Sometimes my advice is good advice, and sometimes it's just an opinion. Sometimes people don't take good advice (ironically.) If everybody would just talk to each other, we'd have world peace, so you probably won't see "just talk to them" in my column.
I worked as a Registered Nurse for a few years so I know a little about health.
I think and read about spiritual things. I answer spiritual questions without trying to convert anyone to my own beliefs. I'm a non-denominational Christian, but I believe everyone has a path to follow, and God is patient, so I answer spiritual questions from where you are.
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What is it called if you eat alot of sugar and it sends you on a sugar high for like 10 minutes but then you get really tired and just HAVE to lay down. When you lay down or try to rest it feels like something is holding you down so you can't get back up again. This has happened to me several times and I just don't know what to think.
Confused (link)
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If you feel so tired suddenly and have trouble getting up, you should see a doctor and get checked. It may not be sugar at all. You could have anemia, or low iron. It could be a lot of things. There is no way to know unless you see a doctor.
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Okay, I know this is weird, but I think my teacher is, uh... attracted to me. I mean, he's like, weird around me. I can't explain it, he's just like, flirting all the time or something! What the heck am I supposed to do???? - Very Confused Student (link)
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It sounds like a very uncomfortable situation. If he is just flirting, kind of ignore it. I would play dumb like you don't realize he is flirting. I don't think he will get inappropriate if you don't encourage him. If you feel like you can't just ignore him, I would talk to someone about changing your class. If he does get out of hand, definitely tell someone you trust.
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hello i recently gave gaurdianship of my son who lives in pa to my ex husband due to my son's behavior i thought it was for the best i still am suppose to see him every other weekend the problem is my ex mother in law she has power of attorney over my ex husband due to his limited mental state now she is taking control of my son and he has been acting up down at her home where they both live she told me that if he does not straiten up he wont be allowed to come here and visit due to the fact that i live around some rough kids i want to know if there is anything i can do legally to make sure i get my rights for a visit rather she likes it or not i dont have and i cant afford a lawyer is there something i can do thru the court myself does anyone know please my son's life is at stake here i need help (link)
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Here is a website where you can get free legal advice.
Ask your ex-mother-in-law if you can visit in either her home or a place away from your home, if her only complaint is rough kids where you live.
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I need a real profile from a computer aide architectural drafting person, and here are a few questions:
Interview
What do you do?
What did you do before?
How did you get your job?
What are your career aspirations?
What kinds of people do well in this business?
What do you really like about your job?
What do you dislike?
What is the biggest misconception about this job?
Looking back on your career or job search, what do you wish you had done differently?
How can someone get a job like yours?
I need all this because Iam about to make a desicion about this career, and I really need to know what do I need for this new field. Thanks alot for taking the time to helping me. (link)
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I guess there aren't any Advicentor colmnists who work in this field. Here is a website that might give you more information.
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what are caffeines effects on the body? (link)
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This website states that you can overdose on caffeine.
Caffeine, besides making you more alert, can cause insomnia and poor sleep, shakes and nervousness, frequent urination and bladder irritation, irritated stomach, rapid heart rate, headaches, irritability, and I suspect it can raise your blood pressure (but I haven't found that listed anywhere.) It is also addictive. You develpe a tolerance to it's affects with use, and will get withdrawal symptoms when you stop.
Caffeine is not just in coffee, but tea, chocolate, Coke, Pepsi, Mountain Dew, and some other soft drinks. 7-Up, Sprite, and root beer son't have any caffeine.
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hey, i do gymnastics and ive had so many injuries and i get so behind!! i want to be good like all my friends that do it!! and i get sop stressed out about it that i put myself down!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?? HELP!!!
Miss Awful (link)
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Gymnastics should be fun. Anything athletic should be because aerobic exercise releases endorphins that make you feel better. You don't sound like this is fun for you, but a very competitive type of activity instead.
I think you should try something else - dance, martial arts, another kind of sport, whatever appeals to you.
