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im brie and im 14.
ive cut for like 2 years. i dont really know y i started but i was depressed. my parent found out a few months ago, my dad made me go see a shrienk and I HATED IT! talking about y i was doing it just made me want to do it even more. i havent cut in like 2 weeks but i get urages(sp?) alot and its gettin harder to not do it. my 2 best friends do it but they have and r still trying to get me to stop.its easy to talk to them because they know wht its like. ive never passed out or anything like that and i want to keep it that way. But its like something happens i cut then i say i wont do it again, but then i end up doing it anyway. (link)
i know it will be hard, but try finding a healthier habit to take your mind off of the cutting yourself.


So heres the story i like this guy and he's completly amazing.[[thats the only way to decribe him]] but my problem or shall i say problems are one of my realli good friends likes him to, only she talks about him like she only wants him like in a sexual way. Other problems are he just got out of a relationship. he only dated her for like 2 months and she broke up with him for another guy and was a witch about it but hes still upset.
Anyway back to my friend she says she likes him more than just cause hes hot but it really doesnt seem like it to me. And he kinda acts like he likes me, such as he always wants to keep talking to me and wants to hangout and flirts with me alott. Thenn i found out my friend made-out with him so im super confused and i dont no if i should just forget about it or what....?

any advise? (link)
What i would do is try to work it out with your friend. If that doesn't help, try telling someone whom you trust about this.


i've liked this guy for about a month and tonight i'm going to be introduced to him at this event at my school. he is in jazz and he's gonna be performing and i thought this would be the perfect opportunity to meet him. he's indie, intellectual, and funny, and he has tons of personality from what i hear. what do i say when i meet him? i really want him to like me. help please! (link)
The only thing i can say that works is be yourself! If you don't be yourself, you will lose the real you.


my sister is having a problem, she came and moved down here to chicago with me and my mom from greenbay with her dad and she never really got told she was pretty and to me shes the pretty's girl ever and i always tell her that and so does alot of other people espesclly the boys, she dosent belive nobody though how can get her to belive that she beautiful (link)
show her that you care and tell her that if she wasn't beautiful, then who is?.


im very close to getting a female boston terrior puppy. shes absolutely adorable and i've fallen in love with her already but i need names.

any ideas? (link)
how about Elisabeth Marie?


me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and i love her sooo much you know it wasn't that first sight love it was that first kiss that made my world change just that first kiss and all of a sudden she doesn't love me for no reason after she has done everything bad to me and all i have done is love her, her friends hate me and put things in her head all the time, i just want to take her and leave and be alone and happy forever just the 2 of us and just start a new life i love her and i dont know what to do i have done everything she has asked lost firends everything you can think possible and now i have nothing but her i just don't know what to do (link)
File an abuse report


Okay, My mate is fifteen and she went to a parety a few months ago and drank too much then slept with a guy from her class.
They were both virgin's before hand but she now recons she could have a sexually transmitted infection... Is that possible?
And also I think she should go to see a doctor for help but she's scared because she is under age for having sex.. Can they do anything like with the law or something if she asks for help? And also if she does have an S.T.I doesn't she have to tell the guy she slept with... how can she do that? help.. I'm worried about her, they can be serious sometimes right? x (link)
Yes STIs are possible.They have to treat her. It is a good idea to go to the doctor. She can tell the guy she did it with in person, text, email, or a phone call


If you had the name Glessy, what nicknames would you give her? [i also prefer funny ones but its okay]

GLESSY is is the name. It can also be Glessida. (link)
The Glacier


How would you classify hydrogen (link)
an element with one proton electron and neutron with one orbital.


okay, so on the 12th of May I will have been with my boyfriend for 1 year..
It's not my longest relationship but it's the longest he has ever been with someone.
I was just wondering what to do?
Presents... going out etc
What would you do?
I'm never very good at this stuff..
But i wanted to make it a nice day.. so I was just wondering about presents and stuff..
So please help!
Thanks x (link)
why dont you give him a home made present?


i'm 15/f and i have never had an actual boyfriend and i've never kissed a guy. I feel so behind from all the other girls at school. I just don't feel like i want to take on all the drama that comes with a relationship.

