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Q: NEED TO KNOW IMMEDIATLY

ok so my sis {16} has a red raw patch near her underwear line but lower down almost near her bum but notlike her thigh tho she says it hurts alot and it has been there for a week it is not chauffing she says because her thighs dont rub together there she has never had this before she thinks its an sti hahaha i dont but i am not sure wat it is HELP HELP HELP HELP

it could be a cyst or sist i think thats how u spell it. but if it is one. (i dont want to surgar coat it) its very very painful when other people i know had it they told me it was painful like they have to cut it open and stick somethign in there. its a type of surgery. but it depends on the doctor you have too. anyways i hoped i helped.

Q: i have never ever babysitted beofre and my friends neighbor who lives a few hosues down the strret wants me to bayist thier daughter. I have NEVER even considered babysitting. I don't know anything about it. PLEASE HELP ME. The girl is 9 and loves to dance and is very loud and playful and wild and crazy nobody really likes her cuz tehy say shes annoying. I don't see it yet but maybe i will. How do i ask about money? What do you we do? Should i get any ifnormation down before i come? Should i Bring anything? Help!

well if u never babysat before you should tell them. when you first babysit someone you should come over to there house early maybe 15 min to a half hour and find out any important information like if she is allergeic to anything. what her bed time is(if they are goign to be out late)any medicines she has to take, contact number if there is an emergency or you have any questions (dont be afraid to call). things like that. and as for activities maybe you could bring over some cds and may be dance with her or watch her dance. or maybe even a movie that has to do with dancing. or you caould even take her out side. i hope i helped! good luck!!

Q: how in the world do i stop bitting my nails???? they are soo short that sometimes they bleed. i tell myself not to, but i keep bitting them. please help me

dip ur nails in finger nail polish remover each morning and when you go to bite them you will get a nasty taste in you mouth and then you'l stop or you can dip them in hot sauce. either way will work. hope i helped!

Q: Alright, so im 15, a female, and i think i might be gay. im still 'exploring' my options, if that makes any sense. but i want to let my friends know that there is a possibility that i could be, but everytime i get close to tellin them, ill start out with something about one of my gay friends, and they are automatically grossed out. how could i hint to them that i could be, without losing their friendship, yet not being to revealing?

first of it think it's really brave of you to tell your friends you might be gay if it were me i'd never be able to tell any one! but second i think they are just acting grossed out because they might thinkn that you think thats it's gross! next time you guys talk about it tell them how you feel about gay people. causaully. like " i dont think being a gay is gross its just how people feel towards each other". some of them might come around and say they feel that way too. and if they feel okay with it you could hint it too them by maybe while walking with her, "she's really pretty" something like that. but you should be honest with them and just come right out and tell them how you feel. if they dont except you then they arent real friends! but again if you dont feel comfortable just bring up the subject more offten soon they'll get it! and i think they'll ocme around!

Q: 14/f. okay so i've been seeing all of these people suggesting people to use proactiv and that it really works. well i've always considered it and my mom said that if all else fails she'll order it for me. but if i use proactiv and it works, then won't i just have to keep ording it for years and years? because if i stop using it won't my acne come back? i've never had REALLY bad acne, but its enough to be annoying and noticable.

is proactiv worth it?
if i stop using it will my acne come back?
and how long do i have to use it until i can safely stop?

I use proactive and it doesnt work the first time yo u use it. and if you stop using it your acne might come back. umm im not that sure when to stop using it! but if you stop using proactive and acne isnt coming back then you should be good. but you shou ld still wash your face, even with soap or water! good luck!!!

Q: ummmm i was just wondering if anybody can tell me how to use weight im 5'7 an weight 150... i was wondering is it ok if i go on a crash diet just eating whole grians????

No way!! you need nutrience from all the food groups!!! if your looking to loose weight then you should excercise eat healthy and not too much food. no food after dinner because if you eat you have no way to burn it all off the biggest meal should be breakfast. you might not want to hear this but... loosing weight is a slow proccess. it should take a week or 2 to loose some pounds! Good luck though!!

Q: i didnt know what to put this under.
i have been using neutrogena oil free acne wash. and it seemed to be working but today i am breaking out.im not sure if its just the heat (its soo hot) or from the acne wash.. if my skin didnt react well to it? what do u think?

if you been using the face wash for a while and havent been breaking out then all of a sudden you are then chances are its probably something else. but if your break out isnt going away i would try another product. so that you you dont break out again try a little test spot on yous face (apply a little but of the product in a hidden spot so that if you do break out its not all over your face) but if the brak out is because of the heat its probably because your pores are cloged. so wash your face to make sure there's no oil on it. and you dont have to use a product just cold or hot water. splash it on your face and pat dry (rubbing your face with a towel in the long run will cause wrinkles) good luck!!!

