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i was wondering if anyone had any good song suggestions for me. i want songs that are kind of gangster and punk and slow, so basically a variety. please list the title and artish
thanks (link)
check out a band on myspace...
myspace.com/forbiddenlust

they have a variety of songs :)

hope you like them

take care
dia (alex)


ok I'm at a stage of my life where my personality is changing. I wear dark clothes and a studded belt and no I'm not turning into a goth I just have a dark personality. I'm giving rap a break and I'm into rock,favorite band is The Offspring. So to top it all off I want a new hairstyle. I'm thinking of growing my hair a bit long so I can go to some barber shop and ask to make it stand up staight and spikey and I want red stipes on it too. So is there any like website that has hairstyles like that?

P.S.
Since I'm into rock any one know any good rock bands or rock songs. I like songs played by people like Panic at the Disco,The Offspring,Greenday,All-American Rejects,Nickleback, and Sum 41. (link)
first of all...wow you like Nickelback. BEST BAND EVER! also, congratulations on the "new you"..i kinda went from liking people like destiny's child and shit like that.to loving rock music
rock is so much better..trust me, music will inspire you to do things you never thought you would want to do :)
check out myspace.com/forbiddenlust if you want a good band to listen to :) they're an unsigned band from the UK...if you like them, drop them a line or something :)
there is nothing wrong with your change, so ignore people if they ever label you "goth" or anything like that :)
for hairstyles...google it! you're bound to like some of them.
i wish you the best of luck, tell me how it goes if you want :)...and if you like the band :)

take care
dia (alex)


does any1 know where i can get the full version of aaron carter jump jump? bcoz ive looked everywhere but i can only find the one that is 1min 34seconds long and stops before the rap part. (link)
have you tried isohunt.com?

download it :)


Help!!.
What are some great boy toys i can get my 16 year old boyfriend for Christmas?
any ideas..
guys..
just list stuff you have..or want.. or would love your gf to get you.. detail please!! i don't have a very open mind when it comes to boy stuff haha

thanks so much~ (link)
RIGHT....GO TO PLAY.COM!!!

go to the "boy's toys" section.
im getting my boyfriend the touch sensitive drum kit...because he drums in my band lol

im getting him a red hot chilis album and pulp fiction dvd from there too

delivery should be free (well...it is in the UK...dont see why it wont be in the US...if youre from there :))
hope i helped :)


My friend and i are bother girls and are 14 and are singing in our schools talent show together. but we dont know what song is good for us. heres somtin we'd like
~A girl singer that displays affections to guys w/ out sex or anything too innaporpriate
~teen pop music no rap or country please
does anybody have ideas of songs we could sing? they dont have to be duets just a song. thanks a lot (link)
what about avril lavigne? shes quite poppy...try "fall to pieces"
or some of her other stuff. most of it has to do with boys lol :)

you could always do Lindsay lohan's "ultimate"


earlier today i went into hottopic and there was this song on and i loved it but i dont know the name it went something like this "tell all my friends im dead" it sounded like new found glory but i never heard that song (link)
its not called "better off dead!!" lol...sory :S

its called "forget my name" by new found glory...and can be found on their album called "sticks and stones" :)


its not nickelback either...that line's actually "(put a bounty on my head), tell my PARENTS that im dead" lol...sorry...im a huge NB fan :D


why is yer advicenator name Dia?? (link)
because that's my nickname -(long story)...even though i put my real name (alex), this was more original lol :P


why do guys look at my mouth while i talk to them sometimes??

14/f (link)
I once read that this means that a person likes you!

of course, there are other ways to tell if they like you e.g, they use eye contact, and say if you scratch your knee- their eyes follow your movements, amd sometimes they copy what you do (eg :if you suddeny cross your arms whilst speaking to them, they might do it too!!)

hope this helped :)


warning: this may be long!
well i am in 7th grade and i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for 1 1/2 months. he cant really go anywhere because his parents are kind of strict. we went to the park once because his parents didnt know and thats is where i got my 1st kiss and my mom found out and she wont let me go. and we hung out at a haunted house on saturday. but that is pretty much it, he said he made a deal with his parents that after either halloween or thanks giving he can start going places with me. but i dont know if that will even happen. i really like him and all but should i let something like that get in the way? i am the 1st person he has actually loved you know so he wants to kiss me a lot even though we have only kissed 4 times. he wanted to kiss me today at my locker but i was shaking in 7th period because i was so nervouss! is there any way that you could help me not be so nervous and help both of us because he has chickened out a few timess. we are both really comfortable around eachother except when it comes to kissing. and he doesnt know how to just do it, he always has to ask me if he can kiss me like a day before..is there anyway i can just kiss him because it really pisses me off when he plans it!!

