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Q: ok here's a picture that ive drawn and i wud lov it if someone could give me ideas of what to name it....
plz help!!!!

http://www.funadvice.com/photos/view/107565
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down on the farm?

Q: ok so the other morning I was texting my boyfriend. this was our convo.
me:hey
him:hey
me:can I ask a question.nd u gota be honest
him:ya.
me:are you going to or thought about breaking up with me?
him:no. y?
me:im just askng cuz I don't want you to.and it always seems like im making you mad and I just want to make you happy like you make me.
him: ..I thnk that's just called a lil love.

my question.. wat dus he mean by that last line? my friend sed maybe its his way of sayng he loves me. bt it kinda dusnt sound lke it. but I don't know. please help. thankyou in advance

ahh you are over reactting calm down. he obviously likes you and it probably is his way of saying i love you.. but saying, that every relationship has its flaws, a fighting here and there.

Q: Hi I am 16.f. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He is my first true love, and everyone says 'youll never forget your first love' and everything, like our relationship will never last. But what if I TRULY think he is the only one I could ever be with. I know I am young, and of course I wouldn't get married now, and I have time to think about it but on one hand I can't imagine a future with anyone else, but on the other hand EVERYONE seems to think that just because I have never loved anyone else means I wont last long with him?? Is it possible that I just happened to find the perfect guy right off the bat? Has anyone had an experience like mine??

It is possible and some high school sweet hearts get married and are together for a very long time if not forever. You are young like you said and another person can't tell you how long your relationship will last with your boyfriend. Ignore what those other people are saying and just live your relationship.

Q: i started birth control the end of november i took it up until december then i ran out n couldnt get anymore cuz of the holiday. i started taking it again 9 days ago so i was off the pill for about a week or so.. i've been on it for about 9 since the week gap. i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend today.. what are the risks of me being pregnant its been heavy on my mind.

Pretty strong chances. just wait it out and see if you get your period or not. if not take a home test. once you miss a day you start all over and it takes a month for the birth control to start working.

Q: i don't think i think like a normal teenager does, like i act like a normal one, but in my head i'm not really. like i worry about everything and i'm not carefree and i don't just care about having fun like a normal teenager. this seems like it wuoldn't be a bad thing, to have like a more mature mind, but i don't want to think like that. my sister is just a carefree teenager who all she cares about is having fun, smoking,drinking, partying,getting with guys,the way she looks, and her friends and family, but like she still gets good grades too. she never thinks of anything bad that could come in the future, except college, like she can't talk about death or getting attacked or what age she thinks she's gunna die, when she'll get married and if it'll work, etc. or she gets all worried. all she wants to talk/think about is like boys and everything that i listed above. i wish i could think like that, but instead i think of all of the bad thhings that have happened in the world, the future (like my adulthood), older times like the 60's 70's and 80's because i liked those times better, and fate, etc. it makes me kind of sad and worried/nervous all of the time, and i'm not carefree like other teenagers. i think the reason i am like this might be because most of my friends have depression or other types of problems, like cutting, etc. but we're all pretty normal. i ACT like a normal teenager, like drinking,partying,dancing,friends,but i don't worry about boys because i hate the way i look because i have braces and i'm very very inconfident and have never kissed a boy and none of my friends are even virgins. but i don't think like a normal one. when i party, i just think about all of the bad things instead of just having fun, like what if i pass out or throw up and my parents have to come pick me up, what if i get caught, what if i go upstairs into my friends room and a guy is up there and tries to attack me, what if this guy starts touching me without permission, what if someone thinks i'm a slut, etc, and some of you might say it's resp0onsible to always be cautious and sometimes its a good thing that i'm very cautious, but other times the thigns that i'm thinking are just ridiculous and unnecessary because no one is trying to do anything bad, everyones just trying to have fun. so please don't answer the question saying that im actually responsible because i go way over the top inside my head with the cautiousness. i so badly want to be a happygoluck teenager who lives to have fun but still does good in school, but is carefree about anything in life except have fun, besides the major things like taking care of myself, school, family, etc. i'm not saying like dumb ignorant and ditzy, i'm saying like i don't want to worry that much just live in the moment. because i can NEVER live in the moment, i'm always living in either the past or future. also, even though everyone does it in highschool, and i KNOW they do so please don't try to answer saying they don't, whenever i drink i feel guilty and like im' diong something wrong because my parents don't know,but seriously like do they really expect me and my friends not t drink when i KNOW that they did when they are my age? but like at parties after everyone gets drunk and some people start fighting or hooking up with random people or throwing up or peeing, i'm like, how is this even fun anymore? and i just feel bad, like omg what if my parents saw m e right now what would they think? and i hate it so much, like for once i want to actually have fun instead of worrying about if it's normal for everyone to be drinking so much. and like in my head i KNOW its normal, because like its highschool, so how can i stop worrying about what i'm doing and just enjoy the time i'm in? so my question is how can i become more like that and not think that everyone is out to get me and not worry so much about whats going to happen in life and just enjoy the time i'm at right now (highschool)?

