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Q: ok i know this sounds stupid and all, but ive been seeing a lot of questions lately on this site about something called budgies? what are budgies?

thanks &hearts

a budgie is a birdd..

http://www.tjorvar.is/assets/images/budgie.jpg

http://www.zille.com/gates/images/collage.jpg

http://www.fluffies.org/budgie-9.jpg

http://www.parrotsociety.org.au/articles/images/budgie.jpg

hopee this answers your questionn

Q: I'm fourteen, and I've never had a boyfriend. I know alot of girls havent yet, but also alot of girls have many boyfriends and are in serious relationships. I'm not at all bad looking, and im not very shy, so i was just wondering how to get the guys to like me? I know its a dumb question. I try to flirt alot, and they flirt back but they never really like me. I have a nice body and I'm athletic. I'm just afraid of going through my highschool years boyfriendless.

Maybe on the whole thing about trying to get guys to like you.. maybe they think that you are coming on too strong.. i dont know im just guessing.. and its normal for you to not have had a bf.. i mean i know some people do but some people dont.. like you said.. maybe you could play hard to get.. or maybe you could make the first move.. and ask them out.. i wouldnt worry about your highschool years.. i mean i wouldnt see why a guy wouldnt like you... so you just have to be patient.. or be aggressive.. and just go for a guy you want.. girls can make the first move too..

hoppee i helped..

Q: I had asked a question almost a week ago about my boyfriend dumping me out of the blue. Well, I find out today that he and one of my GOOD friends had sex.

Now, this is for anyone to answer. She thinks there is nothing wrong with it because we broke up. Tell me how FUCKED up it is that she would do that when she KNOWS I'm not over him and we broke up not even a week ago.

Right when I was just starting to be okay with us breaking up... This happens.

Well i think that it is very messed up what your friend did to you.. She thinks there is nothing wrong with it? i mean does she not understand that you went out with him and she shouldnt have done that even if it was two years after you guys broke up... Even if she did like him or anything true friends dont do that.. You should either talk to her about how you feel and how you think it was wrong.. if you want to still be friends with her..but i think that you should not even waste your time on her because a real friend wouldnt even think about doing anything like that.. and im sorry to hear about what happend.. try not to let them get you down about it.. i know that sounds impossible.. but just think.. there not worth your time. your too good for them.. i mean they both seem really like assholes.. try not to think about it too much.. cheer up.. :)

hopee i helpedd

Q: There is a pic of mine that I want uploaded on my advicenators page. I have resized it as small as it will go which is a 3 1/2 x 2 which is a wallet size and still I get the message: You tried to upload a picture, but it was greater than 15K in filesize so it wasn't uploaded.
What can I do to fix this?

http://www.download.com/IrfanView/3000-2192_4-10311994.html?tag=lst-0-1

try that.. its a resizing program.. ive never used it.. but its the one they have for myspace.. and its free.. so you might want to try it..

"Go to http://www.download.com/ and download a copy of the software program IrfanView. IT'S FREE and you can use it to resize images so they're less than 600k, or resave images that may be corrupted. Once you have downloaded and installed IrfanView, simply run the program, open your .gif, or .jpg image, and resave it as another version (example: in IrfanView, open file named pic01.jpg, and resave it as pic01b.jpg). Then, simply return to MySpace and upload your newly resaved image"

^ thats what the myspace thing says.. i dont know if it will work for this.. but its worth a tryy..

hope this helped...

