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i like this guy name Robert and he likes me. But the problem is that he also likes my best friend named Michelle! Michelle and Robert were at my house yesterday along with some of my other friends and we were playing Truth or Dare. well one of the questions that Robert was asked was who he wanted to go to graduation with next year and he said michelle. Then he sais that im to tall but im still ok but he picked michelle over me. And i just introduced them like 2 months ago and me and Robert have been friends for like 2 years now. Michelle doesnt like him and she said even if she did she would NOT go out with him because she knows how much i like him, she is a good friend. But the problem is still that Robert likes her and me. Only if i wernt so tall we would be like the hottest couple in school. i am 13 years old and almost at the end of grade 7 with 8 days of school left. i need help and one thing that i dont want to do is ask him out because i know he has a bigger crush on michelle then he does me. So if he were to say yes to going out with me if would meen like nothing because i know he still would like michelle. He is really sweet and cares about me but what should i do!!! i want him to ask me out so bad but without likeing other people at the same time. Please help me :'( (link)
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If Robert is that shallow, you shouldn't be wasting your time on him.
He could be trying to blow you off nicely since he likes Michelle. You can't change your height so he figures he is in the clear.
If you still like him, I'm sure he'll grow (emotionally and taller) in the next couple years.
I'm sorry to say it, but there really isn't anything you can do.
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I've always used a note to break up with someone because I'm shy and when I break up with my boyfriends, I wouldn't be able to look them in their face or be able to talk because I'd be so nervous. So my question is: What's the best way to break up with a guy? You know, like note, phone, in person, online? (link)
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In person is always the best way.
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i have no idea what im going to do with her. do you have any ideas what we could do? also how am i supposed to get her in bed? i have only babysat once..and that was with my sister. im going to babysit from 7 to 11. what time do you think she should go to bed? i just really need some ideas on what we could do. and do you have any tips? also...how much do you think ill get payed for 4 hours? (link)
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Ask the parents what they want you to do and spend the rest of the time playing games with her.
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Ok i like this guy named Robert and he likes me 2. but he also likes my best friend named Michelle.Me and some of my friends went to my house yesterday and we were playing Truth or Dare and one of the questions that my friend asked him was who would you take to graduation and who would you want to go out with. and he said michelle! Then after that he said that im to tall for him thats why he wont ask me out or go to the prome with me cuz it will look wierd with us slow dancing. i am 13,female and at the end of grade 7 with 8 days of school left. what should i do he still likes me alot and i still like him but he wont ask me out because of that im tall. my friend doesnt like him and she sais that she would never do that to me she is a good friend. But Robert is so sweet and he cares alot bout me how do i get him not to worry bout my hight and how do i get him to ask me out? and i dont want to ask him out cuz i know he still likes michelle better then he does me right now. what should i do i need help!!!!:'( (link)
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If Robert is that shallow, you shouldn't be wasting your time on him.
He could be trying to blow you off nicely since he likes Michelle. You can't change your height so he figures he is in the clear.
If you still like him, I'm sure he'll grow (emotionally and taller) in the next couple years.
I'm sorry to say it, but there really isn't anything you can do.
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I really like this guy but i dont know how to tell him that i like him. He kinda likes me too.. but i dont know how to tell him...I rate high!!!
love,
how to deal (link)
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"I think you're groovy"
"I like totally want you"
"I like you"
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can u really get breast cancer if u sleep with a bra on? please answer quick. (link)
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No.
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okay, well me and this guy are planning to hang out. my friends tell me i should just go to his house and hang out because we might end up making out. dont get me wrong, i feel fine around him but i havent seen him in a long time. I still want to go to his house.. but either that or the mall because at the mall we can hold hands but idunno. What should I do? and if you say go to his house, can you tell me how to ask him to go to his house? (link)
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Go to his house since that is what you want to do. Tell him that you want to meet him at his house and you guys can figure out what you are going to do from there. It gives you an easy out if you want to change your mind since you can still go to the mall.
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Ok I can't decide if I should go to the movies with strangers tonight. My friend knows this girl from another school and they are going to the movies, and their supposedly bringing a bunch of hot guys. My friend wants me to come, but I don't know if I should. I'm just shy. These people are all the same age as me. I don't have a boyfriend, and I do kind of want to meet guys, but I'm nervous. I don't know, should I just go out with my normal group of friends tonight? (link)
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I would say go. It will be a good chance to meet new people. It isn't like it is a big dinner party where you may have to hunt for conversational topics, it is the movies. You have a subject right in front of you. So please go.
