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I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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My (ex) best friend doesnt like me buause she thinks i changed and that im not the old person i was and i still want to be friends with her but she doesnt what do i do ?????

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Talk to her make her understand that you havent changed and that her thinking you did can ruin your friendship tell her how important your friendship with her is and if she still doesnt want to be your friend then move on and dont keep begging her to be your friend. good luck!!! :)


Hi. my hair ALWAYS gets all frizzy and tangled and i dont have any detangler! my hairbrush is like ripping out my hair cuz it has soooo many knots! any ideas on how to detangle it and take away the frizz? thanks!

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try Dove Frizz Control Therapy Conditioner or try
Dove Moisturizing Conditioner these two will make your hair easier to handle and less frizzy good luck!!! :)


Can I have a gold embezeled onyx or other stone replaced with a Diamond? Or does it have to have those grip things to replace it? (link)
it has to have a grip to replace it but to make sure you should go to a jewellery shop and ask good luck!! :)


Will my hair look weird if i put in non permanant blond sense i all ready have highlights of blond that are permanant in it? Will it come out all the same color of will some parts be lighter?
I would like to hear any expeiriences...or any comments or concerns. thank you! (link)
omg i did the exact same thing please do not do it the colors end up being totally different in a very bad way i had some pictures if i find them i will send them to you if you want but trust me dont do it you will sooo regret it good luck :)


Is StarBright Talent in Chicago a scam?
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no its not a scam its a real buisness and it does foundations for children and charitys so diffenitly not a scam. :)


I've known this guy for 2 years now. He just graduated and is leaving at the end of this summer for school. When I first met him I was crazy for him but he never made a move on me until last summer, when I was dating someone else. Well now I'm single, and I don't know if we still have anything. He saw me from a distance the other night and came running over to me and gave me a big hug because we hadn't seen each other since school got out. I still like him, but I don't know if I should bother. I mean, he's gonna be gone soon anyways. (link)
I think you should try it even if it is only for the summer at least you'll know you tried and if things work out during the summer maybe you two can figure out how to still be together while being away from eachother anyways good luck!!!!:):)


I have a dell laptop it's not exactly a new model but it runs very well. My problem is with sites that you watch videos on or listen to music where it has to stream the video/music to the site. Anyway It's always really slow but there are occasional days where it's fast. Is there any way to make it where it's fast all of the time? Or is something wrong with my computer?

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I think it may be time to get a new computer the problem is most likely with your computer take it to a place that fixes computers and ask them to just take a look at it good luck!!! :)


So long story short, i did something i shouldnt have dont to my best friend. and now her and my closest friends either hate me, wont talk to me, or are not as close as they used to be. my old best friend has a new best friend too. ive tried a couple of times to say sorry and make things right but they already seem to be used to everything with out me. i really miss them but it would be hard for all of us to be together again and the truth is i dont feel like i have any other friends that would accept me as well as they did.
so should i just leave it and try to find a new group of friends or keep trying to make it better? (link)
I think you should find a new group of friends because they obviously havent forgiven you yet and i dont think thier worth following around apoligizing to so just foeget about them its better to move on and i dont think they are very good friends if they dont forgive you for making one mistake this is just my opinion the rest is up to you good luck!!!! :)


i just heard of mastrabating this year. every time i mastrabate i become itchy down there for the next two-three days, so im thinking of stopping to mastrabate. is there a reason i get ithcy? Is there a way to solve this problem? (link)
dont worry it happens when you just start its totally normal nothing to worry about it after awhile the itchyness will stop you just have to do it a couple more times.


i absolutley LOVE food. i'm 16 and i weigh about 119 pounds. all of the food in my house is basically low fat or lean..but i constantly eat. i'm always hungry and i guess that means i have a high metabolism. but sometimes, i feel like i eat to much and i can't stop. then i pretty much feel fat for the rest of the day and it really affects me because i don't feel like leaving the house. i would really like to lose a few pounds and tone up some more..and i need to know how to stop these eating cravings.

i also run 3 miles every night, uphill bike about 3 miles, go on an elliptical for 15 minutes, some arm curls, and different ab exercises. i've been on this regimen for a few weeks and i think i need a change because i noticed a difference in my body, but now it's kind of staying the same...and i still need to tone up my lower abdomen, and upper thighs.

