Hey everyone, I have been giving advice on this site since I was 16 and have always been honest with the askee. I just feel that there is no point in lying as I would hate to be lied too and thats why I always tell it like it is. I also feel that when people lie - it causes more hurt than good. Anyone after honest advice - feel free to send me a question!!
Also if you EVER need additional advice just send me an email and I will get back to you :)
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ok, so i was invited to this party, and it is a b-day party for a fairly good friend of mine, and we are suppose to dress up. Its like a hollywood themed party. So i have this really cute dress, but it cuts low on my chest, and shows about all of my dress.. and i have mild acne on my back chest, neck and face. My face im not worried about, but seeing the acne on myself makes me really embarrised, and i want to go to the party, but im not sure how with the acne.. And dont say that people wont notice, because i have some good guy friends that tell me that they think that acne on girls make them less attractive.. Oh yea, there are going to be guys at the party.. So does anybody have any ideas of what i should do?? Any good cover ideas? And we will be dancing too, so i dont want to wear a jacket... (link)
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Trust me I know how you feel but dont worry most people have acne on their backs. I would recomend a shrug or one of those half length cardigan things as they define your figure and cover your back whilst making you look glamouros all at the same time and the good thing is that you wont be too hot because you can get them with sort sleeves. oh and btw theyre not that expensive.
Hope I helped and I hope you enjoy this party and I also hope you can find a shrug that goes with your dress.
good luck.
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okay so i like this guy(lets call him hayden)and hes like exxtremmly hot..and hes in 7th grade and im in 8th(i dont care about that..bc hes really hot) and him and his hot friend, baylor knowww i like them but ITS PRETTY OVIOUS they dont like me back. i mean i dont know this for a fact,but like theres nooo way i can stop liking hayden. im like reallllly upsessed and stuff. how do i stop SOUNDING upsessed with him?
and like i talk to baylor but idk how to like continue our conversations. like it goes like this:
me-hey
him-hey
whats up?
me-nothing..bored
you?
him-nothing.. chillin
me-thats cool
(awkward silence)(he probably exited the IM box
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UGHH how do i sound really interesting and not like stupid and idk. UGHHH blahh.. help mee
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well you could instead of ending it at thats cool ask him wot hes doing at the weekend and try talking about things hes interested in like his fave bands and soccer or football team etc. The only way you can try to stop sounding obsessed is if you try to not talk about him all the time like if you think your gonna try and talk about something else.
this is the only advice i can think to give you.
hope i helped.
good luk
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To start off, I'm a guy in college. I have easily had 15 crushes in my life (one one true relationship) and I can usually talk to the girl even though I'm really shy. But this girl in one of my classes has the most beautiful smile and I am extremely attracted to her. Like more than any other crush I've ever had. She is always looking over in my direction, and at first I didn't think it was at me, but today we made pretty brief eye contact. So I think she may be looking at me. But I am just so amazed by her or something that everytime after class, I get cold feet and can't get up the nerve to talk to her. I have even seen her coming down the hall twice, and I freak out so much I can't look her in the eye and smile. I know I'll regret it forever if I dont talk to her, so is there anyway for me to get up the confidence to just go talk to her? I dont really have the opportunity to leave a note so that way is out of the question. Sorry its soo long but I need help, this is killing me that I can't do this. Thanks (link)
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The best opporunity is to make like you dont understand the homework not to the extent where you seem like a complete idiot but to the extent where a question has you "stump'd" This should get her to talk to youand should help you along a little either this or you are gonna hav to keep on admiring from afar.
good luk and Ia hope I helped even and that I wasn't too blunt
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I want to make a website on blogger.com but I can't find anything saying if it's free or not. My question is, is blogger.com free? Thanks so much in advance =). (link)
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yes I myself have a site and I am positive that its free so get blogging and share your thoughts with the world.
Happy blogging
oh and send me your page adress and ahll lookyou up when you do if you want.
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My boyfriend is having guy talks with someone.. about our relationship. It's nothing bad.. just kissing and telling, you know? Like how i reacted to a french kiss or whatever.
But he's talking to my ex. [we went out for over a year] so it's really .. awkward? I honestly, don't want my ex to know what's going on with me..
my ex told me that he couldn't tell.. what their guy talks were about so he wasn't supposed to mention any of it in the first time.