You have had injuries, and you know that is why you aren't doing as well as you expect. There is really nothing you can do to change that. You may even make things worse if you push yourself too hard. If you get into something different, you may not feel the same dissappointment in your achievement, but still enjoy the activity.
I do tai chi, which is a martial arts form. The first thing they teach you is to realize that you will not ever be perfect, and to relax and allow yourself to be imperfect.
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Allright, I have recently started taking ADDERALL(ADD drug), which goes against all my beliefs, but this way I can stay at my current school which I love. I have an agreement with my parents if I take it I can stay at my current school. But, today after it started kicking in I heard voices. It started in geography, we were talking about Sharon the butcher of Israel. Someone in my head, who was me but not started telling me about how eyes are made of glass and Sharon took out his victims eyes and put them on a wall. It chanted, "Wall of eyes" until I screamed so loud in my head I was suprised no one heard me. It never shut up, unless I was talking to someone, but once I stopped it started. It's hard to explain, it was like I was saying it to myself, but it wasn't me. It's worn off by now, but I think it is making me insane. I don't want to stop taking it, but it is making me completely diffrent. Should I tell my parents? Should I stop taking it? my grades are better. Is it worth it? (link)
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Adderall looks like a very touchy drug. Here is a website about Adderall. "Mental disturbance" is one of the possible side effects listed.
Definitely tell your doctor and parents. Sometimes drugs can backfire and make you worse. This sounds like one of those times. Maybe the doctor can give you something different or a combination that works better without side effects.
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what a double mouse click? u wrote it on one of the questions u answered (link)
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Ummm....use your imagination. This is a PG13 website. Sorry I can't be more detailed.
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Okay i've been with this guys for over 3 years on and off. I'm crazy about him i would give the world for him , he just recentally told me he loved me. But he don't acted like it he's kinda mean to me alot and he just broke up with me at this party he was at, and had sex with this other women. Then the next day told me he loved me and he never meant to break up with me and im the only one for him and all this stuff. He said that didn't mean nothing to him.He was all messed up and it would never happen again. But i don't know what to do please tell me i need help so bad i love him so much and im carrying his baby!!! Im 17 and im a female. (link)
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If he is mean to you a lot, this does not look good for the future. He had sex with another girl and told you it was because he was all messed up -that's not a good enough excuse. I think the fact that you are pregnant with his child makes him think he can completely take advantage of you. (I am assuming he knows you're pregnant.)
He's mistreating you. You are in a very vulnerable position right now, being pregnant. Think about this - what would life be like if you break up with him? If you do, he will get the message that you insist on better treatment than you have been getting, and can stand on your own. He may be treating you badly just because he believes you are dependent on him (which it sounds like you are) and he is resentful. If you can show him you don't need him as much as he thought, he may straighten up.
You also say that it has been on and off for 3 years. It doesn't sound like there has been much commitment.
Don't break up unless you really can do without him. I think you would be better off though.
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how did i become a moderator for this site (link)
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When you answer a lot of questions, you eventually get rated frequently enough to have an average. If it is above 4, you can rate the questions with smilies. That is a moderator level 1. Level 2 and 3 moderators are assigned by the advicenator admin (spacefem.) They are her choice.
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Today I was named captain of my school's cheerleading squad, which is really good until I realized that I have no idea what I am doing. This is the first time my school has had a real squad and if I mess it up they might not have it again. Someone suggested renting a video on cheering, does anyone else have ideas? (link)
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I would ask for advice from someone who knows what is involved in being a cheerleading squad captain. Start with your teachers and coaches, then you might look outside of your school, maybe call another school that does have a real squad and ask them if they would be willing to give you some advice.
Since your school has not had a squad before, I don't think it would be fair to hold you responsible for "messing up." You are doing this by yourself. The fact that you are worrying about doing a good job means you probably will do well.
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What is the best way to pleasure myself without a guys help? (hint i am a girl) (link)
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You don't need a sex toy. Experiment and use your imagination. You could try the "double click your mouse" method.