Q: OK so theres a guy, hes a year younger than me (im a sophomore, hes a freshman) and I like him. I really dont know him well at all. I dont have his sn, and ive asked ppl they dont have it either. I see and talk to him at church, so I can prob. get his sn from him. How soon is it to ask for a cell phone number? And what r some things I can do that could get him to like me .. i wanna be myself and im not a huge flirty person .. and im not especially pretty. idk what to do .. but i really want this guy to like me. pleaseee help.

well i think the best way to go about getting his number is maybe giving him yours.. and being like yeah you can call me whenever.. i lovee to talk on the phone.. and maybe he'll give you his number too..it would be better if he had a cell phone.. cause you could just be like can i see your phone.. and just put yourself in there and be like heres my number.. and if you have a phone give it to him and be like put your number in there.. those are easier ways of getting phone numbers..

and if you want his sn.. i know you said you can probally get it.. but if i were you... id say something like heyy do you have aim? and then ask him, be like can i get your sn? it would be cool to talk to you outside of church..or something like that..

and for getting him to like you.. just be yourself.... and just talk to him.. and maybe i know you said your not a flirt.. but maybe try to laugh a little more around him.. and try to kinda like gently hit him when you talk to him... just little things like that.. and i dont know if this would work.. you could always tell him that you like him... thats not easy.. but.. its worth a try.. if all else fails.. just get to know him better.. and maybe ask him to hangout with you or something..

hopee i helped...

Q: Hey all. I was just wondering if you could inform me about which park is better between the theme parks and between the water parks, in Disney World in Orlando, Florida. I am a thrill-seeker, meaning I like to go on great adventures and ride really scary roller-coasters, and I also like fun water rides and swimming (especially in wave pools!). Thank-you for your time.

well magic kingdom has alottt of rides.. it has splash mountain.. which is a funn ridee.. but it just has one bigg drop.. it also has space mountain.. which is like all inside and dark.. and has drops.. and stuff none that big.. its funn.. also they have thunder railroad.. which is a rolercoaster type thing.. but it doesnt go upside down or anything.. those are the three biggest rides there..

mgm has tower of terror (my favoritee ride) which drops you 13 stories in an elevator and then brings you back up and keeps dropping you.. FUNN.. lol.. umm it also has rockin rollercoaster.. which is all inside and its a rollercoaster and it goes upside down a few times.. and takes off really really fast... those are the two big rides there..

epcot has (umm i forget what its called) but it is like a car testing thing.... and you go through tests .. and it looks like your going to crash into a wall... .and you go outside and go fast.. and then they have mission space.. (ickk which i dont like and 2 people have died on) it basically spins you around really fast so you cant even tell your spinning and your in a little thing with 2 other people.. not that fun..

and animal kingdom has the new expedition everest ride which i havent gone on cause i havent been there since last april.. but it sounds really fun.. its kind of like a rollercoaster.. i think.. and then they have the dinosaur ride.. which in the end a dinosaur jumps out at you..

(the only water park i have been to is typhoon lagoon)
and that has a huge wave pool.. it also has a creek that goes around the whole place that you can go it floaty things.. and they have waterslides.. and some rafting rides.. its funn..

hope this helped...

x3

Q: I'm 18/f. Please don't answer this if you're younger than me... you couldn't possibly have gone through what I am if you're 13... no offense.

I've been in psychoanalysis since I was 10 years old. They THINK I have bipolar disorder, but the psychiatrist told me they can't conclusively know or medicate me until I'm 21-22.

I'm in university right now, and I'm in danger of failing out because of my mental issues... I tried to tell this to the doctor, but she doesn't want to do anything. I'm worried that if I continue at this rate I'm going to fail at university, and at life, and that there won't be a me in 3-4 years to help anymore.

I have suicide hotline numbers, and I have really supportive friends... but everything is so hard, and the doctors are being useless...

Is there anybody here who has been through something similar, and who can offer a few words of advice? I'm dying here, and my exams are coming up.

Thank you for reading this VERY long question.

--Amanda

well.. i think you should get a second opinion about the whole medication thing.. cause i have a friend who is bipolar... and she has been taking medication for it since she was 18.. so i dont know what your doctors are talking about...

and try to talk to your teachers and explain what is going on..

but mainly talk to the doctors..
cause that whole they cant medicate you thing is bullshit..

hope i helped

Q: ok i am signed up for advicenator but i never thought that id need advice myself theres this girl and everytime i see her my stomach feels really weird and i feel like i want to be around her for a long time and i try to pick my words carfully but they allways come out wrong, i might as well be saying hoopiewatlenslurgin? wat the heck is wrong? im confused!!!!!!!!!

well to state the obvious you like her... derrr.. you should maybe tell her that you like her.. cause if you dont tell her than you might regret it later... so.. yea i hope i helped..