I really want my boyfriend to stop having those talks with him. Is there anything I can do? I don't care who else he talks to.. just not my ex. :/
I really don't think it's any of his business. I don't want to be rude and tell my boyfriend to stop talking to him though. That would make me look like a bad girlfriend.. (link)
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ok telling him that you dont want him to discuss your relationship with your ex doesnt make you a bad girlfriend it just makes you human. Sit him down and explain to him that you are a tad uncomfortable with it and you dont mind him talking to him as long as its not about you. Also explain that you dont mind him having guy talks with his other friends about you it just feels a little awkward talking to your ex.
A little repetitive for an answer I no but i hope that I helped anyway and that it all works out.
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HELP
tomorrow
i have a date type thing with my friends
and like yeahh
i have black slacks [pants]
and black flats [shoes]
WHAT COLOR SHIRT DO I WEAR
without looking weird
like gothish
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You could try a red stripey one or green or blue stripes if you have any of the above sorry Im not much help but this is the best I can come up with and this is what my friends usually wear when we go out and they wanna dress up.
Hope you enjoy your night .
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hi i really wana become a male model but my feet are ugly lol but im just wondering do you have to have good looking feet to become a male model.
[[is it hard to become a male model if any one knows]] (link)
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The modeling business is hard to get into male or female but usually they are looking at your waist size and face other than your feet. You should look into getting an agent or better still get some photos taken and make up a port folio which you can then send copies of to agencies.
Good luck and I hope to one day see you on the front of GQ or on the catwalks for armani or the likes.
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Ok well this alittle long but I just want to write everything down so hopefully I would feel better. Ok so i'm a feshman now in highschool. When I meet my ex I was in the 6th grade. It was like love at first sight seriously. I couldn't stop thinking about him. We went out and I ended up braking up with him because my friend liked him also. So when I started 8th grade I spoke 2 him again and we ended up going out. He told me all these sweet things and I just love him so much.we lasted for 10 months and then he broke up with me for no reason. Then he wanted to try things again but I can't becuase I'm afraid of loving him more then I do. My friend goes to his school and she told me that he flirts a lot with girls and that I don't deserve him I deserve someone better.but I can't forget about him. Its like my heart is attached to him I feel so depressed its like I can't move on. he sends me text messages sometimes telling me that he loves me but I'm just afraid. What should I do?. Should I forget about him if so what are the best ways?. But I love him so much. I jsut don't see my life without him. Please help thanks! (link)
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honey I think that you should just move on you hav tried and failed and breaking up without reason is no way to break up with anyone. Break all ties with him completely because then although it will hurt like hell you can concentrate on getting over him and hopefully on to someone else. Rid yourself of all photos etc to do with him and try and throw yourself into a hobby or your school work.
It will hurt for a while but trust me honey it will be well worth it in the end.
good luk and I hope I hav helped either way.
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well im just wondering what would you say if you won an award, ANY award, what would you tell your fans on the stage who to thank what to say and all that lol just wondering you can name whatver award and tell everythig thanks i just wanna hear (link)
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lol good question here goes.
wow thank you for this I mean it was so unexpected I thought that any of the others would have won but not me uh ok I wanna thank my family without whom I would never have the courage to have gotten this far uh and my friends of course and everyone else that has supported me thankyou.
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Im a sophmore in highschool. There is this girl who I have known for ever and I've always thought of her kind of like a sister. But recently I have started to have deeper feelings for her and don't know what to do. I need to know if there are any signs I could look for to tell if she is interested in me as well, ways I could bring this up in conversation with her that wouldn't be akward, and physical things I could do that wouldn't be too agressive. Thanks. (link)
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Howdy
ok what I would do if i was in your situation is try and talk to her about who she likes and if she gives you a name then obv you no that its not you . Also you could try telling her about a girl you like (obv her)but use a different name and if she starts appearing jealous then thats a good start and you could keep this going for a while until you finally get the courage to tell her how you feel.
hugs as said in the other answer are always good but other than that I cant think of any un agressive things .
In the end the only way to let her no is and I no that this sounds daunting but is to tell her.
You could start with the whole weve been friends for a while speech and that way you can reassure her that you still want to be friends just in case it doesnt work out.
My advice is not very good I know but I have been in this situation myself and I didnt go for it which i now regret.
Good luk either way and i hope I have helped even if its only minimal.
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We have a couple. The man crosses the river to work. When he is supposed to come back home, he doesn t show up. The woman worries and tries to cross the river to find her husband. A cannibal offers to get her across the river ONLY if she has sex with him.
Who has the biggest share of fault in this story?
