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Alright, so im 15, a female, and i think i might be gay. im still 'exploring' my options, if that makes any sense. but i want to let my friends know that there is a possibility that i could be, but everytime i get close to tellin them, ill start out with something about one of my gay friends, and they are automatically grossed out. how could i hint to them that i could be, without losing their friendship, yet not being to revealing?
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If they really are your true friends they should respect your decision to be gay and wont think anything different of you, because if you really think about it youre they same person.
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If you think you might be gay, then just come out
and tell your friends. If they don't understand, and if they don't want to be your friend anymore, then maybe they aren't true friends after all! I don't see why people have to hide things, or even lie to their friends, if they are truely your friends, they will understand. But if you do tell them and they end up still being your friends, DON'T HIT ON THEM! That could scare them away! Also, if you are gonna tell your friends, you should be careful because if you tell all of them, someone is bound to tell someone elso, and then pretty soon, lots more people than you told will know. But Yes, you should tell your friends, and if they don't like you after that, don't let it tear you apart, just remember, they aren't true friends if they don't except you, and you aren't a true friend if you lie to them, or don't tell the FULL truth, so be honest with them.
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Well, I can help you out but you didnt like ask if you wanted opinions, or anything. Like about how to bring it up but i would just be forward with it. You can email me at xxpatsgirl1992xx@netscape.net and ill give you my screen name. we can talk, im 14 so i understand.
hope tht helps
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Half of my friends are gay or bi or straight. we're all different. but you sound afraid of telling your friends. if they are truly your friends, as cliche as this might sound (especailly to me :P), they will accept that fact about you, after all it's just another part of you. It's who you are, and it won't change.
And there is no way to aviod it. just tell them, and be honest, because it's the only way. Hoenesty is the BEST policy.
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First of all, I have to add to the well done's for your courage in deciding to tell your friends. It must be a very hard step to take and I have a lot of admiration for you for doing this.
Now, unfortunately, if your friends appear to have a problem with homosexuality, there really won't be any way to break it to them in a way that won't provoke an at least very shocked response. To be honest with you, rather than hinting at it, which may put you off telling them at all if they react negatively, it might be better to just tell them straight off.
I'm not saying this is an easy task but from your perspective, if you are concerned about how they may react, it would probably be easier to just do it and get it over and done with. You will still be the same person, with the same personality and the same good heart, regardless of your sexuality and true friends will be able to see that from the start.
They will probably be very unnerved to begin with but please don't take this too personally. Homosexuality is still considered a taboo subject, especially in your age group because a lot of people with tendencies in that direction may use humour and prejudice as a defence mechanism, so give them a chance to digest the information. Tell them there is a chance you might be gay and you don't know yet but you wanted them to know because it's a tough time for you and you need to know they will be there for you while you try to work it out.
I really hope your friends will be understanding. If they are good friends, I'm sure they will but they might need time. Give it to them and it will all work out in the end.
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first of it think it's really brave of you to tell your friends you might be gay if it were me i'd never be able to tell any one! but second i think they are just acting grossed out because they might thinkn that you think thats it's gross! next time you guys talk about it tell them how you feel about gay people. causaully. like " i dont think being a gay is gross its just how people feel towards each other". some of them might come around and say they feel that way too. and if they feel okay with it you could hint it too them by maybe while walking with her, "she's really pretty" something like that. but you should be honest with them and just come right out and tell them how you feel. if they dont except you then they arent real friends! but again if you dont feel comfortable just bring up the subject more offten soon they'll get it! and i think they'll ocme around!
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wow this is another tough one .well most of my friends are either gay or lesbeions so i know what your going through.i think maybe just tell them you know "there is a chance i could be gay".if they are real friends they will except that and be with you along the way .if they get grossed out ask them ,say "why cant you except the fact that this could be me ?"
let me know how it all works out
love,lizzie
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