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my boyfriend is the type of guy to cheat on his girlfriend. so me and him both have myspace accounts.. we both know the passwords to eachothers and everything. today, i was curious to see who he's been talking to because i don't really trust him. i saw him saying stuff to a couple girls and i'm really pissed. i don't know what to say to him, because i know if he found out i went on his account, he'll be mad at me. so what do i do? i can't just keep this in, and i know that i shouldn't of went on his name but i want to know if he's doing stuff behind my back.. help! (link)
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It is not "going behind his back" if he knows you know his password. You should talk to him about it.
The real issue is why you are with someone who you do not trust.
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I was lighting a candle when I misjudged the distance from my arm to the candle. Hot wax spilled all over my pants. Does wax come out of pants? I love these pants, I hate the big wax blob on them. help me out? if you can? (link)
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Step one: Scratch off whatever wax you can.
Step two: Put a brown paper bag over the wax blob and iron it.
Step three: Repeat these steps until it is gone.
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umm I’m turning 16 in a couple of months and I haven’t really had a real boyfriend. I mean I did when I was in 6th grade and only for a week and we did nothing it was a waste. I have never had my real kiss but all my friends have and they think I have too even my best friend thinks so. Also all the guys I talk to think I have to because I’m very flirty. I never really set my friends right about all this because I was scared to tell them. But I’m going into freshman year and I haven’t had a boyfriend, my real kiss or anything and I’m really sad about that im also scared to kiss someone now because i could be bad at it and that scares me a little. I don’t know what to do. Guys have asked me out and guys have hit on me but I just never liked those guys that have. My question is: what is my problem is there anything wrong with me?? and I’m VERY picky about guys if that helps u answer my question. thanks for the help.
P.S Sorry that it is so long I'll rate high thanks!!
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First: NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU! You have standards, something most people lack.
Now for the advice: Don't be scared. People with tons of kissing experience can still be wretched. Experience is not what makes you a good or bad kisser. What is important is that you pay attention to your partner and more or less copy what they are doing. If it is bad it is most likely because they have no idea what they are doing either. As you kiss more and more people you will develop your own technique.
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how can a girl not get pregant when having sex? (link)
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Taken from http://www.4woman.gov/faq/birthcont.htm
Here is a list of birth control methods with estimates of effectiveness, or how well they work in preventing pregnancy when used correctly, for each method:
Continuous Abstinence -This means not having sexual intercourse at any time. It is the only sure way to prevent pregnancy. This method is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy.
Periodic Abstinence or Fertility Awareness Methods - A woman who has a regular menstrual cycle has about nine or more fertile days, or days when she is able to get pregnant, each month. Periodic abstinence means you do not have sex on the days that you may be fertile. Fertility awareness means that you can be abstinent or have sex but you use a "barrier" method of birth control to keep sperm from getting to the egg. Barrier methods include condoms, diaphragms, or cervical caps, used together with spermicides, which kill sperm. These methods are 75 to 99% effective at preventing pregnancy.
Keep in mind that to practice these methods, you need to learn about your menstrual cycle (or how often you get your period). You keep a written record of when you get your period, what it is like (heavy or light blood flow), and how you feel (sore breasts, cramps). You also check your cervical mucus and take your basal body temperature daily, and record these in a chart. This is how you learn to predict, or tell, which days you are fertile or "unsafe." You can ask your health care provider for more information on how to record and understand this information.
The Male Condom - Condoms are called barrier methods of birth control because they put up a block, or barrier, which keeps the sperm from reaching the egg. Only latex or polyurethane (because some people are allergic to latex) condoms are proven to help protect against STDs, including HIV. "Natural" or "lambskin" condoms made from animal products also are available. But lambskin condoms are not recommended for STD prevention because they have tiny pores that may allow for the passage of viruses like HIV, hepatitis B and herpes. Male condoms are 86 to 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. Condoms can only be used once. You can buy them at a drug store. Condoms come lubricated (which can make sexual intercourse more comfortable and pleasurable) and non-lubricated (which can also be used for oral sex). It is best to use lubrication with non-lubricated condoms if you use them for vaginal or anal sex. You can use KY jelly or water-based lubricants, which you can buy at a drug store. Oil-based lubricants like massage oils, baby oil, lotions, or petroleum jelly will weaken the condom, causing it to tear or break. Always keep condoms in a cool, dry place. If you keep them in a hot place (like a billfold, wallet, or glove compartment), the latex breaks down, causing the condom to tear or break.
Oral Contraceptives - Also called "the pill," it contains the hormones estrogen and progestin. A pill is taken daily to block the release of eggs from the ovaries. It also lightens the flow of your period and protects against pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), ovarian cancer, and endometrial cancer. It does not protect against STDs or HIV. The pill may add to your risk of heart disease, including high blood pressure, blood clots, and blockage of the arteries. If you are over age 35 and smoke, or have a history of blood clots or breast or endometrial cancer, your health care provider may advise you not to take the pill. The pill is 95 to 99.9% effective at preventing pregnancy if used correctly. You will need a prescription and visits with your health care provider to make sure you are not having problems.