I used to think the same way. Always scared of getting in trouble. Always worrying about what other people thought of me. I wear makeup to make my self feel pretty. I dress to make my self feel sexy. There is a guy out there who thinks you are gorgous, amzing, the most beautiful woman on earth. it just takes time findind him and yes that sucks but its part of life. You are your own personality and what you make life out to be. Thinking about the future is good but dont worry about it take everything day by day. wake up and make your self feel confident. go out with your friends and jump up and down and dont get scared to be a little crazy. talk a little more, party a little more, maybe hang out with your sister some see how she acts. now if you dont feel comfortable acting carefree.. be you. care some. its a good think. makes you more aware. you can still have fun and worry.. when you drinking with your friends and worry about passng out make sure to drink some place you can stay the night.

Q: I'm 26. For ages I've stayed a virgin for a number of reasons, but finally I decided I wanted to sleep with a guy I just started seeing. He knew I was a virgin and after only seeing each other a few times we had sex. He's been really sweet. However, I got out of a bad relationship a few months ago and was really hurt emotionally. I'd made a mental pact to date more than one guy once I started dating again, just for my own self-preservation. So now that I am dating again, there are a few guys that have asked me out. I'm interested to date 3 guys at once, but have to wonder, now that I'm sleeping with one (using protection and on birth control), what if I want to sleep with the other two guys? Would that make me a slut?

A slut is what you make it out to be. Someone may call you a slut but that doesn't make you one. If you were to call a female a slut. What are the reasons you are calling this girl a slut? Are the reasons you listed to call this girl a slut, what you are doing?? Its simple a slut is what you say it is. If you feel like you are being a slut than maybe your shouldn't be doing it.. its not like you are cheating if the guys know you are dating and not in a relationship. good luck.

Q: my boyfriend always calls me beautiful and gorgeous and i never know what to say back except "aw" or smile... what do guys like being called by girls? i asked him and he said he didn't know...but theres gotta be something.

were both 16

I always call my fiance babe

Q: ok well 15/f i recently had sex and i eat a lot of chocolate (you'll find out why thats important later) but i dont know from what but i got this pimpples on my chest and now on my back there not big just liek red dots but its scaring me because i had sex and yea we used a condom and his not sick with anything but i dont kno if it could be from that or if it could be from eating chocolate because i love chocolate and one time i got realli bad hives like red patches on my skin from eating an oreo sundae in dunken donuts..and ever since then my i think im allergic to chocolate but i really dont know what its from either that or that..any advice?

i got rashes and now these pimpeles becaus ei ate this huge block of chocolate and then 2 boxes of chocolate candies because i was on my period and then for new year a chocolate cake..so any advice?

The advice that the person below me i agree with. but you need to speak to your doctor.

Q: So I was wondering, when you ask a question on here, why does it just show up on the advicenators homepage like 3-4 days later? Im sure this question will come up in like 4 days too. (its Jan 2)

Probably because of so many people asking questions.

Q: alright well he came over after work last nightand we hung out and stuff and he put his arm around me? what does that mean

he was comforting your or telling you he adores you.

