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Hey- i'm Emily. I love my friends and most ask for my help with various situations... so I guess i'm good at giving advice lol. I am a freshman, i love the band, and i am somewhat outgoing. Ask me anything and i'll do my best to help. :)

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I feel so ugly.. no matter what I do, I'm always comparing myself to girls that are prettier than me, and putting myself down... I always feel like I'm not worth anything because I feel ugly.. What can I do to raise my self-esteem or make myself prettier???

We are all unique, equal, and special in diff ways. Hey, I know it sounds corny but it is the truth...
Try wearing a new style of clothes. Try going out for a sprts team. Find something you are really good at and stick with it. Remember we all have our downsides- even the girls you are comparing yourself to. They might be putting themselves down just the way you are.
Just remember you are the best at beign you!
Hope I helped some sorry so short! :)
*emster*

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2 years now and i love him soo much. Well we got into a REALLY REALLY big fight, and he said really mean things to me so I broke up with him and when he came to my house the next day we talked and he told me that he thinks alot different of me now and he made it pretty clear that he didn't want to get back together with me at all. I didn't mean to break up with him and I want him back, the problem is, he doesn't want me back. My heart is broken and I'm really lonely. He was my life, I was with him EVERY SINGLE DAY. I feel lonely and I don't have anyone I can really talk to about it. What should I do? How can I get him to want me back as much as I want him back?

The sad truth is, whether or not you want to believe it, he has most likely moved on. You said yourself he made that pretty clear. So you probably won't be able to win him back. Just remember he lost his chance to have a great girlfriend. You might try moving on as well. And hey, boys aren't everything. Catch up with friends or hang with your bro/sis. Try finding a new boyfriend if you are ready.
Hope I helped a little!
*emster*

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ok i have a friend name aurora. she's bin really sad alot latly. the reason why is that she barly has any friends. well i've tried getting her out into like really socil public places where she's likely to make some really good friends. but she keeps on my offer. and she is being too stuborn her self. ok here is my question. How the hell can i help her out if she wont listen to me?

Try being a good friend to her at moment. Maybe what she needs is some support instead of a new crowd to hang around with. She will most likely make friends in time. At the moment, just be the good friend you can be. Many people have trouble making friends and only have a few.
*emster*

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I don't have much time in my crazy schedule and my boyfriend and have gotten really close lately and hang out all the time... my friends are getting annoyed and are saying that i don't spend enough time with them. i try really hard to do things with them, but it seems that i can never fit everyone in.. i want to stay close to my boyfriend but i don't want to lose my friends either.. comment please!

There is this thing called Group Date. Yea it is very common. lol you can try that. You can also try telling your bf that your friends want to see you more and you can see your friends at the mall one day, go to the movies with your boy the next. Your bf will probably understand. Or as I said there is group dating where you can all go with your bf, your friends and your friends bfs to the mall or whatever.
Give it a try.. hope i helped =)
*emster*

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okay well this might be gross but please take it seriously and give me some advice my arm pits sweat kinda alot and at school they sweat and you can see the wet marks under my arms i hate it what can i do?!

There are certain types of deoderant that are made to prevent sweating. there are diff brands on whether you are a guy or girl but thats all i know. Give it a try...

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Okay. There are three lunch periods at my school, lunch a, lunch b, and lunch c. Well I have two best friends, Kim and Megan. Well Kim has lunch a, Megan has b, and I have c. We all had c last year together. Its a big deal who you sit with because the lunch table you sit at you pretty much stay at. The thing is, there arent any people I know that I can stand enough to sit with everyday. Dont just tell me to go up to people I dont know that well and sit with them. Any suggestions for getting my counseler to let me switch lunches? Any other solutions? Oh and there are about 2000 kids in my school. I was new last year so I dont know anyone I didnt meet last year which wasnt that many people. any help would be great

Try explaining your situation to your counselor. He might turn out to be merciful! Even though you don't want to, making friends might end up being your only alternative. Give it a try. You could also ask Kim and/or Megan if they know anyone nice who is in the same lunch with you. You could try sitting with the people they tell you about.
Sorry so short, but I hope I helped a little!
*emster*

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Ok, 13/m, Im out of town, my girlfriends birthday was four days ago and I dont get home for 3 more days... we havent been going out for long, but i still want to get her sumthin nice that says i love her and that im sorry i missed her birthday... any ideas?? thanks

You could try flowers, or even better, roses. Every girl loves flowers... You could take her out to eat or buy some movie tickets WITH the roses... just be creative.
Sry so short but I hope I helped a bit :)
*emster*

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I have this friend. We are like best of friends and we chill every other day or talk on the fone.
okay and she used to be friends with J. J and her used to be like how we are now. Js kind of a whore like meeting internet ppl, making out with strangers, flashing ppl and dressing like one. So we both hate J and my friend hangs out with her everytime shes pissed at me or just to get her to stop calling her. Now shes been with her for 3 damn days in a row. So I called her and she wont answer and its making me mad.
Should I trust that she doesnt talk crap about me like we do J or what should I do? Is there a way to be in touch w/o her knowing its me and getting her to answer?