The Mini-Pill - Unlike the pill, the mini-pill only has one hormone, progestin, instead of both estrogen and progestin. Taken daily, the mini-pill reduces and thickens cervical mucus to prevent sperm from reaching the egg. It also prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus (womb). The mini-pill also can decrease the flow of your period and protect against PID and ovarian and endometrial cancer. Mothers who breastfeed can use it because it will not affect their milk supply. The mini-pill is a good option for women who can't take estrogen or for women who have a risk of blood clots. The mini-pill does not protect against STDs or HIV. Mini-pills are 95 to 99.9% effective at preventing pregnancy if used correctly. You will need a prescription and visits with your health care provider to make sure you are not having problems.
Copper T IUD (Intrauterine Device) - An IUD is a small device that is shaped in the form of a "T." Your health care provider places it inside the uterus. The arms of the Copper T IUD contain some copper, which stops fertilization by preventing sperm from making their way up through the uterus into the fallopian tubes. If fertilization does occur, the IUD would prevent the fertilized egg from implanting in the lining of the uterus. The Copper T IUD can stay in your uterus for up to 10 years. It does not protect against STDs or HIV. This IUD is 99% effective at preventing pregnancy. Requires visits with your health care provider to have it inserted and to make sure you are not having any problems. Not all health care providers insert IUDs.
Progestasert IUD (Intrauterine Device) -This IUD is a small plastic T- shaped device that is placed inside the uterus by a health care provider. It contains the hormone progesterone, the same hormone produced by a woman's ovaries during the monthly menstrual cycle. The progesterone causes the cervical mucus to thicken so sperm cannot reach the egg, and so that a fertilized egg cannot successfully implant into the lining of the uterus. The Progestasert IUD can stay in your uterus for one year. This IUD is 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. Requires visits with your health care provider to have it inserted and to make sure you are not having any problems. Not all health care providers insert IUDs.
Intrauterine System or IUS (Mirena) - The IUS is a small T-shaped device like the IUD and is placed inside the uterus by a health care provider. It releases a small amount of a hormone each day to keep you from getting pregnant. The IUS stays in your uterus for up to five years. It does not protect against STDs or HIV. The IUS is 99% effective. The Food and Drug Administration approved this method in December 2000. Requires visits with your health care provider to make sure you are not having any problems. Not all health care providers insert the IUS.
The Female Condom - Worn by the woman, this barrier method keeps sperm from getting into her body. It is made of polyurethane, is packaged with a lubricant, and may protect against STDs, including HIV. It can be inserted up to 8 hours prior to sexual intercourse. Female condoms are 79 to 95% effective at preventing pregnancy. There is only one kind of female condom and its brand name is Reality. Purchase at a drug store.
Implant (Norplant and Norplant 2) - This product was taken off the market in July 2002. If you are using the Norplant system, you should contact your health care provider about what your contraceptive options will be after the five year expiration date of your Norplant system. Norplant consists of small stick-like devices, or "rods," that are placed under the skin. The rods release a very low, steady level of a steroid that prevents pregnancy for up to five years. However, the rods can be taken out at any time and you then can become pregnant. This method is 99.9% effective at preventing pregnancy. It does not protect against STDs or HIV. Requires visits with your health care provider to make sure you are not having any problems.
Depo-Provera - With this method women get injections, or shots, of the hormone progestin in the buttocks or arm every three months. It does not protect against STDs or HIV. It is 99.7% effective at preventing pregnancy. Requires visits with your health care provider to make sure you are not having any problems. Prolonged use of the drug may result in significant loss of bone density. This bone loss is greater the longer the drug is used. Women should only use Depo-Provera Contraceptive Injection as a long-term birth control method (longer than two years) if other birth control methods are inadequate.
Diaphragm or Cervical Cap - These are barrier methods of birth control, where the sperm are blocked from reaching the egg. The diaphragm is shaped like a shallow latex cup. The cervical cap is a thimble-shaped latex cup. Both come in different sizes and you need a health care provider to "fit" you for one. Before sexual intercourse, you use them with spermicide (to block or kill sperm) and place them up inside your vagina to cover your cervix (the opening to your womb). You can buy spermicide gel or foam at a drug store. Spermicide will also help protect you from the STDs gonorrhea and chlamydia if they have nonoxynol-9 in them. Some women can be sensitive to nonoxynol-9 and need to use spermicides that do not contain it. The diaphragm is 80 to 94% effective at preventing pregnancy. The cervical cap is 80 to 90% effective at preventing pregnancy for women who have not had a child, and 60 to 80% for women who have had a child. Requires a visit with your health care provider for proper fitting.
