about

I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


advice

Do you know of anyways to hide cutting scars? Or stop cutting? My boyfriend spazed out on me last night when he found out so I need a nice way to stop, the rubber band thing doesn't work well for me...And I also need a way to hide the scars from my family.

First you need to work out what part of cutting yourself makes you feel better.

Seeing blood - If seeing yourself bleed is what makes you feel some release and better about yourself then just drip red paint onto your wrists. Personally, i used strawberry moisurises because it had strawberry extracts in that made it look like blood if you didnt rub it in properly. It was good for my skin too which was a bonus.

Pain - If it's the pain that makes you feel better, then use ice cubes on your wrists. It hurts and stings but wont cause you any damage.

As for hiding the scars, i just wore long sleves, or you could put a bandgae on and say you've sprained your wrost.
Or you could try bio oil which reduces scarring

http://www.bio-oil-direct.co.uk/

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welll, boys have been giving me more attetion i guess and i have no idea how to flirt or talk to them. i dont get nervous, but i just dont have anything to say. like on IM the convo is always the basic, hey. whatsup. nothing, you?. and thats it. what do i talk abouttt and how to i flirt?

Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.

Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.

Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.

Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.

Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.

When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.


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I just turned 17, I'm a girl. I get these crazy ideas sometimes. Now that I'm depressed, my crazy ideas have taken over. Today I stole my mothers credit card and ordered a plane ticket to another country. I leave tomorrow, without telling anyone. The question is: what do I do when I get there? I have a little money. Do I get a hotel room and then in the morning go look for a job to be able to keep paying for the room? Or do I find a church, see if they have the answer I'm looking for? Try to enroll in a highschool somehow? I've always wanted to live in America. This might sound stupid to you, ridiculous, I know. I've told one friend about it - so yes, I understand this doesnt sound normal to others. But it's something I'm going to do - so you might as well help me. I'll completely start over, new name, new life, new everything. Im not an idiot, I know I'll have to come back eventually, I understand a little money wont get me far, and that my parents will call the police and whatever. I get it. I get that my life will be completely ruined when I get back. But it's worth it. I have to do SOMETHING. I can't keep feeling this way. So..back to my question: what do i do when I get there? I'd like to have a list.. so far all I've got is:

1) Arrive at destination.
2) Get hotel-room.
3) Job (?) School (?)

What else?

I'm sorry and i know you don't want to hear it but you are NOt prepared for this life changing break away from home.
You'll be in a serious situation, if you really do need to get away thats fine, it can really help to have a change of enviroment (it did wonders for my depression) but you have to be prepared.
Being homeless, jobless , broke and alone and in a stange new place where you know nothing or no one is not going to help your depression, it's going to make you anxious and your depression worse.

Have you thought about different senarios, if you get into trouble, where will you go? Do you know where police stations are, hospitals ect.

If you can't enroll into a high school, then what?
Or if you can, where will you get the money to buy the clothing and equipment?
You can't go to school AND work 2 or 3 jobs just to pay for rent.

What if you cant find a job, or enough jobs to earn enough money for rent?

What if no one wants to rent a place to you because of your age, no references, lack of money ect.
And it's not just rent, it's water, electric, gas bills, phone bill, line rental, then there's your food bills.

I know you said nothing will change your mind but please just think about that.

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are there any home remedies or anything i can do to get rid of black heads and shrink my pores? i don't have any money on my but i feel like i really need to get rid of those darn black heads and shrink my pores!

i don't have acne or anything, so any "home pimple treatments" won't really be hlpful

thanks to everybody who answers! =]

This webpage give you loads of home remedies for blackheads, pores and achne.

http://www.ultimate-cosmetics.com/beauty/skin_disorders/acne-blackheads-home-remedies.htm

It's great, i'm going to try some of those myself :-)

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ok so today me and my boyfriend had sex and we didnt have proctection but we cant get it because none of our friends know and we arent going to go and buy them ourselves so he just takes it out before he feels like he is going to finnish, well today he said he didnt feel it until 10 seconds before he finnished and he pulled out and about 8 second after he finnished. i freaked out of course but he said he could feel when he pre cums so i dont know if i should believe him or what. ALso, what are the first signs of being pregnant ?

If your not mature enough to buy condoms then you are certainly not mature enough to have sex!

