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Im 13 and have a really stressful life. I know, i do think how badly others have it, but that doesnt help with the way i think at all. Im not saying that i have a horrible life, but i just really cant take it anymore. Life just feels utterly pointless right now and nothing anyone has tried to do to cheer me up has changed my views on that. Yeah sure, its easy for most people to just say hold your head high and keep going. Dont let it get to you. But for me it just doesnt work anymore. Iv been cutting for around 2 years now, lately it doesnt feel the same, Like the pleasure has just been taken out of it. Im have plenty of trouble keeping them shallow too. The deeper and more severely i cut the more "real" and relieved of my stress i feel. Its a really bad habbit and i just want to punish myself, im even thinking about swallowing batteries/razors to damage myself from the inside. Just from the guilt of enjoying hurting myself on the outside. Im just surrounded by happy fullfilled people and it hurts. Alot. That im not like them anymore.. oh yeah, i remember when i used to be happy, till everything caught up to me, i just broke down. Its just gone down hill from there. The reasons why i started are farely complicated and would take a while to explain, but i have a agressive and abusive grandad and a whole bunch of other shxt that im not gunna bother typing out. I honestly cant even stand living on this planet. Please, is there anyone that feels like this? Its sad to think someone as young as me feels this way so deeply. I just really dissapoint myself. Non abusive advice would be nice to see,
thanks for reading. (link)
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right now I am going through something that is making me feel like I want to die. I know that sooner or later it will get better but it doesn't help my current situation you know.
i am different from you in that I don't hurt myself but I have thought of it.
Sometimes you need to find someone to talk to. Do you really want to be happy again? I think you do if you are having issues with this. I know you have probably heard this a million times but maybe you should find a theripist to talk to. They might be able to help you.
I would like to know more about you. maybe I can help.
Just know that there is people out there feeling the exact same way as you.
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I think im getting an orgasm but i really dont know.
when my boyfriend licks my clit or when im in the shower and i put the shower head to a setting and put the water stream running on my clit it feels good to the point where if i kept doing it, i'd probably scream. but when i get to the point where i cant handle it anymore i start getting all squirmy and it feels really good.
but is that an orgasm? (link)
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yes ma'am it is. Enjoy it! Keep going until it feels sensitive and then you know that you had an orgasm.
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16/f..i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago..and i got over him, he's a jerk and all he wanted was sex..
now he's trying to make me jealous by listing all the possible girls and "omg so many girls asked me out/hooked up with me" (link)
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I'd drop him.
Ask him if he still would like to be friends. If he says yes then tell him to knock it off.
He is way to immature for you and you don't want a person like that around.
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Alright so this may be an intresting question...
I want to know if each of these things is considered good or bad, ok?
-My b.f has an 8inch penis (hurts me sometimes)
-He doesnt cum for like 2 hours (this is the one that worries me a lil)
-he never gets tired after sex
haha thanks in advance! (link)
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None of those things are really bad. He should be more careful if it is hurting you but the cumming thing is just different for all guys same with the tired thing. I know that it sucks for a girl sometimes but you have to think to yourself that it is worth it sometimes.
Maybe a way to get him to cum faster if you think you get to tired you could give him something else before you actually have sex (hand job or oral) He may need more stimulation to go faster. Also tell him your concerns because also some guys can hold their orgasms and maybe he is and thinks you don't mind.
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this is kind of an akward question
but i always have this fear that i smell
like, at the end of the day, i sweat alot. sure, i wear deodarant, but i feel like it doesn't work.
and then, its like i'm constantly discharging, because if i don't wear a pad, my "fly" area smells like pee.
what should i do to avoid smelling?
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I had that problem with sweating. I switched my deoderant to Arrid extra dry. you can get it regular, XL, or even XXL! That helped me but you could be different as for the smell down there I don't know what to tell you.