Go downwards for instance
1)Cannibal (Biggest Fault)
2)Man (Medium Fault)
3)Woman (Less fault).
There are no other variables. You dont know how long was the husband was late, or if he could communicate and didn t etc.
I will tell you what it means on my feedback. You ll learn interesting stuff about yourself just by answering this question.
This is not like the usual dumb quizzes you find on the internet. (link)
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dont really understand it but hey ahll give it a go.
1)man
2)cannibal
3)woman
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Alright I know we all hate these questions but im finally in a position to ask for help.....
Here it goes...
I have a boyfriend of 4 months...But basically 6 months from the time we really started talking.
Then i have a boy that i was on and off with for 2 years. We never "went out" but we hooked up and EVRYTIME we see eachother we always get these feelings back!!!
Well this other guy called every 2 weeks asking if i am still together with my BF and i say yes and hes like okay il ttyl. So finally he called 3 days ago and he wanted to hangout so i was like YEAH!!! so I hungout 2 days NON stop. And I got these feelings back.
I missed him SOOO much.
And ive thought about him while being together with my BF.
BUT my boyfriend knows about the relationship we had or 2 years and that we were on and off and that we like loved eachother.
What do i do?
Do i leave my Bf who I love?
For someone Ive loved 2 years?
I keep thinking i should do I can just HAVE FUN for a while! But Im scared of doing that and Missing my BF terribly.
This is killing me and i havent said much to my bf I kinda avoid calls cause I wanna decide before I talk to him so I have something to say.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!! (link)
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ok heres the thing to me it sounds like you have already made up your mind and all you need is for someone to tell you that its meant to be. I would talk to your ex and make sure that he is on the same page as you first of all. then if he is and your sure that this time around you are meant to be then sit down with your bf and explain what he probably suspects if you have been tryin to avoid his calls. It wont be easy as im sure you already know but I hope that it works out and that you find what your looking for in the end wether it be one of the above or someone completely different.
Sucky advice today I know but its the best i can do good luk and i hope ive helped.
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i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.
i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.
i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/
15/f
how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend? (link)
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ok heres the thing I understand that you are worried about breaking up with him but in reference to your title "stuck in a relationship " is exactly what you are and you have to "unstick" youself so to speak. What you need to do is sit him down and explain your true feelings otherwise you will end up regreting it because the guilt you feel now is nothing compared to the guilt you will feel a few weeks or even months down the line when he starts to notice that you are acting a little wierd when he touches you etc. Dont think of how your friends gonna react just concentrate on your boyfriend for now and you can worry about your friend later otherwise you will just keep putting it off.
Hope I helped good luck either way.
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(Sorry if this is too long, but I'm just a 17-year-old girl who has no idea what she's doing in this area of her life :3 Never had a boyfriend [or girlfriend for that matter] before, mainly because... I just didn't want one enough to go out and seek one.)
So I've been best friends with this guy for at least five years. However, ever since we've met, he's had a huge crush on me--I'm not sure if it's been on/off or continuous, though he has had a couple of short-term relationships while I've known him. I kind of had a crush on him once or twice, but I never asked him out because, at the time I did like him, I was unsure of whether he liked me or not.
Anyway, now we're both 17, and he likes me, though I've kind of grown asexual and I don't particularly care for anyone in that sort of way. So today, he asks me if I want to go see a play at his church; I don't go to that church (I'm not even his same religion), but I'm good friends with some of the other people in his youth group so I said sure. The night passes on, and as he's driving me home, he asks me to be his girlfriend. I kind of sputter for a second, but finally I just say sure.
Now I don't know what to do. I love him as a friend, and a part of me says that I might as well go out with him--that I even owe it to him (we have a kind of "he buys me food every once in a while and I don't release my undead feline minions upon him" relationship). However, I really don't want to hurt him by just breaking up with him in the end. I'm a senior in a public high school and (hopefully) I'll be going to an art college after I graduate (if not out-of-state, definitely out-of-town). He's homeschooled and doesn't have much of a desire to go to any college, so I'll be leaving this town in a few months anyway, but...
The truth is, I have no idea if I like him or not. It's not a definite "yes or no" question--on the one hand, he's the first guy in my life who's ever asked me out without being a complete sleezeball; but on the other, I don't know if I like him for anything more than a friend.
So what I'm trying to ask is this: is there anyway I can find out if I really like him or not, preferably before I hurt him? And if I don't like him, how can I tell him without using the whole "I like you as a friend, but not as a boyfriend" routine? (Most guys I know absolutely hate that, and I can understand why.) Help, please?