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So, I'm usually on the advising end of this question, but I can never give myself advice. If you have any suggestions, I'll happily try them out.
Here's the scenario:
My mother grounded me indefinitely. (She's done this once before, but I got out of it by writing a persuasive essay telling her why she should lift my grounding and let me go to my friend's party.) She's been awful to me all day, and I guess I subconsciously retalliated by taking my friend in her car (my mom's allergic to everything) and driving us to the mall. It was planned that I'd go over to my friend's house, but not that we'd go to the mall. See, mom doesn't want me to take anyone in her car because she's allergic to perfume and scented laundry detergents and all that.
In response to my doing this, she grounded me. Anyone have any suggestions as to how to get out of this? Or at least get her to set a time?
Please don't tell me I shouldn't have done that in the first place because I know that. I aplogized and offered to clean the car and all that, but she just told me to go shower. Lol.
Help me out any way you can! Thanks. (link)
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Take deep breaths and calm down. You might want to wait a little while ( a few days maybe) until you are both not so mad at each other.
Tell her you are sorry and won't do it again. (I know you already did.) Tell her it is unreasonable not to set an end point to grounding. Does she expect you to be grounded until you are able to move out?
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My friend told me that a guy at my school lift up girls shirts and feels their stuff! What should i do? (link)
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If you know for a fact that it is true, saw him do it, or he did it to you, that is illegal, and is called "assault." I know boys get away with a lot at school now, but if he does do things like that, he needs to be reported to teachers, parents, and maybe the police. No one is legally aloud to touch you unless you give them permission.
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This is a weird question...but how do u give someone a hickey that lasts more than 5 mins? My boyfriend gave me a couple of them and they lasted a week! I wanna get him back for it, but mine only last like 2 mins, lol. Revenge! Is there, like, some trick to it or something? (link)
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If you have light thin skin, hickies will are worse. So to give him a comparable hickie, you really have to suck long and hard on his neck. But, he probably will only feel flattered and proud instead of embarrassed like you were. It won't be a good way to get revenge.
Hickies always made me really angry. I hate being marked. I don't have any suggestions for revenge, but I understand wanting to get even.
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I need advice and your opinion.
Hi, I have a bit of a confusing situation, but maybe it's just in my head and so could you help me out? I'm 22 and see, I've been a friend with this guy for the last three years. I met him my freshman year at college and we went on a double date with his roommate and his girlfriend. After that, we saw each other around campus but not much else. He would im me every once in a while though to talk. I noticed last January he had left school and he emailed me that following February or so telling me that he was in Iraq. I freaked of course, worried about him instantly. Since then during the summer we emailed each other off and on and messaged each other but he was the one to initiate most of the conversations while I emailed him most of the time and he was good about replying every time. Then in September he brought up the idea that he was coming home for 15 days of R and R and mentioned he was coming here to get transcipts to transfer colleges when he got back and would i want to get lunch with him? I said yes of course and he came, we had lunch and he cracked me up the entire time. He then went to get his transcipts and I went in with him, and sat for half an hour but after that time he said I didn't have to stay but I said I wanted to hang out with him and didn't mind. While all of this, he was opening doors for me and the gentlemanly things and said thanks for staying with him. We talked for about five minutes before he left and then I gave him a hug, he hugged me back of course and said he would email me. When he got back to Iraq he did email me to tell me he was safe and then we kept emailing each other off and on until Thanksgiving. Well after thanksgiving he couldn't get emails so he mentioned I could write him if I wanted. So I've been writing him since December and we write each other about every other week or so. He started out signing his letters As Always, or something like that but then switched it to love. And he says how great it is to hear from me and writes alot to me. He keeps me updated on when he thinks he is going to come home and mentions getting together this summer once he gets out of Iraq. The last letter I got from him, he told me an official date since all the changes and said he wasn't going to tell his parents though since the dates have changed alot and he just didn't want everyone knowing he was going to be home and how he wanted to be by himself for a while in peace and quiet. I've always considered us more of acquiantances before we started writing and was wondering if you thought he might be interested in me as more than friends? or does it just sound that he now considers me to be a friend, the thing is that I have never had a guy sign love to a letter who wasn't romantically interested in me and I really do care about him and have come to like him as more than a friend, am I just reading hidden signals because he didn't have to invite me to lunch or keep in contact?. Thanks :).