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what are good songs to play during sex when marvin gaye and van halen and barry white and stone temple pilots just won't do at all...?
my boyfriend likes progressive rock... the mood would be completely killed if i tried to play anything less than kiss kiss.
and that doesn't leave much room for interpretation.
help me out?? (link)
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I suggest Crazy Bitch by Buck Cherry if you want to have good rough sex.
Or maybe NickelBack or something like that.
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ok so after i have sex with my boyfriend it burns hella bad like excruciating pain i d k but like sometimes if he doesnt cum in me it doesnt burn at all lol i used to think i was allergic to his cum but im sure thats not what it is cus usually it happens either way and it seems like every time he rips me open too and that happens as soon as he goes in and its not like im dry well usually im wet but either way i rip and end up bleading so i d k w t f is going on and i was wondering if anyone can help if you know whats going on with the burning thing and the ripping too and if you know what might help if you need anymore details let me know and i can tell you everything
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ok I think I know exactly what it is. I had the same thing and this is what my gyno told me.
A guy's semen can screw up the ph balance in your vagina(i don't really know what that means)but I think it is irritating your vagina and now you more than likely have a yeast infection. My gyno says that when it is tearing that is usually what is wrong.
Go to a gyno and get medicated and it will go away. Do it soon before it gets really bad and you don't want to have sex anymore.
Hope that helped!
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me and my bf (were both 15) and i trust him completely. he lives 30 mins away from me. we see each other once a week usually. he has alot of female friends.and for valentines day, as a joke 2 of his female friends got him boxers and wrote their names by the top strap and then wrote by the "male part" on the boxers,my name with an S, showing like ownership. and he talks about girls he met at concerts how i should meet them and how cool they are. and his other femal friends he hangs out with them and how hes gonna hang out with him.we've dated 3 months and have a somewhat sexual relationship, but not litterly sex. so i dont know if i am jealous, or i dont really trust him?i dont want to talk to him about it cause i dont want him thinking i dont trust him or i'm jealous..what should i do? am i jealous?do i REALLY trust him? (link)
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Honestly I think you are just jeloues and it is not so much because they are girls but just that they get to be with him more than you. If he is saying you should meet them I think that is a good sign because why would he want you to meet girls he is interested in.
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I've been doing some research on smoking cigarettes while taking oral contraceptives.
If one were to smoke a very little amount (i.e. 1-2 cigarettes a week) while on birth control, would it still be enough to cause harm? (link)
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I don't think it will hurt you. atleast not as much as it would if you were a cronic smoker.
Don't worry about it! Life is to short to worry to much about that stuff.
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ok so do guys think its hot if girls like kiss each other on the cheek or sleep in the same bed? my friends and i are just like that and hold hands and hug and kiss each other on the cheek and occasionally sleep in the same bed if we have sleepovers or w/e. my bf said it doesnt bother him and he understand cause we are friends. (tho guys would NEVER do that hahaha) but i have heard some guys think girls r hot when they do things like that-but my friends and i dont like makeout! we are just friends who love each other a lot and show it :) thanks so much! (link)
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In my experience...they absolutely love it! It is weird to me but hey what ever. Some guys are different though and don't see it as hot. i think it would be fun if you asked him if he thought it was hot. Great conversation there! lol
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I'm painting my room tomorrow. The walls are going to be pink. The theme is Peace Love and Happiness. I'm like a hippie. I'm anti-war. Thats what I want my room to be represent. I'm gettting chalkboard paint and painting a heart on my wall above my bed. My friend said it would be cool if I put a smaller peace sign beside the heart and a smiley face on the other side. If you have any good ideas for things I should do please answer this question. (link)
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Something I wanted to do was to get all my friends together and put your hand prints all over over the walls. Or paint or write quotes about peace on the walls.
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okay im 14 tall and skinny. and i really want to start using a tampon. everytime i try it just hurts so much that i just give up. i have th ones that are slender and everthing i do what your supposed to do it just wont go up, if you know what i mean. please help me before summer comes cause i really dont want to be sitting out when everyone else is having fun in the pool or at the beach or somthing. (link)
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It should work I don't really know why they wouldn't. ummm... maybe you should try different types like bigger ones or something.
