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Q: ok , the situation is [ veryyy ] long . so ill just get to the point . Say you did something that made someone mad , and you agreed it was wrong so you apologized . Well what if you said something that you had N0 intention of being disrespectful and they thought you were . should you have to say sorry ? even if you wasnt being rude . Yall would understand better wit the story , but just reply to my answer . thanks .

It definitely will make things better, just be like: ~that is not how i meant it~. Then explain what you meant and say youre sorry that they took it that way. It shows you care their feelings were hurt. By this effort, they will be able to trust that you did not mean to make them feel disrespected.

Q: do u think 50 dollars is too cheap to gv a bf for christmas weve been together for only 2 and a 1/2 months.....and also any idea wat to rite in d card???

It is a good amount of money to spend, dont worry. In the card you can mention your cherished memories,inside jokes, how much you care about him, how special your first christmas as a couple is to you, how you hope you are still together next christmas...etc. If you will see him on New Year's: how excited you are to get to kiss him when the ball drops... Be mushy!

Q: i just found out my bf has been cheatin on me for the past 2 years on and off. well i forgave him and were just friends... well my ex starte a bunch of rumors and now hates me adn my bff likes my ex... well i got kinda jealous but got over it... i just found this all out today. well my ex cant see my friend cuz he isnt over me but wants nothing to do with me which is understandable. well im tellng everyone im over my bfs shit and want to be his friend but no one knows i loved him not even him and i am really hurt by everything right now. my bff hooking up possibly with my ex who i used ot care about and my bf cheating on me... i just dont know wat to do with my life. im moving to oregon and want ot meet someone new but i dont know anyone there and im worried no one will like me how do i get to meet someone new and get over this shit ....

If you are moving in order to get away from everything, it is not a good idea. Running away never solves anything. If the move is for other reasons, there are positives of not having anyone there know you. Because of your recent events, it is important to be positive so that it will be a good experience. No one will know of your past to make it a constant reminder, to show pity or choose sides. No one can judge you on any of that. You have the opportunity to start over new. Don't be shy. Make efforts to talk to people. Smile. Meeting people will happen and if you want to find a guy, don't rush it. It will happen when you least expect it. Having this feeling and knowledge of starting fresh will help you get over your pain. Don't think no one will like you. I'm sure when you meet someone, they will be worried about the impression they are making on you. Don't stress the move. Welcome it with open arms and relax. Things will get better for you. If you need any more help with this, contact me. Good luck xoxo

Q: I had a question on here a few months ago about when my boyfriend cheated on me. I decided that it was best for us to call it quits officially and we haven't spoken since. However, he is best friends with my older brother. As far as i know they have never even talked about what happened and i assumed my brotherr would take my side on the whole thing but it seems tht he has decided to still act like nothing is wrong and nothing ever happened. Is this normal and i am just over reacting or should m brother be on my side about this whole thing?

You are not overreacting. You cared about your ex and you care about your brother. Your ex didn't care about you and you want to be sure your brother still does. Its hard for your brother. He doesn't wanna hurt you or his best friend. Even harder would be if he were forced to choose. By ignoring what happened he is saving himself from having to choose one. He's your brother and if you feel he would be on your side he probably is.

Q: i'm 15, my bf is 14.

my boyfriend is always flirting with other girls.
i tried to ignore it for a while, but i just couldn't ignore it anymore.

so i told him that it annoyed me when he flirted with other girls, and especially in front of me. he said that he doesn't really think he is flirting with them, he just thinks he is being nice, or friendly or something.

i said that's ok but just don't go too far, you know.

the other day he told me he used to have crush on one of my friends.

she is pretty and popular and really nice. everyone else thinks this too, and i don't like that he used to like her.
this is because he still flirts with her, even when i am around.

he says that he doesn't like her anymore, but i just can't think that.

i think that because he always flirts with everyone else, that he doesn't really like me. he says that i am beautiful and that he loves me so much, but it doesn't feel like that....

i love him too, but sometimes it's just so frustrating...

can someone please help me how to deal with this

Your man should not be flirting with anyone else. That shows that he doesn't respect you and he cannot be trusted. You need to tell him how you feel and if he refuses to stop then he is refusing to be good to you. He shouldn't have any interest in flirting with anyone else or wanting the attention of any other girl. Its not something you should continue dealing with, its something that has to change.

Q: im scared my boyfriend is cheating on me and i wanted to know if there is any possible ways of finding out his email and password on myspace to see if he is in messages.

If you are worried he is cheating and you can't even go to him about it, not only is trust lacking but communication is. I think you need to rethink your plan, like talk to him! or your relationship. You shouldn't have to "tap into" his e-mail or my space to do it.

Q: i really want a bf really really badly
i'm 15.f
and i've never had one
i usually never care but recently i've wanted one badly
like i feel like a loser b/c all of my friends have had one
but me
and there always talking about them
and i'm there it's really awkward
like i talk to guys but they just see me as a friend i guess
how can i change this??
and usually when i flirt with a guy they flirt with me
but nothing ever really happens

Don't rush into any relationship. They are hard and they take work. you should really care about the person you are seeing. you seem like you don't care who youd get to call your boyfriend. And not everyone has one. You need to get out of wanting to be like the people around you. you don't seem ready to make the committment. Something will come out of flirting. You can't force it to. Usually When you least expect it. Relax and be patient.

Q: i have been dating this guy for a while and we havent been doing well lately. we love each other but he doesnt seem to make an effort into seeing or talking to me. how do i get him to want to see me and want to be with me?

He is obviously going through something. Maybe he doesn't wanna drag you down with him or feel like he's dumping his problems and emotions on you. Tell him you want to be there for him. He might be keeping it inside becasue he thinks you will see him differently or break up with him. He might be afraid of your reaction. You need to show him and tell him how much you care about him. Assure him that he can tell you anything. Let him know how bad it hurts you that you guys are apart.

