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Q: What are some good sites i can go to for music on my Xanga?

http://www.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=43492 . On that site, it will have over 400 links to xanga sites that provide music! You could search for even more under "Blogrings". Under blogrings just search "Music codes".

Q: hey i was wondering if any other columnists are unable to read your feedbacks? when i click on mine, i can only see one. the others are there, but i can't view the text. it has the number of answers that question received, and the comment is supposed to follow that number. i even set my fonts to black (in white background) and still nothing. can anyone help?

We would be able to help you more if you gave us your site, so that way we can look at the problem and help you fix it=)

Q: what is an oreo? not like the cookie oreo, im talking about something that someone can call someone, because i heard someone call a black person an oreo and he got all mad at them. if anyone knows plz tell me

Okay, well an oreo is a black person on the outside(Like he/she is black) but on the inside he/she acts like their white.

Q: what doesw it mean wen ppl say like 13/f?
Please tell me i rate!

Like 13(their age)-Female(their sex). So if there was a 15 year old male he would go I'm 15/m :)

Q: i really need to make money but im havin a hard time getting someone to hire me what can i do? are there good ways to earn money online?

Yes there are sites you can get cash for taking surveys. Just search "Surveys" or something under google and you can sign up, and win cash and prizes!

Q: thankyou so much for answering my question. i dont worry about being popular or my weight, and i have a boyfriend. i worry about things like how im so annoying and people hate me and judge me all the time.. i feel like i have always let people down and feel guilty even if i havnt done anything. i dont think i need rehab i only drink and smoke to escape from reality its the only time i feel happy. i have no idea why i cut i just do stupid shit all the time deliberately to hurt myself and when i cut i wonder why i just dont have enough courage to go all the way. i hate talking about this because i dont see honestly how anyone would really care so i dont want to go to a counselor. ive been like this since i was like 11.. i feel like i am normal... but then how i think and the stuff i do leave me in doubt i dont know why i feel so hopeless and desperate im just wondering if its just like being a teenager ? thankyou so much you have no idea

Teenagers also think that people are always judging them and hating them. Myself for example, everytime someone laughs and looks at me I feel their talking about me, or if their just staring I feel so small and I feel that they are judging me or something. So yes, its very normal..Instead of cutting how about writing all your problems/thoughts on a peice of paper. Like letting everything out (all the pain) out through writing instead of hurting yourself. Keep a journal, and you can reflect on it...I think that writing it out is the safest way to go , I do not want you to hurt yourself...and I dont want you to end up in the hospital! Keep me updated=) Hope I helped!

Q: hey im 15 f, are most teenage girls out there depressed? is it just a faze we go through or is it just certain individuals that are insane.. its not like i have had a hard life but i am always sad and pessimistic about everything. i feel like i dont deserve anything and no one likes me. i have been diagnosed with 'anorexia' i think they are wrong tho, i am a heavy drinker and i smoke pot often, and people are starting to notice the scars on my arms and wrists from cutting.. i put on a front when i with people but when i am by myself all i can think about is death.. i dont know why i am like this i dont have a reason to be, i was just wondering does anyone else feel this way!?

Girls, yes do suffer from depression but not as severe as the one you have. Girls often worry about their wieght, their appearnece overall, and if their popular enough, why they dont have as many boyfriends etc. But there are girls (like yourslef) who take all the worrying to the next level by anoerexia, cutting, etc. It's normal to have these thoughts and feelings, you are depressed. Most heavy drinkers and drug users tend to get smaller because they dont eat. You need to get help and thats all there is to it. Sure it will suck having to go to doctors, and rehab..and all the crap it takes to get yourself out of your situation. But in the end, you'll feel 100 times as better. You are a normal teenage girl, with normal teenage worrys and thoughts..except you've decided to cut. I hope you get better! Please update me if you can=)

Q: i got a new computer i can donwload a free music site but it wont let me search for a song why not?

Tell us what the free music site is and we'll try to help you out!

Q: Hey! Im Roman Catholic...and over half of my friends are Mormon. Just wondering to Mormon people:
1.) Do you believe Mary was a virgin?
2.) Do you think the cross is a bad sign?
3.) Why can't you go out until you are 16?
4.) Why can't you have caffiene(sp?)?
5.) Why can't you do as much things of Sunday just because of church?
Just wondernig! :O) Thanks!

I'm not mormon but I thought I would add in my 2 cents. Okay, one thing about mormons is they believe in 3 or 4 places, which 1 of them you will go to when you die. The first is, well its not called "Hell" its something else. And then theres pergatory which like you sinned but you still did good. And then theres heaven. But what I dont get is, we ALL sin...practically everyday..so wouldent we all be in pergatory? You know? Kinda weird...I prolly messed up the stuff a little but yeah I guess someone can clear it up!

Q: I know this is a question thats probably commonly asked but i need to kno. I recently switched into a school with tons of gorgeous pretty girls. I know i`m not the BEST looking and i`m no where as skinny as those other girls but a few people have been calling me fat. I`m 4 11, weigh 120lbs and i`m 13. = / i already know i need to louse a few pounds but am i really over weight. be honest. and what are things i can do to louse weight? lots of details would be helpful. Thank you!!

Well to be hoenst, all you need to lose is 5-10 lbs. Thats it! To do that, this is what my cousin did: No juice, no soda, no snacks in between meals, and dont eat after 7:30 PM. Just drink water and diet pepsi. My cousin did this and in a week he lost around 6 lbs! You can do it!

Q: okay..i'm a girl and i shaved downn there..but i can still see the little hairs is that normal? Thank you.