Try doing the old way before mail or email. Go ring the doorbell. Try talking to her that way. Tell her how you feel. It sounds like she is talkign behind your back so maybe you need to find a new best friend.

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ok well, i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like my bf and we have been going out for 4 months. i think he is going to break up with me because he hasnt called for 5 days now AND when we do talk he never really....talks. i seem to be the only one on the phone at times. im not sure what to think. do you guys think he is going to break up with me? should i break up with him first? im so confused so PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!! thanks a bunches!

Ok, don't freak out just yet. Hang in there! Call and ask if you want to get together like go to the movies or go get ice cream... If he says he has plans already talk to him. Don't yell or anything just tell him how you feel. Don't break up with him just because you think he is about to break up with you!
Good Luck- (: hope I helped some...
*emster*

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i have this thing called hyperhydrosis, which is when you have really really really sweaty hands and sweaty feet ALL THE TIME, and even if you wipe them off on something, they don't get dry, they just stay wet. my boyfriend keeps asking me if we want to hold hands, and i keep making up excuses and stuff because it's really embarassing that i have sweaty hands, but i don't want to keep having to make up excuses every time, because he asks a lot, and he's already starting to get really suspicious and everything. please help me think of a good excuse that i can use everytime, or tell me if you think i should just tell him about it. if you think i should just tell him about it, then tell me how i should say it.
i know this might seem like a stupid question, but please help, and i'll rate high for good answers!!!

You can go to your dermatologist and he might prescribe you something called Aluminum Chloride. Its a pill that dries out your whole body. It doesn't hurt to take it...
You need to tell your bf. If he loves you he will understand, he might even have something embarassing he wants to tell you. He could find out if you don't tell him and might be hurt that you just didn't tell him the truth.
Just say, The real reason I don't ever hold hands with you is because...... And just tell him. He will most likely understand.
*emster*

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so i start school on tuesday and im gonna be a freshman. im a girl im 4'9 i have brown hair and green eyes. i dont know very many people i know like 6 poeple in the whole entire school. is there any way i can make friends fast? any tips or anything? i will rate high.

Be yourself. If you decide to get friends by acting a certain way just so they will "accept" you, don't. You will eventually get tired of putting up an act anyway. Besides, friends are supposed to like you for the real you.
Talk about things that interest you with different people. If you find that someone else shares the same interests that means you can always start up an easy conversation with them. Good qualities in a friend.
The six people you know- are you friends with them? If so, try to hang around them and meet their friends. If your original friends share the same feelings toward things that you do, their other friends will probably do the same.
Good Luck! *emster*

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Hi i am a 23 years old muslim girl from leicester. Nowadays i am recieving numorous witheld number calls and threatening text messages. I have had a relationship with a guy who i have no contact with. First when i recieved the text i thought they were send to wrong number. But it's everyday now that i recieve them. Each one has threatening message like "i will kidnap you" unless i do what he wants. Now he has warned me that he is going to send pictures of my relationship with the guy to my parents. I am very scared and confused and can't even sleep. I don't want my parents to know because my dad has recently had an heart operation and i can hurt them.

Please help me find a solution to this problem as i can't go to the police or tell family or friends.

Thankyou

You should probably go to the police, even if you don't want to.
I understand how you wouldn't want to hurt your parents by telling them, but imagine how even more hurt they would be if something DID happen to you.
It would be wise to go to the police!
If the person knows that much about your relationship, then they are probably someone who knows you pretty well.
You can also try to block the text messages... just a suggestion...
Good Luck! *emster*

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I have this bf who can't stand my bff (who is a guy) and my bf can't really stand my bff either. What do i do!? They both practcally hate e/o and my bff thinks my bf isnt a great bf... does that make any sense?

If your bff thinks your bf is not a good boyfriend he probably has feelings for you. If not you might want to take his words into mind.
Who says they have to liek e/o... they mainly need to just like YOU...

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I have been nevous about going back to school since July. school is gonna start next monday (yea early) and i'm scared about i guess everything ( classes, new friends, teachers, friends, friends, and enemies). How can i get over my school gitters by Monday?
Please help
Thanks
10th grader in da house.

Almost everyone I know has school gitters. It's very normal...
Just be yourself. You will probably get used to your classes and have fun in them. Teachers will warm up to you, and friends? Don't worry... Stick with the friends you have at the moment and as the year goes on you will make some new friends. In high school you are prone to be nervous!
Good luck! *ems*

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Does any one know who rupert grint is?

Rupert Grint happens to be the actor Ron on (so far) all of the Harry Potter movies. His character is the best friend of Harry.

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I am kind of sad because all of my friends have a b/f and I dont...... I know it sounds child like but it has been this way for a year now... I mean I am not the best looking but I still want someone.... idk what I should do..... btw 15/female

Just be yourself. If you act a certain way just to have a boyfriend, then he won't really know the real you, will he? If nothing happens while you just be yourself, ask your friends how they got their boyfriends... you may get some ideas!
Good luck! :)

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