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15/f
he's 18 in a month, i just turned 15. i went to his house and we were fooling around. he never forced anything on me so when i suddenly yelled no and wait and he did it anyway i...well it hurt...and then i went numb. afterwards i couldn't walk and my voice was shaking and my entire body trembling. i tried getting away but somehow my legs gave out. then he realized what he did and apologized over and over again. i said it was ok....he wants to meet next saturday. after he did it my entire body was trembling and i was breathing so hard i couldn't cry. i was just.....idk. i know it was my fault for not being more assertive. but i didn't expect him to. he knew i didn't want to and apologized afterwards saying he was sorry for forcing me. it was all my fucking fault and i don't know what to do now. we were safe. but he wants to meet this saturday and i know nothing good can come of it and he'll just do it again. it's fucked up, but even though i feel traumatized...i'm tempted to go back. what's wrong with me? i know i don't want it so why is my body telling me to? i'm not a masochist. what's wrong with me? i should be weary of my abuser yet i'm drawn to go back. am i just fucked up? help me please. i don't know what to do. (link)
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it's normal that it got you all shaken up like that its just pure adrenalin. i have messed around with a guy before and it hurt a little after a while but (guys can't read mixed singles) it confuses them. he knew i wanted it but i told him to stop for a sec. he kept going so i said it again more assertively (not bitchin at him though). he just smiled and said okay baby. its not your fault but its not exactly his either. if he knew it was forcing you in any way, shape, or form he shouldn't have done it. period. but when guys are turned on their brains tend to go downstairs instead of in their head lol. so yeah it sounds like to me that he really didn't mean to hurt you. just be careful chick and remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to. next time you see him just tell him how you really feel about all this.
hope i helped:) good luck.
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15/f
I recently lost my virginity to a guy who I thought to be a good guy. Now I learn he's a tweaker, he's a stealer, he's a liar, and he's an asshole. All of this I gathered from other people and although some may see that as an inappropriate source, its from people who care about and so I don't doubt them. They've known him longer and have been his close friends. I believe them.
I know I should leave him. I know I need to leave him, but it's just...it doesn't feel that simple to me. He was my first and for some reason I feel attatched to him. Even though I have no real relationship with him, I'm afraid of losing him and I don't understand why.
I've never felt that vulnerable in my life and for some reason don't want to leave him after becoming that vulernable with him...becuase it was a hard thing to do, you know?
So, I was just wondering if you guys could give me some advice. I'm not really sure what my question is since I know I need to leave him for my well being but still..it's difficult...and I would honestly appreciate some friendly advice because when it comes to losing him bascially for some strange reason : it scares the fuck out of me. (link)
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anything sextual you do with a guy is gonna make you attached in a way, its normal. if hes like that hun please leave him before he hurts you.
hope i helped. good luck:)
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hi :)
my hair is kind of short, it just about touches my shoulders. i really want to grow it to about where my ribcage ends in the front, you know what i mean? well anyway, i know that could take a couple years for it to grow that far itself, but what i wana know is what can i do to keep my hair heathly and what shampoos/conditioners can i use to maybe help it grow a little faster. thanksss (link)
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i had the same problem. i've learnt don't get your hair cut, just trim the split ends yourself and use the tresemme shampoo and conditioner especially if you blow dry or straighten your hair. mines already grown about 2 inches in only about 4 months. good luck hope i helped:)
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18/female. I guess you could say i'm not shy at all. i'm a very outgoing girl who loves to have fun and i never feel awkward. it just feels like (and i've been told) that guys are intimidatd by me and thats why they won't approach me or even tell me they like me. i also feel like sometimes people may feel like i'm annoying or something because i'm so outgoing. how can i still be outgoing but maybe less annoying... if i even am?? (link)
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no no no. guys love outgoing girls:) and it's good to be intimidating, it keeps guys in check.
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I play sports, and i'm just going to come right out and say this, IT'S SO NASTY WEARING PADS!
I tried a tampon today.
The smallest theyve got.
And I was kind of struggling to get it in, but afterwards everything was great.
