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I'm having a baby
Well I'm four months pregnant, and me and my babys daddy arent together, he doesn't believe this baby is his he tells me to screw myself and to find the real baby father. The thing is hes the only one who I've slept with unpertected in the last 6 months. So I know its his. But I got back with my ex boyfriend who I was with before four almost a year before we got into some stuff. We got back together before I found out I was pregnant. I told him I was pregnant he told me he'd step up and help me raise it as his own. Hes in Long Creek (Jail) until January 3rd and I'm due January 27. Well anyways my question is, do you think I should let him step up and raise this baby as his own. Please let me know what you think.
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I think you're more screwed up than you think and you should put the kid up for adoption once it's born.
Seriously... how great a life can it have when his mother is seriously considering letting a guy in jail raise a kid that isn't his?
EDIT:
After reading that long, moapy, a space between each apostrophe feedback, I stand by my advice.
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absolutly; if he's willing ..
he'd probably be a better dad than the actual father..
my actual dad never wanted me either.. but my mom's boyfriend at the time steped up and took me in as his own and i call him dad because he is basically a dad to me.. :]
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uh i guess it depends on what he is in jail for... but even so i would highly suggest never leaving the baby alone with him and like ask your mom or something, see what she thinks of him moms always have good opinions, dont become his girlfriend is my advice, he might be getting close to you so he can land his butt in jail again by harming you or the baby, and even if he isnt phsyichally abusive, but maybe emotionally or psychologically and maybe you'll find yourself in a dangerous relationship, my advice is dont do anything with him, but i dont know him so i would just listen to your heart it will tell if hes safe or not, just dont make sure you let love get in the way of you and the babies safety, and next time be more careful and use more protection or better yet be abstenent, until you have a man you love and can trust and marry.
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It is very noble of him to step up and raise the child as his own, but your baby has a right to know who the father really is. If the father doesn't believe you, try taking a paternity test to prove that way he will be satisfied that it is his. Every child needs to know who their father is.
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If your in love with eachother, and you know that he will always be their for you and your child then it would be an amazing thing for him to do.
If he has a habbit of being unreliable though, i wouldn't bother.
You don't want your child to be wondering where "daddy" is, if this man decides it's all too much raising a child, especially one that isn't is. You have to think about what is best for your child in all this.
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