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Q: Okay, so I bought this thing to make my hair wavy but when i do it my hair is like puffy and when i do it at night it's all ruined in the morning, but I don't want to wake up at 4 30 in the morning on school days to do my hair. is there any sort of gel or cream that you can buy to not make it look so puffy and for it to still look nice in the morning?

I use that frutis (sp) hair gel. when i get out of the shower i brush my hair out i scrunch it for a while than bend over and put it in a tight bun on the very top of my head and leave it there all night .. in the morning when i take it down i never like my bangs how they turn out so i either straighten them or bobby pin or clip them on top my head with that puffy thing you know? scrunch is a little more than add hair spray.

Q: okay so ive been like best friends with this kid dylan for a while and he recently told me he liked me and and i said i liked him to cause i always have.

so like when we walk in the hallway he usually puts his arm around me.like around my shoulders.
and i ususally just keep walking not doing anything but i feel like i should be doing something yaknow?

so like next time he does that should i put my arm around his waist? or maybe lean my head closer on his shoulder? or maybe do something else. ahh help!

I agree with the other person whom answered your question. around the waist! my boyfriend always puts his arms around me and i usally put my arm around his waist

Q: I'm 21 year old guy that goes to university in a small town. This last summer I did a study abroad trip to London. It was great time, and a highlight of the trip was when I met this awesome girl from France whom I grew really attached to and spent lots of time with. Obviously I eventually had to leave, and ever since I've been back things haven't been the same at all. I don't really keep in touch with the French girl, and besides she has a boyfriend. I did feel very happy with her though.
I felt really lonely when I got back to the states, and so I choose to occupy all my time being busy with school, working out, my job, and friends. It's been over three months now, and I'm still regularly very unhappy. I've been on a few dates since I've gotten back, but the girls seem totally uninteresting to me. It's gotten to a point where I just don't even feel like trying anymore. It's been three months, and ever since I've been back I just feel really lonely and depressed. I look forward and wish I could sleep all day, and I've lost interest in the many activities I used to like. I have a ton of friends, but I don't even want to spend time with them anymore. I feel like the thing that's missing in my life is love, and it's hard because it seems to me that it's impossible to find. I just want someone to think about me and someone I can care about. I'm very ambitious and outgoing so it bugs me that I can't obtain such a crucial part of my life. I feel like the life I'm living isn't the life I want.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read this, as it's something friends of mine wouldn't totally understand.
How should I deal with my situation? Besides the obvious places like, clubs, bars, or coffee shops how can I meet people?
Any help, suggestions or just reflections on the situation would be helpful for me.
Thanks a bunch

Don't deal with it. Honestly, i'll explain to you my situation so you understand that i understand what you are going through. I moved to a small town. I was lost i have no family here besides my father and son. I got a job working at walmart. After a while i made friends with the people i work with but we dont go and hang out we just talk at work. I honestly thought i could meet friends off of myspace so this guy added me one day and we started talking both thinking we were going to be good friends. well we ended up talking more and more all the time for hours. hung out at the park with my son our first time seeing each other. Now we have been together 5 months and were happy, although we fight sometimes. You need to just cheer up. Love will find you. talk to girls if your interested keep the conversation up. don't give up on life because you believe you are missing love. be your self. school work friends keep it going. love just kind of pops up into someones life. when you arent looking for it. so forget about love. hows the weater? just kidding any whom you get what i am talking about i hope. good luck.

Q: tips on getting this girl!

ok, first of all, I'm a girl too but you don't have to be gay to give me advice! anyone who knows anything about girls and flirting and all that please help me! So I'm a junior and there is a girl who I hang out with a lot lately who's a sophomore. She's a lesbian but has been single for a while. I'm not openly gay but I've always liked girls and been with a few, but NO one knows I'm gay. The other night we hung out at school alone for the first time and we just talked forever and now she knows I'm gay, and I really like this girl but I don't know if she likes me back? How can I tell?
She says that she had no idea I was gay, but before I came out to her she asked me all of these questions about whether I had a boyfriend and stuff. She kept giving me goofy looks after that and smiling whenever she saw me and she's also very touchy feely. Since we had that one long conversation she has linked arms with me all the time and wrapped her arms around my neck and then we were watching a school concert in the dark and there was no room on the bleachers and she asked if she could sit on my lap and I said sure and the whole time she would lean back on me or would spell out words on my arm while i spelled words on her back.
ok. am I reading way too much into this or might this girl like me? she is also beautiful by the way, I'm not ugly or anything, but I'm not gorgeous like her.
What should I do? now we're on winter break and I'm not going to see her for a while. should I try to talk to her over break or just wait for school?
help!

