let me do that either. How can I get back in my honor roll tactics, and into theatre acting again?

I am sure many people have problems concentrating on things that need to get done, so first of all...you are not the only one!

Now about those grades! Here are some tips to not getting sidetracked:

1)Do a little bit of homework/studying (15 min? 30 min?) and then take a ten minute brake! It is almost like a reward system, where you get to take off 10 min for a snack or just to relax each time you work. Once 10 min is up, get back to working again, and keep doing this until all your work is done.
2)In school, talk to a guidance counsler about getting help from another student, perhaps during a study hall. This can be instead of your study group, and will surley help improve your understanding of your studies.
3)Ask your parents about getting help from a tutor.
4) Talk with your teachers, and go in for extra help in the morning or after school.

Now, once those grades get back on track, you need to talk to your parents calmly like an adult, and hopefully you can convince them to let you take up theatre again...all you need are your acting skills for that persuasion (and a little bit of luck)!

HOPE THIS HELPS!!

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ok. I almost lost my home yesterday because of a huge flood. and i was to call my "best friend" on the phone. and this is the conversation.
me: hey
her:hey I heard about the flood
me: yeah, they might not let us back in our houses for 2-3 months.I'm basicly homeless.
her:oh well I have 2 friends over and I don't want to be rude
me: *scoffs* yeah ok bye
her:bye

....there were only two friends of mine that said "hey well if you need a place to live you can come here" if my "friend" was actually my friend why did she blow me off in my time of need?

First of all, I am sorry about your house.
Now there could be more than one reason your friend acted the way she did, so before you make any assumptions it is best that you talk with him/her. If you don't know what to say try one of these:
"Hey, I wanted to let you know when you ignored me yesterday, it really hurt, especially since I am going through some hard times right now."
or
"Hey what was up with you yesterday when I called you with a problem and you didn't even seem to care?"

If you talk to your friend, it will clear things up, and then at least you will know what is going on!

I hope everything with your house & your firend works out okay!

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I'm going on holiday with my friend in the summer and I am a very picky eater!!! I have given her a basic list of what I really don't like and like, totally won't eat, but Iunno, there's obviously going to be other stuff they feed me that I don't like. So I'm gonna take a bit of food in my suitcase just in case. I've already thought of cereal bars and crisps but is there anything else I could take? Ignore the fact that I'm a picky eater, just say anything you can think of. If it's a good idea but I don't like the food then I'll still rate high because you tried.

Well for snacks try:
*Granola Bars
*Fruit Snacks/Fruit Chews
*Individiually Wrapped Cookies
*Fun-sized Chocolate bars
*Canned Fruit (peaches...etc.)
*Individual Sized Popcorn Bags

For Meals:
*Bring boxes of pasta you can just throw in a pot
*Bring a container of peanut butter, which can go on bread or bannanas
*Bring your own boxes of ceral that you enjoy

Hope this helps!

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What kind of dog would you reccomend that is small and you don't have to worry much about its hair?

I would reccomend a Bichon Frise, and here are my reasons:
1) They do not shed
2) They are very friendly
3) They are small
4) They make great friends
5) They are adorable

I had a bichon for 10 years, and I loved him so much. We actually just got a new puppy, and decided to get the same type again, becasue they make the best pets! Good Luck!

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Hey There!

I don't exactly pluck my eyebrows at all, but they aren't "bushy". Is there any tips to help me shape my eyebrows? Where do I pluck, and where do I not. I don't want my eyebrows to get too crazy, you know?

You may want to go to a salon (usually hair salons, nail salons, or others) so that you can get them waxed. It doesn't hurt as much as it seems, and it is less painful then plucking, becasue instead of pulling 1 hair at a time, it pulls them all out at once. After this, you may want to return reguarly to have them waxed, or the first waxing can just serve as a shaper, so then all you have to do is pluck the stray hairs every once in a while.
Good Luck,

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Ok, I'm a little over weight. Does anyone have any ideas on what to do? I try doing sit-ups and push-ups every day but sometimes I don't get to. I've tried eating healthy but it doesn't work!! help

First of all, before you go on any type of "diet" you should contact a doctor, or at least talk to a parent about it. If you then decide to diet, make sure it is not dangerous. A real diet is basically adapting a healthy lifestyle for good, not just for a month or to. You need to eat healthy foods like fruits & vegetables, and cold water is the best drink.

Whatever you do, never ever starve your self, becasue you could end up with an eating disorder called anorexia nervosa. Also, never "binge and purge" or eat alot and then throw it up, becasue this is an eating disorder called bulima. Both of those eating disorders can result in death, and are very dangerous.

If you are having trouble exercising, try dancing in your room for a little while, or running outside while listening to a walkman. It may be tough at first, so start with just a few minutes, then when you feel more confident you can proceed to work a little more.

