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Q: my ex girlfriend wants to get back together and i dont know what to do we been together 2time already and i dont what to tell her if we did get back together then i want to have sex with her
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You been together twice and broke up twice. Notice the pattern? Things between you and her do not work out. Going back out is probably not a smart idea especially as by the sounds of it the problems are not sorted. You both do not need that stress that will come with another breakup so just leave it alone. There are plenty other people out there - go find them I'd also like to punch you for saying that you'd want to have sex if you got back together. That's a horrible thing to think of now when you dont even understand the problem.
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Q: This isn't about my friends, it's about my boyfriend's friends. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now. All of my friends know about us being together but his friend's don't. When he's around his friends, he can't talk to me because his friends will be annoying and keep asking him questions. He is moron and his friends are as well. If he tells them then they will tell other people even if he tells them not to and people will make fun of him. He really wants to tell them just so we can talk more but he's afraid of what will happen. I told him that if they were his real friends then they won't tell anybody if he asked them not to and he said that he doesn't think that they are his real friends and they take advantage of him because he is super nice. Then I told him to leave them and make new friends since a new school year is coming up. My question is what should he do? I want him to tell his friends so we can talk more but I don't want anything bad to happen to him. What should he tell his friends? Please give more advice as needed.
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Your boyfriend should tell his friends that he is in a relationship. If they don't like it then they are crappy friends and are just using him.
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Q: theres this guy and we used to go out and stuff, and like than we broke up and i havent heard from him in awhile and now all of a sudden hes emailing me and saying he misses me and wants to talk to me again..and at first i was a bit iffy, but than i unblocked him but like, once i did we talked once, and than thats it. what does that mean? its pretty frustrating, if you know what i mean.
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It means he's an ex. Just talk to him as a friend ad don't think anything else of it. Doing so is likely to get you hurt even if you don't realize that is what will probably happen. You and him broke up for a reason, going back to him will most probably help nobody. I mean you unblocked him and then talked once. Why worry about it? Right now you're letting it frustrate you when you could just take the fact you've talked even once as nice because you're just getting back in contact with an old friend. Don't think about it as an ex, think about it as an old friend. Have fun with it, but don't think on it more then friends.
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Q: i went to the beach with my sister and her friends. there much older so i just kinda stayed away.i sat with my mom and my sisters boyfriends mom. well anyways. they all went into the water and my sisters friends invited me to go. but i didn't. i just wasn't comfortable with seniors who are size 0s . later that day i went home with my mom and my sister went home with her bf and his mom. in the car her bfs mom told my sister and all of her friends that i didnt go swimming because i was too fat and embarrassed. so when my sister came home she got all mad at me. i dont know why. but she was like if your so embarrassed why dont you stop eating. well i took her advice. but i dont know really what i should do. just starve myself till i lose the weight or let her keep buggin me about it. im so lost and feel so wrong doing this. can yu give me advice please.
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If you want to lose weight then you should lose weight but in a healthy way, not by starving yourself. Do it for yourself though and not because your sister is teasing you. That is one easy way to make yourself ill. No, if you feel you are overweight then you should begin eating a healthy diet with limited amounts of food and begin exercising daily between 30 minutes to an hour. If you are using more calories for exercise then you are taking in from food you will lose weight. This is the healthy way to do it and in the long run it will significantly improve your figure and health. Do NOT starve yourself. Other then damaging yourself alot this will not make you lose weight quickly as your body will go into starvation mode and conserve energy. Do NOT starve yourself.
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Q: I just got my hair semi-permanitally dyed. I love it! But how long/how many hair washings should i wait before I go in chlorine?
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Wait two to three weeks just to be safe
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Q: I'm going out with my first boyfriend, and we're really close and we've been going out for 4 months. Everything is really good, almost perfect, except for one thing: his best friend. He and I had a "sorta thing" 9 months ago. But I'm over that. I'm NOT over the fact that he was my best friend and betrayed me about something totally different...and extremely serious. We haven't been close since. We didn't get along at all. But out of the blue, he asked for my forgiveness...he swears he's changed. But I've heard this before. Yet this time seems different...he's being nice to all my friends after isolating himself from all of us and he;s been begging for a while now. But there's a part of me that still can't trust him. But this is the longest he's begged...Idk what to think. I want to get along with him cause he's my boyfriend's best friend...but idk if I want to go further than that. And I think my parents would be an issue if I decided to be friends with him again...they don't forgive him for hurting me. I'm just confused...please help.