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ok when a guy hold your hand and your like sitting there and he rubs his thumb over your hand what are you supposed to do? do rub his hand too? or just do nothing at all? (link)
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when by bf does that I just sit back and enjoy it. The guy must really like you, i see that as a sign of affection.
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me and my boyfriend will have been going out for a month tomorrow. We havent kissed yet and my friend keeps making fun of me because she's almost 2 years younger than me and she and her boyfriend have already talked about 2nd base. Its not like I havent kissed a boy before. I don't think he has ever kissed someone before. So I want it to be special for him. But I'm kind of getting bored. I really want it to happen. Like I pine for it. I find him so irrisistable. Why can't i just do it?! (link)
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Maybe your boyfriend wants to kiss too. Have you asked? Maybe you guys should talk about it and decide what is best.
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Ok, so, I'm starting the birth control pill Yaz tonight. How long to I have to be on it before I can have sex without having to worry about becoming pregnant? [Even though I know there's always a chance. He'll have a condom too.] My doctor said it will work the night I start it :/ I've never heard of it working that soon. But, I have an irregular period, and, I was wondering if that has anything to do with how long I should wait. And, I was wondering if I have to take it at the same time every night. I had to be on birth control in sixth grade for my period, because I had it almost the whole month, and, my doctor said I had to take it at the same time every night, or else it wouldn't work. Thanks! (link)
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I heard that it takes atleast a month to completly work. I would use a condom until you feel you are ready.
You should take it the same time but if you are a little off (and hour or two) it shouldn't hurt you. Just make sure you don't miss a day and if you do to take it the second you remember.
honestly it depends on the person and the person's body. The only way you will find out is if you do it!
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Okay so I have a really big butt and like medium size boobs do guys like girls with big butts or do they like the no figure little twigs? 15/f (link)
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ok I used to think that guys liked the twiggy girls because of tv and movies but once I got guy friends I found out that they actually think that is very unatractive. Guys will like you for the way you are so don't worry about it.
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This is a bit embarassing and a bit gross so sorry but I need some advice quick! I am on my period and I used a tampon with an applicator. Half of the cardboard tube is stuck inside of me. When I realised I pulled the tampon out but it came out on its own. I have tried taking it out but I think I have made it worse! Any suggestions? (link)
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ummm...i am a little scared about you trying to take it out on your own. Maybe taking a bath may loosen it up. If it doesn't come out soon you might have to go to the doctor. I hope it comes out! Good luck!
Also maybe you should consider useing plastic applicators in the future.
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Last night my best friend (lisa) totally blew me off. (or atleast that's what i would call it)
She called me up the night before and said we were hanging out.. so i call her that night to make sure and she's like yeah i'll call you in an hour. 2 hours later she calls me and says she's going out to dinner with her other friend (katelyn), because some boy had called katelyn to go out and katelyn didn't wanna go alone.
what i'm mad about is that lisa she just agreed to go with katelyn without even asking me or telling me when she first knew. (at least then i could make other plans!)
i love laura to death, and i do everything for her. the other day i cleaned her car when she asked me to and i pay her like 20 dollars a week for gas money since she has to buy everything on her own. i've helped her write papers when she stressed out and i spend soo much time talking to her/reassuring her about her problems when i have a ton else to do. i cover her so she doesn't get in trouble with her parents at risk of me getting in trouble, i go to her soccer games, i buy her stuff just cuz i know she'll like it, i let her borrow my ipod/clothes/money for weeks. i wouldn't mind doing this, i mean its just being a good friend, but i don't feel like she's always a good friend to me.
for example, i live 8 min. away from her. and she always uses it against me how she goes way out of her way to pick me up. if i only give her like 10$ of gas money a week she gets pissed at me. like she told me she didn't HAVE to pick me up to go to this party (that *I* told her about and got her invited to) but she did cuz "she's a good friend." ... she flips out at me for forgetting stuff, when she wostuff like that.
but when she's nice to me, she's so nice. like she offered to drive me home when my parents got in a huge fight w/ me and wouldn't drive me anywhere.. and shes bringing me to a concert for my birthday and paying for the ticket and stuff. and she's hilarious and we're like the same person.