so basically i'm asking how to stop the urges to eat, some snacks that will keep me full for a long time, some different exercise plans, or some examples of a good food diary for someone looking to lose a few pounds.
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K so no matter what you eat your still gonna get hungry so the best way to go at it is fill yourself up with fruits and veggies and foods that have less fat and sugar and since your doing all those exercises your not gonna gain weight no matter what you eat so dont think your fat because if you keep doing the exercises your doing you wont gain any weight good luck!!! :)


I want to die my hair with clairol but i do not know which color and which brand. I also want to find out if it will come out. Any Advice (link)
The best way to find out what color looks best on you is to get a wig that is the exact color of your natural hair or snip out a little bit of your own hair and dye your hair with the color you think would look best try different brands because sometimes other brands are better but the only way to find out is try good luck!!! :)


there's this boy at my school (Let's call him Scott). I started talkin g to him around march. but we started off myspacing then AIM then texting. All in like a week and a half. Ever since then we text alot & can talk about alot of things with eachother. But we barely talk in person, we are both shy. We just hug and "hey" here & there. When I first started talking to him I noticed he was really sweet. Like no other guy that I had ever met before. As time went by I told him I thought he was a sweety & he told me that I was a sweetheart, (we would have our little "no your sweeter" "no you are" competitions) & he would call me things like love & sweetheart. Like when saying goodnite, he'd say "ima c u tommorow ok? Nite love =D" & I felt like he listened to what I said. one time I told him that my cousin had gotten a text from a guy just saying goodnight. I thought that was sweet so I told him. And later that day he did it & put in love. so a couple of weeks ago (like 3) he told me he liked me. I told him I liked him too. bit school was coming to an en. (It ends tommorow actually). And we are both going to go to different schools next year (by the way we're going to be seniors). And I was telling him tonite "you better not forget me" he said "y would I? How? we'll keep in touch trust me =)". I want something to happen though. I wanna be his girlfriend. I have a best friend named Clare,& she's really good friends with him & she said that he was going to ask me out but then he realized the school year was almost over. how do I figure out if he still likes me? And what do I do about the different schools?

Thanks
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I think straight approach is the best way to find out if this guy likes you but if your too shy to do that then ask him through your friend b/c friends are good at finding out true feelings and if things work out then dont let something as small as different schools interfere because you two can still see eachother and hang out after school and on weekends and if you really like him and he likes you back then it will work out good luck!! :)


I read what you replyed to that other person about them losing their friend to a boyfriend. My situation is sort of the same, except.. she dumped me for my brother. I can't stand it. I do feel happy for her, but now im left in the dust. I have no other friends because they are all into drugs and whatnot,im just not into that stuff. What can I do? They (my bff and her bf) are always together,smootching,hanging out,flirting,whatever, when i am around. I have talked to her,she says she misses me as a friend and yet she doesnt want to do anything with me to bring us back together. We were best friends since forever,she even said. My question really is,how can i make new friends (i know the whole role about bein yourself) in a short sorta while? I am such a loner now. Please help. (link)
K well first thanxs for asking me and well my advice to u is to introduce yourself to kids in your class or in the hallway and ignore the fact that your friend is not wanting u as a friend you have to be your own person because not everyone has a friend so if you cant make friends then be a friend to someone else im sure if you speak out and comunicate with others and talk about the things they talk about then they will except you as their friend and remember a friend who you considered your best friend isnt really your best friend if they dumped you and you should have no room for that person in your life so forget her and move on. I'll always be here if you need me ask away good luck!! and think positive.


this is going to sound crazy.. but when i'm laying down about to fall asleep. all of a sudden i cant move and i feel vibration in the upper part of me body, like a spirit is entering my body. when it enters i hear loud music.. like the kind i listen to. all of a sudden the music will stop and i hear someone say a quote in my ear. when that is over .. it goes back to the vibration in my upper body! like the spirit (or something?) is leaving my body now! last night when that was happening i tried to move and i felt the vibration coming back. i know this ca n not just be a bad dream being i feel this happening to me.(this is probably the 4th time). it does not let me move but i am still awake.
when someone else is in the room and i am sleeping, this does not happen.
i do believe in god i am a Christian. but i do not attend church.
does anyone have any idea at all, as to what this is happening to me. its really scary.. (link)
The same thing happened to my grandma and what she did was when it happened she started praying to god and watever was holding her down let her go sometimes it happens because you did something wrong maybe you should talk to your grandparents or something they probably know a lot about this kind of stuff maybe even your parents.


