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I have a girlfriend, and we've been going out for about 4 months now. Note: I'm also a girl. I think my parents are starting to catch on bc I've spent every single Friday at her house for the last 3 months or so, since we've been going out. I've stopped spending time with a lot of my other friends, and it seems I only have time for her. I try to tell myself that I need to start seeing my friends more, but every weekend I just can't bare not being with her. Especially because she has a rough past, and she is on house arrest and can't come up to me. She was also thrown out of my school and goes to a school far away where I cant be with her. She's a grade ahead to. Anyway, the point of this is because I don't know wether or not I should tell my parents about me and her. They've seen me come home with hickies, and almost stopped letting me see her. I think I'm falling really hard for her, and I think it could be love. Every second not spent with her I feel so lonely. I'm afraid of what the outcome will be if I tell my family about my relationship. I think they know that I'm gay, because my mom makes fun of me for it all the time. I'm not asking for anyone to solve my problem, because I know that no one can, but I'm looking for advice
ok my advice is to tell them...they seem like they have caught on already..and right now they are trying to accept it. the piece to the puzzle is for you to now come foward and tell them. im not gay nor have i known someone who was gay and came out of the closet, but i know it wont be easy..things might be rough and awkward with your family for a little while, but your family loves you and will come to accept it eventually.
I am going to the beach in 2 weeks. Its about an 8 1/2- 9 hour drive which means we will get there about 10 1/2 - 11 hours after we leave (were leaving at 6 in the morning) What are some fun games or things to do in a car? Acualy a Mini Van. My two sister and going to be in the backa nd my parents in the fornt and i have both middle seats to my self. So What are some intersting things to do? I am going to write notes to my boyfriend and i am going to lissen to music and maybe write poems. I may buy a magazine too. What are someother fun things to do in the long car trip?
Thanks,
Lotz of Love
&Hearts; Meg &Hearts;
ok this is the perfect time to pick up a good book and read!
-play hangman with friends
-text message ppl on your cell
- bring a lot of magazines...friends to borrow theirs..
-go online and print off cool quizzzes and stuff..maybe quotes, stories, etc. for the trip
- I Spy might keep you busy for 10 minutes
-cards
Ok, i am in 8th grade and i am a 13 year opld female (just so oyu know the setting) well anyways my problem is that i have never ever ever in my life had a boyfriend. i know you might be sayi wow big deal, but it is. like almost everyone i know has had/haves 1. i feel weid when people go, oh who is you b/f, or who have you gone out with. idk whatto do. i hate feeling this way, is it wrong that i have never had a b/f, nad what can i do to make me feel better bout my self (qith out actually getting a b/f, cuz dont see that happeneing in the near future.
ps: i rate !!!
To feel better about yourself, live up the single life!
-go to teen dance parties
-go to the movies with friends and start flirting with cute guys..who cares if it doesnt work out..not like they are from your school
-go to the mall with friends..tons of guys there
hangin with friends definately gets your mind off being upset that you dont have a bf..and who knows..whilee your at the mall or wherever you might meet some really great guys! it happens when you least expect it,...so keep positive and just have a blast with friends
you'll get a bf...i felt the same way as you..then out of nowhere i got asked out (and i thought i never would)
yeah i'll admit its been a long time since then..but im staying positive, livin it up with my friends..and someday i'll run into the perfect guy all over again.........
-melissa-
ok..this is like the nervous racking summer ever! cuz next year is jr high. elemtry skool ended bad (6th grade) and lke i got in a fite with my best friend that said im not kool enough for her and that like totally gave me huge dent in my selfesteem..but i really do have good other friends that im happy with. im so freakin scared about jr high like if ill be kool or whatever..idk..and im just stressed...and is there any advice you could give me of how to start out jr high and not be like a total looser..not being rude or anything..ok thanks ill give yall 5 ratings!
_*Hallie*_
Hey, i know how jr high can be...all you have to do is keep in mind your moving up to a new school with the same classmates since kindergarten..it wont be like the first day of kindergarten where you dont know anyone..it will be the same friends moving up with you. just be friendly,socialble, dont get a bad reputation (like smoking, drinking, etc) and you will be fine, honest! not everyone will like you...but if you stay e positive,friendly, etc and make new friends..you will be popular.
to start out..
-make new friends
-dont bump into people in the hall...know where your walking..noothing gts mee angrier than the new kids bumping into me, not knowing where they are goin (im in 10th grade)
-dont be stuck up or snotty..
-be confident..your friend you thought with isnt a real friend if she said your not cool enough. a key point in being popular is being nice also.
ok so there is this guy at my school and he was going out with my friend but not anymore so anyway.. he is always so mean to me and is like this is none of you buisness and im like thats really gay.. and hes always sayin mean things and i hate it! what do i do
i would ignore him..hes holding a grudge for no reason, ..thats his problem. just dont respond to him when he says that crap..or just turn and look at him and ask "why are you talking to me?'
idk, if it were me i would just forget about him. when he sees you getting mad when he says mean things, that gives him satisfaction..dont let him have that satisfaction of annoying you.
