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Meeting people / Dealing with lonliness
I'm 21 year old guy that goes to university in a small town. This last summer I did a study abroad trip to London. It was great time, and a highlight of the trip was when I met this awesome girl from France whom I grew really attached to and spent lots of time with. Obviously I eventually had to leave, and ever since I've been back things haven't been the same at all. I don't really keep in touch with the French girl, and besides she has a boyfriend. I did feel very happy with her though.
I felt really lonely when I got back to the states, and so I choose to occupy all my time being busy with school, working out, my job, and friends. It's been over three months now, and I'm still regularly very unhappy. I've been on a few dates since I've gotten back, but the girls seem totally uninteresting to me. It's gotten to a point where I just don't even feel like trying anymore. It's been three months, and ever since I've been back I just feel really lonely and depressed. I look forward and wish I could sleep all day, and I've lost interest in the many activities I used to like. I have a ton of friends, but I don't even want to spend time with them anymore. I feel like the thing that's missing in my life is love, and it's hard because it seems to me that it's impossible to find. I just want someone to think about me and someone I can care about. I'm very ambitious and outgoing so it bugs me that I can't obtain such a crucial part of my life. I feel like the life I'm living isn't the life I want.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read this, as it's something friends of mine wouldn't totally understand.
How should I deal with my situation? Besides the obvious places like, clubs, bars, or coffee shops how can I meet people?
Any help, suggestions or just reflections on the situation would be helpful for me.
Thanks a bunch
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Sometimes being alone can help you find yourself and know yourself better, depends on how you handle the situation though. you can always meet people when getting together with your friends. but for now, don't worry about finding love, b/c at some point in your life you will find it & enjoy life while you can. Hope i helped:)
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Don't deal with it. Honestly, i'll explain to you my situation so you understand that i understand what you are going through. I moved to a small town. I was lost i have no family here besides my father and son. I got a job working at walmart. After a while i made friends with the people i work with but we dont go and hang out we just talk at work. I honestly thought i could meet friends off of myspace so this guy added me one day and we started talking both thinking we were going to be good friends. well we ended up talking more and more all the time for hours. hung out at the park with my son our first time seeing each other. Now we have been together 5 months and were happy, although we fight sometimes. You need to just cheer up. Love will find you. talk to girls if your interested keep the conversation up. don't give up on life because you believe you are missing love. be your self. school work friends keep it going. love just kind of pops up into someones life. when you arent looking for it. so forget about love. hows the weater? just kidding any whom you get what i am talking about i hope. good luck.
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