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If you want to try to build a friendship with him again, take things slow. Tell him that your not going to be able to trust him again right off the bat, that it will take some time to trust him again. Just take things slow, and let him know what's going on. If you want to be friends with him be open and honest about what your feeling.
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Q: ok ive been dating this guy on and off since about the 10th grade and now im a freshman in college and he lives a few states away from me but that hasnt really been a problem for us we've been doing the long distance thing for about a year now and um he asked me to move in with him and i have no problem with that we both have jobs and cars and money for apartments and stuff but my parents absolutely HATE him and i love him so much but they dont approve of him cause he is "bi-polar" ive been hiding my relationship with him for a year now and i dont want to anymore he means everything to me,how should i tell my parents about my plans to move in with him?? please help
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Well your an adult and are able to make your own decisions, tell your parents that this is a decision and to please respect that decision. They may be upset and disappointed but they have to understand that your not living with them anymore, and you can make your own decisions. But just think long and hard about this if you have been on and off with this guy for many years, I would maybe wait until you guys have a more stable relationship than to just jump into moving with each other.
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Q: I really like this guy but he is more popular then me. I started talking to him this year at school. Since the summer has started we have been talking more but only through IM and texts. He is away for July and comes home Auguest. He has asked me to hangout when he gets home and when ever we talk, the convo ends in . When he was with his friend one day and i said bye , he just responed bye. It seems like he doesn't want people to know. Im getting mixed signals and i dont know what i should do. I really like him and it is kind of stressing me out because I don't know what to think. HELP PLEASE?!
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Hang out with him when he gets back. Try not to worry because paranoia can screw things up before anything even happens.
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Q: i need help okay.. i really like this guy and i have for a while now.. we are really good friends and we talk all the time and just recently he starting going out w/ this girl. we are sorta friends.. i mean we talk every now and then. Well they seem to be pretty into eachother ..because b4 they were going out you could so tell that they liked eachother and they would be going out eventually. But now that they have actually started going out.. it hurts. i feel like my heart has been ripped out. its KILLING me that they are together and its all i think about. im so jealous on top of that. please help me.. what should i do!?!?
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Distance yourself from him. You need to get over him if he's with this other girl, hang out with other friends, keep busy, and maybe when you get over him, you can be good friends again.
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Q: well thing is I have thing for a teacher. I have done since i was 12. Only thing is now i am 16 i feel like he is interested in me too. He treats me differently from everyone else, he stares at me alot, touches me often, sits really close and flirts. Sometimes we have like those sort of moments of silence almost as if nothing need be said. There are moments when i think he is going to kiss me. He is not like this with others. But he is a married man of i think 50 i am not sure how to take his flirting. Not long ago he randomly cuddled me and he has touched my bum before now. Is he interested or just playing games?
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Interested or playing, he is way out of line. My advice is to report him, but you probably won't, so the least you can do is tell him that you are not comfortable with his advances.
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Q: I've been dating a boy online for three and a half years now. We met on a Harry Potter website four years ago, and since then, we've started talking on MSN and Myspace. Through Myspace, I've met most of his friends from school. It's at the point that there's no chance whatsoever that he's some kind of online predator. Now, I really, really like this guy, but he lives pretty far away. I'm dieing to visit him--Every moment without him, my heart breaks a little more. But I need to know--How do I tell my mom about him? She'd be pretty mad that I've been keeping this from her for so long...
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Wow, that's a long time. I am positive that your mother will not approve of this relationship, and she has good reason not to. If you two cannot meet in person then there is no relationship.
