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Mixed Signals or in my head? (long post)
I need advice and your opinion.
Hi, I have a bit of a confusing situation, but maybe it's just in my head and so could you help me out? I'm 22 and see, I've been a friend with this guy for the last three years. I met him my freshman year at college and we went on a double date with his roommate and his girlfriend. After that, we saw each other around campus but not much else. He would im me every once in a while though to talk. I noticed last January he had left school and he emailed me that following February or so telling me that he was in Iraq. I freaked of course, worried about him instantly. Since then during the summer we emailed each other off and on and messaged each other but he was the one to initiate most of the conversations while I emailed him most of the time and he was good about replying every time. Then in September he brought up the idea that he was coming home for 15 days of R and R and mentioned he was coming here to get transcipts to transfer colleges when he got back and would i want to get lunch with him? I said yes of course and he came, we had lunch and he cracked me up the entire time. He then went to get his transcipts and I went in with him, and sat for half an hour but after that time he said I didn't have to stay but I said I wanted to hang out with him and didn't mind. While all of this, he was opening doors for me and the gentlemanly things and said thanks for staying with him. We talked for about five minutes before he left and then I gave him a hug, he hugged me back of course and said he would email me. When he got back to Iraq he did email me to tell me he was safe and then we kept emailing each other off and on until Thanksgiving. Well after thanksgiving he couldn't get emails so he mentioned I could write him if I wanted. So I've been writing him since December and we write each other about every other week or so. He started out signing his letters As Always, or something like that but then switched it to love. And he says how great it is to hear from me and writes alot to me. He keeps me updated on when he thinks he is going to come home and mentions getting together this summer once he gets out of Iraq. The last letter I got from him, he told me an official date since all the changes and said he wasn't going to tell his parents though since the dates have changed alot and he just didn't want everyone knowing he was going to be home and how he wanted to be by himself for a while in peace and quiet. I've always considered us more of acquiantances before we started writing and was wondering if you thought he might be interested in me as more than friends? or does it just sound that he now considers me to be a friend, the thing is that I have never had a guy sign love to a letter who wasn't romantically interested in me and I really do care about him and have come to like him as more than a friend, am I just reading hidden signals because he didn't have to invite me to lunch or keep in contact?. Thanks :).
-Mixed but likes
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He maybe wrote love on the letter just because or he is starting to like u more and more. i think he do like u and want to be mored than friends. after all he is still writing u letters and talking to u and he said he want to go on a date with u. then he said when he comes he wants to be alone yell right he wants it to be u and him until he leaves.
I SAY HELL YELL HE LIKES YOU GURL!!!
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I'd have to say that the way things seem, it seems like he is interested in you. However, we of course can't be certain about that.
I would say that right now, as much as you'd like to know how he feels about you, you should keep writing just like always and keep your relationship together and see what happens when he comes home in the summer.
Keep doing things how you are now and you might not want to make any advances on him in your letters because he might not be able to handle anything more right now and getting into a deeper relationship with such distance will be tough for him. So I'd say definitely see how things are in the summer, you may even find someone you care about here while he is gone so you just never know and you don't need to be tied down to someone across the world.
Hopefully everything works out how you'd like it to. :)
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Just take it a day at a time. He is still in Iraq at this time and you will know a little more when he gets back. Remember he is at war, and people at home all mean more to him now. When he gets back, he will definitely need some quiet time. Coming home from a state of war to normal life is a transition that is not simple and automatic.
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alright..here's your answer.
although theres a chance that he's just happy to have a friend like you. i think its much more than that. i think that although you two are just friends...he likes you beyond just friendship. but trust me...you are doing the right thing. friends or lovers; it dont matter. you are still there for him through whatever it is thats going on in his life. but trust me just because a guy signs love to a letter..that doesnt exactly mean that he means more than love as a friend. but from what i read....i think he's interested in you. but just make sure you dont push. right now maybe he just needs someone to be there for him, and eventually he may ask you out as his girfriend. just keep standing by his side because patience is everything.
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Dear mixed signals,
He will be all right.....just do what you want to do....But make the right choice
-dionne
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Hey :) I truly think,from what you have written, that he is romantically interested in you. When he came home that time, I'm sure you were one of few people he saw, and that shows he really really cares about you. Also, since he told you the date he was coming home, and he didnt want anyone else to really know, i think that means he really wants to see you. Also, he obviously loves to talk to you since he has written to you a lot. I bet he finds comfort in you, and he finds you someone he feels he can tell anything to. When he comes home, you should try and see him. Keep talking to him and eventually you should ask him how he feels about you. Tell him you are interested in him and ask him if he would want to go on a date with you. Good luck!
*FallenAngel*
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