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ok...everytime im with my boyfriend all i can think about is ripping off all of his clothes and having sex with him. i know its wrong and i want to wait until im married and everything but i want it sooo bad!!! i know im a terrible person, and ive done everything BUT go all the way. ive been in a lot of situations where i ALMOST did it but im so afraid of getting pregnant so we stop. one of these days i know im just going to crack and give it up to him but idk if im ready to, my mind is saying that i am but my hearts telling me to wait. what do i do?!?!
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Follow your heart. If your boyfriend isn't the one you marry you are going to regret it later on down the road.
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Haha, been there done that! It's great to have a man you're so hot for while at the same time so frustrating, isn't it. Definitely follow your heart! If there is ANY part of you holding back, listen! You are much more likely to regret not waiting than regret waiting!
I think that waiting until marriage is very admirable, but I am also practical in realizing that not everyone is going to wait. I generally suggest to my friends to at least wait until they are with someone that they feel sure that they will be with forever. Great sex feels good, but it also includes an amazing emotional connection to the one you are with, so I think that the fewer sexual partners a person has, the better.
Pregnancy is a GREAT reason to wait. My friends in I are in an unofficial "No Babies Club" lol! So when you do go for it, make sure you have been on birth control for a week or two (take them at the same time every day), and always use a condom, and if you are really worried, you can get a diaphragm as well. Talk to your gynecologist about it, they are great resources. And don't worry, there is very little that surprises them, and I have never met one that is judgmental--they are worried about keeping you safe, not judging your actions.
As far as trying to wait, avoid situations in which you guys are alone where it is easy to go too far. Go on group dates, or hang out in the living room of one of your houses with parents there.
Good luck and much love!
~TD
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If your heart is telling you to wait, wait. most likely if you go through with it, your chances of regreting it are high. yes, your mind is thinking all of this stuff, I would just try and substitute it with oral or something, so you get your satisfaction. also, I hear so many people say that after they have sex with their boyfriend it kind of takes over the relationship. good luck!
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If you're not really sure, then it really means you're really not ready. You may think are,but your not. Cause right now you're thinking of all the consequences of having sex, which is not a bad thing, because at least we know you're aware of the consequences. But this really says you're not ready, and maybe that waiting til your married is the best thing to do. Trust me, I know.. I have friends who are married, and their husbands were not their firsts, LITERALLY all of them really wish they could have waited, and you CAN'T EVER take that back once it's gone. But if you really do decide to have sex be safe, don't risk it. :]
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Yeah, sex. There's nothing wrong with it! Yeah there isn't with the physical act. Why? Well we wouldn't be here if our parents didn't decided to "get it on." What makes it "bad" is not thinking ahead! Sex has one basic function and that's to make babies! Crying little adorable pooping babies! Did I mention vomit too? Are you ready for that? Got your birth control? Got your condoms? Good. Just to let you know, that stuff doesn't always work. Few questions to ask yourself before you jump in and going wild.
1. Is this guy able to support your pregnant butt when you are laid up in bed with pain?
2. Is he going to be there to help support the baby when he/she is born?
3. Do you have a support group? Mom, Dad, Grand Parents etc...
4. Does the thought of not being able to go as you please or get up in the middle of the night and go to the Quick-E-Mart to grab a soda at 3AM bother you?
5. Does he care?
6. If he were to walk out on you can you support a child on your own?
That's the straight dope girl. You gotta think about these things! Most girls will raise their babies on their own with little to NO support from the father. That's just a cruel fact. Be real. Talk about it. There's other alternatives to intercourse.
Fact is, it's almost inevitable that you will one day have sex. Be prepared!
BTW I am a guy and I have kids.
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