Q: when you hang out with a group but half the people like you and half of them don't should that bother you? like should you stop hanging out with them all together or keep hanging out with them and forget the bully ones?

mine group of friends had this problem a while ago too. we use to all talk behind each others back and adventually we would end up hating one person in the group. now our group is almost impossible to split up!!it's like we are all connected at the hip even if one of us (there are 4 of us) is an hour away. but any ways how did we do it? we all talked about our problem in our group. liek what we did like and didnt like about each other it was hard but it worked out. and if your group of friends dont wanna do that try to hang out with the ones who dont like you! try to get know them better and they will get to know you! if they still hate you ask them. and dont change your self but alter yourself to try not to make them like you. if that doesnt work forget them you have other friends and its their loss!!! Good luck!!!

Q: i just want to get an opinion: does a layered haircut look choppy? i don't want to get it if it looks weird and uneven. i wanted it to be cut like this: http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p4369.htm go down to where it says "The Ashley Olsen Look" i wanted to get it like that and i wanted to show my hair stylest but i don't know where to get a bigger picture of it. also i have natrually straight long light brown hair and my mom says that if i want it to look like that i have to blowdry it every day.. is this true? thanks soooooooooo much!!!!!

well if your looking for this type of hair style http://www.1-hair-styles.com/images/long-layered-hair-styles.jpg i dont think it looks choppy at all but if you do if you go here http://www.makeoversolutions.com/ you can up load your photo and see what looks good on you. good luck!!

Q: so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do? I dont think I wuold take him back but as selfish as this is I would just like him to say he made a mistake and want me back so I can say no, you missed your chance.

well i think that its just a rebound specially if he broke up with you and then started to go out with someone else after he told you he wanted space! but if thats the way he wants to go then thats fine! when school starts show him you dont need him! (even if u do..pretend) or just act like it. mamek sure you look extra good and flirt around him with other guys. and when he wants you back tell him no. he'll be devistated and you feel grate. til school starts do things to fill ur day in so you wont think about him so much. like get a job or join a sports team. in no time at all school will be here and you can put you plan in ation. good luck.

Q: im going to six flags/hurricane harbor on friday in chicago. its going to be hot out so im planning on wearing my swimming suit, but i was just wondering what to wear over that..i was thinking soffees? but idk, ive never been there before. also, do you wear flip flops or tennis shoes to a place like that? thanks in advance for everything!

well if i were you i'd wear something like a tank top and cloth shorts. i would bring a pair of tennis shoes. but i wouldnt wear them there because if you go on water rides it's hard to take them off and on. another thing bring sun block. i went somewhere like that the other day and it would of helped!! hope you have fun!

Q: are there any good acne scar removers out there that is cheap? i have tried cocoa butter and i have not seen any results at all and ive done this for like 2 months..

i'd use neutrogena acne mark fading peel. i've heard it works like a charm and not expensive.

Q: My best friend needs help with her times tabels. We're going into 9th grade and she barely knows them!

Her mom said that she could get her hair done if she learns them, so she's basiclly bribing her. Before she wouldn't let her go anywhere if she didn't learn.

I've always helped her and it worked for a while but now I need a new way for her to remember and for me to teach her.

I learned mine when I was in 2nd grade and that was because for everyone I got wrong, my brother slaped my hands with a belt. Ouch. But I can't do that with her so can anyone give me any advice?

when i was in the second grade i learned mine with flash cards. i wrote for example 4x4 on a index card and i would find out the answers and put them on the back. good luck with helping her!

Q: I know that I can sing really well when no one's around, but I'm too shy to sing like that when someone is listening. How do I get over this? (PS, I recorded myself, so I know that I can sing well. I don't even sing like that in choir.)

if i were you i would be scared outa my mind to be in a any crowd at all. so congrats to u that u can do that to begin with. but at times wen i do have to get on stage and do something i always act like i'm at home with my hair brush in my hands and my stuff animals as my audience! and i know thats a little childish so if you dont wanna do that wen you do sing with a large audience pretend that they are all in there underwear it will make you laugh and you will for get about being scared. also dont look at the audiene look at the back wall of where ever you are performing! it looks like your looking at the audience but your really not. i hope this helps good luck!!

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heyy my name is samantha. I like to help anyone who needs it. I don't have alot of experience in some of the categories, but if you drop a question in my inbox and I don't know the answer ill be sure to find it one way or another. And no question is dumb so don't not ask something cause you feel that way!!! =)