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Q: My wife Is vêry sick and in the hospital have worked for walmart only two weeks wé desperatly need this oppertunity ive already had to miss two days due to My wifes sickness she Needs me today would i ne fired
I work there too and they do have a medical leave and such. But you really should sit down with your manager whether it be an assistant manager, a CSM, ZMS, or even the store manager themself. Tell them what is going on and that you want to keep this job but you are unsure how to go about the sickness with your wife.

Q: Hi.

My best friend moved to Australia this year in April 2012. She had a thing with this guy over there but that didn't last long.

So about a month ago she told me she was dating someone else. She's 28 & the guy is 19. They started dated 17 November. (I only know the date cause of the facebook anniversary date thing) & on 20th December she messaged me saying he proposed and she said yes.

I'm not jealous or anything. I just think she's making a really big mistake. They've only been dating a month & also living together as her lease was ending at her other place. I don't know why she didn't just move back to her aunties house.

Do you think I should say something to her? I'm a bit scared to tell her how I feel cause I was abused by one guy I was dating last year & she was really supportive when I was going through a really rough time. I don't want her to rub that in my face.

We've fought over our relationships with guys before & now that she's marrying this one I think our friendship will end if I say something.

I told my two sisters that my friend got engaged as they know her too. The first thing they did was laugh & said "Is she pregnant?" "Does she want to live in Australia permanently?" & "She's weird, it's only been a month, what the heck."

I've known my friend since I was 15 in Year 10. I'm really stuck about this & don't know if I should say something to her or not.

Any advice would be good.

Thank you :)


Really in all honesty though she is your friend, it's not your business. I mean because she is your friend you want her happy, and are scared this can turn out bad but it is not your relationship, not your life, and not your decision at the end of the day. If she gets hurt, it happens and whether you say anything or not there is always a chance she will get hurt. So if you want to say anything don't be like "this is too soon for you to get married" or anything along those lines. Simply talk to the guy find out what he is like. threaten him so he knows if he hurts your friend you will hurt him too ;). than sit down and tell your friend you were worried that she was making a mistake but if she really loves him you'll support her 1000% not a hundred but a thousand percent!

Q: Ok I'm 19 and my boyfriend
Is 20.
We has been dating since we were I'm middle school.
We are in love.
We have not had sex and are both virgins.
I'm having trouble making him horney and making him hard
How could I make him hard and horney
And make him cum
Through text?
Without him watching porn.
Well it really depends. Do you know what kind of stuff your guy is into sexual wise? if so take it to your advantage. like if he is an ass man, send him a picture of you showing off your butt. that's just an example. Pictures are always fun to send but a simple sexual text message telling him how much you want him and such might even do

Q: Okay, my friend doesnt like me like i like her but she always doing things for me like she bought me a guitar, gave me some money, and stuff. and like to hangout with me, we use to sit together at lunch and stuff, but when i ask her out she told me she doesnt like me like that...why do she do the thing she does and give me false signals, why is she so caring, but doesnt want to give me a chance.
You ask why is she so caring but she doesn't give you a chance? and it makes me ask if you ever had a REAL friend before. Friends are like family members except you aren't related so they care and love you just the same. this of course being real friends. so maybe why she is so nice is because she does care but just not that way.

Q: We're both girls and we were best friends for about 10 years. Now that we're in college, everything has changed. She complained that I got everything too easily when I won my full academic scholarship, and she called me a selfish person for getting more (after I had explained to her about my money situation: older sister in college, having to pay for other things that didn't get covered by the scholarship, like summer classes, extra hours, books, etc). She said I didn't deserve these scholarships.

She never had anything positive to say to me anymore. When we would hang out, I always asked how she was doing and such; when she asked me, she seemed to not even care. She would stop texting me if I mentioned new friends from college (I live on campus while she lives at home) or my boyfriend at all. She would always get mad at me if I said I had to study in place of hanging out with her.

One last thing: we work together and she complains that I'm just too busy to take or switch shifts with anyone. I'm just a bad coworker to her it seems. I heard from her brother that I don't even deserve to have a job because I essentially don't have to pay for school.

It just hurts me so much. We used to be so close and now she is so negative towards me. I don't know what I did wrong. Please help me. Why is my supposed friend doing this to me? Thanks in advance!
it's pretty simple dear, you had it all handed to you on a silver platter and your friend is jealous and bitter because she doesn't. If you really are friends you will sit her down and talk to her about it. Say you don't mean to be flashy with your good fortune not seeing that she has to push and work so hard to even remotely get towards what you have. try to help her. switch a shift with her one day, make it so she has a day off. let her know you are there for her even though it doesn't excuse how she acts towards you, jealousy can make relationships...odd.

Q: Heres a poem that i wrote tips and advice feedback are all welcome.Do you know any good sites for this?

Two cold hands cover my eyes
I hide from the world
Pain overwhelms me
but at least I can feel
If it all ends soon
I think I'd be fine
You seemed to be deaf to my shreiks of agony
But you hear me now?
Mever so alone here
One more cut
deep and clean and I'm done.
No more cold
pain
shame
ugly
worry
agony
hiding
blood
yes with this one cut---
I end it all.
good but you just might want to spell check over your stuff and the way your phrase things was kind of odd. but it was good. =) you should join allpoetry.com it's a very great website to share your poetry and get to do contests and see other poets' works.