This boy & I have been flirting/messsing with eachother all school year now. Everyone can tell we like eachother but neither of us will make a serious move. I know he won't because his friends will tease and he's a little shy/immature. I'm afraid of rejection & being teased. It's the end of the year and this boy is one in a million, I like him very much. What can I do to let him know being friends isn't enough and over the summer I want to see him?
ok do you talk online? i think online IMing is way easier than talking in person..so i would tell him my honest feelings online..maybe say something like
: im really going to miss you ..i think over the summer we should definately hang out
dont worry about rejection because if you've been messing with him all year, of course he will want to hang out also!
his response will probably be :
:cool, or yeah, etc...then ask for his number if you dont already have it and call or talk to him online to make plans when to hang out.
if you dont have AIM...write him a note..or when you sign his yearbook or something...put ur number in with hearts or somethin and write .."call me..we should definately hang out because i would go crazy not seeing you all summer "or something
you will be fine,dont worry!
is it okay for a girl to have sex with another girl? cause if you like don't have a penis what do you stick up her, you know "thingy" ?
thanks for the help.
sugar ugar ugar lips
when you ask "is it okay" ..your going to get 2 types of answers from people:
-no its not ok because girls dont touch girls...girls are supposed to be with guys
-its ok if thats your sexual preference..
so when its ok ..your asking for peoples opininons..which lead into big debates. i say if your bisexual or lesbian, then yes its ok becausse its who you are..im not bi or a lesbian..but thats just me
ok how girls have sex with girls is by using sex toys such as :
-dildos
-vibrators
-strap ons
if you dont know what im talking about..look then up online and you will find out what they are
they use their fingers, even objects found around the home like cucumbers,etc.
they perform oral sex on each other
so really, they dont use a real penis to have sex (obviously) but instead they use toys,fingers,and tongue for oral sex
ok well here it goes:
I want to open my own bar ( u know be the owner of it ) well i dont really know how to, do i have to go to college? about how much will it cost, how do i even start doing it? how do i order the drinks and that, where would i get it from? how would paying my bills work? you know stuff like that, how buisness run and how to start them stuff like that.
Any advice would be great!
Well it would be a good idea to take some business courses.(doesnt have to be at a university or an expensive school..even just a community college) You would pay for it by taking out a loan from the bank and \you would pay off the loan month by month..thats all i can help with..but the business part of it is key. do you have a close friend who is an expert in business? i would maybe team up with someone who is very strong in business..and as a team you can be co owners...both of you can split the cost. i would search online at a search engine for starting up your own bar.
Ok, I have some bumps on my u no where... Below the belly!!! Anyways, all i've done is oral sex.. can I get herpes from oral sex?? HELP!! Do I have herpes!
ok if you received oral sex and the guy who did it to you had herpes in his mouth..then it can be herpes. I would go on google.com and look up genital herpes and see if the pics shown on the internet are the same as your bumps...and check to see if your symptoms are the same as the symptoms you read about online. thats the best way to make sure..i agree with the other person that it can be from shaving...
I was over at my friends house and this dude started calling this girl. She didn't want to talk to him cause he was a crazy stalker. He called 16 times before my friend picked it up and said stop calling. This kid drives from the next county to my friends house to talk to this girl. The girl goes and hides while we try to cool the guy down. This kid goes all around my friends house looking for the girl and finds her in the bushes. He cusses her out and yells. All i did was make the girl leave and hold him off long enough to give them a head start. I then call the girl and her friend to tell them to call the cops if he follows them. Should I have done more.
i think you did enough..but just for next time i would leave the crazy kid behind and stay with the girl and call the police. hopefully there wont be a next time though
(16/F)
Ok. I don't know if this is me being totally paranoid or what but this just caught me a little off guard so I thought I would ask about this.
I got really sick the day before yesterday and have been really out of it for the past two days. So this morning I was feeling really sick and my dad brought me to the doctor, we left right after I got up and I went in my PJs and no bra.
So they did the normal thing at the doctors office, but I saw a doctor I don't normaly see. And he did the normal thing and he took my pulse with the thesascope (sp?)on my back then he did it on my front under my shirt which no doctor has ever done to me and he put his hands right under my breasts, and he like held them there a little longer then it takes to take a pulse and no doctor has ever done that either (except like once when I got a pysical). So when he did that it caught me off guard (he wasn't wearing gloves or anything)(and it was only me and him is the room, no nurses)
Also, when he was taking my blood pressure, he like kept his hand right on my breast when he was holding my arm.
I don't know if I am being paranoid but I really don't think so because no other doctor (male or female) has ever taken my pulse in the front, under my shirt, and done that (keep in mind I had on no bra) and no other doctor has had to rest their hand on my breast when taking my blood pressure....
I would like to know what some of you think, if I am just crazy or if your doctors do this?