Healthy Lifestyle Tips:
*drink atleast three bottles of diet iced green tea. green tea is a natural dieuretic-but the regular stuff (Turkey Hill brand) has at least 17+ grams of sugar. sugars are wasted calories. so drink the diet stuff. and dont try and substitute it with the regular iced tea....its full of calories and doesnt work the same way.

*Drink cold water. It makes you feel more full then room temperature water, and is more refreshing. Cold water is kind of like eating chips. Once you pop, the fun don't stop. And it makes you have to pee a lot, which flushes out extra water weight.

*Don't counteract all of your dieuretic liquid drinking process by chowing on anything even remotely salty. 2 teaspoons of salt can retain up to 4-6 pounds of water weight. Salty foods also increase your appetite and make you feel hungry.

*Stay away from sugars, salt, and lots of bread products, which are unnecessary carbs which put on extra weight. Stay away from fast food-its loaded with salt, fat, and calories, even seemingly healthy choices like chicken nuggets, or McDonald's salads.

*Alot of girls trying to lose weight drink obscene amounts of diet sodas. This might seem like a good idea, because it is the good taste of a sugary soda, sans the sugar. Unfortunately, carbonated drinks make you retain water, so if you are trying to get rid of some extra pounds, dont drink any soda. Replace with diet iced green tea.

*When you are trying to fight temptation of eating food that is bad for you or will make you gain weight in the long run, try and put it into perspective. 4 McDonald's quarter pounder burgers equals 1 pound of food. Even though your body does burn a majority of the substances that you put in your body, they are still calories. 4 Quarter Pounders a week equals 1 pound a week. Thats nearly 5 pounds in a month. So stay away from them. Try and put all your food choices into perspective like this. And try and imagine foods like a bag of doritos or a burger or a muffin stuck to your hips or stomach... because thats right where it goes to. Also, stay away from what seems like "healthy foods" like cheese, dairy products, crackers, and peanut butter, juices/smoothies/gourmet coffee drinks...they are filled with hidden calories and sugar.

*Don't skimp on sleep. Try and get at least 7-8 hours a night and try and go to bed at the same time every night. Suprisingly, your body does the majority of its calorie burning (besides during a workout) during its sleep cycles, and sleep also keeps you refreshed, ready to go, and gives you enough energy to workout and pay attention to your food choices. You feel less sluggish and more alert to what you put in your body. It also keeps your skin looking fresh and nice and helps your nails and hair grow healthily. Overall beauty is the goal here.

*Drink a lot of black coffee (if you dont like black coffee try tea or coffee with fat free creamer and a sugar subsititute like sweet n low)-it is virtually calorie-free and is full of caffiene...keeps you awake and energized to work out and pay attention to your body.

*If you hate cardio, like i do, try and do a low intensity work out like yoga or pilates (pilates is your best option, especially with the new aerobics pilates that are out now) or walking briskly outside. you might have to do it longer to burn the same amount of calories, but in the end, its a less exhausting workout.

*Remember, running, hiking, biking, and swimming are all your best calorie burning cardio options. If you want to burn maximum calories or do it in faster time, choose one of these.

*When feelings of boredom or hunger come on and you've already past your maximum calorie allowance or are hungry for an unhealthy food, try to busy yourself with something like cleaning, organizing, or shopping (stay away from mall food courts!!)..it will take your mind off of it, and doing these things also burns calories! Don't sit in front of the tv or talk on the phone-these are things that you can do two things at once during, and you are likely to want to pick up a snack.

*Lastly, remember that you made a promise to yourself and a commitment to your health, appearance, and body. If it helps, write your goal down and keep it somewhere safe (and private! this is a private battle-peering eyes only make the process more difficult and embarassing!) and accesible. This is a battle and a process, and will take some time. When you feel like you're not getting anywhere, push harder. No body ever got anywhere by giving up. And most importantly, remember the outcome of your goal when accomplished-love for your body and complete hapiness with yourself. Remember, you must love yourself first to love someone else. This tends to work best from the outside in. Don't give up. You have the strength and the drive and motivation in you. You deserve this.

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my parents have to find a place for me to stay for thursday to saturday but the problem is my mom set me up at my bff's house but im mad at her and i think we are separating apart from each other cause i have new bffs but i dont no how to tell her i dont want to stay at her house because my bff is on the same bus as my other bff so she will no im staying at her house what do i do?????????

signed
Lonely

Dear Lonely,
First of all, you should probably rethink your friendship with your first BFF. Why are you mad at her? Is one fight really worth ending a whole friendship over? If you still feel that strongly about staying at your new best friends house, you cannot keep this a secret from your other friend, or the fight will only become worse. You simply need to explain your feelings to her, and hopefuly she will understand. If not, remember -you tried to do the right thing.
Good Luck,

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