I'm not ugly or anything and i think guys don't ask me out because i'm kind of one of them. I love video games and playing guitar, and skateboarding. The dresses and stuff don't really get me.

I'm worried about being single for the rest of my life! I want to keep my guy friends though, they're like my brothers and i'm worried that if i ever get a guy he won't let me hang out with my boys! (link)
if you get a guyfriend, make sure he treats everyone the same


hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help?? (link)
tell him that you have no feelings for the other guy.


16-f
dating
17-m

me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now and im stumped on what to give him for our year i dont want it to be like over something interesting to him like sports or anything cuz thats more of a christmas or b-day gift i believe our 1 year needs to be something special but i have no clue what to do and i dont have alot of money to spend on it either but i wnat something nice and something he would be proud to get and would remind him of me eveyrtime he saw it.


thanks in advance
:D (link)
make him something yourself


How do you know when a girl gets horny or not (link)
the way she acts


I am having a party and we want a really scary movie for it. Any ideas? When we say scary we mean ones that will make us jump alot and have to cling onto another person, or ones that are so freaky that your looking around corners and everything when the movie is done. I dont really like alien or monster movies. Please dont say The Ring, The Ring 2, The Grudge, or any of the Saw movies because we've seen them all and Saw is jsut gore anyways. Thanks alot (link)
Try nightmare on elm street freddy versus jason and april the thirteenth series


what, and when is the best way to off yourself, like the fastest and easiest (without a gun cuz i don't have one) i've tried almost everyway (but a gun obviously) but i always get caught in the act please help me. even just telling me household items to mix for instantaineous death (sorry can't spell) and don't try to talk me out of it my whole life people had tried to talk me out of it and it makes no sense i have nothing going for me everything sucks my family hates and abuses me, i have no friends, my soccer team sucks, i suck, please help (link)
Unlike the others, if you really want to die, try what i did. TALK TO SOMEONE!!!


How high does the building have to be to guarantee death?

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i have no idea. If you ever want to talk to me about these thoughts(ive had them too) email me at janie93@comcast.net


i got sidebangs over a year ago, and i found that they were getting super annoying and never styled right. so i started pinning them up more often and tried to grow them out.

well they're upto my nose / chin area now, except they're still really annoying. like they're not quite long enough to fit behind my ears, and when i straighten my whole head, the bang pieces separate and fall in front of my face (even when i don't style them separately from the rest of my head). and i constantly have to run my fingers through my hair in order to keep them looking okay.

i've tried using hairspray, but i don't like hairspray. does anyone have any suggestions, or should i just wait until they grow out completely?

i always put my hair in a 'pouf' (clipped back) and / or a headband, and it's getting super boring. any other hairstyles i could use in the meantime while they grow out? (link)
Try using hair gel.


this is a weird question haha. i'm 14/f and i'm taller and a little bigger (not fat) than most of my friends. Whenever i hang out with people, i feel so awkward and i feel like i don't look girly. I feel very manly and beastly compared to other girls. I'm also not really good at talking to people haha i know i'm a mess :]

what can i do to feel less awkward all the time? (link)
All i can tell you is that do what you can to feel your best no matter who makes you feel akward.


can you help me??

okay the last time i made out with a boy i thought he was going to eat my face, and there was lots of slobber and it seriously made me want to puke. He was like doing an archeological dig in my mouth with his tounge and it was disgusting. and that was my first time making out too so it really turned me off of making out. especially the french kissing so what i was wondering about that is:
--is french kissing good if the person knows how to use his tounge??

and another thing. What do boys like when you kiss them?? Have you ever had any experience making out with a boy?? I mean what do they like? What are some tips?? I mean what makes someone a good kisser and how do i get to be one??
thanks
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if the person knows how, french kissing is good. When i had a bf, we would start with a peck on the lips then advance from there. As for a good kisser, keep practicing and you'll get there




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