Ask her how she feels you will never truely no. and why wait just for it. let her know you think she is beauitful.

Q: when you use an eyeshadow brush, should you get a different brush for every color or use the same brush for every color?

if so, how do you get the previous color off the brush so you can use it for the next color?

I wash my brushes?

Q: I have a neighbor that built a fence between the front yard of our house and theirs which i did not pay for. At the time I did not have the money nor did I want a fence there. I have a 4 year old son that believe that belives everything he see is his and says to me one day that the fence his, with out think that it was a big deal I said the fence was mine. The neighbor that paid for the fence over heard this and took my statement as a statement of ownership over the fence. He came to me a few days afterward and had to tell me that I do not own the fence and that he over heard me and son talking about it. I tried to explian to him what was going on and after talking to him figured the problem was done. Than yesterday he had a crew come out and move 4 out of the 5 sections of the fence to his property. They left the last section because it would mess up a gate he has. Well after seeing the fence and the way it looks I now want the last section moved off my part of the property. My neighbor is a lawyer and likes to push the law in my face. I need to know if I can require him to move the last section of fense off my side of the property line.

I am not a lawyer but had you given him permission to build the fence on your proper in the beging. If not than you have all the right its your property that you pay for. Not him. Unless giving permission he has no right for any of his property to be on your property.

Q: My uncle always tires to feed my chihuahua table scraps. i TELL him over and over that it's bad for him because he is so small. Give me some scientific explanation as to why he should not feed my 12 week old puppy..... PLEASE also I already know that it rots their teeth, can make them overweight, and is an unbalanced diet. Is their any other reason why, and can I get a website that agrees (not required).

Well i had a cousin whos husband always feed just one dog table scraps and the puppy went blind and ended up dying.

i found this articale online maybe it can help you

Rich fatty foods can be a cause for concern
Most veterinarians will tell you that they see a lot of stomach problems and pancreatitis cases around the holidays. So keep your pets away from the rich foods on your holiday table — turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, yams and stuffing. Typical holiday foods are rich, fatty comfort foods for people that can cause discomfort for their pet. The classic problem is that the dog gets into the turkey or ham, gorges on it, and then gets very sick. The signs of pancreatitis include vomiting, diarrhea and abdominal pain.

Chocolate can actually poison your pet
The toxicity depends on the type of chocolate (the darker the chocolate, the more harmful), the amount ingested and your pet’s weight. The caffeine and theobromine in chocolate can cause a dog to vomit, have diarrhea, experience rapid heartbeat, increased urination, muscle tremors and seizures. The effects can be serious, and chocolate toxicity can occur within 24 hours. The same can be true of coffee, tea and cola, as they also contain caffeine.

The traditional ‘give a dog a bone’ idea isn’t really a good one either
The bone can splinter and puncture the stomach or intestines. Poultry bones are particularly dangerous, as they become brittle when cooked. It’s much safer to give your dog a bone designed for pets.

Giving your pet alcoholic beverages truly isn’t funny
Most people are aware that too much alcohol can poison humans. Remember that your pet is a lot smaller than you are, so even small amounts of alcohol (even beer) can be toxic.

Some other tasty treats your pet shouldn’t eat
Onions and garlic contain thiosulphate, which damages red blood cells and can cause anemia in cats and dogs. Be careful when preparing the holiday stuffing or side dishes, and particularly when disposing of leftovers that contain onion and garlic. The onion actually presents the highest risk of toxicity — a single generous serving can cause anemia for dogs and cats. Whether garlic contains enough thiosulphate and can be fed in high enough amounts to harm dogs is a matter of controversy — garlic is less toxic than onion, and large amounts would need to be eaten to cause illness. And, in small amounts (such as in canine nutritional supplements), the benefits of garlic outweigh their possible risks.

Q: 18female, Conneticut
I use a massage vibrater to masturbate
are there any effects of this?
after I use it, ma vegina pulsates and 3 seconds after I am not horny at all, what is going on? and anoter thign is after I get sensitive there and when I touch it I get muscle spasms.
any help or information is good, on anything is good.
thanks.

That happened to me a lot! I used to worry about it. It will take awhile but you just have to find your own way of controlling it and your own way of relaxing. and getting into it. different ways of laying or sitting. etc.