Q: i know my boyfriend masturbates to beautiful girls on the internet, hes even told me. im just crying right now because i looked at the insanely pretty girls he has as his favorites and who he probably masurbates to. im not pretty like them and i never will be, and it just really hurts because i feel like he isnt happy with me and would go with a beautiful girl if he could. we have been together for almost two years, and we have had our issues, but i just feel really low right now. is this normal? do i have anything to worry about? any input or experience like mine is appreciated, especially from a guys point of view!

if he really cares about you he would respect you. He wouldn't look at anyone else or have the want to do so. Some People say there is no harm in looking but I disagree 100% I consider that cheating and masterbating to them is even more wrong! I would not be able to deal with that. If he is willing to look what will stop him from doing something next? He should look at you and only you. You say you have had your issues if they had anything to do with trust this is even more proof that he cannot be trusted. Please Don't let this make you feel unattractive. Its him not you. Don't let anyone make you feel ugly. That's another unhealthy part of your relationship. your man should make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. You should talk to him if you haven't already and tell him how it feels. If he doesn't respect your wishes he won't ever. You have enough respect for him and you care about him enough to not be able to do that to him. You deserve someone who will treat you the same way.

Q: Well I am sexually active but I usually never let guys look down there cause I hate the skin around my vagina. It is irritated and purple, and almost bruised. I feel soo emarrassd and afraid that if a guy sees it he is going to be totally turned off by it.....
so I am not sure what to do. I do not have an STD i have gone to the gyno. It is only there because i am overweight and my thighs rub together causing the bruising and irritation.
My current b/f in dying to give me oral, but i won't let him cause of how it looks. What should i do!?!!?

he has already look past your weight- he is with you,he cares about you. he should understand how you feel. Every part of my body that i have ever thought was unattractive now feels beautiful to me beacuse my boyfriend helped me see that. Im sure it wont turn him off and hell probably tell you he wants to help make you feel better ;) definitely confide in him. you probly won't regret it.

Q: i found some superman belt muckles online that i liked but id rather purchaise one from a store or the mall does anyone kno where i could possible get one?

Spencer's

Q: i need a new ringtone do you have any ideas?

With You by Chris Brown Hypnotized by Gemini or In My Bedroom by B5

Q: well my ex is at again... he told my bf that i cheated on him with an ex from years ago who isnt even in town and lives far away...wtf...well now my bf and ex are becoming good buddies and my bf said he was sorry for asuming in an email but then when i talked to him he said he jsut wants to drop it and he dont believe me but he jsut wants ot be with me so bad that he dont care... ok if i cheated would i be here trying to figure it out... no and i didnt and i swear on my life.... how do i get him to believe me... ps i have cheated on him once before but so has he... so taht makes it harder please help

My bf and i have always been loyal to each other so thats different than your situation, but at one point he thought i was cheating. it really hurt. how could he think that? after over 2 years of being together i thought he knew and understood i could never do that to him. i love him too much. i asked him what i could do to prove to him i was bein loyal. he said he was suspicious because i was acting different. i realized at that time that all the stress i was going through was taking a toll on how i was treating him. we got through it. so if there is anything at all that you are doing differently, that may be a cause of his suspicion. Since you both have cheated before and are still together, that shouldnt be the reason. So focus on why he thinks you are cheating and work on it from there.

Q: 16 f.
I always get good grades. Last semester my GPA was a 1.67 & I'm a junior! In 9th n 10th grade I got 3.2, 3.5. I switched schools and my grades & learning got twisted! Did I really ruin my chances into getting into a good university? I'm so depressed! :-(

Its not too late. You can still bring up your grades. get a tutor or get help from your teachers either during lunch, a study hall or after school. Im sure your grades will show drastic improvement and though the 1.67 will look bad for college, your next GPA if you get on track now, will show your improvement and that will look good. It will show the colleges that you apply to that when and if you hit a rough spot you will work hard to get out of it and u wont give up until you are where you wanna be. Good Luck and try to relax a little.

Q: i hae to read size 12 is not fat by meg cabot for a school book report due friday. and i totally forgot! i heard cliffnotes has a bunch of books ad i checked and it wasnt there, does anyone know an alterate website that would have a very detailed summary or notes on the book? PLEASEE?

sparknotes.com or pinkmonkey.com are the sites i use for book summaries. make sure to cite anything you may take directly from the sites or you are plagirizing. citationmachine.net is a website that helps you cite the works you use. Good Luck

Q: My hair is so boring.
it just doesn't stand out as much as i would like it to...

my hair falls right above my chest...

any ideas?

try getting highlights because dying all your hair might be too drastic of a change for you. a new haircut will also help. there are many different styles you can try that involve layers. your hair stylist can help you find a cut that will match your face shape. you can even find a style in a magazine or online and bring the pic with you to get your haircut. Chances are the person cutting your hair will be able to give you that haircut. Make sure the place you go has a good reputation because you don't want anyone to mess your hair up. A change will be good.

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My advice is based on my experiences, my morals, my values and what I would do if I were the advice seeker. I always put myself in your shoes and look at all sides of the story. I love updates, so please inbox me to let me know how everything turned out because I worry about you! Some lessons I hope to teach all include: *Always stand up for what you believe in *Never give up *Fight for those who would fight for you *Don't hold back your feelings because you're afraid of getting hurt; you wind up getting hurt anyway *Don't follow your dreams- chase them *Appreciate the things you have *Always put others before yourself *It's always ok to feel, but it's not always ok how you react to those feelings *Learn from yesterday live for today and hope for tomorrow