Q: my best friend is a guy. he has been going out with a girl in our group of friends (who i can't stand) for about a month. whenever she isn't around, he is goofy and talkative and fun. but when she is there..it's like i'm invisible. he'll answer whatever i say to him with a short answer..but he'll never say anything to me besides that. after a meeting for our dance (we are both on the committee..along with his gf) i tripped him as he was going out the door. usually he would grin and say something clever..but he just kept walking and didn't say a word. i was talking to my friend about it and i decided i would just go along with it while we were waiting for our rides and see what he does. so we just stood there and talked..like right next to him. i didn't say a word to him. once she left, he came over to talk to me. i didn't want to be mean, so i would answer him..and eventually i was talking. i want to talk to him about it..but i don't want to make it seem like i'm jealous..even though i pretty much am. i just don't see why i have to be completely invisible. what should i do?

Well i have a friend just like that!! except he dosnt go out with the girl.. well you should try to not get mad.. even though its very hard ( i know from experience) and if the only reason you dont like her is because of this thing (not saying it is) but you should maybe try to become more friendly around her and know that its not her fault that he acts like your invisible.. (im talking from experince so im not saying this applies to you but if it does ya..) You should maybe try talking to him about it and tell him how you feel and try to talk things out with him... hope i helped..

P.S. hope it all works out!! email me if you need better advice
babyblue11289@hotmail.com

*kLa*

Q: theres a song by missy elliot. im guessing its new. i dont know any lyrics but i know it has a weird beat with like screechy records. whats the song? i'll rate 5's.

it might be the song teary eyed... thats a new song by missy elliot.. hope i helped

*kLa*

Q: Lately I've been cutting myself when the stress gets to be too much.Yesterday I cut myself like 6 times... How can I stop myself from cutting myself?

well for start you should realize the dangers of cutting.. and then try to take your stress out a diffrent way... some good ways are squeezing an ice cube, or like snaping a rubber band on your wrist when you feel the urge to cut.. or maybe try to run or like do some kind of exercise when you want to do it.. or maybe talk to someone about it.. and if you really cant stop try to go to a theropist..

hope i helped..
*kLa*

Q: I feel so stressed out, but I don't know why. School isn't any harded than usual, and my family/friends/ love life is fine. I don't physically feel different than any other day, yet for some reason i constantly feel like crying about....everything. i dont know know why, but im so over emotional. nothing has happened to make things different, but im so stressed i feel like i cant take anything anymore. And advice? I rate 5's.

you should try to go to a doctor about it.. you could be bipolar which means that you have very bad moodswings for no reason at all.. i would see a doctor about it and then see what they say.. hope i helped..

*kLa*

Q: I

well here are some good books

go ask alice
cut
speak
catalyst
skin game
night
my brothers keeper

those are just some off the top of my head... email me for more... babyblue11289@hotmail.com... hope i helped..

*kLa*

Q: ok well i have this best friend. i love her to death but she gets annoying. she thinks that all the guys love her, and she lies to make people think she is telling the truth. for instance she would be all like "Yah he hugged me and he grabbed my ass" and i would be standing there watching the whole time and that never happened. this happens ALLLLL THE TiME!!!! i dont want to say anything to her because i kno she will take it the wrong way and blow it out of purportion(sp?) it just makes me soooooooo mad because i would be standing RiGHT THERE and she would say sumthing happened to a group of ppl and it never happened and if i say anything she will be like, "uhm yes it did!!!" and say something to embarass me. what can i do!!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?! i rate 5's!!

well i think that you should maybe try and talk to her about it.. and just say in advance i dont want you to take this the wrong way or anything but ive noticed that you kind of seem to exagerate the truth and if she says that it did happen the way shes saying it did tell her that you saw the whole entire thing.. and just tell her that you sometimes get annoyed by it.. hope i helped...