But when I went to take it out, it hurt SO bad.
My friends say it hurts the first few times, but not to the point where it brings me to tears.
I need help, and I can't stand pads any longer!
I'm a virgin too, if that helps any?
Thanks!
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yeah it will hurt the first couple of times. try to not use them when your flow isn't that heavy because that makes it hurt more trust me.
hope i helped:)
good luck.
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Later tonight I'm going to this boys house that I like.He doesn't really like anyone in particular but I definetely want him to seem interested in me! I know he thinks I'm pretty but i have a huge scab zit on my forhead! Does anyone have any suggestions for making it less visible for tonight? I don't care if its bad to pick at it ,i want to do what i can to reduce it just for tonight because i don't want him to be grossed out by it! (link)
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use concealer!!(: and if it looks crusty use lotion over top of it.
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Hi Guys,
In the last 6 months my hair has thinned out SO much compared to how it used to be. I dye my hair a natural blonde every 6/7 weeks. I get it trimmed every 6 weeks. I used to use straightners/curlers/hair dryer almost every day but when I started to notice my hair was getting damaged, I stopped. I straighten my hair probably once a week now but that's the only appliance I use. My hair is still getting thinner and doesn't grow as fast. What can I do? I keep getting it trimmed but I don't want to cut it anymore bcos I don't want it any shorter. (link)
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ok yeah my hairs damaged to but im growing it out(: lets face it, the healthiest thing to do is not to use straighteners, curling irons, etc. every day. but at least for me that isn't gonna happen lol. but yeah just use heat protection spray before using any type of heated iron. and try to give your hair a little break sometimes like on the weekends.
p.s. i've tried lots of those special shampoos to help with damege but i think it's a gimmick honesty. i didn't see a difference. oh and you don't have to get your hair cut so much if you don't want to. it dosn't really make a difference either.
good luck:)
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Hey, im a 14/f.
I live in salt lake city, Utah. (Murray)
I need a job and fast!!
Any idea's??
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try a local horse farm(: the pay is usually great.
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okay so i hate my body. i'm not overweight or anything (i don't think..), i'm almost 5'4 and 110 lbs or so but maybe more. 15 years old. i have really long legs which is in a way a good thing, but then my torso is soooo short it looks weird. not only that, but the torso area of me is fat. not literally, because when i press against my upper hip area it's all bone (except my tummy is chubby), but my bones seem to like stick out in this funny way. it's hard to explain but i hate it. then my upper thighs are really chubby even though the rest of my legs are thin, and my arms are thin, and then i have absoloutely no chest. (i know, it's desgusting, especially because i'm 15. i might get surgery when i'm older if they're still not there because i'm getting so worried.) anyways, in order to make my body look better i always have to wear long baggy shirts to hide my curves because they're so weird-looking. i'm not looking to be rail skinny or anything but trust me, if you saw me you would know. my body is just extremely awkward and gross. so i'm trying to find ways i can exercise and eat healthy in hopes of that maybe improving? i do eat healthy food mostly but maybe i'm not eating enough (as far as the boobs thing goes?) and i need exercise since i can't play sports cause i'm bad at all of them. any suggestions? & sorry this is so long. (link)
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everyones body is different but we're all beautiful in our own ways(: focus on the good things about your body. don't keep thinking about the features you dislike cause all it'll do is bumm you out. be confident in your self:] love your body.
oh and as far as the tummy bulge goes just watch what you eat and count your calories (recomended at least 1000 a day and do about 30 crunches a night.
good luck!!
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There's this boy at school i like, we're friends but i want him to notice me more. I need help with this and also tips on how to look my best at school. Please help!! (link)
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1. take a shower every day (preferably in the morning)
2. fix ur hair the way it looks best
3. use a slightly darker foundation because school lighting (fluorescent) sucks and washes out skin pigment.
4. be yourself!! and very confident!!
knock him dead girl:)
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What do you think of guys lip peircings? Sexy or stupid? If you think it is sexy could you say what kind of lip piercing you like on guys?