The Patch (Ortho Evra) -This is a skin patch worn on the lower abdomen, buttocks, or upper body. It releases the hormones progestin and estrogen into the bloodstream. You put on a new patch once a week for three weeks, then do not wear a patch during the fourth week in order to have a menstrual period. The patch is 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, but appears to be less effective in women who weigh more than 198 pounds. It does not protect against STDs or HIV. The Food and Drug Administration approved this method in 2001. You will need to visit your health care provider for a prescription and to make sure you are not having problems.
The Hormonal Vaginal Contraceptive Ring (NuvaRing) - The NuvaRing is a ring that releases the hormones progestin and estrogen. You squeeze the ring between your thumb and index finger and insert it into your vagina. You wear the ring for three weeks, take it out for the week that you have your period, and then put in a new ring. The ring is 98 to 99% effective at preventing pregnancy. The Food and Drug Administration approved this method in 2001. You will need to visit your health care provider for a prescription and to make sure you are not having problems.
Surgical Sterilization (Tubal Ligation or Vasectomy) - These surgical methods are meant for people who want a permanent method of birth control. In other words, they never want to have a child or they do not want more children. Tubal ligation or "tying tubes" is done on the woman to stop eggs from going down to her uterus where they can be fertilized. The man has a vasectomy to keep sperm from going to his penis, so his ejaculate never has any sperm in it. They are 99 to 99.5% effective at preventing pregnancy.
Nonsurgical Sterilization (Essure Permanent Birth Control System) - This is the first non-surgical method of sterilizing women and was approved by the Food and Drug Administration in November 2002. A thin tube is used to thread a tiny spring-like device through the vagina and uterus into each fallopian tube. Flexible coils temporarily anchor it inside the fallopian tube. A Dacron-like mesh material embedded in the coils irritates the fallopian tubes' lining to cause scar tissue to grow and eventually permanently plug the tubes. It can take about three months for the scar tissue to grow, so it is important to use another form of birth control during this time. Then you will have to return to your health care provider for a test to see if scar tissue has fully blocked your tubes. In studies of more than 600 women, followed for a year, there so far have been no pregnancies in those whose Essure devices were implanted successfully.
Emergency Contraception - This is NOT a regular method of birth control and should never be used as one. Emergency contraception, or emergency birth control, is used to keep a woman from getting pregnant when she has had unprotected vaginal intercourse. "Unprotected" can mean that no method of birth control was used. It can also mean that a birth control method was used but did not work - like a condom breaking. Or, a woman may have forgotten to take her birth control pills, or may have been abused or forced to have sex when she did not want to. Emergency contraception consists of taking two doses of hormonal pills taken 12 hours apart and started within three days after having unprotected sex. These are sometimes wrongly called the "morning after pill." The pills are 75 to 89% effective at preventing pregnancy. Another type of emergency contraception is having the Copper T IUD put into your uterus within seven days of unprotected sex. This method is 99.9% effective at preventing pregnancy. Neither method of emergency contraception protects against STDs or HIV. You will need to visit your health care provider for either a prescription for the pills or for the insertion of the IUD, and to make sure you are not having problems.
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How do you plan out a kick ass party? What sort of invitations should you give out without looking too kiddy-ish? (link)
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It really depends on what type of kick-ass party you wish to throw.
If it is a formal party, get invitations that are elegant and mail them out. Not all party invitations are for children.
If it is an informal get-as-many-people-as-possible party giving out flyers or even emailing invitations is appropriate. Tell everyone you know and make them tell everyone that they know.
If it is somewhere in between, get invitations that reflect that. You can always make your own, and those make it easier to reflect the mood you are trying to create.
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((( PLEASE ANSWER THIS QUESTION--- ANYONE WHO ANSWERS DECENTLY RATES A 5 )))13/f Ok so heres the deal----i got out of school on wednesday (it's Friday)and i'm already bored. My dad gave my PS2 away to my stepbrother (not fair), I only have one DVD to watch and I've already watched it about a million times (Save The Last Dance), my bike is at my dads house (i live at my strict mother's house), and i'm not allowed to use the computer because my mom thinks i download too much. I'm also not allowed to go to my friends house on weekdays (its summer anyway---but she wants me to go on weekends only)and most of all, I'm not even allowed to leave the house to play with my friends in the neighborhood. (if i wanted to go outside, my mom would know, because she calls me every hour to make sure i'm home and make sure i'm ok. she works every day from 9:00 to 5:45. Is there anything i can do????? There are so many rules living with my mom, but my dad is going on 5 buisiness trips this summer, so he dosn't have time for a teenager (i only see him on weekends.) (link)
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Try talking to your mom and ask her what you can do during the day. She may have an answer or she may realize that you have nothing to do.
Invite your friends over. You can still answer the phone when she calls and you would be able to see them.
Go to the book store and stock up. Your mom would probably be more than willing to take you since you have nothing else to do. When you finish those books, trade amongst your friends.
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