You need to get yourself to the chemist today and ask them about emercency contraception, 24 hour pill, as this will reduce your chance of getting pregnant, but it has to be the day you had sex.

Why does it matter if your friends dont know your having sex, why dies that stop you buying condoms?
They're going to know anyway when you have a baby bump!

This tells you the first signs of pregancy but if you are sensible enough to act today then you might be lucky and not get that far

http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/m/mother/first-signs-pregnancy.html

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You said in your little biography that you are taking courses in counselling and doing other things related to mental health. I am a 16-year old girl who is interested in psychology. I think it is really interesting, and I read all sorts of books on it, etc. I would like to have a career in it someday, but I am really shy. Do you know of any careers in psychology or counselling that don't involve a lot of talking to people?

Thanks!!

I think it's great that you are interested in psychology and councelling, it is such a rewarding thing to be, there are people who give telephone councelling and email councelling, but to be honest i don't think it works aswell as face to face because you need to be able to look at a persons body language aswell as talk to them.
You could volunteer to work for the Samaritans or another helpline (Samaritans is the main one people call her in the UK when they are depressed).
You say that you are a shy person so you might find it easier to do one on one councelling, working for yourself rather than an organisation.
That way, you can chose your clients, and chose whether you want them to come to you or if you are willing to give home visits.

I'm combining mine with complementary therapies, i'm thinking of studying reflexology, indian head massage, indian shoulder massage and reiki as these are relaxing things so you dont have to speak with your client as you treat them.
That maybe something you'd be intesested in.

It will also appeal to more people as you will have alot more to offer that the other competition out there, and will look great on your CV.

Good luck xxx

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I have problem and my problem is that I had sex a day ago and today my v is hertin and I be need in to pee avery 5mins and its only a little bit and when I do pee it hert in side and this is not the frist time it happend and when it did I got check but they didn't say any was wrong with me , but now am woudering wat should I do cause am worried and don't know wat to d0 cause it hert s0 bad

You have the sympoms for Cystitis which is a bladder infection, it makes you feel like you need a wee all the time but when you go, only a tiny bit comes out and it is agony.

This website will give you more information

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/cystitis1.shtml on what it is, what causes it and how to treat it

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What classed does Lauren Conrad take at FIDM?

Fashion Design

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tips on how u do it?

Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.

Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.

Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.

Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.

Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.

When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.


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how do you get rid of the stuble left behind on your inner thighs after you shaved? Every time i shave down there im left with lots of stuble and i don't like it. Any ideas except for waxing?

I use an electric razor, i use the circle bits that spin round because it gets rid of the hair and leaves it nice and smooth.

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Well I'm four months pregnant, and me and my babys daddy arent together, he doesn't believe this baby is his he tells me to screw myself and to find the real baby father. The thing is hes the only one who I've slept with unpertected in the last 6 months. So I know its his. But I got back with my ex boyfriend who I was with before four almost a year before we got into some stuff. We got back together before I found out I was pregnant. I told him I was pregnant he told me he'd step up and help me raise it as his own. Hes in Long Creek (Jail) until January 3rd and I'm due January 27. Well anyways my question is, do you think I should let him step up and raise this baby as his own. Please let me know what you think.

If your in love with eachother, and you know that he will always be their for you and your child then it would be an amazing thing for him to do.
If he has a habbit of being unreliable though, i wouldn't bother.
You don't want your child to be wondering where "daddy" is, if this man decides it's all too much raising a child, especially one that isn't is. You have to think about what is best for your child in all this.

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14/f

I just recently got into the hobby or scrapbooking.
what are the best websites?
I need to find little appliques that have something to do with being on the trampoline.
some that have to do with sprinklers.
and some that have to do with rollercoasters.
PLEASE don't tell me Michael's.
I already looked.

websites and links are always welcomed.

thanks so much!

I enjoy scrapbooking too, the cheapest and easiest way is to look on clipart and picture websites and print off pictures onto paper, it can be normal or glossy paper.
It's so much fun making your own embellishments, and much easier to find what you want.