Thank you for helping me make up my mind. (link)
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depends on the person, some guys can pull it off and look relle hott. others.. ehh not so much. personally i think that loop lip rings are the sexiest:)
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Someone told me that if I gave head and swallowed cum I could get throat cancer! Isd this really true? Please! Could someone with some real knowledge and experience and NO throat cancer answer me? I guess if you have it then you should tell me too. I am SO worried! :( (link)
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it CANT! total myth. you can get std's from it but definetly not cancer.
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I had this happen and I didn't know what I should do so I basically just stood there completely quiet and blushing! :( I SO like this guy!
Now he just walked away and doesn't talk to me anymore. I don't see him ever talking to me again like can you imagine how embarrassing it would be if that happened to you? I guess if I am lucky though it might happen again someday so can anyone tell me what to say to a guy asks who how you would feel about a kiss?
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say i'd love one and cutely smile at him:) works every time. lol.
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What is the age limit to buy condoms? Is it different for boys and girls or anything? Does it matter which state I live in for how old do I have to be to buy condoms? (link)
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well since the legal sex age is 16 i guess 16 is the age limit for boys and girls.
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Ok so here is what is going on I like this guy and well idk if he likes me back. Last week he walked me to class and we talked after school. But then Monday he was all plain again. Also he is flirits slot with all the girls. I have been friends with him since last year an I liked him last year too. But e liked one of my friends. What can I do to make him like me I want to stand out cuz I know that a lot of girls like him. This happens he flirits with me for like 2 days then it all goes back up to normal what is going on???? Pls help! (link)
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sounds like hes kinda a player? well i'd say don't waste your time cause you'll probably just gonna get hurt. try to find someone whos totally interested in YOU and only YOU:)
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Don't ask me why, ok? I need to know how long you can go without eating before something bad happens? I don't want to die but I need to lose weight and I have tried it all.
please don't judge me. :( (link)
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starving yourself may make you lose a little weight but once you eat again you'll gain it all back and maybe even more. try to count your calories (recomended at least 1000 a day) and exercise:) good luck and remember you are beautiful just the way you are.
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your very welcome:)
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I don't really know if this is the right topic or whatever but here it goes..
17/f and he's 16/m
so on halloween, I invited my boyfriend of 5 months to hang out with my friends and i. it was like, 6 girls [including me] and then him. they all like him, so it wasn't awkward. but like.. we were making out when the lights were out [we were laying down on the couch side by side]
then like, the lights went on we were all just talking and taking pictures. after a while we turned the lights off and started watching a movie. well i started falling asleep on my boyfriend and he was like wake up cutie and all that. it was cute :] and then like, he playfully bit my shoulder, and then like my knuckles and then my finger. it wasn't really a bite, but more like a light nip hahaa, if that makes sense. it was playful :] not intentions of hurting me. but is there a reason why he did this? idkk. hahaa. explanations anyone ? I'm just curious.
THANK YOUU.
oh and if it helps any, all we've done is make out and hes felt me up. (link)
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well i dated this guy who did that. he bit my ears, hands, lip, etc. all it means is that hes being playful and that biting turns him on. try biting him back, he'll like it;)
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Is acne contagious? Because, ever since I started going out with my boyfried who had really bad skin, I've started getting zits, and I VERY rarely get them, but there's heaps!! D:
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acne is caused usually by oily skin. when you to get close, oils from his face may be getting on your face. just wash your face after you hang out with him and you should'nt break out anymore:)
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My bf fingered me 5 times this month. It was my first experience, I have never been fingered before. My period is due to in 1 day and I have no signs of it (i.e. sore breast).
My question is, can being fingered delay my period or miss it? I'm asking as I have never been fingered. Tell me pls.
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it can't make it delay but it can make you start earlier. being more active and eating healthier somtimes can though.
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my boyfriend fingers me like everytime we hang out pretty much, which is like 2-3 times a week. i'm not complaining haha but is it bad to be fingered that much? (link)
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hahaha wow i had the same question a little while ago but no its actually good for you.
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