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Q: well there is this guy i like alot!! And im and i have been talking alot lately. But he just got grounded. And today when i was texting him we were talking about one of my pictures on myspace cuz it was Brandon's got me smiling again and he replied yep and its a very beautiful smile. NAd i told him how alot of ppl are asking me if i was his gf, and i was just joking around and i told him that i replied it with i wish and he said maybe. But then he said when he gets ungrounded then he will think about it more. But he doesnt get ungrounded for like a month. Should i wait cause i like him alot? Or should i try and have a fun summer without him?
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If you like him so much then wait. If having fun during the rest of the summer is more important then don't wait for him and hope things work out later. I wouldn't wait because his response to your text is very iffy.
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Q: Im in a family of my mom and me. we recently lost ron aka my step dad July 13 2006. she has a bf and he has a son who's 10. They make me feel invisble. Also with the way she acts around the 10yr old makes me feel like she doesnt even remember she has a daughter. how do i go about to talk to them or her about this?
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There's no special way to tell them. Tell her first. Say exactly how you feel.
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Q: im going to start 8th grade next year.. and im really shy i mean like painfully shy around people im not comfortable around.i really wana make new friends but like its so hard for me to talk to people even online.i have 2 friends but im not myself around them.and like i really wana not be shy i wana be like loud and confident but when i try to talk no words come out and when like we have to present projects in front of the class i start breathing really heavily and i turn red and i start shaking and sweating and my stomach starts hurting really bad.but like when im around my cousin im not really that shy we'll do all kinds of things together that i would never do with anyone like we recorded this video of u lypsyncing i wirte sins not tragedies by panic! at the disco and put it on youtube and when were bored we go ouside and hold signs up that say honk if u think were idiots an stuff but like when i go to school and i have to like be in class i completley change i dont say anything people evevn call me mute is there something wrong with me??
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you gotta stop caring. That's a huge part of it. Act like yourself because anyone who thinks you're cool can be a friend, and anyone who looks down on you for it isn't worth your respect. Stop worrying about what everyone things because 90% of people dont matter at all. And talking to people just takes practice, you gotta keep trying and probably sounding silly the first few times until things start to work out.
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Q: i really like this girl and we have been doing alot together lately and we are really comfortable around each other but i dont know if i should ask her out because i asked her before through a friend if i asked her out would she say yes, she said we havent connected deep enough like being able to tell each other secrets and such things but now we have and i just need help with it because im very confused
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Well, do you feel like she likes you? That is the real question. I can't tell you how a girl feels about you, all I can do is point you towards things. SO is she flirting with you? Do you feel there is a connection between you? Have you ever kissed? Is there physical contact between you two? At the end of the day you should just ask her out when you feel like she might say yes. Base this on how she acts towards you and chances are you'll know if it is right to ask her out. If she was merely worried about not being close enough before and you are now though then maybe it is the right time to go for it. I just cannot tell from such little information.
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Q: okay, well my thing is i have this issue. well it's currently summer, as of you know. well there's this guy, that i'm greatly interested in, like i want to date him kinda thing. well today he asked me out, i was soo happy. except then i thought of my parents, they wouldn't allow me to date. so that made me feel bad. so my questions are how do i get my parents to allow me to date him? and if they still don't, how do i tell him that i can't date him (without giving him the impression that i'm not interested)? thanks in advance for your advice
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Well, you sit down with your parents and you explain that you are a mature, responsible young woman who should be given the opportunity to prove so by dating. Tell this guy that he'd have to meet your parents and see how that goes. I'm not a fan of sneaking around, and the best you can do is be calm, collected, and try to convince your parents you can be trusted.
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Q: im have a best friend, and she has a problem without knowing it. she has 2 guys after her. one of them is 3 years younger, and one of them is 2 years. she wants to date the 15 year old, but cant because his mother doesnt approve the fact that they had sex. she says she doesnt want the other guy, but wont tell him that its over. what makes it stupid is that she switches back an forth anytime one of them isnt available. and she's still stuck on the 15 year old. she still talks to him, and he even came over one day while her mom was at work, all this without his mother knowing. but she still does this, knowing that his mother can tell her mother anytime what they did. do u have any advice i can tell her before she makes a bigger mistake?