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14/f

I am somewhere in between 5'9 and 5'10. I weigh around 145 pounds. but I want to lose weight. my goal is to be around 125 pounds.
I also want to be fit. I want nice abs, a firmer butt, and less flabby thighs.
I am NOT overweight, but I want to schieve these things ASAP.
PLEASE do not say anything like "you are perfect in your own skin" or "you are sooo not fat, you are the perfect weight."
I don't want to hear that, I just need a diet and an exercise regime.

does anyone have either one? or both? please?
If you have a Do's and Don't's list, that would be great too.

thanks so much!

So your goal is to be seriously underweight?

I'm going to tell you something now which you wont want to hear but you really need to hear it.
I've beenserious underweight like you are striving to be, that was 6 years ago. Now i've put the weight back on and i am still very ill because of this.
I'm in constant pain and discomfort, i get light headed and dizzy, feel sik every day, cannot sleep, extremely tired and at the risk of brittle bones which i will probably develop in later life now.

Trust me, you don't want to be like this.

If you want to be healthy then have a balanced diet, tone up if you must, but do not lose any more weight.

*additional - don't be rude, i'm trying to help you and stop you from getting ill.
Ok, i admit (now i've checked on a health chart), it wouldn't be seriously underweight, but it will be underweight, which is unhealthy.
I'm sorry, but i am very passionate about this subject, it frustrates me when young girls want to lose weight and think being thin will make them perfect and beautiful. Having curves is much more beautiful and attractive.
You don't need to lose weight, i'm sorry but i on;t want you to go through what i've been through and what i'm going through now with my health, all because of weight loss.

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16/f

i have been getting weird feelings in my stomach && have not yet got my period this month. it`s now the 25 of july. i usually get my monthly around the 18th. i have been late before but not this late. my stomach makes strange sounds. kinda like im hungry and its growling. but i can`t stop eating.

can you tell me some early signs of pregancy ? early as a month ?

and if im pregant can you tell me if or how i can get an abortion with out my parents knowing ? or a house hold way. or somethinggg. im too youngg.

In the first month of pregnancy the signs are;

You miss your period

Your breasts are tender and slightly bigger

You need a wee more frequently

Feel sick

Bloated tummy

You feel more tired than usual

Moodswings and You feel like crying for no reason because your hormones are all over the place

You may also experience headaches

As for an abortion, this best person to talk to is your doctor, they'll know more than anyone here and will be able to advise you.
Or you could go to a family planning clinic, they will also go through all your options with you.


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15/f

when you shave down there lol
are you suppose to shave the top
OR
just by the opening of the vagina and around it?
what do most girls do

I take it all off, if your doing a little bit you might as well do the lots, it's easier to keep neat and tidy that way, and it's more hygenic.

If it's your first time shaving down there, i'd say shave it all off. Then when it starts to grow back you can decide how you want to keep it.

Once you shave your hair, it grows back thicker and faster, so it's alot better to take it all off, then there's no risk of anyone seeing it if your wearing a short skirt or shorts.

* Don't use a disposable razor, chances are you'll cut yourself and it's too dangerous.
Use an electronic one with a trimmer, those are much safer and easier.
Alternativly, you can use hair romoving cream, which is painless. It takes ages though.

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has anyone ever finished reading the entire dictionary cover to cover? can i do it

I don't know anyone that has but if you really wanted to, you could do it.
It's just a book, like any other. You'd probably get bored of it quite easiely though.

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Recently, I've been going into chat rooms posing as a 13 year old girl. So far, I've attracted 10 or more guys over 18, that have talked sexually and suggested meeting up with this girl who they think is a 13 year old.

After watching a lot of Dateline NBC's: To Catch A Predator, I have become really interested in this, and even set up my own website on it where I track and log the potential sexual predators.

I'd really like to get these people in some sort of trouble, but I'm not sure who to send the chat logs to. I'm afraid if I send them somewhere, people won't take them serious since I am 16 years old, and probably not "trained" to handle these people...blah blah blah.

Do you think it's okay that I'm doing this if I'm 16?
And do you know any sexual predator catching sites/organizations that would let someone under 18 help out?

I think you should print the chat converations out, along with details of these guys and take them along to the local police station and explain to them your worries.
Even if your in the wrong place, they can give you the info you need or hopefuly they'll pass on your logs to the nessesary people.