-Mixed but likes
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Just take it a day at a time. He is still in Iraq at this time and you will know a little more when he gets back. Remember he is at war, and people at home all mean more to him now. When he gets back, he will definitely need some quiet time. Coming home from a state of war to normal life is a transition that is not simple and automatic.
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my daughter is involved with a man that is 18 yrs older than her. i dont have a problem with that as i have known him quite awhile, she is old enough to make that decision. my question is what do i do to hide the fact that i too have feelings for him? i would not hurt my daughter but im not sure i can suppress my feelings much longer. i know it is purely lust feelings i have for him, and i know he does not feel the same way what should i do? (link)
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Control yourself. I wouldn't say anything to either your daughter or her boyfriend. I would hope you could suppress your feelings, because if you don't, absolutely no good will come of it.
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Hi, I'm a single 37 year old mother, My son is 12 and in 7th grade, he is going to Public school. His conduct has been allways A, but for first time in his school years there is a teacher that thinks all the oposite, I have talk with my son and he says he doesn't know why she doesn't like him, his art work is allways under grade and for some reason now and then, his work disapears from the room. I request a meeting once before, but I felt the school counselor cover up the teachear's behavior and the situation got a little better, but know I can't aloud this abuse to keep going on. My son is an artist and is been selling his work for sometime, the teacher didn't know that, when I told her she sayd maybe he is a good sculptor, but nothing else because he doesn't do his work. Now the problem is that my soon wants to enter a school of art and with no recomendation from this woman even with a great portfolio he won't be accepted, I feel frustrated and my son says that her pet (the teachers favorite) allways gets good grades even with unfinish work. Please help me, what to do? I'm going to have a meeting with her next week. I'm an educated woman and treat people with respect, but I want to be severe and upfront after all is my child's future! (link)
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12 years old and 7th grade are a difficult time, and you may see changes in your son. You may need to watch his school work a lot more closely now to make sure he is actually completing his assignments, especially if his teacher says he isn't.
When you go to the meeting, find out exactly what is going on, what kind of work she has been expecting and what she has been recieving from him. Let her know you are co-operating with her, because your goal is for him to do the best he can in school. Tell her prior to this time he has never had a behaviour problem and you are surprised that there has been a change.
Don't accuse her, or bring up missing work, or the other students. I don't think you need to be "severe and up front" with a teacher, because this will probably make things worse.
With your son, continue to tell him positive things, that you believe he is capable of good performance, but don't shelter him if he is not doing what he is supposed to do. Keep communication open with your son. But don't always assume that the teacher just "doesn't like him" for some reason. Be sure you have all the facts.
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please could u tell me what prison sentence someone will get for sexual abuse on a child of 10 years old (link)
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Everything depends on the situation. If you want to know the maximum sentence allowed by law, call your local county court house. They can tell you or where to find out.
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i am a Dr. i was very good at sports in school and in college specially cricket but could not pursue these as now i have to give my exams for postgraduation and exams for u.s.,u.k. and cannot stay in my country if i get admission abroad,and am not finding time for my hobbies in which i could have been very successful please advice as i am feeling very low as,in my exams i am not performing upto my potential (link)
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Exercise releases endorphins that improve your spirits. I know a lot of doctors, and the majority of them have found a way to include exercise and recreation in their lives, because it is essential. Being a doctor is a high stress job. To be able to give good care, you need to take care of yourself.
I don't know exactly how, but you must work out a time schedule that includes exercise and recreation as a priority. If you don't, other parts of your life will suffer for it.
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