... i just feel like she's using me.
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I do think she is using you. I am sorry that that may sound harsh but the signs are all there. She feels like you owe her and you feel it to but friends don't do that to each other. They help each other with out trying to make the other feel guilty.
She thinks you will do anything for her at any time because you are a good friend and you have been doing that. you need to know the point at which she is taking advantage of you.
Sit down and have a major girl talk. Tell her everything that is bothering you. Try to make her listen to you. Tell her that you might say things that might make her angry but to please just listen and you will do the same.
My best friend and I used to have fights all the time until we did that and then it all stopped.
If she doesn't listen to you and keeps doing this stuff you might need to find a new friend. A friend should never think they have to make you feel guilty in order for you to do something for her.
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14f I THINK THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DATE AS MANY PEOPLE AS THEY WANT.If you have a boyfriend you should talk to eachother about also being able to see other people like calling them your bf/gf also. I mean, why should you have to stick to that one bf/gf, that will get boring, give your love life some variety. The whole commitment thing is i think overrated. Or you can call it a commitment but have the same with other people too. I want as many peoples opinion on this. Maybe someone can change my mind. Thanks (link)
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I think that age has nothing to do with anything. I think someone should do what they want. If you want to date mutiple people...do it...just don't hurt them.
If someone wants just one and want to find the one I don't think they should be told that that is wrong.
I agree that you should experiment when you are younger but if a person finds someone that they really like to be around why crush their dreams by telling them that it won't last. Let them decide what they want to do. If they get hurt they will learn from it.
What i am trying to say to you is that you should live your life. You might find someone that you want to give everything to. Either way be happy!!
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My mom really does seem to yell at me alot. Today, we had grocerys in the car, and they feel to the foot of the backseat, like they do, and she got out of the car, and started yelling at me for it, and she almost hit me with some plastic wrap box!!! She was like " GROW THE FUCK UP SHELBY!!!!!" " ITS NOT FUCKIN FUNNY!!!!!!" And then she started yelling at me so loud that when she got done, she couldnt even talk barley cause her voice was so cracked.I am seriously done with all of her shit. She thinks she's the greatest mom ever, but she needs to stop treating her kids like shit if she wants that title. One time she hit me, because I asked her to help me find a pair of my shoes, but that was kinda along time ago, so that doesent really matter anymore. I'm really loosing all my respect for her. I really dont know what to do about it. She is always getting mad at me for no reason what so ever. And when she dosent get mad at me, she takes it out on me. Once, when I was younger, she called me a dyke just because I didnt clean my room.And usually when she get's mad, she yells at me, and is mad at me for 10 minutes, and then just completly ignores me for the rest of the night, or sometimes even longer. Her and my dad are divorced, and she always got mad at me when it came close to me seeing my dad, just because I was seeing him. She would ignore me, and barley talk to me, and she kept saying that I was choosing my dad's " whore " over her, and that I wanted to live with the both of them. She got all of that, just because I liked to see my dad.I had to choose to stop seeing him and have my mom like me, or see him, and have my mom hate me. I havent seen my dad in weeks.... I really dont want to talk to her about it. So, what do youi think I should do about this problem? Thanks for all the help you can give me. (link)
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I think your mom has anger management problems and she needs to conquer it. I would tell your counselor because they will handle it...if you tell him/her that your mom hits you. When you do tell them ask what you should do because you probably shouldn't go back to the house for a while. I would find a friend and ask if you could stay with them until you figure things out.
I am very sorry that you have to live with that. Just stay strong and grow from these experiences. I have known to many kids that have gotten screwed up because of things their parents have done to them. I hope it doesn't happen to you!
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