Q: I wash, condition and oil my hair. But everyday my hair is dry and my scalp is sore and has dandruff. I use tea tree oil, carrot oil, morrocan oil, I don't think I use to much, I don't know why my scalp is like this. I'm african american and I'm transitioning from relaxed to natural hair. My hair is currently in braids. Should I put oil in my hair everyday or something?

I don't wash and condition my hair everyday
have you tried olive oil instead? and they have moisturizers just for specific types of hair you should look into it. But if you are transitioning from relaxed to natural, it's going to be difficult because those chemicals last for months. which is why most people who want to do that transition cut their hair very short and let it regrow natural.

Q: hi i need help knowing how to make a fake penis to fingure myself. what will be the best . dont ask why. thanks for reading. i am a male. i am single !!
they have clone a penis kits on ebay. or you can buy them in adult stores

Q: hey jasmine
i'm 15 years old and I've been fingered by 2 guys
but strangely i somehow don't get any kind of pleasure in fingering
is there something wrong ?
like i mean i read on a lot of websites about the reason being the guy not handling the clitoris but even that didn't help
please help !
every person has different preferences in what they like especially sexually wise it could be because you don't get aroused by fingering or because the way they are doing it for you is not arousing.

Q: F/15
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 months now, I've noticed his ex-girlfriend is constantly texting him. He was in the shower when I had a urge to go through his phone, I looked through his inbox and they was loads of messages from her saying "I love you" "You piss me off so much" etc. I didn't get chance to read through his outbox because I heard him coming to the room. I know it's a bad thing to do, to go through his phone but I have some feeling he still has feelings for her :/ I've confronted him and asked him if he still does, but he says he doesn't and starts calling her names such as "tart" he also has texts from when they were together! Now why would you still keep your text messages? I'm so confused about it all...
sounds like not only does he still have feelings for her but it might even be possible he is still involved with her.

Q: I wanna have sex at my charter school, but its very strict. What shall I do? Cuz my mom doesnt allow me to have set at home...
even if your mom doesn't let you have sex at home, you SHOULDN'T be having sex in school. Your parents aren't paying taxes so you can whore yourself around in public places and people who usually have sex in places like school end up on the internet. Ever heard of exposing smuts, don't be surprised if you end up on there. If you are going to have sex, be smarter about it.

Q: I am indian i am 16 my cousin sister is 22 i want to fuck her or touchher body
and your question is...?

Q: My boyfriend's birthday is this Saturday (15th). I got him Lakers tickets but the game isn't until Feb. I want to give him something with it but something a little less expensive (not that i'm cheap but just cause I spent around $200 for the tix). Guys, what would you want from your girlfriend? or Girls, what would you give your boyfriend with the tickets? Thanks!
the tickets are good enough especially if he is a lakers fan just get him something small like a cute tshirt or something but fold it in a gift bag filled with tissue and inside put a card (a happy birthday card) with the tickets inside sealed.

Q: I'm about to do something terrible. There's this guy who has been texting me lately. I don't know what he does or how he does it,actually.Since he manages to really turn me on. I know this is wrong,but I just cannot help it. This is the reason of my question. Please,don't pre-judge me. I just need to be advised. Thanks!
well you should know the answer... it's really obvious if you love your boyfriend and don't want to cheat, cut off contact with the other guy. But if you really want this other guy, break up with your boyfriend there is no reason he should have to be kept stringing along if he can find someone else who will want him and ONLY him.

Q: can a sperm break the virginity without the penic penetreting inside.
are you asking if sperm going into your vagina without a penis penetrating it is considered as "losing your virginity" technically no.

Q: How do I touch this one girls butt im 11 but her butt looks so good
that's actually a form of sexual harassment and you CAN get in trouble for that, and if you're lucky that's it because I personally as a girl have knocked guys out over touching my ass.

Q: i am 23 doing my studies and i new to gay life still i did not get any guys. i have many friends around me we so happy and enjoying but i willing to marry a guy on who ready to share and live together still death. i am happy about me and my family but i am searching a good looking guy(any country)to marry me
i am so positive about life and positive mind, active person and lovable person too.i am looking same age 21 to 24, can i get any guys who is willing to marry and have long friendship, if any guys willing please mail me "dassan9@gmail.com.
maybe you can oin an online dating site or something, because this is an advice site not a dating site. but good luck.

Q: i'm 9 and i will like to have sex with a nice and cute girl
erm, you should sit down with your parents and ask them to set you up with a counselor instead.

Q: I need help deciding if I should move in with my dad. It hurt me physically and mentally here at my moms. But if I do move in with my dad it may hurt me too. Im really confused and I want to figure out before I go back too school Monday. Please help.
Well i would need more information like why you want to leave your mom's and what has you anxious over staying with your dad's but if you really feel neither one of these are an option, maybe try a different family member like an aunt, uncle, grandparent, and etc.

Q: Hi,what can i do to reach orgam during sex? i have only experienced when am in fear. My boyfriend apoloyised to me because he had realise l had not calm but for me i saw it normal since i have never experienced it.

Thanks.
Well it really depends on the person there are people who overly sensitive in the vaginal area and can orgasm way easier than others and than there are women who find it close to impossible to orgasm, but a good way to see what makes you to that point is masturbation and trying different sexual positions with your partner.

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Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?

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