*kLa*

Q: When i was with my guy friend i got happy .... then i got mad at him... then i got really sad..... all at the same time........... why did i do this and wat can i do from stopping it from happening..... does it have something to do with'pms' wat is that bcause thats what he said was the matter?????

well.. yes you might have pms... but you might have manic depression.. or bipolar.. this is something when you have drastic mood swings in a short period of time for no reason... if it continues to happen like alot and it gets worse i would see a doctor.... but dont take it to seriously cuz it might just be pms... hope i helped...

*k La*

Q: ive been crazy about this one guy for 3 yrs! THREE YEARS! well my feelings have been on and off but i usually like him. i mean i only dated my ex to get him jealous (i know thats mean = \ )
anways this guy, nick, always says we'll get together and stuff but just leads me on and plays games. im fed up with it. should i just stop talkin 2 him completly? i want to so i wont get hurt anymore.. but i dont because hes a REALLY good friend = \
what do you think? thanks!!

well... maybe you should talk to him about how your feeling.... maybe have someone else tell him that you feel that way if you dont want to tell him yourself... or you could try kind of ignoring him and he will probally ask whats wrong and you guys should patch things up... but if you think he is hurting you too much i would just stop talking to him completly.... i mean if he makes you hurt that much he cant be a real friend... (i am going through a similar situation.. actually the same thing) hope i helped.. email me and tell me how everything turned out..
xxX_kLa_Ooo@hotmail.com

*k La*

Q: Ok i have a friend and weve been best friends since i moved here in the 7th grade.. until we came to highschool. (9th grade) We just slowly started not talking and hanging out. I miss talking to her and hanging out with her & i do try to talk to her and stuff but it seems like she doesnt want to talk to me. I dunno if i should talk to her about it or just leave it alone and cool down for awhile.. what should i do?

you should try to talk to her about it.. tell her that you miss hanging out with and talking to her.. just tell her the truth.. and be like it seems like you dont want to talk to me anymore.. did i do something? and see what happens with that.. and if shes a good friend she should understand how your feeling and talk to you and hang out with you more.. hope i helped..

*k La*

Q: Well, this is kind of confusing. My best guy friend (bob) have been friends since third grade. We can tell each other everything and we laugh all the time with each other. I have liked him on and off a lot. When I like him I try to tell myself "it will never work, and if we broke up would we be able to be friends"? Well he stayed the night (slept downstairs) and my friend Kaitlyn was over too. We kind of flirt a lot, you know push each other around, just that kind of stuff. Well I think we both like each other, it would be lying to say we didn't. DO you think it would be stupid to go out and ruin our friendship

i think that you should go out and at least try it to see how it feels and tell him that you dont want to ruin your friendship and tell him that maybe you guys can try going out for a while and see how that goes... and then if you guys liked being friends better go back to that... hope i helped..

*k La*

Q: I tryd telling my parents i needed to go to a hospital and get help and they made me go to my theripist and my theripist said w.e the hospital can do they can do but they dont understand! im trying to get help and they wont listen! I just cut myself with scisors and if i dont get help its gona get worse! WHY WONT THEY LISTEN TO ME!

well try telling someone at school.. maybe that might help.. and they might send you to a hospital.. it happend to my friend and she told people at school thats how she got in the hospital... hope i helped

*k La*

Q: okay, so this boy that i went out with like about 2 different times told his friend he wants to go to prom with me (yes, i do realize its only september) .. does that mean he likes me?? because its weird. Everytime i come back from away he Im's me right away.. and he talks about me a lot his friend told me. so whats the deal? and i dont even know if i would like him back either...?

of course he likes you!! he wants to go to prom with you and he always IMes you right after you come unaway!! he likes you.. and he talks to his friends about you.. have someone ask him if he likes you just to make sure though.. hope i helped..

*k La*