Q: 3 or 4 weeks ago, this is a long story, i'll try and make it short. My friend(no longer) touched me in very inapropriate places. My mom thought she was cool by letting me go with him places, im 15 and a half, and he is 18. Thts illegal right? And I didnt really want him to touch me, I was scared, and we were alone, and i was afraid if I tried to get away, he'd hurt me, and if I stopped hangning out with him, he would come and get me, or something. And I just told me mom..I was so afraid, but she realizes tht my so called friend was playing her. She feels horribly bad, but we both cant decide if we should tell my dad. For one thing, my dad is a police officer. Second, my dad already hated my so called friend and offered to arrest him before. And the guy is really creepy, who touched me. He was a ponytail on the back of his head, and is just plain...looks like a child molestor. I was so stupid, talking to him, txting him, hanging out with him, i dont know why i continued to do things with him. He even asked me to have sex and brought condoms on night, when it was dark, he pulled into the parking lot at a nearby lake in some place i didnt know and parked the car. And of course I said hell no, im not on pills, condoms break, hes ugly, im scared, im smarter than this, i dont want to be pregnant, bingo. I wanted to go home. And if I tell my dad, that hes touched me in "wrong" places, my dad WILL arrest him and put him in jail. And I'll have to go to a testimony/trial. And I have been stupid and have been giving his phone number to random people on the internet and my friends, to call him or txt him, saying tht hes a creeper, or giving it to random people, one which sent a picture of their own penis to him, which wasnt entirely my fault, because my friends were over. Is that considered phone harrasment? Im so scared way beyond belief. i live in Ohio

I live in a ohio to and if you are really scared of this person. stop with the phone harrsement. but your parents can press charges against him for you being a minor. i think you need to let your dad know. dont do it if your just doing it because he made you mad. where you really scared?? did you not want to do anything with him? tell your father what happened.

Q: i'm kind of addicted to shoplifting. i can't stop. what do i do?

Get a job at wal mart.

or anywhere. i work at walmart and i claims tons and tons of items everyday. (claims are items that are stolen ) it gets deducted out of our paychecks. we lose money because of people who steal.

Q: Long story short..my dad is 53 years old,he is a very smart man but I am afraid that he is homeless.I live in another state,and up until a few months ago we hadn't spoken in a number of years due to a nasty family fued.

My father was spoiled and coddled all of his life by my grandparents,who also raised me,he always has had a good job but his parents took care of everything for him so anything he earned he kept for himself.They have both passed away and now due to some family infighting over my grandparents estate between my father and his siblings, the family home was sold and what little money my father received from that is long gone.

I feel that he is homeless,but I am afraid to ask him,I don't know if I am ready to hear it.He always seems to be at a park everytime I talk to him even late at nite and although he has been working steadily remodeling homes I don't think he is making enough to support himself.

I guess my question is should I ask him or wait for him to tell me,and once I hear the truth ,ready or not, should I offer to help him?

i think you should go see him. see for your self. if he is homeless over him some help. he may be to scared to tell you.

Q: im 15 and 6 moths pregenat. The boy that got me pregenat has a girlfriend but we still talk. Were always arguing and i dont no if i should move on or try to work it out

hun i was in the same situation as you although my sons father was always cheating on me. i keep taking him back because i thought we could be together for the baby. move on hun obviously he could. you can to just give it some time.

Q: I've been hanging out with this guy for almost 2 months and we've hooked up 3 times (only made out.) The last time he asked me if i was ready to take it further (i assumed fingering?) but i said no. Its not that im not ready for it, but were not together officially and in my school im not really sure how far you can go with a guy when youre single without being called a slut. I really like this guy though, please help me!
hes almost 17 and im 15 if that makes a difference

Your awful young to be thinking about that. I am not going to lecture you on it because i have a child and i am 17. although it sounds as if he just wants to be friends with benifits with you.

Q: okay so i met this kid and i don't wanna seem obsessive and clingy but hes kinda sending mixed messages i met him at a party a couple weeks ago and we've been talking and he came over once and said i was cute after but whenever he texts me he just stops or is like well what are you doing today lets hang ill call u after work and crap but never does..and it bugs the crap out of me so i stopped acting like i care and he kind of noticed he sid i was being "quiet" so what should i do is he interested or not?

It sounds as if he has another girl on mind but wants to keep you close in case it doesnt work out with the other female. or isnt totally interested in you. I think you should ask him how he feels. if you like him tell him that you do by his reaction you will be able to tell how he feels about you.