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ok. so. i feel like a little chubby, so ive been trying to lose some weight. not THAT much, just 5-10 pounds.
in january, i decided i needed to lose 5 pounds. but i didnt have time to lose it quickly, so i did it slow.
around april i had lost 5-6 pounds.
the only thing is; ive been trying to lose more and im stuck.
i try not to eat much. and when i do eat-its all healthy food, like cottage cheese, blueberries, soup, and slimfast bars. i excersice about a half hour everyday ..sometimes every other day.

any tips?
it seriously would be greatly appriciated.

oh. and idk if this helps any but-
im 15, 5'2, 98 pounds.

If you look at this chart you'll see that you are actually boardering on underweight

http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/healthydiet/healthyweight/heightweightchart/

If you lost anymore weight, especially 5 + pounds, you'll be seriously underweight which will cause all kinds of health problems.

If anything, you need to put weight on, please stop trying to lose weight, you'll make yourself ill and cause health problems in later life too.(i know this from my own experience).

Eat a balanced diet, quit the slimfast bars, you can still eat healthy but a healthy diet is a balanced diet.

Being skinny isn't attractive, i'm not having a go at you, i'm just really passionate about this subject because i've been there, i'm suffering terribly now because of what i put my body through, losing loads of weight, i'm 5ft2 like you, and went down to 6 and a half stone (93 pounds), that was 6 years ago and i'm so ill becaus of it. It's took me 6 years to get back to a healthy weight, i love my new curves. It's much more attractive that skin and bones, and much healthier too.

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I am about 5 foot seven or eight and weigh about 12 stones :-S...is that really overweight? Im really depressed about it and my mums no help because she actually calls me fat to my face and when i try to wear shorts she sort of scowls at me.
Any tips on how to lose weight?...ive tried execising but i don't see a difference...ive even tried starving myself but im such a pig so i cave within the first 3 hours.

If you have a look at this chart http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/healthydiet/healthyweight/heightweightchart/ you will see that you may be a little over weight, but nothing major, it's rare that people are exactly OK for their height.

It's no suprise you are getting depressed about your body image with you mum making fun of you, but don't do anything to please other people, you are certainly not fat, you just need to know how to make the most of your curves.

Curvy bodies are beautiful and much more attractive than slim bodies, there's nothing attractive about seeing bones sticking out of people. I've been one of those skinnys, and i felt discusted when i looked in the mirror, i'm much happier with my new curves, and so is my boyfriend.

You might just need to tone up your body and make the most of your curves, find clothing that is flattering for your body shape.
Maybe the shorts you were wearing didn't flatter you, but that doesn't mean you can find other shorts or skirts that wont flatter.

Don't starve yourself though as this doesn't help you lose weight, your body will store up fat because it wont know when it will next get food.

You can have a look on the net for exercises to tone your body, but here are a few

http://www.handbag.com/healthfit/keepingfit/bikinitoning/

http://www.teenexercise.com/



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13/f

I'm interested in these chakra things and i took a test and it said my chakras were blocked by stress and things like that. I want to know some meditation positions and stuff so I can unblock my chakras. Especially my 6th chakra which is my strongest one. Plz any advice on this will help a whole bunch!

Hi, i myself am very interested in Chakras (which is why my name is chakra), i learnt about them when i studied colour therapy, there are lots of great books which teach you about colour therapy, chakras ect.

There are alot of techniques to use in chakra therapy, too many to write down here, but i'll give you a few to do with the 6th chakra, otherwise known as the Brow chakra(which is violet).
You can find some techniques if you search with google too, search for "unblock chakras", and "colour therapy".

You are best getting a colour therapist who can balance your chakras for you, you can search for one in your area using the internet, try a hostilic therapy directory or have a look in the phonebook. They aren't too expensive either, in the Uk its about £30 a session, and you may only need one.

To open up the brown chakra try this...

Keep your eyes open and look up, then down, then left, then right.

Then roll them around to every corner of your eye in both directions.

Then look and left, then down and right.

Then up and right, then down and left.

Then, rub the palm of your hands together quickly until they are hot.

Cup your open palms over your eyes, and the warmth of your palms will sooth and relax them.

Massage
Using your 2nd and 3rd fingers together, gently press the third eye area between your eye brows.

You could also rub some lavander oil into that area too.

I hope this helps you on your way :-)

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