(Once again, sorry for the "tl;dr"-ness of this question. Kind of utterly baffled here.) (link)
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If your not comfortable with the whole kiss him and find out situation which I btw totally agree with I would say that you should try and go on at least a few dates and if it feels couply and not the same as usual then let it run its course but remember just because youre going out doesnt mean youre whole relationship has to dramatically change.
Good luk either way and I hope you find what youre looking for in both love and life.
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I have been getting really bad anxiety lately, and its been keeping me from going to school. When I do go to school its like I'm just trying to get through it and get home...Its really bad, it makes it hard to do my work. I'm failing all my classes...I've never failed anything before. I'm a a-b student. But by the looks of it, I'm going to end up failing almost, if not all my classes. If I'm not there, I cant learn the stuff to do the papers and if I can't go...well then I'm screwed. I'm trying all I can to just squeek by but I don't see that happening with the percentages I have now.
My question is, if I fail my freshman year, will colleges not take me? I intend on doing online schooling next year and doing everything I can to catch up but...I'm really scared. I've always wanted to go to college and now its like...I'm ruining my life and its all going down the drain. So, will colleges not take me because of this? (link)
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What may happen is that they will give you a conditional offer and say that if you pass your exams or tests after this then you will b accepted however You could maybe try and talk to your teachers and explain about the anxiety which may lead to an understanding and possibly a lot more work for you but they may be able to help you catch up if you can put the extra work in. Also knowing that your grades are good in general they will hopefully understand.
I hope that you get into college and become what you want to be sorry if my advice doesnt make sence (cant spell btw lol)or if its unhelpful but either way I hope you find the right path.
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last year i used to be really good friends with this guy. i bought him a really expensive gift, and he promised he'd get me something in return for the same exact amount of money for my birthday. my birthday passed, he didn't have the gift. he said i should wait till his birthday when he'll have more money to buy my gift. his birthday was 2 weeks ago and he hasn't gotten the gift i asked him to get me. i IMed him on AIM and asked him if he needed me to print out another picture of the gift i wanted so he'll know what to get me, and i'm pretty sure he blocked me. my parents are very upset with me, because they're not too happy i spent so much money on him expecting he'd do the same back but he hasn't. if i convince my mom she'll call his house and talk to his parents about this. is this the right thing? please help, i need more advice. i'm too nervous to ask him in person in school because i know i'll mess up talking and he'll snap at me. should i tell him my mom is ready to call his house and talk to his parents about this because she's very pissed? i need a lot of helppp, as much as possible. thanks guys (link)
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Basically the guys a Numpty or an idiot if you prefer. Getting your mom to go to his parents will only succeed in his parents saying that it was your choice to buy the gift and that therefor he has no obligation to do the same.
It is shitty I know but I think that you should let both him and the gift you want go.
I know that its not what you wanna hear but Its the only advice I can give.
Good Luck either way I hope I helped.
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hey guys...13/f
Ive heared about this syndrome or something like that where the symtoms are like people who get mad over little things, who cry easily over small things and has BIG mood swings. I have all those symptoms and i was just wondering if anyone knows if that is indeed a sydrome and what is it called?
Thanks (link)
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I would say that you were depressed and if you are then I hope that you feel better soon
hope I helped.
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p.s Good Luck
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okay whenever i takl to this one kid i always think about doing stuff with him. like having sex any everything. what does that mean (link)
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This to my knowledge means that you are lusting after him.
Hope this answers your question
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16/f
as much as i'd rather not go, i'd like to set up an appointment with a gynecologist. i'm wicked paranoid and i wanna go to make sure everything's working right down there. lol. plus, i want to get tested for any STDs just to be extremely sure i don't have anything.
is there a place i could go to that's anonymous? it'd be awkward asking my mom to take me. (link)
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The free clinics are great for that they ask for a name but you can give a fake one which would make it a whole lot easier, You will be treated like an adult so you dont have to worry about being treated like a child and they will make you feel comfortable I dont know of any from the states but you can look up free clinics on the internet and Im sure youll find some in youre area
Good luk I hope I helped
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so i'm going to a rave in a few weeks. how the hell do you dance at a rave? im clueless? (link)
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Firstly you wont get no lectures from me!
You dance like there is no tommorow, like the fist time you go to a festival just jumping around being crazy with not a care in the world lol.
I know this is kinda sucky advice but either way I hope you enjoy yourself
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