me and my friends are going to the mall for my party and im making a scavenger hunt list. all my friends are in groups and we have cameras and whoever has the most pictures with/doing the things on the list wins . i have a lot on my list already so i need some really crative ideas. what can i put on my list of ideas?

ill give an example of one of mine:

take a picture with a naked mannequin



thanksss. be creative! (link)
omg my friend has a mall scavenger hunt not to long ago wat we did was asked the manager of a store to let us borrow a mannequin for a little while and we had to go around the store and find a picture of a funky outfit and find clothes that were funky then we took pictures then we went up to the security gaurd and made him do some wierd poses and then we took a picture of all of us kissing one random guy and last we went to the food court and made one full meal for a customer it was a lot of fun hope u have fun. :)


where is exactly is a girl's clitoris (link)
A small organ located near the opening of the vagina that is a sensitive site of sexual excitement.


Well, long story short: my best friend of 6 years is still in the hospital (3months and 8 days to be exact) & I love him so much and I miss him. He's really outgoing and active and it was almost as if he had the entire world in his hands. He was even going to go next school year as a foreign exchange student to Europe somewhere. He never got to decide because he got in a really bad car accident. He's still not very responsive but at least they took him off the ventilators and ICU...

But I was wondering if anyone knew a song that can relate to this in any way...

Missing a best friend
Hospitalized friend
Great friend
Amazing person
etc..

techno rock, rock, punk, rock alt, metal, h. metal, etc would all be loved.

Thanks =X

15/f
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perfect or untitled by simple plan i would suggest untitled because it relates to your friend in a lot of ways.


hi i'm 14/f

well i just started going out with this guy lets call him frank.. well i've like frank for a while and he finally asked me out today and i said yes. Well at the begining of the year i had another boyfriend and we weren't very close we went out for 2 months and we didn't even hold hands or hug and i was just wondering wat i could do to make this realtionship better?
I've never really been close with my boyfriends the sorta avoiding them thing..you know?
and so yea i've never done of that stuff never been kissed!

can you help?
thanks
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You have to get close with your bf to make your relationship work that doesnt mean you have to kiss him but holding hands and hugging will make it work better and remember to get to possesive over him guys hate with girls do that.


well. f/13. and i'm totally confused.
i like three people,
well, i'm pretty sure i do.
like.
one of them, i know i like, actually i love them.
but said person, lets call them E.
well. E is dating someone.
and that someone knows i like E
and that person is cool with it.

well.
onto the next person.
i kinda like that person
but.
i don't knwo
i don't wanna tell that person
because then when we hang out,
it would be wierd
and i don't want that
but i'm pretty sure i like them.


and then there's the loser.
i've liked him for a longgg time
we've gone out a couple of times.
and be through alot together
but i'm starting to hate him.
but there's something about him
that i just can't resist.
ilove him.
and that's just the end of it.



WHAT DO I DO?????
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You have to figure out who you like the most and for what reason obviously you cant get the the guy who is already going out with someone. I think you should go out with the second guy cause it seems like you can actually get him.


15/f... if that helps?

lately it seems like i am losing my best friend.. she had liked this guy a lot for a long time and i knew for a fact that he liked her too, but he was too shy to ask her. i was friends with both of them so one day at a party i was sitting with the guy, lets call him BIll, and i was like SUZY [my friend] really likes you and i know for a fact that you like her so stop being stupid and just do something about it. needless to say, they ended up hooking up by the end of the night. it was all really good at first because it was good knowing that i helped them get together and they were both so happy. but now it seems like she has no time for me. me and my other best friend... me, suzy, and this other girl were all really close. well me and my other best friend, lets call her JAN, have noticed that she doesnt really hang out with us, and when she does she is very distant and always talking about BILL. i miss her so much and i just dont know what to do. everytime i call her and ask her to hang out she is always like well can BILL come. and i feel bad so i say yes, and then BILL ends up getting on my nerves majorly. i feel so crappy because it is my fault that they are together and i wish that i could be happy for my friend... but i just feel so left out.

i am sorry this is long, but i really just need some advice as to what to do. i keep telling myself that eventaully they will get sick of spending every second together, but it doesnt seem like that will ever happen. i dont know how much longer i can take him!

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Its hard when your best friend gets a bf but you have to realize that she really cares about him and thxs to you there together i think you should tell her how you feel and im sure things will get better trust me on this ive gone through this before.




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