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its up to her who she dates. Honestly if she's 17-18 there isn't a huge problem with dating a 15 year old, to me at least. However, its wrong of her to lead the 2nd guy on. Tell her that it is her responsibility to tell him that she does not want to be with him anymore. If she won't, you will. As for the 15 year old, thats a matter of keeping your nose out of her business. She's either gotta confront her mother or keep running around in secrecy, its up to her.
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Q:
so its like this. I met this guy and weve been talking for like a good while now. im crazy for him, he's crazy for me and when were together its just yea. There is just one problem he has a girlfriend. now im not looking to break anyone up or anythng but we just cant stay away from each other. I dont know his girlfriend and i do feel bad in a way but its kinda too late to start regretting. The main reason we are "together" is because he said hes bored with his girlfriend and like hanging out with me better than with her. Also, when ever he talks about her its always something bad. but i don't say anything. He talks about how he doesn't think shes the one for him and how him meeting me is making him think about it more. I havent slep with him yet but we do ll other sexual things. and i dont think hes going to leave her because he feels like since hes been with her for a while he thinks he owes it to her to be with her. I just need advice as to what i should do. IM CONFUSED!
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Tell him unless he breaks up with his girlfriend, your not going to be with him. You have to think about what he's doing, he's cheating on his girlfriend with you, whose to say he won't do that if you two are together? This isn't fair to his girlfriend at all, if he's not happy with her he should do the respectful thing and break up with her. Don't be the other woman, Let him know that until he's free, your not going to continue being with him. It's the right thing to do, and it'll be respecting yourself as well as this other girl. This guy doesn't deserve either of you.
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Q: im still a bit freaked. ok i am going into the tenth grade and im turning 16 in about 20 days (i didnt fail or get held back) and i realize that college is still a little ways but i am seriously freaking over it all they want you to be ready for everything and know everything about colleges i have no idea and i am always considering just not going and just starting my carreer out of highschool but it always seems like you get nowhere doing that my grades are mostly a's and b's sometimes a c so they arent the best and im not looking to get into somewhere like harvard or anything i just i am so confused on what i want to do much less college and why i have to be figuring out my life now i just dont know what to do and whoever gets this i am already sorry about any spelling and no punctuation and that you are having to listen to my ramblings but i really appreciate it because i cant seem to find anyone without the answer of you have to do this or whatever something like that so what i am actually saying is thanks
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I didn't know what I wanted to do right out of high school, im gonna be going to a community college and taking a few classes that interested me to feel out what I might want to do. Start doing that, it's cheaper and it'll give you an idea on what you want to do. Or take a year off, work and figure it out. Don't feel so much pressure to start college right away. I took a year off, and figured out what I wanted to do with my life, and it helped a lot. I have a whole plan now on what i'm going to do and i'm no longer stressed about it. Also you have two years to think about this too, so just relax and focus on high school right now.
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Q: so i use to cut. it all started as me not knowing who to go and talk to. like i felt so bottled up inside and i couldnt figure out a way to get rid of my pain. so i would cut it out. and i know its not good and how wrong it is but i stoped. and it has only been like 3 months. but lately my dad has been pressuring me so much. and he hates me as a daughter. i have to hear him tell me that everyday. so i have been fighting the urge to cut. but im going to break soon i know i will. do yu know if there is anything i can do be for i cut again. i tried all the ways that made me stop but if i dont get help soon then im going to start again. and i know for a fact my mom will send me to the mental place. i tried counseling but everytime they asked me a question i would say maybe. and i would never talk. i just was scared. please help me. i dont want to go back to the old person i was
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Everytime you feel the need to cut, write in a journal, get your pain out on paper. Your able to express your feelings without anyone criticizing you and it helps a lot. Maybe try counseling again, and really go into it with an open mind and know that your there to get help, and their not going to judge you. Just try and keep busy everytime you feel the need to cut. You'll get better, just keep trying.
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Member Since: August 1, 2007 Answers: 140 Last Update: December 24, 2008 Visitors: 2797
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