Thanks for any advice or opinions.
this definately sounds weird to me...my doc takes the stethescope and checks my heart under my shirt near my chest sometimes..but he doesnt toucch me there a\nd he certainly never touches me there whil i get my blood pressure taken..theres nno need to
What size should a guys penis be if he is... 14, 15, and 16.
they say average size is 5-6 inches..but really, dont worry about size. not everyone is going to be a huge 9 inches + ..they might not even be 5 inches..but size doesnt matter because every girl is different. some women like really big penises, others like penises smaller..some like the medium sizes. I know a lot of guys think that all women want a guy with an 8 inch penis of bigger...but thats not the case for a lot of women..(including me) Well anyway they say 5 or 6 inches is average..but dont worry if you arent that big or if you want to be bigger or whatever.
hope i helped
:)
-melissa
ok if i have unprotected sex(stupid and dumb i know)...but the guy cums in my mouth and not in me....can i still have gotten pregnant?? i need serious SERIOUS help!
yes listen to michele, she has th facts down. Its pre-cum and although the chances are significantly less of getting pregnent, the precum still is thought to cotnain sperm. She has another good point about trusting the guy not to cum in you..who knows? ..so im pretty sure you arent pregnent but let this be a lesson..from now on always use protection
im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do
YES you were definately raped. None of this is your fault..even if you say yes at first and then you say no, stop..HE MUST STOP.! you always have the right to say stop it..and if he doesnt stop, its rape. So what should you do now? well you need to tell your mom, a guidance counselor, close relative, police, some adult! dont say you cant because you love him and he loves you..because if he loved you, he would not have raped you. You need to tell someone so he gets in trouble..otherwise, further down the road he will rape other women..hes on the road to becoming a rapist..he will probably do it again..put a stop to that! They have places by me called Plan Parenthood ..and there you can talk to social workers and professionals for free ...you can be in a group of other girls who are in the same boat as you..find a hotline and call...get the police on him..something!
so if i'm fooling around with a girl in my hot tub and we're NOT having sex, but like she gets me off with her hand or orally, can she get pregnant from the sperm floating around in the water? the jets are pretty powerful and could possibly float it into her. how likely is it and *sigh* do i HAVE to wear a condom? thanks..
no way the sperm die very fast when it leaves the penis...unless of course its ejaculated into the vagina. so no worries there..it will die in the water and if you cum in her mouth her stomach acids will kill it ..you dont need to wear a condom unless you have aids, herpes or other stds.
ill be 15 in 2 weeks. but i really want to get some money. i know everyone will prolly say babysitting! .. and i consider that, but like how do i get people to babysit for?..you know like find people to babysit for? .. thats where im stuck. so can someone give me some suggesions? please!?
well i have a younger brother who is in preschool...and he goes to a day care sometimes..so if it were me i would have my mom tell the person who runs the daycare that im available to babysit..i would leave my name and number with the person who runs it. putting signs around is also good..even an add in the paper if you can afford it. i bet if u put one add in you will be in business. it only takes a little bit to get started and from there..the people you babysit will tell their friendds 'o i have a great babysitter..here i'll give you her phone number' so there you have it..little things like word of mouth and posting signs can really put you in business
ok sry for the length but i need help...
i have this ex-boyfriend that i like alot still i dont know why..we've broke up a million times but i can seem to get over him..we my friends are telling me we should go back out because they say hes changed and stuff but my problem is my best friend doesnt want me going back out with him..he said if i go back out with him then he'll never talk to me ever again...and i dont know what to do help plz
wow..what kind of best friend would say something like that..i think the real problem here is your best friend thretening your friendship over a bf! best friends dont do that...so talk to him.
i would follow your heart,..dont please others..go back out with him if you like him..dont please anyone but yourself.
My boyfriend and I went on a date yesterday, and when we got home we started making out. After that he sat me on his lap and I felt something poking my butt, so im pretty sure I gave him a boner. I'm wondering how you would tell if you gave a guy a boner and what you should do if u did and dont want to go any further, but i dont just wanna ignor it. My boyfriend and I are really close, if that changes anything.
Ok just because a guy gets an erection, it doesnt mean you have to go farther like have sex or anything. Its a natural thing he cant control. Teen guys get boners from aanything..even for a girl who he has no feelings for. So what do you do? just ignore it..its your bf getting turned on by you...it doesnt mean he wants to have sex..because guys cant just say to their penises "ok i want to have sex...give me a boner" it doesnt work like that..its all natural for him to get hard
ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean?
thats so sweet! definately ccall him because he likes you! he helped you when you were throwing up and everything. call the guy he sounds so sweet and he likes you
I always have nerds and other people who like me, and are sometimes obsessive. It really bothers me, because whenever I like someone, they don't like me. I'm afraid I will never find that one special guy. My parents are also extremely strict so I never have a place to meet new people except for the pool during the summer. HELP!
aw dont get so down on yourself! first of all the pool is a great place to meet new people. When its not summer and your not in the pool, what about meeting guys at the school basketball games or at the movies when your out with your friends? you dont have to be like "mom im going to the game to meet some hot guy" Just go wherever and your parents dont have to know . Bee yourself and you''ll get someone :)