thanks in advance! sorry it is so long! (link)
Awwww!! young love!!
ok, it sucks that his parents are being like this, and that your mum's reaction wasnt nice :( however,it sounds like you really like this boy, and so DO NOT let this get in the way of things. remember...take it slow...and you'll both be fine :)
dont go behind your parents' backs though, as this will make them angry and they wont trust you. so if you want to win them over by making them accept this, then just play it their way for a while. instead of going out, ask if he can come over for tea (i know that sounds lame...but its a way of your mum getting to know him.)

as for the kissing, when he's talking and you have a rush of passion, just kiss him on the cheek or lips - because if you do that - he wouldnt't have been expecting it. its roamntic and spontaneous!!
that way, you wont be nervous as YOU are in control, and you wont have to "impress" him as he will be swept away with what you did :)

i wish you the best of luck, tell me how it goes
take care
dia(alex)
xxx


I am 20 years old an i am engaged to my wounderful boyfriend of 2 years..i recelty found out that this month he has been poking holes the size of tumb tacks in our condums.. i was woundering if there was a chance i am now pregnant...and what should i do..he dose not know that i found out???? i want kids i am just scared that we are not ready (link)
what sort of a "husband to be" does that?!

and if he wants kids(which is why he's doing this...what other explanation for it is there? )...dont you think he'd consult you first...after all...you would be the one carrying it around for 9 months while he hasnt got to worry about his body and looking after his future offspring. after all, it sounds as though he doesnt care aboout you..if he did, then why the hell would he be putting holes in your condoms?!
you need to confront him about this, and depending on what he says (which i think you ought to tell the advicenators about), you should re-consider if he REALLY is "wonderful" - and if he realy is the one for you.

i wish you the best of luck

dia (alex)


What are some adjectives that begin with J?
(link)
JIGGLY!! i love that word! lol
justly, jiggy, jealous, jaded, ...all i can think of right now!!

dia (alex)


every year i get 2 swimsuits, but last year i didn't get any because i forgot about it. anyway, i saw this really cute burberry bikini that's 175$ and i really want it, but i just got back from san francisco with my dad and he bought be 2 pairs of 170$ pants. i feel bad asking for the swim suit now, but i do need a new one, and if i just get one this year do you think my parents would be okay with it? help, i don't want to sound spoiled! (link)
ok...look...you've just been bought 2 pairs of expensive pants.

would it hurt to look for a bikini/swimsuit a little cheaper?
i live in england...(and though its not quite the weather) i see hundereds of bikinis and swimsuits for under £100...hell, i see loads under £10!!
and when i went to florida in april, i saw hundereds for under $50 al over the place...including the malls!

try Ron-Jons surfshop...a little less expensive -but not offencively cheap!

hope you find one you like

dia(alex)



well this is a little stupid but in class this guy sits next to me and a couple of days ago he pre cumed a little i dont know why. can i be pregnant? (link)
unless you had sexual intercourse with this boy...or he inserted his semen into your vagina...then no...you are NOT pregnant.

i dont see how you think you could be pregnant...even sitting where he precumed wouldnt make you pregnant...first of all...there are too many layers of clothes for it to get through...and even if it did go on the seat, and you sat on it...the sperm would be dead, as it dies almost instantly once it hits the air.


I'm 15/f.
I need soem really good alternative/rock bands! so anyone that could help please help!

thanks.

xoTiffox (link)
i know a GREAT band you'll love!!!

theyre an un-signed band from the UK called FORBIDDEN LUST

they have a female frontman...not seen much today unfortunatley...and there need to be more female fronted bands out there!!

so...visit:
www.myspace.com/forbiddenlust
or...
www.forbiddenlust.co.uk

their songs really vary from fairly heavy...to light rock...so its up to you to decide who they sound like and everything lol

please tell me what you think...your opinion would really be appriciated :)

take care and ENJOY!!!
Dia (alex)


so me and my boyfriend were dry humping but ofcourse ya know he was wearn boxers and jeans and i was wearn underwear n jeans. but what are the chances of his cum leaking through into my pants? (link)
very,very,very,very,very,very,VERY unlikely!!
...and even if it did (just incase you were concerned)- it wouldnt get you pregnant because it would ony be on your pants....but as i said....thats doubtfully going to happen...so
dont worry about it :)

dia (alex)


Heres a weird question: is it normal for my lips to kinda get swollen after me and my boyfriend make-out? lol i always come home looking like angelina! any ways to prevent it? (link)
hahaha!! yes, its normal...happened to me alot! basically,your lips arent used to that kind of action, and so they fill up with blood (slightly swollen redness/purpleness)from all the work-out!!
ways to prevent it? for me...i made out with my boyfriend alot, and that way - your lips get used to it. now i can make out with him for ages...and no one can tell :) hopefully -you will do the same.

