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A friend of mine came to me for help.. and I honestly don't know how to respond.. so maybe someone on her can help?

Well Marc, my friend, is going out with this girl Elena.. they're relationship is great and everything, but he is still obsessesed with his x-girlfriend, Joee..well he's trying to break up with Elena, but she's suicidal and all..so the first time he mentioned it being just friends to her, she overreacted and threatened to kill herself..Marc NEEDS to break up with her, but doesn't want her to kill or hurt herself...
(Elena has attempted suicide once before, so she's not afraid to)

ANY help at all would be awesome.. thanksss.

this is definately a tricky situation... i would take this to elenas parents and explain the situation to them so they can intervene and get her help because thats what she needs..

nobody wants to see her get hurt but also nobody wants marc to be forced to stay with her..

so talk to her parents and maybe they can take her to a rehab place or go for conseling..then marc can get away from her..

thats what i would do in a situation like that because i wouldnt want marc to break up with her then have her kill herself : /

good luckk!

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Me and my guy are trying to "dirty up" our relationship. Any advice?

FYI: we aren't having sex yet so nothing liek new positions or anything. Also, he really loves my ass and we've already explored his face sitting fetish.

16/f here, he's 19/m

have him toss your salad..dont know what that is? inbox me

do 69
touching everywhere if you na mean
oral
get toys like vibrators if your into this kinky stuff and have him pleasure you with that or have him watch you pleasure yourself

play dress up..like dress as a dirty nurse lol

hope that helped? have fun :)
-melissa-

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I'm thinking about making a cd with all the songs that make me think of the guy I like (much too weak a word, believe me) and then giving it too him, but I'm not sure what message that would send. We've been best friends for about five years, and while i'm willing to risk a great friendship for what i feel would be a better relationship, I don't want him to think i have a secret shrine to him in my closet (i don't, btw). any advice on how this might make him feel or the possible consequences to my following up on it?

15/f

honestly i think it would scare him, freak him out, etc. i think its romantic and if you have a relationship with him eventually give it to him ..but not right now
there are more effective ways to get across that you like him...giving him this present is too much i think..just my opinion
hope i helped?

-melissa-

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I think I like my guy best friend. We used to have a relationship, but we broke it off (this was 2 years ago)... I know for a fact he doesn't like me (I asked who he liked, and he told me he liked my one friend who doesn't like him)... my friends think he likes me, and it does seem like it.. but I guess not.

One thing I'm thinking about is moving on, but I don't particularly want to do that. Any other ideas?

these situations are sucky...but you cant make someone like you.they haVe to like you on their own.
think of a guy who really liked you but you didnt like at all..there has to be one right? well just like you would never like that guy and all you would be is friends..it seems this is the way its going to be with your guy friend.

soo...keep being his best friend, enjoy just hanging out with him..and try to respect the fact that he doesnt have those feelings for you : /
i've been there before and its not fun..but just think..at least the person you like is your best friend.! it has its good ssides..at least he knows you exist and you can stil hang out and just enjoy being with him

i know it sux..but try to keep positive

-melissa-

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hey well i get hot in the car and when i do i freak out and my mom is trying to talk to me when i am freaked out and i get all mad at her and she dont talk to me...she wants to take me to our phycologist and i dont want to.. what do i have?? is this a mental problem??

it could be an anger problem, i woould go to the phycologist because
(A) they are there to help you
(B) i would be curious to see what they say

i personally am not a phycologist so i cant diagnose you or anything but you should check it out and see what the phycologist says

-melissa-

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My sister always takes clothes from my room, and it bothers me ALOT. I always flip out on her when she does, and I tell her not to do it again, but she keeps doing it. And she doesnt care, I said what part of stay out of my room dont you understand? Then she acts smartass and says "All of it." One time I threatened her that if she did it 1 more time I'd tell mom she had sex with this guy. (She told me she did) Well, she took something after that, and I flipped out and said I'm telling mom, and she says whatever, she won't believe you. My mom will probably believe it, but I don't know if I should tell or not, because my sister will probably still take things from my room anyways. Should I tell or not? And how do I keep her out?

well think about this..lets say you tell but someday she catches you doing something..it could be anything like getting walked in on, smelling alcohol or weed on your breath., sneaking out, lying, anything..your sister would rat you out in a second..so just think about this..this could come back to get you bad.

to keep her out
-talk to your mom..set a video camera up to get proof or w/e if you need it
-hide in your room when she thinks your our and when she comes in get her with a watergun..it sounds fun but you would need to be bored
-maybe install a key and lock so you can lock your door? i dont know..

hopefully your mom can put a stop to it


did i help out? good luck!