Q: so about two weeks ago, i went to my friend sarah's house with another friend, rachel. sarah told me that her younger brother who is a freshman, adam, was going to be there and so was his friend, chris, who was also a freshman. im a sophmore, by the way. so it ended up that me, rachel, sarah, chris, and adam, all basically hung out the whole night and slept in the basement togethor and watched movies and stuff. me and chris basically flirted the entire time but at times i felt like he didnt like me, but i couldnt figure it out. so the next week i sort of liked him but i kind of let it go because i knew nothing would ever happen because he didnt like me. but then, exactly a week later, my friend sarah told me that chris really likes me and he said all of these things about me like, he thinks im really hot and that i have a good body and told my friend sarah that he really likes me. so when i found this out i was so happy because he finally really liked me and that made my day. like i was so so happy. and that day, he facebook imed me and asked for my number and it was fine. then that night he imed me again and we talked and he was flirting with me and it was good. by the way, i never got a text from him after he asked for my number that day. it was weird. but anyways, the next day, which was on monday, i was so excited to talk to him so i text him but he never answers. it said that he got the text. so i went on facebook and i waited for him to IM me, but he never did..he was on for at least 20 minutes while i was, and i never got an IM from him. so i IMed him and we talked, but, i dont really think i like what we talked about.. he asked me how far ive gone, and wanted me to give details and then he called me a bad girl..which im not. i tried to make conversation about casual things but once i did that he immediatly changed the subject and tried bringing up the subject of what i had told sarah about him. then he asked, you like me? and i said yeahh. and he said, its cool i dont know ill have to think about it though. so then i was like what do you mean? and hes like i dont know like going out or something and im like oh okay and hes like yeah i dont know tho its complicated and im like what..im confused, sarah told me you said things about me..and hes like, yeah that i like you and i do but its complicated right now i gotta go text me if you want so i text him and ask what he means and he says that hes too committed to basketball and acedemics right now. then i say ohh..well i dont get it like..and hes like basketball is everyday to 730 except sundays, but your really hot and i wanna have good times with you, but i dont know right now. and then im like is this because you like other girls from your school, because thats what sarah said.. and hes like no not at all ugh this is so bad by me its just complicated right now, but your really hot, not in a perverted way, your really hot. he kept calling me hot like at least 10 times, he mentioned me being hot. and then, i say, well i think you know what you want..and hes like, what? and im like ..like its your desicion, you know what you want. and then he says, i dont know i want u and ur body haha but its complicated right now. and then i said, what so you dont care about me, just my body? and then he said, woah woah woah no not at all, dont take it that way, but im telling you this right now im too committed to basketball right now and i dont think having a girlfriend is that good for me. and then i said, oh..are we still gonna talk. and he said, yeah sure i have no problem with that but i gotta go talk to you later peace. and then i said okay talk to you later. and the next day, i facebook IM him, but it said it didnt send it..so then i try again, but it says the same thing..then i see that it says ive written hey three times. and he writes hey after the third time, so i say oh im sorry for writing that three times. my computer said it didnt send, its doing that for some reason. and all he said was, k. then i say yeah . and he never answered.. so then i sign off because he definitly doesnt want to talk to me. im so confused, he told me he likes me and thinks im really hot then why is he ignoring me now and made it out like he broke up with me when really, we didnt even go out? no one else knows either i dont understand, what did i do..

Honestly. To me it sounds like he doesn't want a girlfriend, but from you he wants "sex" or other sexual things. You don't need that I think the two of you should be friends but i wouldn't get caught up in that.

Q: Ok so im 15/f my father has became unconcearned with his family and has became very bossy. he doesnt even care when one of us kids is hurting or if his wife no longer feels loved. why is he acting this way? he used to be so loving and nice but now its like nothin matters to him. he is just so disconnected. why? like last week i was on a diet and somehow i ended up with a low blood sugar and basically passed out. I was with my friend and he took the best care of me. While my friend was taking me home, he called me mom. When I finally got home, she was standing in my driveway, and her and my friend carried me in the house. When I got inside my dad was sitting in a chair and didnt even look at me, he didnt say anything. And i almost went to the hospital that night because my body was in a state of shock. I'm also his first child. My mom had 2 other children before me.

You parents may be in some sort of dispute. My parents were that way right before they got seperated. I am not saying that is going to happen with your parents. But i think you should talk to him or your mother.

Q: My period's late by like, a month.
Is there a way to make it come faster?
Because I'm getting really annoyed waiting around.

Birth Control can help. I skip months all the time though ( i am not on birth control) Once last year i went four months with out my period. Then just randomly got it. Sometimes ill go 2 or 3 months with out it. Doctors can't figure out why they've ran tests and stuff .

Q: The last time i had sex was on halloween, and on the 3rd (3 days later) i had my period.

I usually start around 1-5 but
i havent started this month.

Could i be pregnant?