after a while, your lips shoudlnt be so bad.
hope this helped :)
take care
dia (alex)
xxx


Hi.
I am having a halloween party (ages 10-11) an di really want to impress some new friends. I don't want it to turn out just like a plain-old-boring-laze-around -the-house thing. I want it to be AWSOME! But I just can't seem to find any ideas for like food, decorating, games etc;. Anyone have any ideas or really cool sights i could try??
Tanks for the help.
-YOLIV :) :) :) (link)
hey!!! if you're american...then use the advantage of the amazing shop WALMART!!!! lol...i live in england and would kill for that shop - especially around Halloween time :D...get everything from there...as they sell EVERYTHING! hehe...if youre NOT american, apologies! ...try tescos or asda, they have cool haloween stuff too!!

right...party games. what i played (about 3 years ago when it was 13-14 years olds)we played a game where you make a bowl of jelly, and put plastic bugs and weird stuff in it. then you put the jelly in a black sack, and people have to put their hands in it and guess what it is. that freaks people out as they're not expecting something cold and slimy!!

another game we played was where you had a plate of flour with a hidden chocolate coin somewhere in it...and you have to find it...with your nose!!
also...hide and seek in the dark is awesome...but make sure all possible things that may be broken are removed from the area ypu plauy it in!!
maye watch a scary movie...olike the amytiville horror, or the village or something like that if you really wanted whilst munching on halloween themed snacks!!

make sure everyone comes in fncy dress just to add to the fun of things too!! costumes and dressing up is always a laugh!

i hope you have a great party, and i hope my advice helped you :D
take care
dia (alex)


i'm making a list of 365 songs for my boyfriend while he's away at his group home thing... its a thing for our one year and i've got 122 but i can't think of any more. does anyone know any more songs i could add to the list? (link)
Theory Of A Deadman - since you've been gone
Theory Of A Deadman - in the middle
Nickelback - far away
Nickelback - feelin way too damn good
Nickelback - Animals (ha ha, listen to the lyrics !!:P)
3 Doors Down - here without you
Rooster -deep and meaningless
American Hi-Fi - another perfect day
Mcfly -too close for comfort
Vanessa Carlton - 1000 miles
Seal- kiss from a rose
Bryan Adams - everything i do...

did you want slow songs, because most of these are
tell me what genre of music you like... and i can most probably help if you need more :)

p.s...check out www.forbiddenlust.co.uk or myspace.com/forbiddenlust
they have song called "need you around"
i dont think you can download it...but listen to it online...its worth it i promise you.
you might find some other stuff you like on there too :)

tell me how it all goes
...and if you have any other probs.
btw- congrats on the anniversary :)


Yeahh.. My Parents Know, And It Effects Me.. I Told Him About My Pastt.. and What's Funny Is The Same Thing Happened To Himm.. So We Relate Pretty Well, But It Doesn't Effect His Sexuality After All He Is A Guyy Lolz.. And He Undertstands So After I Told Him We Cried Together And Stuff.. And People Keep Saying He Must Be Using Me Because He Keeps Breaking Up With Me.. But He's Trying 2 Keep Me From Getting Hurtt.. Because My Friends Stopped Being My Friends Because They Told Me To Break Up With Him And I Sed No.. And He Was Losing His Friends Too.. But We Got Them Backk, Considering We Have The Same Friends Hahaha.. I Have All My Usual Friends Backk.. And He Made Me Stop Cutting And Shoves Food Down My Throat!! Haha.. The Other Day He Wanted Me 2 Go 2 Walmart With Him.. And It Was FUNNY!! Lolz.. Except Todayy I Was In A Reallyy Bad Mood Because I Have Figured Out That No One Will Take You Seriously Unless you Are Over 16, Can Drive And Have A Jobb.. I'm Extremely Mature For My Age.. You Would Not Believe How Much Of A Misfit I Am At My School.. I Guess I'm What Most people Would Call "Gothic" Or "Emo", I Like Who I Am, I'm Not Fake Like Everyone Else I'm Myself And That's Itt.. That's Prolly Why No One Really Likes Mee.. Except Him!! haha.. I'm Supposed 2 Go 2 The Movies With Him Friday With My Sister And her Boyfriend, I Was Saying I Was Going 2 The Movies With My Sister And Her Boyfriend And He Was Like Do We Have 2 Sit With Them? And I Was Like Hell! I Never Sed I Was Going With You!!. Haha I'm Evill.. And I'm An Honor Student.. I Make Straight A's.. People Just Don't Usually Understand Me.. (link)
ok...i too am a rocker!! :D, but unlike me...you get good grades...you get A's, i get C's...im more of the average grade student. not super smart - but not stupid hehehe. although i did just get an A in my english GCSE (these are exams we english people take so we can actually get a good job when we are older...a C is considered the grade to get if you wanna get a good job haha)...yeah i failed maths..im more of an english subject base student. hehehe