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I'm 14, soon to be 15. He just turned 19. He's so sweet and calls me baby/beautiful/sweetheart. All that stuff. I like him alot, and he likes me too. We've hooked up }not sex{ and I told my close cousins. They all make fun of me now saying that he's 19 and stuff like that. It really pisses me off because they don't know him. He's amazing and he likes me too. We live 2 hours apart, but I see him when I go up to my cottage. Which is alot. I really like him and I want it too work and so does he. But I want my cousins off my case. Should I tell them that I broke up with him??

IF you have any other advice about my situation I would greatly appreciate anything you have to offer.

Thank you soo much.

Love,
- Ashley

yeah just say you broke up

ok i know people my age (15 and 16) who get caught up in these 18 and 19 year olds and its just turned bad...both went to prison for sleeping with minors..so it didnt turn out good

but then again i dont know him, only you do so im just telling you about what ive seen when these older guys go for younger girls

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Ok...how the hell can i get stress out. When it is caused by my family...and im grounded for a while, so im stuck here? PLEASE help...im going crazy!

to get stress out do activities like

-clean your room
-work on some kind of house project..you will be suprised and proud at the crap you accomplish
-maybe garden
-write your feelings,write poems,stories,etc
-play board games
-read
-punch a pillow
-bake or cook something



i dont know if you can still do this but
-find good movies to watch
-go online
-talk on the phone
-go for walks
-play outside..if you have bros and sisters or something play games like kickball..tag..hide and go seek
-ride a bike
-lay outside and listen to music..look up at the clouds

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How can I be sure that I am ready for sex? I want it, but im scared. So how will i know?

you will know when you arent scared...when you want to do it and your ready emotionally because sex is an emotional thing (unless you have the ability to keep a non emotional mindset ) well anyway..when the moment is right and your not scared...thats whn you know your ready

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how do i get a guy to call me????

the guy has to want to call and thats the honest truth

you could get a friend to nudge him along by suggesting to call you..but if he wants to call he will

he could also be waiting for you to call him so its like a whole big game i guess..so if you two exchanged numbers, just end the little game thats always played by calling him in a couple days or something

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i like a guy ALOT! hes so sweet and so cute and he gives me like his sweatshirt and hat..and such a total sweetie/hottie. he smokes and drinks occationally..and thats SUCH a turnoff for me..! he even told me he liked me SO much that he'd quit smoking and that he only drinks occationaly anywys. what do i do? give him a chance or turn away from the bad influence

_-_-_tHe pReP_-_-_

i would go for the guy and see how things go..h wont be a bad influence because its not like he will pressure you to drink or anythingg..so give him a chance and
**whatever happens happens** :)
-melissa-

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Okay so a while back, me and this kid, Will, hooked up .. we weren't going out or anything we just 'liked' eachother for a while. He was always really shy around me and the relationship wasn't going anywhere, so i moved on from him. For a while i didnt like anyone, and now i like this other kid, Mike, who is a little cocky but very sweet. He is not shy and i can really talk to him. hE LIKES me also. But Will got really pissed at me for being with Mike. Will is absolutely heart broken... Will is definately a better kid, and i liked him before so i could probably like him again if i tried. Mike on the other hand is the kid i really like now.. what shouuuld i do!? please help me .......