Q: Alright so i was dating this guy and he left me for his Ex and like Im still friends with him not nearly as close of friends of course but still friends and like at random times he'll text me or something and say things that make me think that he still likes me and I dont know how to take it... like the other day he text me and was like "hey" and I was like "hi whats up" and he goes "oh nothing just listening to Death Cab and it reminded me of you" and if you didnt know Death cab is a band they are really called Death Cab For Cutie but which was the CD that I bought him for his birthday when we were dating and some of the songs on that CD ment alot to the both of us... and i jsut dont know what to think of what he is say its like he still likes me but wants to be with her... what should i think...

I think you need to move on. He shouldnt have gotten into a relationship with you if he was still having feelings for his ex because he obviously hurt you in the process. I think you two should keep being friends. maybe best friends?? Try dating other people if you think you are ready.

Q: i had this boyfriend about a half year ago and he took my cherry but cheated on me a month later. and then broke up with me. it really stung and i never got over him. i was mad at him for lying, and it nearly drove me over the edge.

we kept in touch for a while and reconciled our friendship. he asked me back out about 2 weeks ago. but the problem is i dont trust anything he says. we just had a fight because he told me he had something i really wanted, but wanted me to tell him something that i did the other night that i wouldnt tell him. i told him and he felt "bad" and told me the thing he had was a fake and said that he thought i'd tell him a lie.

i dont lie to him! the only thing i would lie about is if im feeling ok or if im happy. im a very depressed person but i dont want to worry him. and i told him that.

how is he supposed to earn my trust back?? what should i do? im really head over heels for this guy and we have a lot of fun and hes just really special to me and i dont want to lose him but i know i will if i can never trust him.

I am going to tell you a story between me and my son's biological father.

We started dating and hit it off, I ended up pregnant and was a little scared but everything was still okay. We got in disputes once in a while but nothing seris. Once he told me he had dreams about another female. I was kind of sad about it but what ever. Then at the forth of july parade he introduced me to the girl and said we should all hang out. I was pretty mad. He had another friend named Jamie. There was something about this girl I hated. He and I were talking on the phone one night and told me he was going to sleep. I said okay. His younger sister called my phone asking if i had Jamies number and I said no John has it ask him and she said I am trying to get a hold of him he just got in her car. He cheated on me with that girl and he was my first love my life the father of my unborn child at the time. My son is 2 years old today and he doesnt pay child support, has said awful things about my child and now that i am engaged wants to be part of his life.

Once you lose your trust like that for someone its almost impossible to gain back. I still believe once a cheater always a cheater. If you two put your hearts into making it work than anything is possible. If your the only one trying it wont work it. If it does that is good I am happy for you. If it doesn't remember there are plenty of men out there and some whom have the heart to care and treat a woman riight. good luck.

Q: I'm a single mother of two kids, working full-time and going to college part-time. Through the years since I've been divorced, my little brother moved in with me to help me out. My parents bought a house and rent it to us. We split the rent and all bills evenly.

In September of this year, my brother lost his job. Since the economy is so bad, he's had a really hard time finding work, and takes whatever job he can to make extra cash, but can't seem to find a full-time job. So, for the past 4 months, I've been paying all of his bills, except for rent. He's racked up about $800 that he owes me. And I'll probably never see a dime of that.

He helps out sometimes, by watching my kids for me while I run to the store. And just the other day he fixed a water leak in our house. But for the most part, he sleeps, eats my food, watches cable tv that I pay for and plays video games. He was promised a job by my boss, but construction is slow right now and they don't need him. So instead of seeking other employment, he stays at home waiting for work. He's getting unemployment money, but I haven't seen any of it. Instead, I see him buying beer and cigarettes.

When I talk to my parents about him, they seem to think that I should just deal with it. But this is driving me absolutely CRAZY! I couldn't get my kids much for Christmas. I can't even buy myself a new pair of shoes because my kids need some and I can't even afford that.

I was told by my parents that if I kick him out, they will make me pay the entire amount of rent, which I can't afford. I'm so confused about what to do. Should I just deal with this?

It sounds like your brother is getting depressed with it being so hard to find a job. You should talk to him your self ask him to try a little harder. try not to argue about it though.

Q: 16/girl.

This boy at the grocery stores, always like stares at me & then looks down. & its every time I go there. & he stares at me for a long period of time.. so i think he likes me? wouldn't you think so?
Anyway, he seems really shy. I don't know how to like get it to go anywhere..
Any help?

He probably likes you or thinks your very pretty. Be the un shy one and go over and talk to him maybe ask him for his number or give him yours and ask him to call you.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.