ANYWAY...
well, this guy seems alot better than i thought he was, he seems fine, and if you cried together, it shows you have a bond. he wouldnt have cried infont of you if he didnt care.
im also glad that he cares so much that he's making you eat (which i didnt know you were depriving yourself of. i know someone very close to me who used to have a problem like that - i mean, he would eat, just not a substantial amount.

the only reason you should break up with your boyfriend is if you KNOW your friends are right, if they are wrong about him, then tell them. dont yell it at them, just calmly tell them .

its good that you're different, we have alot less people in our yeargroups than you do, which is firstly why everyone knows everyone, and everyone is included, however, i can understand not fitting in. sometimes feel that way, though i do have ALOT of friends! :D.
people who dont accept you are pathetic and shallow - which is WHY they do it. quite frankly, its THEM who are not good enough, not you. so dont you ever let anyone tell you that theyre better than you...because its bull!! hehehe

well, your boyfriend was breaking up with you for good reasons, and for YOUR benifit, which proves how much he cares. it sounds like you had a nice time in WALMART i fucking love that store, we have "ASDA" over here, a crappy spin-off from the shop (walmart own it). its not even close to being like a walmart, except for the kinda low prices...that about it . i havent been in a walmart since April, and im missing it like hell :(

by the way, the only way you are taken seriously is if you ARE mature , and dont act childish by acting mature. you said you're mature, so i cant see why people wouldn't take you seriously. driving and having a job have nothing to do with being taken seriously, sure it shows that they have responsibilities, but when working do they work to the maximum? and the people who drive: are they careful and considerate on roads,or are they a silly driver who breaks laws by going through red lights because "its coool man", then in that case, its bolloks that THOSE sorts of people are taken seriously. and i can asure you that there are LOTS of people like that !
so i wouldnt worry. if you show that you are mature in the right ways (that DOESNT mean going around having SEX to prove it), then you'll have no problem. and the reason you probably "dont fit in" at school is purely because everyone else STILL hasnt grown up! ...which is how it normally is at 14 - and no matter how much you hate to her it..im gonna say it...(haha)...14 year olds are still classed as kids, its not until you're like 16 that you are oficially considered "young adults"...yes, i know. IT SUCKS.

i hope you have fun at the movies on friday. im spending the night in with my boyreind instead of going out, though i have a gig tonight - havent played since july :S hehehe

anyway...
good luck.


Actually, I Was Typing Really Fast And Wasn't Sure What I Put I'm 14 Going On 15, He Treats Me Really Good, And I'm Mature For My Agee.. I Told Him That I'm Still A Virgin And Not Willing 2 Do A whole Lot, And He Respects That.. And The Whole Thingg With Him Flirtting With Shantii Was A Mis- Understandingg. He Doesn't Control Me I've Turned Him Down PLENTY Of Timeess.. The Whole Breakup Every Week Is Just A Part Of The Gamee We Playy.. I Wouldn't Askk.. && I Know You're Prolly Either Thinking She's A Cherry Or She's A Slut! I Know Kids Younger Than Me That Have Already Had Sex! And I Just Now Received My First Kiss! Yeahh.. I Talk Dirtyy To Himm And He Talkks Dirtyy To Me.. But It's Justa Part Of Being A Teenager Nowadays.. The Whole Empty Dark Alley Thingg.. Not Exactly Truee.. Cause Skyler Was Watchingg Makingg Sure He Didn't Kidnap Me Lol.. + Like All My Friends Knew Him In Reall Lifee.. So I Didn't Really Care.. I'm Not Intrested In Havingg Sexx.. I Was Molested As A Child.. And This Sounds Kinda Weird But Ever Since That Happened I've Been Afraid Of Doing Anythingg Sexual Because Idkk.. But My Computer Is Aboutt To Diee.. (link)
ok, as long as you know what you're doing, and you dont get yourelf into a stupid situation.

dont do anything you dont want to

im sorry to hear about your childhood... and your reaction to sexual activity is totally normal.
please don't take offence, but are you stil afected by it today,and if you are, have you considered councelling? do your family know, because this shouldnt be hidden from your family.

take it as slowly as you want, and if this guy cares for you, tell him, and he will understand. if you have done so already then thats great :D

take care, i hope all goes well.
alex




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