"Will is definately a better kid, and i liked him before so i could probably like him again if i tried. "

no no dont try to like someone..you like mike now so stay with him..dont go back to will because you feel bad..although he could be a great pal, its mike you like right now so stay with mike..listen to your feelings :)

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um.. my boyfriend wants a lapdance from me.. im all for it but there's one problem.. i've never given one before so i dont really know how.. What do I do?

on HBO or on demand if you have those channels look for shows like G-string divas..just watch what they do and copy them..!

pretty much act like a stripper :) lol

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So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help

:( i feel what your saying

hes either
-unsure of what he wants
-doesnt want a gf ..doesnt wanna be tied down..that kind of thing

u cant make someone like you like that...someone once helped me out when i was in this kind of situation

a good friend told me to think back to a guy who i didnt really like and turned down ..and he liked me a lot and all...i had one so i thought of it and now i understand when people dont like me the way i like them...its just a natural thing that they dont like you and i had to accept that

he could be with you just for fun, i dont know but you seem like a nice girl and you could probably find a guy who likes you, will brag about how he likes you, and will be yours..so if you want someone to settle down with, maybe move on from this guy

if your ok with the fact of having some fun..then continue ...if not then thats ok..there are other guys out there! :)

-melissa-

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will drinking a lot of water help you lose weight?

yes...drink lots of water its good for you and if you replace soda and stuff with water you will see results!

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months. What are some really romatic or creative things i can do for him?

romance :) yes..there is many thhings you can do

-do something out of the ordinary..maybe go camping and sleep under the stars...could be really romantic
-go hiking..maybe to some waterfalls somewhere ..thats a hot spot to make out out ; ) lol
-go boating on a lake
-have a movie night on the couch and before the movie take out pics of you guys ..talk about old times..etc
-order a pizza..but take an old pizzabox and put all kinds of pictures,love notes, etc in there...when he goes for the "second pizza" he will see your creative suprise
-if you really want to do something different..go to a sex store and buy some freaky things to use and play with him..i dont know if thats your thing
-play dress up..haha
-make a video of some sort to him


hope i helped with you lovebirds! :)

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What are some signs of breast development?

http://www.breasthealthfocus.com/health/breast-development.php

go there its a good website that should really help
if it doesnt..leave me somethin in the inbox

-meliss

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my mom and dad jsut spilt up and my bro lives wit my dad and i live wit my mom iu didnt realy get a chance to pick who i want to go with and i want to go with my dad but then my mom wil be alone and the readon i want to go to live with my dad is caus emy mom has a b/f and we go out and they alwayz kissin and hguing and caling each other baby its so anoying and i dont like going out wit them but its ether that or my granma house and omg its so boring there and nuting to do so i want to move in wit my dad but i feel bad for my mom watshould i do?

well tell her the truth..that you want to live with dad because you dont feel comfortable with her being lovey dovey with her bf so you want to live with your dad..make sure you tell her you love both her and dad so0o much equally.,,but this is the choice you made but you will still visit and everything

your mom will understand..moms are great like that

"the truth will always set you free"
-my dad-


hope i helped!

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hello...my g/f wants to have sex w/ me...i told her yes, now shes tellin me that she wants to fool around first just to see if its "right" idk wat the hell but...im 8.5 inches, idk if thats a good or bad thing, want to help!?!?!?!?!!?!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?! oh yeah and by fool around she means suck my dick, me finger her feel on her eat dat "suga" haha...but just lemme know!!

well it depends on the girl if its good or bad

i know people make it seem like all girls want huge penises but this isnt the case..did you know the 'canal' is only about 6 inches deep? so your 8.5 inches will def please her.

some girls like it big and others like it medium..

dont worry about it though im sure its a good thing

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This question is very weird, but..

The innerlips on my vulva happen to be bigger than the outer lips. They hang a bit and cover my clitoris and vagina, and sometimes sort of stick together. I know this is completely normal, because everybody's vagina is different, but I'm scared that if I get close with somebody, they're going to be freaked out. My vagina is quite different from other peoples because of this and I'm scared that the other person is going to be turned off by it. I sort of think it's ugly, so I'm self-conscious about it. Any helpful advice on what to do?

the best advice i can give you is to wait
wait for the person who wont care
wait for the person who likes you so much they wont care about that
everyone else who would be grossed out and stuff about it shouldnt be that intimate with you anyway...so waiting for someone who reeally likes U is the best answer i can give you

i hope i helped

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