Well after you shave you can still see hairs? Umm, yeah you cant shave it all of unless you get a wax and that hurts like a slut and only like porn stars do it. dont worry.

Q: okay..I know that this is bad and stuff but I just really need advice--quick! On sunday night i drank about a quarter of a bottle of beer, a few sips of sangria and like a cup of vodka..I am going to the doctor for a check-up on thursday and i'll be getting blood taken, will any of the alcohol be in my body still, and if so will it be shown when my blood is taken? (i'm 5'0'' and 100 lbs)

Dont worry it'll be gone by then, but drink a lot of water just incase! To flush it all out;)

Q: what are some cute names that like Gurlfriend's callthere boyfreinds... lik example like him calling her babe or something, what are some different names tht are cute to Call eachother!

For your girlfriend you say "baby" and for your boyfriend you call him "babe". You could do corny stuff like just as jokes...cupcake, sweetheart, honey bunches of oats(like the cereal) haha

Q: okay, there is this chick that lives with us, rhee, she's basically a sister to me now and she is a serious worrier. she freaks out about everything!she has had a bad life.. her mum died, her dad kicked her out, so she hasn't learnt much of anything. she went to a mates place and slept in his bed... alone... and worried she coulda gotten pregnant!!! how can i let her know about the birds and the bees without embarrasing her??? she is 18 i am 17. my mum gave me the talk but hers didnt coz she died. any advice on what to do would be appreciated. thankyou in advance!!!

~sister troubles

Um, I think she knows about the "birds and the bees". My mom didnt tell me, but I found out from friends, people from school and all. I think at 18 she would know already.

Q: okay here's my story, about four months ago i meet this boy named ryan at night with my three best girlfriends, they dared me to go up and start flirting with him because they thought he was like the hottest thing ever (i didnt AT THE TIME lol) anyways so i went up to him and i had a REALLY LONg and sweet convo with him.. we ended up trading sn's and phone numbers and we still end up talking until now... and i dont want to sound stupid or anything but i REALLY liek him and i want to know if he'll like me back but i have a HUGE problem. im NOT allowed to date until im fifteen and im 13 now and turning 14 in AUG. and he;s 15 and turning 16 in july...and one more thing, PLEASe everybody PLEASE dont think im like racist or anything when is ayt his but im not allowed to date\marry anyone who sint jewish.. and Ryan is catholic!!! please help..first of all i wanna know if i should disobey my mom bcuz i REALLy like Ryan and it hink he lieks me back and also is there anyone else out there with the whole mom\dating situation!!?!?!?1 lol PLEASEEEEEE HELP!!
-CONFUSED ONE =)

Yeah. I cant go out until I'm 18 but I have done it before. Its your choice to disobey your parents but just make sure you dont get caught. Like you have to be really careful. I think you should go for it. Even if he is cathloic, your mom doesnt know about him anyway. Go for it and have fun!

Q: ok i havent gotten my period yet this month but it seems like i never have a regular period cycle..and my boyfriend and me were like messing around at his house but i was just giving him a handjob but he cumed but not on me....and i dont think it was any whree near me...and i was expecting my period around the 13 or 14 or around there and me and my boyfriend just recently did this stuff like a few days before the 13...is it possible to be pregnant? but i didnt get morning sickness or anything..

As long as you didnt have sex, your not pregnant. Periods are not always exact, they are normally weird like that...Nothing to be worried about!

Q: Across the street from me, an elderly couple sold their house and the people that bought it have two young boys, ages 4 and 7 I believe. They have asked me if I'd like to babysit for them and that's fine with me. I've babysat before but normally I'd do it free of charge. It's come the time where I'm getting older and I need to get money. I'll be driving in a year and my parents aren't going to be paying for my gas and car insurance. What would be a good amout of money to ask for? I don't want to be asking for too much. I'm 15/ female.

$5 a hour. Thats pretty good and a reasonable price. Like you said you dont want to be asking too much!!

Q: Ok, I wrote in earlier about the guy that hates me and everything. Well now he said that he is going to ask out this really discuting guy for me tomorrow in 1st period and I know he will. What can I do because I dont want to go out with this guy but I know that he will ask him. Someone please help me and plz hurry

Well when that guy goes up to you and asks if your going out with him, or trys to talk to you...explain to him that you two arent really going out!

Q: 17-female-cal

I wanted to know if there was a certain career I can go to for these things. I've been getting really interested with the mind and what makes us do the things we do. I've been getting interested in things like, eating disorders, mental illness, personality disorders, insomnia, ADD, OCD, SAD, why people lie and a lot of other things like health, vegetarianism, raw foodists, etc. I want to learn more about this stuff, but not just through the internet. What are some courses that teach you about this kind of stuff and how can I apply what I know through a career? If you know some careers, do they pay well?

I believe I'm suffering from ADD, OCD and SAD. As I'm researching these, I come across other disorers and I get overwhelmed and I want to learn about them all...

Pyschology is a very good course to take! You'll be learning exaclty what your intrested in.

Q: hey! i was wondering, how did u change your font colors?? like its black for the question and pink for the answer? and up at the top for the things you can click like how did u change add as friend to lets be friends and stuff like that. thanks in advance =) btw, your super pretty

Thank youu! Okay, well you have to be a paid account in order to change your color for your question/answer and you also have to have a paid account to change the lets be friends thing. But, I dont have an account. I got lucky because before paid accounts, you could change whatever you want...but then they made it to where only paid account users can do that. So i got lucky and can still edit my columns without paying for it. sorry!!