It's possible. I would wait a few weeks see if you come up with a few symptoms. throwing up, nause, stumoch feels tight, sore breats. try not to think your pregnant or stress about it because that will cause you to miss your period. it happens to me all the time. because i am trying for my second child. good luck.

Q: why do people try and break you and your man up when they know yall are happy?

Some people are so upset with their selfs, they want others to be just as upset. Some can be so jealous that you are with someone or jealous that you are happy. You and your "man" have to tune, thoughs types of people out.It may be hard to ignore but it isn't worth all the head aches.

Q: ok...everytime im with my boyfriend all i can think about is ripping off all of his clothes and having sex with him. i know its wrong and i want to wait until im married and everything but i want it sooo bad!!! i know im a terrible person, and ive done everything BUT go all the way. ive been in a lot of situations where i ALMOST did it but im so afraid of getting pregnant so we stop. one of these days i know im just going to crack and give it up to him but idk if im ready to, my mind is saying that i am but my hearts telling me to wait. what do i do?!?!

Follow your heart. If your boyfriend isn't the one you marry you are going to regret it later on down the road.

Q:
I'm on Yaz birth control. My boyfriend and I still always use a condom when we have sex, just in case.. but lately I've been wanting to have sex without a condom, but I don't know if that's a stupid decision or not.
He says he doesn't want to.. well it's not that he doesn't want to, he just doesn't wanna risk it.
So I'm just wondering... What are the odds that I will get pregnant on Yaz? Also, if there's a history of the woman in my family being very fertile, is there more of a chance I will get pregnant.. even if I am on birth control?

Any precautions I should take if I have sex without a condom? I'd appreciate any advice, thanks!

99% accurate is what is wrote on pregnancy tests, condoms, birth control, etc. You can still get pregnant with a condom. I wouldn't risk it. Trust me I dont want to scare you but I am a 17 year old mother my son will be 2 in Jan. I risked it and got pregnant.

Q: Is a 21-year-old girl too young to be dating a 35-year-old?

You are old enough to make your own decisions in the situation. It is indeed a big age gap. But age is just a number. If the two of you click than why not?

Q: I am a freshman business major at a university with a highly renowned business program. however, i am unsure of whether or not I would really like to pursue business as a career. I've always been interested in helping careers such as education or psychology, but my parents say that business is a more practical choice. I am going to major in marketing in the business school because I love to be creative, so I feel that out of anything in business, marketing would be the best fit for me. I have looked into a few internships and jobs that I might enjoy, but I'm afraid that once I get a job it will be something I will enjoy only for a few years before I yearn for something that I feel makes a positive impact on people more directly.

I decided to double major with Linguistics with a track in Psychology (I'd be taking half Linguistics and half Psych classes for this major) and minor in Spanish. This way I could decide to teach English, Spanish, or Psych...or even later pursue a career in Psychology by going to grad school.

Does this sound like a good plan? I'm wondering if I should drop business entirely, but I'm afraid it will be a mistake since my school is so good.

Well buisness is a good thing to have went to school for and the for you have went to school for the more options you will have later on into your future. Although don't take on to much. You can drop buisness and take it back up later on if you would like. If you are able to jugle it all now than why not? Just don't stress your self out. take it easy. and your plan sounds great!

Q: What do you think is the oldest a 16 year old could/should date?

No details, other than it would be legal. I just want to gain opinions on this.

Age is really just a number. I am 17 and used to like a 28 year old and we talked about dating but never really happen because we worked oppisite shifts and stuff. legally its 4 years. but i dont believe in that.

Q: this might end up being kinda long... anyway, my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 4 months and about a week ago i saw a picture with him and this girl on facebook and someone left a comment saying something about her making her move or something anyway... the other day him and i were hanging out at this place he usually goes with with his friends and he was calling some of them to see if they could come hang out with us, and he called the girl from the picture, if something was going on between them would he have wanted her to come hang out with both of us? or would he want to hide her more or whatever so i wouldn't get suspicious about anything? anyway, if anyone has any advice let me know.. thanks :)

Communication is a big part of a relationship. Yes he would want to hide it more but i think you should talk to him about it and see what is going on his head. because you are going to get your self worked up about it and it may be nothing.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and I was wondering if I should get his mom something for Christmas. I'm not really that close to her but I would like to be. She's very nice and welcoming (I'm always at their house) but she doesn't really talk to me all that much. Just your usually Hi, how are you. That kind of makes me timid about trying to talk to her because I'm not sure if she "approves" of me for her son. I was thinking that a gift would hopefully help change that. If i get her something, what should it be?

Jewlary is always a go. Or candles. Maybe find out a band she likes but doesn't have the cd. things like that. I also think it is a great idea.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.